Reddit reviews Anger: Taming a Powerful Emotion

Throwing and hitting isn't normal. She sounds very emotionally reactive. I do think she's giving you hints about what is bothering her.

>"I don't feel like you're my husband" or "I regret this marriage so much"

Why does she feel like you're not her husband? What are her expectations for a husband? Try to talk about it when she's calm.

I recommend this book and starting with the last chapter on how to calm an angry person. https://www.amazon.ca/Anger-Gary-Chapman/dp/0802413145/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1542029239&sr=1-1&keywords=Anger+chapman