Reddit reviews Calling in "The One": 7 Weeks to Attract the Love of Your Life

It sounds like you already know that you don't want to be with this guy forever, but you're trying to make it something it's not because you don't want to be alone. Not saying that to criticize--it can take a little time to psych yourself up enough to end a relationship, especially if they didn't do anything "wrong," but I am 99% sure you'll be happier once you rip off the band-aid.

I get that it's stressful to not be where you thought you'd be at this stage, but would you rather be in a relationship that is constantly disappointing or be single? It took me a while to get my life to a place where I'm genuinely content, and of course I'd still like to find a person to share my life with, but if someone (romantic or otherwise) isn't adding positive emotions or experiences to my life, it's not worth investing my energy into that relationship. It sounds like this guy isn't what you're actually looking for--not saying it's his fault, just that this might not be a good fit, and you're exhausting yourself trying to make it satisfy you.

If you're down for an unsolicited book recommendation, I have one. The title is ridiculous, but it's actually about working on yourself and figuring out what is important to you in a relationship. I can't remember for sure if it's in this book but I think she talks about abundance and scarcity mentalities, which might be helpful, too.

In any case, I hope you have a nice Valentine's day and your dinner goes well!

This is a book I recommend to a lot of my friends. The overarching goal of the book is not so much about how to find a man but to learn to put your past behind you, start becoming the happy, strong woman you want to be, and opening yourself to receive love. The chapters are short and might not all be relevant to you, but if you've got a lot to work through I'd recommend doing it day by day and actually doing all the journaling/practices she recommends.