Reddit reviews How to Be a Gentleman: A Timely Guide to Timeless Manners

According to [How to Be a Gentleman: A Timely Guide to Timeless Manners](http://www.amazon.com/How-Be-Gentleman-Timeless-Manners/dp/1401603351/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1252680779&sr=8-1 "A book which I regard as an essential reference") the crotch is the polite way to go. At least you are facing the person. Also in that section is the mandate not to apologize when moving through such an aisle; after all you are doing nothing wrong. "Excuse me" is appropriate, however.

Okay, you're not going to fit it into a single book. This is a good place to start:

http://www.amazon.com/How-Be-Gentleman-Timeless-Manners/dp/1401603351/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1280113263&sr=8-1

I quite like this one for clothes:

http://www.amazon.com/Gentleman-Timeless-Fashion-Bernhard-Roetzel/dp/0841601623/ref=ntt_at_ep_dpi_1

Get him a copy of "How to be a Gentleman". The book is small, compact, and teaches essential manners in large, bold type. It is appropriate for all ages, though it admittedly skews more towards adulthood than young adulthood.

No one is going to care what you look like if you have boorish manners.

Speak with class

look fancy doing it

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Dress with style and sophistication

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How to play the part

and

also

Read this book. As well as this book. Watch this movie.

Take lessons from these. But most importantly, be passionate about something. That's how you begin to discover yourself (in a good way).