Reddit reviews Getting Over OCD, First Edition: A 10-Step Workbook for Taking Back Your Life (The Guilford Self-Help Workbook Series)

There are a lot of good books on OCD. For me they've been almost as helpful as therapy (in some ways, maybe more). There's some research to support the idea that people can do ERP on their own and see the same results as someone seeing a therapist, provided that they really understand the method. I'd still see a therapist if possible, but if she can't, then reading extensively is probably the best idea. Here are three books that I highly recommend:

https://www.amazon.com/Freedom-Obsessive-Compulsive-Disorder-Personalized/dp/042527389X

https://www.amazon.com/Coping-OCD-Practical-Strategies-Obsessive-Compulsive/dp/1572244682

https://www.amazon.com/Getting-Over-OCD-First-Self-Help/dp/1593859996

Man, I'm sorry you feel this way. I remember being in the throes of OCD and having similar thoughts you are. Lurid sexual thoughts and images would pop into my head and give me a lot of anxiety. These thoughts you're having aren't things you want. The reason you are having so much anxiety about these thoughts is because they are intrusive and you don't want to have them. If you take a look at the pedophiles and people with fucked up fetishes, they have no anxiety over it. Next time an intrusive thought pops up, acknowledge that it is just the anxiety taking hold of your thoughts and then refocus on something different. I know it's easier said than done, but it is a process that takes time but it does get better.

About your penis size; there isn't much you can do there man. That's something you're going to have to accept. Fortunately, there are things besides just sex you can do to have a healthy sexual relationship with your partner. It's really something not worth stressing over.

I hope this helps. This book really helped me (along with my therapist and medication) on getting through the time when my OCD was at it's worst.

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CBT is hugely helpful, but you can get some of the benefit if you're committed to working on your own. My therapist recommended this workbook alongside our exposure therapy, and it's been a huge help: Getting Over OCD: A 10-Step Workbook for Taking Back Your Life by Jonathan S. Abramowitz. It basically walks you through what you'd be doing with a CBT. It's not a replacement, but a very good way to start if you're feeling more and more trapped waiting for treatment.

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