Reddit reviews African Grey Parrots (Complete Pet Owner's Manuals)

Do you let him out? What do you do to spend time with him? How much time do you spend with him each day with him inside and outside of his cage? Building a relationship with a bird can take a lot of time and energy and can be a really slow process.. I doubt that your parrot hates you anymore than the next person. He just doesn't trust you, and might not even know what trust is (depends on the previous owner). Another potential thing is that he was in love with the previous owner and so far as he's concerned you abducted him. It's not an impossible hurdle to overcome, but it is a long one. We adopted our CAG who was in love with our roommate (original owner) and it took months of us investing a lot of time around him (with him outside of his cage) to get him to step up for us, etc. and we had known him since he hatched!

So far as being "too old" for domestication goes. He's not too old to learn to trust you. CAGs will/can live to be over 50 years old. He's still an infant. You might just need to try to see the world from his perspective.

If you haven't done so already, I'd suggest purchasing this book and reading through it. It's not insanely long, but will give you some insight into a Grey's nature.

try to communicate with him as best as you can. If you can't whistle, make other noises (I like to whistle, but I also make water drops, etc. to get our CAG's attention). If he seems interested then have a good time with it. It sounds like he's not really used to a lot of attention and it's pretty much up to you to change that. You will get bit in the process, but those will change to be a lot less defensive/gentler over time. Just do your best not to be afraid of it happening. Our CAG still comes in hot when he goes for a "bite," but it's very rarely as bad as he makes it look like it will be.

We adopted our CAG when he was about 1.5 years old (about a year and a half ago) and his personality has completely changed since then, which was actually mostly due to my GF putting in a lot of time with him every single day. A year ago he would barely step up for me (we had known him since he was hatched), but with time and a lot of effort we've changed him from a "one person" parrot to a very sociable and amazingly friendly bird. It is possible to do if you can be patient.

African Grey Parrots (Complete Pet Owner's Manual)

No problem! If you werent before I would just look up African Grey specific information from now on. Here are a couple of books that really helped me out when trying to learn more about my African Grey.
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