Reddit reviews How to Have Your Cake and Your Skinny Jeans Too: Stop Binge Eating, Overeating and Dieting For Good Get the Naturally Thin Body You Crave From the Inside Out (Binge Eating Solution Book 1)
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While there is some really fantastic advice already being posted - I have to say, as a fellow compulsive eater, I wholeheartedly understand what you are saying. I bet you're sitting at your computer, reading these tips and saying "Yeah, that's all fine and dandy but I feel like you guys aren't really getting it..." I get it. I do.
Breaking through compulsive eating is all mental. It sucks to hear but you will not get better until you want to. It really is true. The only thing is... it's not your eating that you need to fix. It is your mental state. Everything else will follow. Start eating healthier and start moving more but your real focus right now needs to be on your mind -- reverse the cycle.
Use the tips others have posted to start your daily journey. Take every single day and every single meal one step at a time. Do not think about your next meal until you are physically in the kitchen to prepare it. If you do slip and eat three cupcakes instead of the apple you had planned for a snack, take a step back. Take a deep breath. Let. It. Go. Move on. The next meal is something you are in control of - always.
My compulsive eating problems are exactly like yours - it feels like a switch. Just one little thing. Like you're constantly teetering on "healthy" or "fuck it". You know it is a conscious decision. But sometimes it feels like you physically cannot escape the lingering need to eat - but not just eat... eat foods that you forbid yourself every "diet" day, to eat the foods that you love but hate at the same time. As if they'll fill up some void in your life and make you feel whole. I get it.
Some really great resources I have found support and understanding in:
I am in the beginning stages of recovery from compulsive eating. I also am seeking help from a counselor. If you think you are at a stage where you could benefit from talking to someone, I urge you to seek help, as well.
Take everything I say with a grain of salt, this is what works for me and may not work for you.
I've been doing intuitive eating (or attempting at least) for about 2 years now. It's not been easy it took my a good 5 months to figure out what the heck my body wanted. So the thing I learn that helped me:
Books that helped me:
I'll still eat to much sometimes, but it's a lot more rare and it works for me.
I have a sweet tooth, so I eat sweets. As a woman in my mid-twenties I've spent most of my life creating rules and regulations around food. Everything falls in a "good" or "bad" category. Things I can eat without guilt and everything else. All it does is make "bad" foods more desirable and set me up to eat more of them.
I recently read Have Your Cake and Skinny Jeans, Too (dumb name, good book) and it really opened up my eyes to how trying to make myself eat or not eat things set me up for perpetual failure and really disordered eating.
Hello! I am working toward an overall goal weight of 150, and it's nice to know that I am about 46% of the way there! I now weigh the same I did in high school, and I feel better than I have ever felt.
To lose the weight, I feel like there are a lot of different factors at play.
-Two years ago I tried the Atkins low card diet, and lost 10 pounds pretty fast, then I stopped. I gained this 10 pounds back over the next 6 months. Although I went back to eating almost the same as before, I didn't crave sugar and carbs as much as before Atkins.
-This summer, I also read this book, which although it only helped me lose 5 pounds, it helped me learn how to identify true hunger from fake hunger, and other skills that we habitual dieters lose over our various weight loss attempts.
-Then, I read the book that has helped me by far the most out of anything I have read or tried over the last few years. This book was exactly what I needed. Instead of pushing a specific diet, it teaches overweight people (like myself) the skills they need to be successful on any diet. It focuses on using cognitive behavior therapy to change the way we think about dieting, and our internal monologues about ourselves and our diet.
I combined these skills with the Profile by Sanford program, and have been having such great success. I meet with a coach weekly, my scale syncs to her office to hold me accountable, I eat a high protein, low carb diet, and I don't feel hungry or cheated (most of the time). It's still hard, but not NEARLY as hard as the other diets I have tried in the past. I am focusing on making this a lifestyle change, and I look forward to posting again as I get closer to my goal weight!
I enjoyed your video. The part that stuck out to me was about the categories of people who turn to comfort eating, one being those who frequently restrict their eating. It reminded me of a study that was done awhile back where scientists conducted a study of people going through a controlled semi-starvation period. The study had multiple purposes for being done, but one of the findings was that the men in the study "...became obsessed with food, eating with elaborate rituals (which eating disorder patients also do) and adding water to their plates to make the food last longer. Many collected cookbooks and recipes. One man, tempted by the odor from a bakery, bought a dozen doughnuts and gave them to children in the street just to watch them eat. Originally, the participants were allowed to chew gum, but when many of the men went to chewing about 40 sticks a day, it was decided that gum would affect the experiment and it was disallowed." I believe people who go on crash diets fall deeper into the category that you mentioned and build an even greater habit in comfort eating. Here is a link to the study. I don't necessarily think that comfort eating is bad. Eating for pleasure is a part of human society, a cultural norm, and just a plain ol' joy of life (nobody would argue that), but I think it is when comfort eating shifts into overeating and binge eating that things get destructive. Like you said, the issue is where comfort eating becomes an addiction and what do people do when they get addicted? They chase the high. They go from two slices of pizza to five, and from five, to the whole thing. Eating a slice of pizza is fine, in fact, it's great. However, going on a magical and enchanting journey through the land of PizzaVille is where things get bad. I think your four solutions are great for dealing with this. I think you could even do a follow up video to elaborate on them. For example, meditation really could be replaced with anything that doesn't involve eating. Essentially, someone should find one activity that they can easily do right away (meditation, yoga, reading, going for a walk, make a playlist, video games, etc) that they do when they find themselves going for seconds. Second, the food diary was eye opening. I've always thought about a food diary as just a record of what I've ate. Here, you ask the person to go further and write about why they comfort binged. Third, intuitive eating. There could even be a sub-list of solutions to tackle this. I'm currently focusing on this in my own program. I plan/ portion my plate and leave a quarter of my food behind. I've found that I have a bad habit of eating everything. I can't leave anything behind on my plate. It's been a hard habit to break, but leaving a quarter behind and focusing on how much I eat rather than what I eat has been really successful for me in breaking my overeating habits. And then your last solution, social support, is solid. Many people want to deal with this alone so they aren't embarrassed. That's totally understandable. However, it's important to find at least one good friend or family member who knows you're consciously trying to not "over do it". Chances are they are going to understand. There is a book that goes into all of this in detail. It has an unfortunate title and book cover, but the messages are solid. It's about focusing on healing one's relationship with food as opposed to continuing the cycle of crash dieting. Here is the link for the book.
Sorry for the wall of text, but I guess I had a lot to say about it!
Not OP but this book helped me immensely.
I've been reposting this comment everywhere, but I think this might help:This may be an unconventional answer, but based on your concerns I would suggest looking into Hunger Directed Eating. It's a good way to break from the overcontrolled nature of diets and get back into eating for your body's nutritional needs without overdoing it by eating too much. a really good book I enjoyed was The Rules Of Normal Eating
and I'm currently working through
Thin: How to have your cake and skinny jeans too
It is informed by cognitive behavioral therapy strategies to help people overcome the psychological barriers to eating normally, in a way that will not make you gain weight. Much like the way people who are naturally thin eat.
This is the only thing that has led to stable change for me, over time. I was struggling with managing my eating since I was a teenager and this has allowed me to think less about food and worry less about treating myself. . . and I've lost about 7 pounds (over the span of a few months).
Take a look at the samples and see if these are for you. they won't solve all your problems unless you put some real thought and work into it. You may come out the other side having resolved some of your eating disorder issues.
I struggle with binge eating. This book changed my life. It's really simple. :) http://www.amazon.com/Have-Your-Skinny-Jeans-ebook/dp/B00B9JKNBC
I HIGHLY recommend this book:
http://www.amazon.com/Have-Your-Skinny-Jeans-ebook/dp/B00B9JKNBC/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1367611635&sr=8-1&keywords=skinny+eating
It goes over why we overeat and has effective steps for stopping it. I struggled with overeating so much that I thought I was addicted to food! I wasn't, it was because I had been trying to diet myself my entire life, so by limiting the things I loved, I thought about them that much more. The book teaches you how to eat what you want in moderation and track how it makes you FEEL so that you're able to make 'inside-out' decisions and change your will power into want power. It seriously, changed my life and my waist line :)
hahah I was the only gaijin in my town for three years. I know that feel.
Keep up the good work, and remember, sometimes its just best to succeed more days than not. don't beat yourself up too much.
Here's the link if you'd like it to the book! https://www.amazon.com/Have-Your-Cake-Skinny-Jeans-ebook/dp/B00B9JKNBC
When I read your post it sounds so similar to what I have. I'm currently seeking treatment for my binge disorder. The treatment I'm getting matches a lot of what this book has to say. I recommend it if you can't get treatment due to insurance or what not. It really spoke to me.
Please message me if you need to speak about anything. I swear when I read your post I thought it was me.
Read this! I just started reading it on another loseiter's recommendation and it is fantastic!
Your link doesn't work. Is it this?
edit: also, I know it's definitely an emotional thing I'm working past. Whenever I go home and I'm around my family my hunger cravings are insane. I have to snack constantly. It's a stress thing.
I have found that this book has been amazing at really distilling the reasons why dieting doesn't work. I mean it definitely appeals to my desire to lose weight, but in a logical way that doesn't involve restriction.
She goes through a ton in the book, but I found her most useful advice revolves around how to actually "eat what you want." Like eating without distractions and REALLY choosing what you want to eat (both psychologically and physically).
One quote of hers that I thought perfectly described this disorder:
>binge eating is motivated by a desire to escape from critical self-awareness
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Hope this helps!
Dear u/chosen_at_random I mostly lurk but your message brought back me some painful memories. Because I used to be where you were. Here are some resources I used to get back on normal food. I hop eyou find them as helpful as I did. :)
http://routineexcellence.com/its-not-because-youre-hungry-14-ways-to-control-your-eating/
https://redd.it/2f0p7y
https://www.amazon.com/kindle/dp/B00B9JKNBC/ref=rdr_kindle_ext_eos_detail#navbar
You can definitely escape the dieting triangle of despair!!!
I used to struggle so hard with binge eating, but I'm happy to say there's a way out! I read this book so long ago, but I remember liking it. See if it helps you https://www.amazon.com/Have-Your-Cake-Skinny-Jeans-ebook/dp/B00B9JKNBC/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1485143030&sr=8-1&keywords=josie+eating