Reddit reviews How To Control Your Anxiety Before It Controls You

Ok so it sounds like looks aren't your strong suit. Working out is a good idea but bottom line - if you're 5'5 you aren't the guy that girls are just going to notice based on looks. Also, shave your head if you haven't already. Then you don't look bald. You look like a guy with a shaved head.

So clearly looks aren't your strongest suit, but your talking and social skills are. By not talking to women and waiting for them to show interest based on your looks, you are keeping your strong suit hidden and relying on your weaker aspect.

Now you might not think you have good social skills except when you are in the zone but here's the truth. Your "zone" is just experiencing a lack of anxiety. What you experience most of the time is social anxiety. That's why you are in your head.

The way you can deal with your anxiety about talking to women is through exposure (talk to lots of women) and read up on how to deal with the anxiety. This book is good: http://www.amazon.com/Control-Your-Anxiety-Before-Controls/dp/0806521368/ref=asap_bc?ie=UTF8

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Hey, sorry I took a while getting back to you. I haven't been on reddit for a while.

It's hard to recommend a single book because Ellis wrote on such a broad range of issues, from dealing with anger, sexual shame, anxiety, depression, relationships, procrastination etc etc.

Probably the best all-rounder book from Ellis is:

A Guide to Rational Living, which can be picked up pretty cheap second hand, and covers:

>1. Overcoming the influences of your past

>2. Refusing to be desperately unhappy

>3. Tackling dire needs for approval

>4. Eradicating dire fears of failure

>5. How to feel undepressed though frustrated

>6. Conquering anxiety

>7. Acquiring self-discipline

amongst other things.

CBT has probably developed techniques and protocols for dealing with eating disorders, so I would highly recommend trying to talk to a school counsellor or check out a local library about that, but for having a mental toolset that will help you with anything, I haven't come across anything better than REBT.

The Myth of Self Esteem and How to Control your Anxiety before It controls you might also be of use.

Overcoming Destructive Beliefs, Feelings, and Behaviors: New Directions for Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy and Overcoming resistance: a rational emotive behavior therapy integrated approach are two of the most recent books from Ellis, though they are more expensive so I'd recommend starting with A Guide to Rational Living, and if it seems worthwhile to you then perhaps the newer books will have some extra insight for you.

There also seems to be a book on REBT specifically about eating disorders called The Art & Science of Rational Eating though I have not read it so I can't speak to its quality. Regardless of the ad-speak on the cover it claims to have specific focus on Bulimia and Anorexia so it may be worth checking out amongst others, but will likely not give you as full a overview of REBT as some of the other books I've mentioned.