Reddit reviews Look Into My Eyes: How To Use Hypnosis To Bring Out The Best In Your Sex Life

Well, it depends on what you want to focus on as a hypnotist. There are great books for hypnotherapy, stage hypnosis, sexual hypnosis, self hypnosis, and so on. For me, personally, I've tried to spread myself across all the fields. There are lots of books I can recommend, but they tend to be pretty specialized. I mentioned in another threat that this book is a great start for learning sexual hypnosis. It's actually just a great book for beginners in general, I feel the author approaches hypnosis in a very friendly way, whereas a lot of the hypnotherapy books can be overly stuffy. For stage hypnosis, no other book has been as big of a help to me as Ormond McGill's The New Encyclopedia of Stage Hypnotism. Ormond McGill is a true legend in the field, and I can't recommend his book highly enough.

As for getting your start on the practical end, I'd say it helps just to have patient friends or loved ones who will let you practice on them. Remember, one of the biggest keys to hypnosis is confidence in yourself. That's hard in the beginning, but the best advice for confidence is always to fake it until you make it, in my opinion.

Man, there are a lot of nay-sayers in here.

It's not only possible, I once trapped a girl in a hands-free infinite loop of orgasms with hypnosis. Lost count after 16. (I let her out eventually, of course.)

It's been YEARS since I dabbled with hypnosis, but the basic structure (that I remember) was something like... put her in a trance, remind her of recent erotic situations that resulted in an orgasm, get her turned on enough so that she's right on the edge, then put in a post-hypnotic that she'll cum when she hears "rubber strawberry" from me and me only. (Or whatever nonsense phrase that won't ever come up in normal conversation.) Might require practice, might not. Some people take to it more easily than others.

OBVIOUSLY not classical conditioning, but it's how I've done it. If you already know classical conditioning, you already know everything you need to know about using it. Make her cum, tell her to cum while doing it. Eventually get to the point where you're controlling when she cums manually, and use the phrase when you push her over the edge. Then push her to the edge, and use the phrase. See if it works. Continue the trend of less stimulation, earlier command until voila. I think. Never really studied classical conditioning.

If you're not familiar with hypnosis, this is a basic primer into the subject. I bought it and realized I pretty much knew everything in it (learned through library books, reading the basic structure of suggestions/inductions, and figuring it out). (There's also a MUCH cheaper Kindle version on Amazon, and Kindle's available for your PC if you don't like having stuff shipped to you or whatever.)

(WARNING: Don't buy that 'relyfe' bullshit. It's hype and marketing designed to bilk you of your money.)

(DOUBLE WARNING: This is hypnosis. If you fuck shit up, you're doing it inside someone's head, which could be bad. It helps to have a programmer's mindset, because often the subconscious is highly literal. And clean up after yourself, put safeties on triggers, don't leave permanent stuff in if you just want it temporarily, etc.)

Here are the books specifically on erotic hypnosis that I'd actually recommend:

Mind Play by MARK Wiseman-- this one is linked in the sidebar to the right. It's a good overview of hypnosis in general, hypnosis play in the bedroom and in relationships, and the erotic hypnosis community.

Erotic Hypnosis Scripts by Chewtoy (me!). Obviously I'm biased on this one, ;) but I think it's full of fun ideas for play.

Hypnotic Amnesia by Lee Allure and DJ Pynchon. Obviously this is very specific, rather than covering hypnosis in general or even kinky hypnosis in general; but, well, amnesia play is hot. ;) The book covers a year-long dive the two authors made into every different technique they could think of for inducing hypnotic amnesia, with notes on their experiences.

Hypnotize Your Lover... Deeper by Wendi Friesen. Wendi is a successful hypnotherapist whose practice is mostly not centered around sexy stuff, but she doesn't conspicuously shy away from it as the larger hypnotherapy organizations seem to. This book is a sort of grab bag of different ideas, along with a decent introduction to hypnosis for those who are new to it.

The Mind Play Study Guide by Mark Wiseman. Sort of a sequel to Mind Play, this covers a few new topics, and appears to be written as a sort of guide to presenting classes on erotic hypnosis at kink conventions.

Look Into My Eyes: How To Use Hypnosis To Bring Out the Best In Your Sex Life by Peter Masters. Another overview including an introduction to hypnosis aimed at those new to it. A bit lighter on the D/s angle than, say, Mind Play.

Beyond Games of Trance by Alex Tsander. Actually I haven't finished reading this one yet, so I'm not sure about it; it's spendy and has a lot of "you kids get off my lawn" in the beginning.

(If anyone knows of more, I'd love to hear about them!)

Here's my standard "Intro to hypnosis" post.

You know that old chestnut that a sub gives her submission to a dom? That is literally true with erotic hypnosis. Going into hypnosis is a learned skill like mediation. The hypnotee is the one does all the work during hypnosis. It's impossible to get any effect out of hypnosis without cooperation. This is one of the things that makes erotic hypnosis so safe.

That said, there are things you need to be aware of with hypnosis:

• never do therapy because of possible abreactions
  
• how to handle an abreaction
  
• hypnotic safewords
  
• how to phrase suggestions
  
  There are a few really good resources you should look into. In this order:
  
  
• Busman's Holiday: a porn story, but it is written as a complete primer in erotic hynosis. It's better than most hypnosis books I have read, and it is hot as hell.
  
• EMC Podcast. It gives a good guide of modern inductions and also covers SSC in the context of hypnosis.
  
• Look Into My Eyes: a complete primer on hypnosis in the context of D/s and BDSM. I've not read it, but I've heard it's hypnosis theory is out of date-- the EMC Podcast is supposedly much better.
  
• Warp My Mind: A great resource for free hypnosis MP3s, but quality varies greatly. I find the earliest files are the best.
  
  As for the practical side of getting started, I'd advise starting slowly. Hypnosis will be more effective on your GF if she thinks it will be effective. If you start with hard stuff and it doesn't work, it might make it harder to do hypnosis in the future. In general, some phenomena are harder than others:
  
  
• triggers to do something or act in a certain way (easiest)
  
• suggestions to think something (temporarily)
  
• sensory magnification
  
• positive hallucenations (you see X, you feel Y)
  
• negative hallucentations (forget about X, don't see Y) (hardest)
  
  Here's how I would recommend starting:
  
  
• Start your GF with Trig Freeze as a convincer that hypnosis is real. That should give you enough that you should be able to have some early D/s fun. Freezing her while you're outside of her view should build delicious anticipation.
  
• Get an SSC file. Hypnotic Safety Net is a good example. It puts in safegaurds so your GF will feel secure with the other triggers.
  
• Find some other easy files. I'd recommend TrigBodySlave, TrigArousal, and TrigNipplePlay. These should be enough (trigbodyslave especially) for some really hot D/s play.
  
• To get better results, you might need a better induction than the stock induction in front of all the files. Here are some better inductions: Blink's induction, EMG's confusion induction, Lutz Bubble Induction. Try some of those out and see what works best.
  
• To get the best effects, I usually put a long induction followed by multiple suggestion files, followed by a wakeup portion. To do this, you'll need to do some basic sound editing with audacity. If you become a member of the WMM site, he'll do this editing for you.
  
• If you want to experiment with other hypnotic effects, search for the author ChewToy on WMM. He has some great hypnosis files that demonstrate other hypnotic phenomena you can experiment with.
  
  

Hypnosis is surprisingly easy to learn and it is something that you can teach yourself virtually right away. The first time I learned about hypnosis, I ordered http://www.amazon.com/Look-Into-My-Eyes-Hypnosis/dp/1440449864/ref=sr_1_2?ie=UTF8&qid=1345509335&sr=8-2&keywords=look+into+my+eyes and http://www.amazon.com/Hypnosis-Beginners-Awareness-Achievement-Llewellyns/dp/156718359X/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1345509321&sr=8-1&keywords=hypnosis+for+beginners after seeing some suggestions by hypnotists on reddit from an AMA about 2 years ago (I believe it was reddit anyways).

Hypnosis for beginners offers direct scripts that you can read from (my sister with absolutely no idea how hypnosis works was able to hypnotize someone her first time trying it by reading the first script in the book) and the other one is more about ideas and how you can use it with a partner. Truthfully, I barely read either of the books because you realize quickly that you can wing it and improvise the hypnosis sessions yourself and that is what I have always done.

The biggest factor in hypnosis in confidence. You are leading someone into a state of deep relaxation and the way you speak must reflect a certain combination of calm and relaxing as well as confidence and authority. Whenever I start a session, I use a certain hypnosis voice (it is talked about a little bit in the look into my eyes book) and the voice is both commanding and very "flowy". You do not want anything to happen during the session to bring the person out of hypnosis so everything must flow very well.

The other big factor with hypnosis is trust. The more that the person trusts to be vulnerable with you, the far easier it is to successfully hypnotize someone. This is why hypnosis works very well with SO's and honestly it is by far the most fun (you can get VERY creative). I don't think I'd be able to run any sort of course or anything on hypnosis but I can certainly try to answer questions and get you to the point where you can do it yourself.

Have you ever taken a course on hypnosis? That would be the best place to start. Check your local community colleges, especially the night school and extension classes - hypnotherapists often earn a little extra money teaching workshops on hypnosis, and it's far easier to learn from someone who knows how to do it than a book.

Failing that, read some books. After you read some books go visit a hypnotherapist and get yourself hypnotized so you can see the art in practice, because a real demonstration is far more valuable than just reading a book.

Once you've learned the basics of how to hypnotize someone, I would try reading something like Look Into My Eyes for more information on applying hypnosis specifically to sex.

https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1440449864

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Fair warning, I've never read/used it

If you've been into this for a while, you may already know about the book, Look Into My Eyes. I got it a few months ago based on another Redditor's recommendation. It's mostly geared towards using hypnosis to spice up an already healthy relationship.

If you're looking to try something totally new, there are a couple good books on erotic hypnosis - Mind Play by Mark Wiseman and Look Into My Eyes by Peter Masters. I've only read Mind Play but have also heard good things about the Masters book. Hypnosis can be a really fun and interesting tool for enhancing sexuality, not least because it has so many different applications.

I read this AMA by a hypnotist a while back, and he recommended the book Look Into My Eyes as a good starting point for this sort of thing.

I'd go with hypnosis. Having her knock herself out is going to be the easiest and safest way to ensure you get what you both want. Check out Look Into My Eyes on Amazon.