Reddit reviews Healing the Masculine Soul: God's Restoration of Men to Real Manhood

I'm going to make a few bold statements. Take them or leave them.

(1) You have a shame-based identity. This is toxic to your whole view of yourself and life as a whole. It will also lead you to naturally seek "single-factor quick fixes" for your emotional aches.

(2) You are a textbook co-dependent. Take some online quizzes about this. See a therapist and work through your sense of self.

I think your dad recognizes that your girlfriend is playing an overwhelmingly prominant role in your emotional life, and that you are trying to "fill a void" in your heart that no girlfriend can ever fill.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Codependency

I also recommend getting into a recovery group such as a "Men's Codependency Group" with a place like Celebrate Recovery. They probably have multiple chapters in your area, wherever you live.

http://www.celebraterecovery.com/

(3) Consider taking an antidepressent such as sertralin. Your whole world can change in mere minutes or days.

(4) Consider therapeutic literature such as "Healing the Masculine Soul."

http://www.amazon.com/Healing-Masculine-Soul-Restoration-Manhood/dp/0849944384

If you have theological objections to these, consider that scripture tells us to "be transformed by the renewing of your mind," meaning you need to learn to think in new ways).

You only get one life to live, and the implications of how you live it are permanent and irrevocable. Seize the day and become who you were intended to be.