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New dad to a 1 year old here.
Highly recommended source: Be Prepared: A Practical Handbook for New Dads
Excellent advice from people here. I'd also suggest that you and mom both take a parenting class. Kids are baffling for experienced adults. A good parenting class is extremely helpful for a new parent. Oh, also this book: https://smile.amazon.com/Be-Prepared-Gary-Greenberg/dp/0743251547?sa-no-redirect=1
Mayo Clinic Guide to a Healthy Pregnancy
A bit more clinical, and more information (IMO) than "what to expect..."
Be Prepared: A Practical Handbook for New Dads
AWESOME book for dads (me included). Similar info, but much lighter, and easier to read.
I wasn't that interested in those things while my wife is pregnant either; it doesn't mean he won't be a great dad. I would recommend making sure you have a cushion in savings to fall back on when the diapers and formula (?) takes its toll on your finances.
Hospitals in our city offered free parenting classes that I'd recommend he sign up for. It gives critical knowledge for first-time fathers, and also helps make it a little more real.
Buy him this book. It was the one parenting book I was able to read that didn't read like a wimpy-ass man warning another man about his wife and future being taken away. It was funny and informative, and very light reading.
It didn't become totally real for me as a father until my baby was on her way out. She's the greatest person in the world to me, and nothing will change that.
Congrats and good luck to you both!
Agree with this. Also enjoyed Be Prepared.
This book is incredible for that! It has step by step how to do everything, and its funny without being demeaning about how useless dads are (like so many others). I bought it for my SO but use it for quick reference myself! Even my MIL wanted a copy!
The Mayo Clinic Guide to a Healthy Pregnancy was by far my favorite. I thought it was going to be dry and medical, but it had everything I was looking for. I found "What to Expect" to be a little disorganized and kind of scary, but I know a lot of women like it.
We also really like Be Prepared, which is really a dad book but I enjoyed as well. It's lighthearted and easy to read in quick segments, but has a lot of good info.
Online, I really like the Babycenter.com community because it has so many people... almost any question I have has already been asked and answered, so I find lots of answers. If your town has a chapter of the Mommies Network you'll absolutely get great info there, and meet local parents/parents-to-be. Finally, if you're breastfeeding, Kellymom is a must.
Whew! Hope those help!
Friend loaned me this. http://www.amazon.com/Be-Prepared-Practical-Handbook-Dads/dp/0743251547
My husband read Be Prepared: A Practical Handbook for New Dads He thought it was very informative without being overly serious.
Yeah, some of the other subreddits have links to parenting resources, although at a quick glance I did not see anything specifically related to baby proofing, so my bad on that.
I thought the book Be Prepared, A Practical Handbook for New Dads was pretty useful, and it has a good amount of helpful information about what to do before and after the baby arrives through the first year. It's easy to read, with some good humor. Hope that helps.
I bought my husband Be Prepared, but I'm actually less experienced than him, so I love it too!
I recommend this book over and over. Reading it was one of the best things I did to settle my nerves and get that peek behind the curtain. I have done many, MANY of the suggestions they outline, and they have never let me down!
I agree that hospital parenting classes are the best way to go. But you can also find some books on Amazon or videos on Youtube just by searching things like "new dad tips" or something. Here's a few links; I'm not sure how many are targeted to single dads, though. You may find a lot of references to "your partner" in the books, but there still is some truth to that -- you're not romantic partners, but you still need to be parenting partners.
This one. End topic. This is the best book out of the many I read, and it was by far the best.
Oh, and congrats!!
You want this book: https://www.amazon.com/Be-Prepared-Gary-Greenberg/dp/0743251547
My husband and I have both read it at the recommendation of his sister and her husband. It's practical information presented in an entertaining way.
It's not a kid, it's a baby, and there is a big difference.
The baby is not manipulating them, the baby has only basic needs, at 2 years old they may have some preferences but they don't even realize they can do things to influence others and get what they want. Even a tantrum is usually just having big emotions and no where to go with them.
I'd like to hope that it will be different when it's his own kid, else I'd suggest he starts seeing a therapist now do deal with the trauma of having a newborn at home and a wife that's "on the babies side".
There is a book my husband got that might help? Linky to Amazon
I rather liked this one:
Don't worry it's super easy. When they hand you the baby make sure it's head is in the crook of your elbow and then just cradle the bottom. You'll get the hang of it real quick. Ditch all those parenting books, this is what you need.
We just picked up Baby Bargains by Denise and Alan Fields. It seems really helpful - lots of product guides, reviews, and suggestions for first time parents. Again, we just picked it up today so take this for what it's worth, but I'm happy we did and already feel like we've gotten our money's worth.
Edit to add I've heard good things about Experimenting with Babies and Be Prepared, but I haven't looked closely at either one.
The only "fatherhood" book I could stand: Be Prepared
The only "baby" book I could stand: (and they have a good Toddler one from the same series)
Baby 411: Clear Answers & Smart Advice For Your Baby's First Year
My husband wanted this book.
I'm 9 weeks into this same thing (a boy and a girl).
One thing I've learned so far is you can't do it all. There is going to be moments where somebody's going to have to sit and cry. For example, you can only change one diaper at a time. They will be okay.
Do some research about babies being in the NICU. Don't let it worry you too much. It seems most twins go to the NICU for at least a little bit. Mine were there 3 weeks
Definitely keep both on the same schedule. If you feed one, feed the other. If you change one diaper, change the other.
There's going to be a moments where you get overly frustrated. Put the babies in a safe place and walk away for a few breaths. Also make sure momma does the same thing.
Always accept help. Don't feel proud and try to be a superhero. Weather it's somebody willing to come help you watch the kids, or someone willing to cook you a meal. If they offer, take advantage.
Some more spacific things would include:
(I may add to this later if I think of more)
A couple of good books I liked:
Be Prepared https://www.amazon.com/dp/0743251547/ref=cm_sw_r_sms_apa_i_tdARDbCCNJJN0
The Baby Owner's Manual https://www.amazon.com/dp/1594745978/ref=cm_sw_r_sms_apa_i_leARDbH84Q31C
Lastly, and most importantly, if you're worried about being good parent, then you are being a good parent.
Good luck my fellow brethren
If you're as clueless as my husband and I are, we liked Be Prepared. It's kind of silly, but at the same time we seriously had no idea how to change a diaper. We have a ways to go.
If you just use The Womanly Art of Breastfeeding as a reference, it is good. I also liked What to Expect. I kinda split the difference between crunchy SAHM and epidural-loving working mom, though.
My husband LOVED the daddy book I got him called Be Prepared. He ended up bringing it to the hospital with him, and eventually even I read the whole thing.
My friend who is really into nutrition of her babies just recommended Super Baby Food to me, but I can't vouch for it. Also seems to have mixed reviews on Amazon. I was given a book called The Best Homemade Baby Food on the Planet that I haven't really looked at yet, but might now that we're starting solids.
The only cloth diapering book I read was Changing Diapers by Kelly Wels. It was okay, but I did better just by internetting.
And if you're a frugal momma, pick up the most recent edition of Baby Bargains. I've only heard good things.
A fun lighthearted parenting book for men, Be Prepared.
And another, Show Dad How.
Oh and, congratulations :)
This helped me out alot, and I suggest it to all new dads.
This "Dad book" is really cool and I love it. I want to get it for my hubby! Figured I'd share.
The first time he was on a trip when I got my BFP so I ran to the bookstore and got him Be Prepared. With a card that said "Congrats Dad!" Or something like that.
This time I just shoved the pee stick in his face when he came home with dinner. I think he liked the first time better.
Well I have one for after birth and it really helped my husband. It is pretty funny and it accurately describes the changes your body goes through and the baby, it's called Be Prepared
Actually, for new dads, here's the most useful book I found:
> Be Prepared: A Practical Handbook for New Dads
It's one of those humorous, but actually sort of useful books.
Examples instructions from the book:
My husband and I both loved Be Prepared, it's a parenting book that covers birth through the first year and it's hilarious. Geared toward dads but it isn't one of those books that assumes dad will be clueless or hopeless.
I'm currently reading Happiest Baby on the Block (really good but a little condescending) and Be Prepared I really like that one, as it's practical, useful info aimed at guys, not condescending and not preachy.
I doubt there is a completely non-patronizing pregnancy book available outside of a medical text book. I had the feeling that the authors had purposefully written their books with the idea that the people who needed it the most were those without any prior experience with pregnancy, babies, or children.
There were only two that my wife and I both enjoyed. The first, What to Expect When You're Expecting, was pretty good for straight, factual information.
The other book, Be Prepared, falls into your first category and is more of a bathroom reader joke book, but it was entertaining enough and had some good ideas for the first year.
We liked this book so much we bought it for all of our expecting friends.
Be Prepared: A Practical Handbook for New Dads
There are a bunch of survival guides for new dads, but this one is my favorite. They had me at the illustration of what to do when the baby takes a poo in the bathtub. The caption is something like "10 points if you catch it in the cup".
I'm in the home stretch (38 weeks 5 days!) and my husband has loved reading /r/predaddit and /r/daddit
He also got a ton of helpful information from Be Prepared and the Prepared Childbirth class at our local hospital.
As for your wife, just be patient, don't hold anything against her, and try to limit your strongly scented foods if she's feeling nauseous.
I really liked this one. It's super practical and actually funny. The illustrations are great, like from old school men's magazines. Be Prepared by Gary Greenberg et al. http://www.amazon.com/dp/0743251547/ref=cm_sw_r_udp_awd_AUPetb1CM32XA
I enjoyed Be Prepared: A Practical Handbook for New Dads. Entertaining, yet informative.
Most governments (for sure in Ontario) have programs to provide information and get you as prepared as you're going to be.
I just sent a detailed email to a friend of mine that is expecting as well and was in the same boat as you. Some of the stuff you probably haven't thought about yet, so take what I say below at face value.
Also, to all in the thread, the obvious disclaimer - these are my opinions. You might not agree with them. Also, my email was based on living in Toronto, but you can change to meet your situation
a) To start, there are a multitude of books available, as well as websites. Not to mention that I'm sure you'll be hearing stuff from friends and family. I've found it best to just filter all of that. I read only one book while my wife was pregnant, and that's because it was a good read - http://www.amazon.com/Baby-Meets-World-Smile-Toddle/dp/0312591349 (it's available at Toronto Library, so no need to buy it).
This book is also a pretty good guide - http://www.amazon.com/Be-Prepared-Gary-Greenberg/dp/0743251547 (again, also at TPL)
Here's what I found with books - Most of them have the same tone when it comes to men - "Dude, no more going out to party, and since you're stupid as hell, here are the basics"
So don't spend too much time reading 1,000,000 different books - it will be repetitive.
b) My wife and I took the prenatal courses at St. Joseph's Hospital. They helped because I learned a lot, and they were great information. Definitely helped put my mind at ease because I really knew nothing about raising a child.
c) Stroller / Car Seat. This is a toughie. Scenarios as follows:
i) Buy a travel system. This is for convenience. It's an infant seat & stroller in one package. You take the infant seat out (with the baby in it) and it locks directly into the stroller. Easy transport, no fuss. Downside - infant seats are only good until they're 6 months old. Then you have to buy another car seat.
ii) Buy the stroller and infant seat separately. Doesn't really make sense to do this, but it's an option.
iii) Buy the stroller and a convertible car seat separately (this is what we did). A convertible car seat covers from 5lb to 70lb, so basically the entire time the child needs a car seat. The downfall with this compared to a travel system is that you have to take your child out of the car seat to bring into the house / put into the stroller / etc. If (s)he's sleeping, there's a chance they'll wake up.
We also bought baby carriers (Ergo Baby, Mobi Wrap) because we live right downtown, so walking around with a baby / taking the TTC with a baby is easier when they're strapped to you.
d) Clothes. Don't spend too much on clothes. There are outfits that cost far too much, and they grow so quick that the item of clothes is only used for 3 - 4 weeks. Plus it's the typical baby shower gift, so expect to get a bunch of clothes.
e) Feeding - know that it will be hard, whatever avenue your wife goes down. Just know that whatever she chooses, you need to support her and remind her to stick through it because whether it's formula or breast, it's hard. (if you don't know, they have milk / formula exclusively until 6 months)
My wife is a big fan of the Boppy pillow. Just one of many items out there. We also got a Pashmama, which is a cover for when my wife wants to feed in public.
f) Sleeping - I made the mistake of buying a crib right away, and I set it up and everything, only to have my wife decide that she wanted a bassinet, and also that she wanted our daughter to co-sleep. You will need a crib, just discuss with your wife what set up you want before you run out and buy one.
g) To elaborate on point F, the same applies for all other baby items. We have a bouncer, a crib, a bassinet, a play pad, and some toys. My appt is suddenly feeling very very small. While my daughter uses most of the items (still doesn't use the crib), I probably didn't have to buy everything at once.
h) Diapers. In our experience, Pampers Swaddlers have been the best. You will have leaks / blowouts / messes, and from there you'll determine what works best for your baby. A good price on diapers is $0.14 - 0.18 / diaper. Amazon.ca now has Amazon Family - http://www.amazon.ca/gp/family/signup/
It's a great service once you find out which diapers work best for you.
The rest of the stuff you'll learn along the way.
You need a diaper bag. Spit rags are essential. If the child's fingers are too small to cut his / her nails, you can file them down. Burp the baby after they eat (note: do this even if they fall asleep). Introduce pacifiers later on in life if breast feeding to avoid "nipple confusion". Etc. Etc.
There are so many things that you can't possibly learn from a book, and every baby is different, so the rest of the stuff you'll learn as you go along.
In the end - congrats and have fun!
KIDS ARE AWESOME. I get the fear, nothing to be afraid of but no matter what we tell you, you'll still have it. It goes away though.
Seriously, get that book. I swear by it. It helped me out so much. It's humorous but very educational and you can read it while you're on the throne. It's at most one or two subjects per page.
Also - don't be afraid to get in there and wipe that dirty butt. It's way easier than you think. But if it's a boy, cover his junk with a towel when you're changing him. The change in air temperature will make him spray like a freaking ocelot. I got piss in my eyes, ears, nose and mouth before I figured out that trick. You'd think it'd be gross but it's not and we laugh about it to this day.
Also, my oldest is almost 5 and his favorite wrestlers are the Usos, New Day and he just discovered Bayley. Youngest just turned 3 and loves Tyler Breeze and Fandango. So, you know there's always that possibility that you will end up with built in wrestling buddies.
this was a fun read. Though I'm not sure how informative.
Don't spend a lot of money on clothes for the first year, the kid will probably outgrow everything before they wear it more than a couple times. We got all kinds of newborn clothes at my wife's baby shower, and the kid grew out of them before most of them were ever worn. Ask for diapers at the baby shower instead, you can't really have too many diapers.
If you'll need a daycare, start looking now because the good ones will have a waiting list.
Get your wife/yourself a copy of What to Expect When You're Expecting and yourself a copy of Be Prepared.
Your wife is about to go through some very uncomfortable times. Be there for her. Massage her back and feet when they're sore and swollen and understand that when she may say and do things that uncharacteristic for her near the end of her pregnancy, don't take any of it personally. Being the perfect husband during this time will go a hell of a long way for years to come.
If possible, take a couple of spontaneous weekend getaway trips before your wife is too uncomfortable to travel. Enjoy an evening out at a non-animated movie and a quiet dinner. This will be the last opportunity for that sort of thing for a long time.
Get him this. I paid double that price for this book, and it was more than worth it. It is an awesome book filled with knowledge and humor.
He should've gotten Be Prepared instead.
For example - this book as an app would be amazing!
Also since you will be a new dad, this dad's survival guide is freaking great.
I see someone else read Be Prepared, which is hilarious and incredibly helpful. Linky
I like Be Prepared
I read it on my tablet. It's kind of written like one of those Survival Manual type novelty books. Has a bit of humor but a lot of practical information. Cant imagine reading anything as dry as "What to Expect When You're Expecting"
I hear ya bud, but you dropped alot of details in your original post that is irrelevant to "my wife and I do everything together, she's super supportive, just needs some comfort around the whole entre' thing, throw a book my way.. yo."
Instead you drop info about how you're working 15+ hours and getting no respect and you got a kid coming. It sounded like you are bitching about it and feeling your needs aren't being understood. Been there buddy, totally can relate. I'd like to stick around for a flame war, but if you need a book recommendation I'd go with this one...
I read this one and it helped me out a lot.
I know I'm late to the party, but congratulations. I only ever give two pieces of advice:
My cousin is about 3 months along now and her husband had this on his coffee table.
I feel like he's handling it very well. Admits he's scared shitless and unsure of it all, but his friends and family are very supportive and he's thankful for it and takes any advice he can get from them.
Be Prepared by Gary Greenberg is a very entertaining(and informative) parenting book, written in the style of the old boy scout training and survival handbooks.
Lots of great advice already on this thread, but I wanted to recommend this book as well. It is witty and playful, but has a lot of really good information.
Also, be the best husband in the world and as soon as your wife starts getting big, buy her a body pillow. I made it through my first pregnancy without one, but now at 31 weeks along with my second, I can't imagine how I survived without it.
This book is great.
Also it took me 8 months to warm up to the idea of being a dad. You're allowed to be nervous and warm up to the idea. :) Take your time. It's gonna be pretty rad when it happens tho!
Best advice is buying and reading this book. BE PREPARED, is a quick read with practical advice like How to baby proof a hotel room in 5 min, what to pack in a Guy diaper bag. Be Prepared book
For your husband :
I really liked Be Prepared.
It's like someone wrote an actual manual for babies. Best practical advice I found (and I'm the mom.) The book is geared towards dads but the advice is mostly for both parents.
Also an hilarious read - they included a chapter called Bidding Farewell to the Breast
This was my favorite “dad” book — funny, but surprisingly practical.
Make reading to your child part of bedtime routine. For my two, it played a big role in making books and reading a natural part of their environment later on, and the dividends of that pay off in school. Ditto for taking them to the library. Even when it seems silly reading to an infant, it’s a great way for them to hear your voice. And you can literally read them anything — newspaper, Reddit!
Spending time alone with a baby can get boring, so don’t be afraid to leave the house with them. I was a part-time stay at home dad for a few months, and I don’t know what I would have done if I never left the house with my son!
Thanks for that. I read Be Prepared and found it helpful as well.
I bought two for my significant other. DadLabs and Be Prepared.
Be Prepared came in first and he enjoyed it. I picked it up and flipped through it a bit. Lighthearted with just enough neat little "tips" that it makes it worth the couple bucks I spent on a nice used book. It's just kind of bathroom material now.
Then DadLabs came in. He read it cover to cover. Put bookmarks in. Highlighted stuff. He LOVED it. He isn't a big "reader" so that's saying a lot for him. I read a bit of this one too. It's practical and more serious than Be Prepared, but still fun and enjoyable to read. I also got a score on Amazon with this one, bought used, it showed up in perfect condition, and was signed by all the authors. :)
You need to know the name of your doctor and this book
You may want to also ask this over at /r/daddit or /r/predaddit!
A friend of mine just got her husband this book when she found out she was pregnant: https://www.amazon.com/Be-Prepared-Gary-Greenberg/dp/0743251547/
These have super high reviews and are what I'm considering for my husband (I've done this before, he hasn't):
The Baby Owner's Manual: Operating Instructions, Trouble-Shooting Tips, and Advice on First-Year Maintenance
The Expectant Father: The Ultimate Guide for Dads-to-Be
Edit: sorry for such messy links!
I got "So You're Going to be a Dad" as a gift and I loved it. It was hysterical to read, but insightful and useful as well. However, for the more serious stuff, I agree with someone else who suggested "Be Prepared". You've got a lot of good advice in this thread.
I really enjoyed the book "Be Prepared." A little outdated but super practical. Still trying to get hubby to read it though ;-) https://www.amazon.com/dp/0743251547/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_H8JlxbQVXD3ZS
Be Prepared: A Practical Handbook for New Dads It's a kinda funny look at the first year, but still offers some good/great advice on what's coming.
Baby 411: Clear Answers & Smart Advice For Your Baby's First Year A good all around book for the first years, cover most if not all aspects of having a baby.
I read everything I could and nothing will "prepare" you for what's about to happen to you. A few suggestions, if you are having a boy, have the circumcision talk NOW, before he's here and there is pressure to make a decision. Start sleeping as much as possible leading up to the birth, once the baby is here, sleep is GONE for the first few months. Decide on sleeping arrangements, a "family bed", an attached bassinet or crib. Decide if your wife is going to breast feed or formula feed.
Lastly, relax people have been having kids for ages and while it can be extremely challenging at first, it gets easier. Keep getting baby and mom checked up, and if both stay healthy you biggest worries aren't really that big.
Good Luck! and Congratulations! You're having a baby!!
Reddit is definitely a great resource. However, make sure she knows about babycenter.com. That is a great resource for new parents (mom & dad). Having a brand new baby at home can be a very stressful time. However, between all the screaming you and your wife will have some of the most precious and memorable experiences of your lives. Treasure those moments and the stressful times will feel worth the effort. Definitely pick up the Nose Frieda. It definitely helps having the right tool for the job. Also, pickup a copy of Be Prepared. It's a great (and funny) book for new dads.
My wife got me this book and it was funny and practical.
I found this book funny, and also helpful. You can make an emergency diaper out of a tube sock and duct tape!
"Be Prepared: A Practical Guide for New Dads"
I'm a new dad of a 3-month old and while this isn't gospel-centered, this is an extremely practical and funny book about fathering during the first year:
Be Prepared by Gary Greenberg and Jeannie Hayden