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I have a few that I think might be good possibilities for discussion:
Why Men Love Bitches: From Doormat to Dreamgirl
30 Days to a Great Attitude: Strategies for a Better Outlook on Life
My Wife Is A Bitch (THE GUN AND THE BULLET)
Why Men Divorce Bitches - How to Know When It's Time to End Your Marriage
Feeling Good Together: The Secret to Making Troubled Relationships Work
Love Busters: Protecting Your Marriage from Habits That Destroy Romantic Love
Big and Black and Not My Husband's
We all make mistakes, I'm sorry to hear that. This advice has helped me immensely; you might be surprised how quickly it can rebuild trust and improve your relationship.
Gosh. So very sorry.
To just highlight a few of the points other posters make:
Here's the fantastic news: you don't have to get a divorce. You don't have to go to therapy. Your wife doesn't need to be confronted or medicated or fixed. These are, of course, options, but none of these options will get you back to the way things were.
Getting back to the way things were isn't actually an option.
Let that sentence percolate for a minute. You're likely to have a lot of emotional response to that fact, and, if you're anything like most people, you'll spend most of your life denying that fact. But you're different than you were when you were a kid. You're different than you were before you had kids. You are growing and changing all the time. It makes sense that your relationship needs to grow and change too.
Getting back to the way things were isn't actually an option.
But, that fact can set you free. You CAN find new ways to love your wife, live your life, and you CAN address some of the things that have cropped up in your relationship.
It's incredibly powerful to realize that you have the power to change your relationship dynamic by changing how you respond to her, how you respond to yourself. Having love and compassion for your wife starts with having love and compassion for yourself. And from a place of love and compassion, real growth and change can happen. You are worth it. Your family is worth it. Your wife is worth it.
Check out "Feeling Good Together" by David Burns. https://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/0767920821/ref=sxts_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1527002252&sr=1&pi=AC_SX236_SY340_FMwebp_QL65
And "Be The Person You Want to Find" by Cheri Huber. https://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/0963625527/ref=mp_s_a_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1527002335&sr=8-1&pi=AC_SX236_SY340_FMwebp_QL65&keywords=be+the+person+you+want+to+find
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"Depression is an illness that always results from thoughts that are distorted in some way."
— Dr. David Burns from the book Feeling Good
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Dr. David Burns - FEELING GOOD - TED Talk:
https://youtu.be/H1T5uMeYv9Q
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Dr. David Burns - What Is Depression (and How To Cure It) AUDIO:
https://youtu.be/33G1Aue4cP8
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Checklists & info on 'COGNITIVE DISTORTIONS' that twist our thinking:
https://s3.amazonaws.com/cbt-therapy/Cognitive-Distortions.pdf
http://www.smartrecovery.org/resources/library/Articles_and_Essays/Rational_Thinking/Cognitive_Distortions.pdf
https://www.apsu.edu/sites/apsu.edu/files/counseling/COGNITIVE_0.pdf
http://overcomingthedarkness.com/Articles/Cognitive%20Distortions.pdf
http://campusmindworks.org/downloads/cognitivedistortion.pdf
http://psychcentral.com/lib/15-common-cognitive-distortions/
https://www.anxiety-videos.com/wp-content/uploads/2016/02/Top-10-thought-distortions.pdf
http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/20-cognitive-distortions-and-how-they-affect-your-life-0407154
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BURNS DEPRESSION INVENTORY/CHECKLIST (2-page PDF):
https://s3.amazonaws.com/happy-stuff/Depression-Inventory.pdf
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READ THE BOOK
FEELING GOOD: The New Mood Therapy - The Clinically-Proven Drug-Free Treatment for Depression
FEELING GOOD by Dr. David Burns is the #1 most recommended book for DEPRESSION by psychiatrists and psychologists. More than 5 million copies in print!
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FEELING GOOD - ORDER:
https://www.amazon.com/Feeling-Good-New-Mood-Therapy/dp/0380810336
THE FEELING GOOD HANDBOOK - ORDER:
https://www.amazon.com/Feeling-Good-Handbook-David-Burns/dp/0452281326
These books are like therapy in a box!
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Watch a series of short VIDEOS covering each of the 10 COGNITIVE DISTORTIONS listed in David Burns' amazing self-help book for anxiety and depression, The Feeling Good Handbook:
https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLiPvQMm5dFde_KeELu_pWbivkW5XywcFI
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SERIES OF ARTICLE SUMMARIES BASED ON THE BOOK, FEELING GOOD:
http://sourcesofinsight.com/feeling-good-book-nuggets/
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Feeling Good Together: The Secret to Making Troubled Relationships Work:
https://www.amazon.com/Feeling-Good-Together-Troubled-Relationships/dp/0767920821
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Dr. David Burns' website:
https://FeelingGood.com
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WATCH OTHER VIDEOS WITH DR. DAVID BURNS, A PIONEER IN COGNITIVE BEHAVIORAL THERAPY (CBT):
https://www.youtube.com/results?sp=EgIYAg%253D%253D&q=DR.+DAVID+BURNS
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Learn Cognitive Behavioral Therapy skills for preventing and coping with depression:
Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) SELF-HELP COURSE:
http://www.getselfhelp.co.uk/step1.htm
MOOD GYM - CBT SELF-HELP COURSE:
https://moodgym.anu.edu.au/welcome
There are things you can control and then there are things that when you try to control them, you are being manipulative.
After the complete physicals I mentioned (hopefully done together so you can be a part of hers and she yours and get some shared advice):
and https://www.amazon.com/Feeling-Good-Handbook-David-Burns/dp/0452281326/ref=pd_cp_14_2?_encoding=UTF8&pd_rd_i=0452281326&pd_rd_r=ZWACBT7PAMWD9P48KD0B&pd_rd_w=gcVX6&pd_rd_wg=GqYQG&psc=1&refRID=ZWACBT7PAMWD9P48KD0B immediately as both (as well as http://ecouch.anu.edu.au/ ) have the components to help her move past where she is to the extent that this may be a mental health issue or if it isn't).
And consider this resource too: https://www.amazon.com/Feeling-Good-Together-Troubled-Relationships/dp/0767920821/ref=pd_sim_14_1?_encoding=UTF8&pd_rd_i=0767920821&pd_rd_r=ZWACBT7PAMWD9P48KD0B&pd_rd_w=vtdZq&pd_rd_wg=GqYQG&psc=1&refRID=ZWACBT7PAMWD9P48KD0B
Get this book. It will teach you how to deal with difficult relationships.
https://www.amazon.com/Feeling-Good-Together-Troubled-Relationships/dp/0767920821
Not what you're asking for, but I highly recommend this book: http://www.amazon.com/Feeling-Good-Together-Troubled-Relationships/dp/0767920821