Reddit reviews Dear Parent: Caring for Infants With Respect (2nd Edition)
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We found 5 Reddit comments about Dear Parent: Caring for Infants With Respect (2nd Edition). Here are the top ones, ranked by their Reddit score.
Here's my 2 cents on the subject. First, I'd give up on the idea of debating. Most of the debating I see is nothing more than verbal warfare--how productive is that? Well, it probably depends on what your objectives are. Are you out to belittle people and make yourself feel better? Than verbal warfare is the way to go. Are you out to improve knowledge or discover truth? Then debating probably isn't the route to take. Whatever, I'd establish the objective upfront. I'd recommend simply asking questions and providing sources.
So what are some questions involved in the spanking subject?
Here's sources for those interested in studying the issue instead of yelling at each other:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gbiq2-ukfhM
http://www.alfiekohn.org/index.php
http://www.amazon.com/Unconditional-Parenting-Moving-Rewards-Punishments/dp/0743487486/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1338338284&sr=8-1
http://www.amazon.com/Beyond-Discipline-Compliance-Alfie-Kohn/dp/1416604723/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1338338349&sr=1-1
http://www.amazon.com/s/ref=nb_sb_ss_i_1_17?url=search-alias%3Dstripbooks&field-keywords=punished+by+rewards+by+alfie+kohn&sprefix=punished+by+rewar%2Cstripbooks%2C256
http://www.amazon.com/No-Contest-Case-Against-Competition/dp/0395631254/ref=sr_1_2?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1338338440&sr=1-2
http://nospank.net/
http://www.rie.org/
http://www.wholechild.org/vision/documents/TheEffectsOfImprovingCaregivingOnEarlyDevelopment.pdf
http://www.echoparenting.org/
http://www.becomingtheparent.com/all/hp.html
http://drgabormate.com/
http://www.committedparent.com/
http://www.janetlansbury.com/
http://www.regardingbaby.org/
http://www.eileensclasses.com/
http://www.mindfulparentingnyc.com/Mindful_Parenting/Welcome.html
http://www.riemiami.com/
http://www.amazon.com/Dear-Parent-Caring-Infants-Respect/dp/1892560062/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1338339719&sr=1-1
http://www.amazon.com/Your-Self-Confident-Baby-Encourage-Abilities/dp/1118158792/ref=sr_1_3?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1338339719&sr=1-3
http://www.amazon.com/The-RIE-Manual/dp/1892560003/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1294253451&sr=1-1
http://www.amazon.com/Blessing-Skinned-Knee-Teachings-Self-Reliant/dp/1416593063/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1298050770&sr=8-1
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http://www.amazon.com/Emotional-Life-Toddler-Alicia-Lieberman/dp/0028740173/ref=pd_sim_b_2
http://www.amazon.com/Theories-Attachment-Introduction-Ainsworth-Brazelton/dp/1933653388/ref=sr_1_10?ie=UTF8&qid=1298051329&sr=8-10
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http://www.youtube.com/user/stefbot/videos?query=parenting
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zyNQFG7C8JM
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http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ONNRfflggBg
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=j1GJsCa_4G8
Don’t forget that your child is already there, inside your SO. You already need to be taking care of your child. Talking to them, reading to them. Gently rubbing the belly. The baby inside is there experiencing all of this. The baby needs to be hearing language to start learning and developing an accent. Babies are born already with their accent. They also become attached to the voices they hear, so it is important that you speak to them consistently so they can form an attachment to you.
When your baby is born, it will be somewhat difficult, but it is important for you to be there to care for your child. That means changing diapers, bathing, playing with them, carrying them, feeding, and rocking them to sleep (always put them to sleep on their back). Be weary about any parenting books you read, as most of them are pretty bad, but here are two resources for you:
https://www.mayoclinic.org/healthy-lifestyle/infant-and-toddler-health/basics/infant-and-toddler-health/hlv-20049400
https://www.amazon.com/Dear-Parent-Caring-Infants-Respect/dp/1892560062
Don’t be too nervous about being inexperienced. A couple years ago, I had never spoke to a toddler in my life, and now I care for a small class of toddlers. If you have the desire to care for your child, you will do fine. Caring for babies is really a lot of fun, but you have to see it as a lot of fun. Do not view it as a necessity; view it as something you want to do.
I'm looking for a good pregnancy book too, with a focus on natural birth. The two I'm considering are Ina May's Guide to Childbirth and Husband-Coached Childbirth: The Bradley Method. I had an early 2000s edition of the Mayo Clinic Guide to a Healthy Pregnancy during my first pregnancy and found it informative and helpful.
When my baby was about 5 months old I read Magda Gerber's Dear Parent: Caring for Infants With Respect and it changed our little family forever. I recommend it to every new parent. Completely amazing! although I don't agree with everything in it for the newborn time period -- I'm big on babywearing and cosleeping.
I totally concur that treating kids with respect is key. It is modeling how to communicate, basically how to and be a decent human being. And you can start younger than you might think, even as infants. How you talk to/treat your kids teaches them how to treat others.
I found this book very helpful as a first time parent:
[Dear Parent by Magda Gerber] (http://www.amazon.com/Dear-Parent-Caring-Infants-Respect/dp/1892560062/ref=sr_1_4?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1394243908&sr=1-4&keywords=magda+gerber)
Yes, there will be tantrums, weird stages, it's just part of growing up. You can't really reason with a young child, but if they trust you in a really deep way, sometimes they come around. The book I cited above really shaped my thinking and helped me become a better parent.
Oh, and the other thing is consistency. When you set rules, boundaries and expectations for your family, stick to them. Toddlers love, even crave routine. It helps them figure out there place in the world, and know what is happening next. Toddler emotions can be out of control, so they rely on the caring adults around them to set up structures that help them feel emotionally safer.
So far my highly recommended ones would be:
NurtureShock
Your Self-Confident Baby
Dear Parent: Caring for Infants With Respect
It's OK Not to Share and Other Renegade Rules for Raising Competent and Compassionate Kids (Currently reading this one now)
I tried reading
The Baby WhispererThe Child Whisperer but couldn't get past the second chapter. It reads like an infomercial for the book and it was just awful.