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Beyond Acceptance
Beyond Acceptance Parents of Lesbians and Gays Talk about Their Experiences
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5 Reddit comments about Beyond Acceptance:

u/totallynotgayalt · 6 pointsr/actuallesbians


  1. I was 27 years old when I worked it out. I was so scared of it that questioning was a long, painful time. But when I finally accepted myself, I didn't even think twice.

  2. The best responses have been from my long-term friend, and my sister. They both expressed how happy they were that I'd worked things out, and had the confidence not to 'take the easy path' for a quiet life. They also thanked me for confiding in them. The worst responses have been from my parents. They haven't been overtly negative, but not positive either. They still nag me about not being 'feminine enough'. They use 'he or she' when describing future partners and say things like 'whoever you choose to be with'. I appreciate the sentiment, but it feels awful, like I'm not being taken seriously.

  3. ^ same as above

  4. I recently bought a few books to give to my family, but I haven't got around to reading them yet: book 1, book 2, book 3

  5. > Right now we're in the position of wondering if she is in fact homosexual, or if this was an instance of experimenting with a friend, and the changing hormones in her body are making her feel something that may or may not last.

  • This is a quite negative way to view things. For one, trust what she's telling you. It doesn't matter if she changes her mind in the future. Support who she is right now. And in NO WAY make reference to any future with men, even as a joke, or even use neutral pronouns unless she expresses otherwise. It seems trivial, but it will hurt her SO MUCH to feel you aren't taking her at her word. Also as parents, don't get your hopes up about a future where she decides it was a "phase" and marries a man and has 2.4 children.
u/Sylll · 3 pointsr/trees

Here's a link to a book that details other parents experience of there children's "coming out" sessions with the family. Might have some good points to help you in your situation.
http://www.amazon.com/Beyond-Acceptance-Parents-Lesbians-Experiences/dp/0312167814

u/Xolani · 2 pointsr/ainbow

It's obvious she's not dealing with it very well, so I'd recommend getting her a book like this (it should be on the US or other Amazon sites if you're not from the UK). The main thing would be the struggle to get her to read it in the first place.

u/JCPalmer · 1 pointr/gaybros

Buying these... just finished Beyond Acceptance... It really helped me understand where my parents are at... and kinda where they're coming from.