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Hands Are Not for Hitting (Best Behavior)
4 years & upThis book teaches children learn that violence is never okayPaperback40 pages
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6 Reddit comments about Hands Are Not for Hitting (Best Behavior):

u/carolina_snowglobe · 15 pointsr/TrollXMoms

Get down on their level, and speak calmly and evenly. “Hands are not for hitting. Hitting hurts.” grab their hands if they keep doing it. “I can see that you’re angry and frustrated. It’s ok to feel that way, but it’s not okay to hurt others, your belongings, or yourself. I won’t let you do that.”

I HIGHLY recommend this children’s book. It even has a quick cheat sheet at the end for parents and caregivers. https://www.amazon.com/Hands-Are-Hitting-Best-Behavior/dp/1575423081

u/hotdogger13 · 4 pointsr/Parenting

This was happening to me recently. My now almost 2.5 yo was hitting me and his older sister. We were the only ones he would hit. I tried ignoring it, I tried not reacting, I tried reacting w/a stern tone of voice, I tried punishment, I tried walking away. None of it changed the fact that when he got frustrated he would hit me or his sister. He didn't hit his father or the sitter. I thought it might have something to do with the fact that he is a bit delayed in expressive speech but he wasn't hitting when we didn't understand him. He was hitting when he didn't get what he wanted.

I finally went looking for a book and found a kid's book: "Hands are not for hitting." I got the soft cover which has more info in it than the boardbook/hard cover for the child to understand (https://www.amazon.com/Hands-Are-Hitting-Best-Behavior/dp/1575423081/). It shows positive things that hands should be used for instead of hitting. Shockingly, it seemed to help and there was a quick reduction in the hitting to zero hitting over a few days. I'm still surprised by how it changed.

As for where this behavior comes from - I tend to agree it comes from within. My son isn't in daycare, doesn't have older kids or other kids hitting him, he's not watching shows where the characters hit each other, I don't have any reason to believe that anyone is telling him to hit me and his sister, so, it was his own frustration coming out in that action.

You're not alone and it sucks to be the one taking the brunt. Try all the suggestions, give them a chance to work, and you'll find the one that works for your son.

u/doodlebug25 · 3 pointsr/beyondthebump

No clue about the poop issue (maybe call your ped and ask about this?) but have you tried any of the Best Behavior books for the other behavioral stuff? https://www.amazon.com/Hands-Are-Hitting-Best-Behavior/dp/1575423081 I'm so sorry you're going through this... but do remember: this too shall pass.

u/Bee_Hummingbird · 3 pointsr/breakingmom

https://www.amazon.com/Hands-Are-Hitting-Best-Behavior/dp/1575423081

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We read that book a lot. And used the phrase "hands are not for hitting," every time we disciplined her (then we redirect to some other activity). It sunk in eventually!

u/solattice · 1 pointr/Parenting

We're having the same kind of trouble with my 4yo. He's very sweet and empathetic most of the time, but if you tell him no or that it's time for him to stop playing and do something else, he often loses it. He gets a really mad red face, balls his fists, and will scream or start yelling horrible and intentionally hurtful things. He's also started hitting/kicking/punching his teachers at preschool, and was asked not to come back until we can get his anger under control.

I know the age is a bit different, but we've had a little success showing him what his face looks like when he's that mad, and asking if that's how he wants other kids to see him. If we catch the anger early enough he's been able to calm down pretty quickly. We've also been reading him books that build on his natural empathy. One in particular is called How Full Is Your Bucket? (http://www.amazon.com/How-Full-Your-Bucket-Kids/dp/0545642957/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1450604975&sr=1-1) He's woken up in the morning after we read that book for a bedtime story and brought it up on his own, which is promising.

I've also ordered a couple of books that have yet to arrive. One is Hands Are Not For Hitting (http://www.amazon.com/Hands-Are-Hitting-Best-Behavior/dp/1575423081/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=&sr=). The other is Cool Down and Work Through Anger (http://www.amazon.com/Cool-Through-Anger-Learning-Along/dp/1575423464/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=&sr=). These got good reviews, so I hope they'll be helpful to him.

Honestly I don't think the books alone, or any one method, will be effective in the short run. My kid has always had a temper and difficulty controlling himself when he gets upset, and I'm sure that this won't be the only time he struggles with it. He's incredibly bright, and completely understands why his behavior is wrong and how it hurts other people, and he genuinely cares that it does, but while he's that mad he can't think about those things. It's difficult seeing him get this out of control when other kids his age have relatively normal and short-lived outbursts.

Anyway, I feel for you, and I hope some part of this is helpful to you, or anyone else for that matter. Good luck.

u/100percentpureOJ · 1 pointr/politics