Reddit reviews Gender and Our Brains: How New Neuroscience Explodes the Myths of the Male and Female Minds

I’d suggest that perhaps the belief that women are very different, personality and other-wise, than men may be contributing to your lack of rapport with them. Most researchers in the field of personality and gender difference have noted very few actual significant differences between men and women, despite there being strong perceived differences. See for instance this article.

A good book and overview of research on the neurological basis is: Gender and our Brains: How New Neuroscience Explodes the Myths of the Male and Female Minds By Gina Rippon

In my experience, once you start approaching women based on your shared humanity and typical, everyday fears, desires, hopes and dreams, you’ll also establish better rapport. And in that regard you already have a great reference: yourself and your own experiences. I promise you there are many many women who feel exactly like you do right now.

Hope this helps! Good luck with your challenge.

google is your friend. Here you go. These should be enlightening. Welcome to the new world.

https://www.pnas.org/content/112/50/15468

https://qz.com/1057494/the-biggest-myth-about-our-brains-is-that-theyre-male-or-female/

https://www.theguardian.com/science/2019/feb/24/meet-the-neuroscientist-shattering-the-myth-of-the-gendered-brain-gina-rippon

https://www.nature.com/articles/d41586-019-00677-x

https://www.theatlantic.com/science/archive/2018/06/male-female-brains-biologically-different/563702/

https://www.newscientist.com/article/mg24132190-100-how-neuroscience-is-exploding-the-myth-of-male-and-female-brains/

https://www.amazon.com/Gendered-Brain-neuroscience-shatters-female-ebook/dp/B07HMDQGC1

https://www.amazon.com/dp/1524747025/?coliid=I2KGHYWISV5VO&colid=FS53FQ4NBELE&psc=1&ref_=lv_ov_lig_dp_it

https://www.amazon.com/dp/0316534617/?coliid=I2S4L8XMUQZW4T&colid=FS53FQ4NBELE&psc=1&ref_=lv_ov_lig_dp_it