Reddit reviews Manhood in America: A Cultural History

Also, American masculinity specifically rejected a lot of older masculine norms that weren't quite as toxic (showing affection, being physically intimate/touching, wearing pretty clothes, etc). Michael Kimmel's Manhood in America is an excellent resource on these shifts as American men wanted to define themselves counter to European "foppish" men. Think Teddy Roosevelt's Rough Riders and the general escape from domesticity (women's sphere) to squat around campfires and be rugged and dirty, as well as rejections of higher class masculinity (with wigs and lace and high heels).

You should get him these

http://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/0199781559/ref=pd_aw_sbs_5?pi=SL500_SY115&simLd=1

^ this talks about how men became the stereotypical brawny man.

http://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/0553386735/ref=pd_aw_sbs_4?pi=SL500_SY115&simLd=1

^ this talks about women's bodies and the changes they go through (I'm thinking of getting this for me)

http://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/1570628122/ref=mp_s_a_1_3?qid=1417541607&sr=8-3&pi=AC_SY200_QL40


^^^ especially this last one talks about how to have meaning fun relationships



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