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I've been through a few losses which have devastated me beyond belief and I've recovered to a good degree and handled the depths of despair. So I'll tell you what has helped me.

Two books that really helped me were On Grief And Grieving and Healing After Loss. The first one talks a lot about accepting and understanding all of the emotions you go through and can help you navigate it a bit better. The second one was a god send because it was so easy to digest when I was overwhelmed. Just one little passage a day. They aren't Buddhist books, but they are still invaluable.

Another thing that I still use 1.7 years after my moms death is to journal to the dead, it really helps. Sometimes I just talk vocally, sometimes I journal. I talk about how I feel. I talk about any feeling or thought about them to them. It gives me some closure. My love has not died with them. So maintaining a connection to them is very helpful.

One thought that has helped me is to realize that the person lives on in how they've impacted me and others. So to me, my mom isn't completely dead.

I know it's really hard and sucks. I hope you feel better and I'm sorry you're going through this.

I agree with the top comment about how everyone goes through this and it's good to confront death and loss head on.

I hope some of this was helpful. Wish you well.

I'm sorry for your loss. I lost my girlfriend (who I was with for 10 years) and was completely wrecked by it and learned a lot of wisdom in the grieving process. And my mom died last December and that's been hard too.

What you can expect from grief is longing, anxiety, depression, guilt, jealousy, regret, poor concentration. But you can also experience gratitude and appreciation. You can't really fully realize what you've got until you've lost it. And also there is wisdom to be learned about how loss is a part of life. So there's a lot of positive things that will come from it.

Lots of things have helped me. One of the best things for me has been to journal out my feelings to the person I'm grieving about, when I most need to. With the intention to never give it to them. It really can help you express and work through all these emotions.

Another thing that helped me was to talk to people about it. Especially people who seem friendly and supportive. Or even strangers who seem friendly. Even just mentioning it for 1 minute to someone helped me at times.

Another thing that helped me was to buy this. (definitely buy it, it's well worth it!) https://www.amazon.com/Healing-After-Loss-Meditations-Working/dp/0380773384/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1511403375&sr=8-1&keywords=healing+after+loss

During grief it can be hard to concentrate, but reading one of these daily grief meditations each day really gave me the words I needed to hear. They are touching, wise and helpful.

Another thing that helped me was to simplify my life and treating myself like I was sick. Caring for myself physically, spiritually and mentally were top priorities. I had very little to give others and some responsibilities needed to be handed off for a bit.

Also, what helped me was to take a break from the grief sometimes and try to get my mind off of it. Either through work, or play, or w/e. It's important not to avoid it all of the time. It's sort of a balancing act between letting yourself grieve and distracting yourself.

Good luck, I think you can get through this. I hope my post was helpful. Again, sorry for your loss.

I'm so sorry you're going through this. I'm 27, my mom died very suddenly two months ago today. My dad called me home from work and we waited together for the medical examiner. She's not supposed to be gone. Nobody knows what happened, she didn't have an autopsy either but the ME said it was probably her heart. She also didn't want a funeral and we had a memorial dinner for her 2 days after it happened.

It's impossible to tell you anything comforting. Nothing will make it better. Two months out I can tell you, for me there's just a sense that... there's no other choice but to make it through. What else can you do? Nothing can change it, but I find some solace in that because, that means the only other thing to do is make it through. You'll make it through. I'm so sorry. It's not fair.

I don't know if this will help you at all, but a book that has helped me a lot is this one. Little blurbs you read each day, not too sappy, it's helped me through the roughest parts. Anyway, I'm sorry.

> I just feel like I am not suited to being alone

I do get this, but it's not healthy. There is such a thing as not needing to depend on someone. I moved in with my now ex husband straight from my parents house, so when we first separated almost a year ago, it was really tough. I didn't know how to be alone, how to not take care of someone else.

But that's the kicker. You need to learn how to take care of yourself - not someone else. By staying the caretaker role, you will keep seeking out toxic relationships. Believe it or not, catering to the other person and relying on one other person for your emotional fulfillment is extremely unhealthy.

Nobody wants to "die alone," but finding a good long-term partner doesn't just happen overnight. You need to learn how to enjoy your own life, not so concerned about finding someone to be with.

So what did I do to overcome all of this? First, you have to sit with the discomfort. Learn to be alone and it not crush you. Force yourself to develop a routine during the week - come home from work, cook dinner, straighten up, prepare lunch for tomorrow, watch a show, go to bed. It will suck at first, for a while - but the whole point is to first get used to it, then learn how to be comfortable with yourself.

Meanwhile, pick up some practices that help you specifically to learn how to just be, regardless of your current circumstances. The best for this are meditation and restorative yoga. A good book to get you started might be Healing After Loss: Daily Meditations For Working Through Grief

Great recommendation thanks! On the flip side of the coin, Healing After Loss by Martha Whitmore Hickman is a more esoteric approach. Every day of the year has one quote followed by a one paragraph discussion of the idea. I've never been one for sitting down and reading through a self help book, so this book has fit my reading style. And its a good companion for a "taking a day at a time" approach. And even if one day doesn't resonate, another coming up will.

Sorry to have misunderstood you. My 4 year old has been getting up at the butt-crack of dawn for the last few days, and since I'm always running on an energy deficit because of my MS, now my reading comprehension has taken a bit of a hit. He's back in school today, so he should be pretty worn out, and I'll get some freaking sleep.

On Death and Dying is the number one resource that I recommend. If books on grief had a gold standard, this would be it.

Healing After Loss is another good one that I often recommended.

I wasn't Ready to Say Goodbye is one I wish I'd had during my brief time doing grief counseling, because almost all of my patients lost someone suddenly and tragically.

How to Go on Living When Someone You Love Dies is another old one that's still relevant)

Getting to the Other Side of Grief is one that is specific to losing a spouse.

I personally used The Grief Recovery Handbook and I recommend it so often I should really put it on business cards, but your friend might do better with the workbook that goes with I Wasn't Ready to Say Goodbye.

A Grief Workbook for Skeptics is brand new and I haven't had a chance to flip though it at the library, but it's nice to see a book address the grieving process for atheists/agnostics. Not that the other books I recommended are religious-y, but atheists (like my husband) do have different grief needs than theists, and it's good to see those getting addressed.

Incidentally, I'm not a social worker anymore. I quit this morning. Not my job, I quit my career. I have MS, and it has finally come to the point that I can't work in any capacity, whether as a social worker or a dog walker or one of those people who dress up in banana suits and stand on busy streets spinning signs to get you to go buy a cellphone or something. I'll be applying for disability tomorrow. So henceforth, take my opinions as that of a former social worker.

Please give my condolences to your friend. They say that losing a child is the worst kind of grief imaginable. And it was (and sometimes is) pretty fucking horrible. But despite going through that, and two traumatic pregnancy losses, the thought of losing a spouse is terrifying to me. I can't wrap my brain around how I could function after that, and I'm saddened to hear that your friend has to live that nightmare. I hope one or more of these books is helpful. The only thing I think I can contribute is something someone once told me after my son died, when I was drowning in grief and wanted to know when it would go away. It never goes away, but one day you wake up and find that you don't mind carrying it with you anymore. It becomes a part of who you are. If you think that your friend would be helped by hearing that, pass it along, but if not just tell them that I'm sorry for their loss.

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sorry man. Get some counselling asap. grief will eat your lunch and stuff you in a locker.

i've been reading this since my dad passed in June. It helps.

I am so very sorry for your loss.

I would suggest seeking counseling for emotional support as you work through your grief. Nothing will be easy for a while, but that's ok. Eventually you will work through the grief. You never "get over it" but you can work through it. Counseling is very helpful in this situation.

Talk with your counselor and/or Doctor too about support groups.

Here's a few links that I hope might be helpful too:


http://www.amazon.com/Healing-After-Loss-Meditations-Working/dp/0380773384


https://www.mywayforward.com/well-being/grief/working_through_grief/



http://www.goodgriefcenter.com/help/twenty_tips.php


http://dying.about.com/od/thegrievingprocess/a/10-grief-tips.htm


And finally:


> Anything that’s human is mentionable, and anything that is mentionable can be more manageable. When we can talk about our feelings, they become less overwhelming, less upsetting, and less scary. The people we trust with that important talk can help us know that we are not alone.”
― Fred Rogers


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