Reddit reviews Big Little Man: In Search of My Asian Self

The book I'm currently reading discusses this at some length. The way the author puts it, in our society, all Asians are to an extent feminized relative to other races. Asian women are afforded a greater extent of feminine allure, which corresponds to a greater extent of unwanted attention and objectification. Asian men, on the other hand, are treated as feminized men, being seen as less desirable and less capable of leadership than men of other races.

I don't think this is the entire reason for the disparity in interracial dating between Asian men and women, but I think that there's a lot of truth to the analysis.

and here is his book: https://www.amazon.com/Big-Little-Man-Search-Asian/dp/0547450486/ref=asap_bc?ie=UTF8

Big little man , by Alex Tizon

https://www.amazon.com/Big-Little-Man-Search-Asian/dp/0547450486

Put me in the frame of mind I have today in looking inward and at the subtle - What it's like to be at the crossroads of two different cultures; in our search of being American, it raises the question of : what does it mean to be American?

Not much on K-pop and J-pop, but a Fil Am males perspective on Asian American masculinity:

Big Little Man