Reddit reviews Equality Illusion: The Truth about Women and Men Today

Every single "person with similar views as nolimitsoldier" I have encountered has always fallen into 1 of the following groups.

1. "12-24 Naive" This is the age where people tend to dismiss feminism without taking any initiative to learn about new and old feminist theories. I understand why so many people in this group so readily believe misconceptions about feminism. It is due to lack of knowledge or background regarding the new and old feminist theories. Also why nolimitsoldier believes all feminists think they are artists / photographers is beyond me. I blame the countless people who don't take the time to learn about the concepts and definitions regarding feminism and much of the media. Isn't until people mature and take the initiative to learn about feminism and realize that modern societies are still patriarchal, misogynist, and sexist.
   
   
2. "Man Eaters" This misconception is the standard among those who still disregard feminism. Most I have met lack any true knowledge on the feminist theory and believe the myth that all feminist are hairy man hating lesbians. Feminists come from all background and genders so this couldn't possibly true. This stereotype is false. Myth:Feminists are man hating lesbians
   
   
3. "Corporate" Again more misconceptions. People complain about feminism, woman, etc, while not understanding what feminism has to do with the plight of the woman. At the end of the day it'll depend on the person and the person they're respecting if they're a good leader or not. Because believe it or not people come from all different backgrounds and cultures! It just goes against our cultured societal beliefs that women can be good leaders. **A side example of this is the iron my shirt incident with Hillary Clinton
   
   
4. "more bullshit" The definition of feminist varies in each textbook but they all mean the same thing in the end: people seeking the equal treatment of women. Men already dominate the world. This hasn't allowed women to dominate or control men in any way. And feminists aren't seeking the domination of men, we are seeking the equality of genders.
   
   To learn more about feminism you can read or watch the following websites,books, or videos:
   
   Youtube Videos or Channels:
   
   

• Tony Porter:A Call to Men
  
• Feminism Survey:Men on the Street
  
• Missrepresentation Documentary Trailer
  
• Joss Whedon's Equality Now speech
  
• Feminist Frequency
  
• Trixie Films
  
  Websites/Blogs:
  
  
• Finally Feminism 101
  
• Feminist Frequency
  
• Geek Feminism
  
• The F-Word
  
• Feminist Peace Network
  
• Gender Across Borders
  
• Feministing
  
• Feministe
  
• Tiger Beatdown
  
• Feminist Teacher
  
• The Feminist Hub
  
• Lipstick Feminists
  
  Books:
  
  
• Feminist Theory: From Margin to Center by Bell Hooks
  
• Feminism: The Essential Historical Writings
  
• Delusions of Gender: How Our Minds, Society, and Neurosexism Create Difference by Cordelia Fine
  
• Gender Knot Revised Ed: Unraveling Our Patriarchal Legacy by Allan G. Johnson
  
• Feminist Theory: A Reader by Wendy Kolmar
  
• The Second Wave: A Reader in Feminist Theory
  
• Third Wave Feminism: Expanded
  
• Different Wavelengths: Studies of the Contemporary Women's Movement
  
• Feminism without Borders: Decolonizing Theory, Practicing Solidarity by Chandra Talpade Mohanty
  
• Defending Our Dreams: Global Feminist Voices for a New Generation
  
• Listen Up: Voices from the Next Feminist Generation
  
• Enlightened Sexism by Susan J. Douglas
  
• Yes Means Yes: Visions of Female Sexual Power and A World Without Rape
  
• The Equality Illusion: The Truth about Women and Men Today by Kat Banyard
  
• Reclaiming the F Word: The New Feminist Movement by Catherine Redfern and Kristin Aune
  
• Transforming a Rape Culture by Emilie Buchwald, Pamela Fletcher and Martha Roth
  
• Well-Behaved Women Seldom Make History by Laurel Ulrich
  
• Men Speak Out: Views on Gender, Sex, and Power

100% agree with the bell hooks recommendation.
I recently read The Equality Illusion which gives a good insight to how far we have yet to come. However, it's very focused on the UK / Western Europe and might be better for young adults / late teens.

I love Equality Illusion: The Truth about Women and Men Today by Kat Banyard.

The book discusses many studies to try and bring answers to questions like why do women have a harder time negotiating a raise (answer: a women who asks for a raise is seen as hard, vindictive, a "bitch"...), why are women more risk adverse (little boys are encouraged to take risks like not backing out of going on the tallest slide wile girls are told to mind their dress) or more patient (baby boys are picked up by their parents much faster than baby girls when they cry, two out of three times teachers will ask a boy to provide an answer to a question instead of a girl)...

It's my go-to book when I hear comments like "women are more X".

>What qualifications do I need, exactly, to be able to express my potentially wrong opinions so that I may receive an educated reply?

You did not express opinions. You made statements of fact that were not only wrong, but idiotic on their face. You admitted that you were ignorant about the thing you were discussing, yet kept criticizing it as though you knew anything about it. It is not my job to hold your hand and cradle your precious feelings and gently explain to you why you're completely wrong about everything you say.

>Or is asking that question another no-no because apparently you're well-versed on the subject yet for some reason refuse to even give a subtle hint like an author's name or a specific movement I could look up.

I didn't bother because I don't believe you're here in good faith. I've seen the shit you post on TiA and its obvious that you don't actually care about social justice. It's not hard to project some "Red Piller bullshit" on you when you fucking act like one.

If you're actually interested in learning, I had this textbook for a couple classes during college. It had a bunch of different articles from a lot of perspectives on the issue of gender discrimination, and I found it very interesting. I'm sure you can find a copy online that you don't need to pay 63 dollars for. If you want a book by one person, rather than an anthology, I found The Equality Illusion to be pretty informative and easy to read, and it was published recently. The author addresses very well why there's discrimination, why it's a bad thing, and what specifically should be done about it, all of the things you ignorantly accuse feminism of not doing.

I somehow doubt that you're going to actually go and read those books, but that's okay, because there are lots of feminist blogs you can start reading and get educated. I like Feminist Frequency, though I dunno if you're one of those people who goes into a spitting rage at the sight of Anita Sarkeesian's face. Skepchick is a great skepticism/feminism blog run by another villain of the anti-feminist internet crowd, Rebecca Watson.

And of course, if you take 5 seconds to Google the issue, and read what feminists have to say about it, you'll find plenty more.