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First-timer here who's hoping to go without pain meds. Here's my plan, loosely based on things I've picked up from reading Ina May's guide to childbirth and some Bradley Method books.
That book is crap because it IS ancient and sexist. Bradley isn't wrong, but he's not from 'our time' so the way he explains it is degrading. Getting a book written for us is far more beneficial.
Get this one: http://www.amazon.com/Natural-Childbirth-Bradley-Way-Revised/dp/0452276594/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&amp;qid=1373065618&amp;sr=8-1&amp;keywords=susan+mccutcheon#
I actually didn't even have my husband read it. I read it and relayed the important bits to my husband, and I found it extremely helpful.
Vague feelings of peace or calm are the most I ever got aside from frisson while singing or hearing hymns.
I can duplicate the calm via meditation upon nothing but focusing on my breaths, so certainly peace or calm aren't unique to religious confirmation of truth either. I view meditation as a much more powerful tool than prayer ever was for me, I used a meditative method to go through childbirth without medication. I had a nine pound baby and only seven hours of labor and only at the very end did I feel like I was getting overwhelmed. That method of childbirth actually teaches that when this occurs, it actually means the mother is very near to being finished with labor, which I immediately saw and got a second wind from it, my daughter was born moments later. It was the Bradley Method, if any one is curious. I found it simple enough that I bought a book on it, read it and used it.
The frisson is duplicated for me across genres though. I get frisson from listening to Tool or Infected Mushroom, so frisson certainly can't be some sort of spiritual confirmation that the message of the music is true.
My midwife made me read this book:
And take a birth class. The class was pretty much just the book in verbal form, with a few extra videos, meditations, and stretches.
As long as you are curious to learn, and believe in yourself, you will have no problem getting all the info. you need!
It's good to get info. from multiple sources too. I really like the Bradley mindset, but a lot of what I was taught was pretty heavily anti-hospital /anti-intervention. I ended up with an emergency C-Section, and I had a really supportive hospital experience, which surprised me because of the messages I had been receiving.
Best of luck! :-)
Came here to recommend Penny Simkin's The Birth Partner and Ina May Gaskin's Guide to Childbirth (already recommended) along with Natural Childbirth the Bradley Way.
I think you'll be in good shape with just the books! I'm reading Susan McCutcheon's Bradley Method book and highly recommend it. It's very informative, has good diagrams, and includes the "exercises" you can practice with your husband/coach. I've really learned a lot reading it.
If anything comes up in the classes that isn't covered in the book, I'll let you know!
For actual pregnancy, I loved the American college of obstetrics and gynecology's book and I know a lot of people loved the mayo clinic book.
Planning for Pregnancy, Birth And Beyond: Second Revised Edition https://www.amazon.com/dp/0525941401/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_PLZHAbPZ6V85C
Mayo Clinic Guide to a Healthy Pregnancy: From Doctors Who Are Parents, Too! https://www.amazon.com/dp/1561487171/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_tMZHAbRTF0RMQ
I also read what to expect when your expecting but it was a lot of the same info in my apps, except the actual birth and labor part. There was some helpful stuff in there!
For laboring I read Ina May's guide to Childbirth and I LOVED it. I feel SO prepared after reading it!
Ina May's Guide to Childbirth https://www.amazon.com/dp/0553381156/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_VNZHAbQ7T2S9D
I tried to read
Natural Childbirth the Bradley Way https://www.amazon.com/dp/0452276594/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_HOZHAbRC89D39
But I couldn't take it seriously!
And for breastfeeding I read
The American Academy of Pediatrics New Mother's Guide to Breastfeeding (Revised Edition): Completely Revised and Updated Third Edition https://www.amazon.com/dp/0399181989/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_9PZHAbSMPXVX9
And for baby feeding and sleeping I read
On Becoming Baby Wise: Giving Your Infant the Gift of Nighttime Sleep https://www.amazon.com/dp/1932740139/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_JQZHAbS5P7824
How far is she along? You could look into the bradley method of giving birth, and one of the books, Natural Childbirth the Bradley Way is very good, and might convince you and your friend to sign up for the classes.
The bradley method places a lot of importance on the coach, or the birth-partner. You will be actively able to assist her in having a smooth delivery.
STM here. I read a lot of the Bradley Method.
And then I didn't and wouldn't go into labor naturally... Lol.
Any book that teaches you methods of relaxation and acceptance of the pain with your partner (if you have one) is good. Try to focus the contractions into progress instead of just dealing with pain and waiting for it to be over. Easier said than done when transition hits I hear. I had an epidural by then.
I will agree with the Ina May Gaskin suggestion as a way to hear stories about thinking of birth as a natural life event and read the stories to help you, but in the end, you have no idea what is going to happen!
The Bradley book has a lot of diagrams. Diagrams are cool.
I had a natural birth in a hospital. I think as long as you go in there knowing exactly what you want and your husband is on the same page so he can be your advocate when you can't do it yourself you will get everything you need.
I decided to use the Bradley Method (husband coached childbirth) for my labor. I really think it helped, I didn't take the classes but I bought 2 books about it. I felt prepared with the information I had.
As soon as I went in I made it known to everyone what I wanted. No meds, intermittent monitoring and necessary staff only. Literally the only person I saw the whole time was my nurse every couple hours. My water broke before I got to the hospital but no contractions, they literally walked in with pitocin and if I didn't know any better I would have let them give it to me! I told them I didn't want it, the doctor let me know that was ok but if by midnight I didn't start contracting I had to or baby was at risk. Luckily by 7pm everything got going on its own, I labored for 12 hours in the dark with my husband by my side and only saw any other hospital staff when I pushed, as soon as my baby was born everyone left the room and we got 2 hours together alone to nurse and get some rest.
The Birth Partner is a good one. It is aimed at the partner regardless of gender.
The Bradley Method is another good one and is more heteronormative (written with the heterosexual male husband as the primary audience).
We're a gay/trans couple, so both of these books are a bit of a mindfuck for us, but the information in them is great! I'm still looking for a book that provides all the necessary information without couching it in gender(roles/stereotypes) or mainstream relationships (almost all are written for married hetero couples). The problem with birth and parenting books is they are written in this weird way-- like in the second person with huge assumptions about the reader being written into the text.
I have an awesome intro to weightlifting book that assumes absolutely nothing about the life of the reader. It manages to provide excellent info about beginning barbell training for anybody who wants to learn it. I don't know why birth and parenting books can't be written the same way...
Yes, I would recommend the book. For me it was very informative about pregnancy, labor, and medications. It is biased on having a natural birth, but like I said, it explains all the other options.
Ina May's Guide to Childbirth and Natural Childbirth the Bradley Way have been two fantastic resources for me. I highly recommend them if you're more into the natural side of childbirth, and I even found them to be a great prep for what's to come even though I haven't really made my mind up about natural vs. ... whatever else happens that day lol. But I felt that they gave a more accurate (and positive) description of what birth is like than any other source I've read so far.
EDIT: for links
Not sure what your birthing plans are, but I'd check out the Bradley Method. Amazon link.
My hospital offered a deal where you can do the 5-week childbirth class, the one-time newborn care class, and the one-time breastfeeding class for $90.
There's also an organization here called Healthy Start that offers free classes. We're doing the free childbirth class now, and will take a combo of breastfeeding/newborn care in August.
The downside of these classes is you don't get the specialized methods you would get from a private instructor, like Bradley or hypnobabies. The class we're in has been very general, although still helpful... mainly because the instructor is very familiar with the hospital where I'm delivering, so she has given us a lot of hospital-specific tips.
EDIT: I'm also going for natural, and this book was recommended to me. The pictures are pretty dated, but so far I do like the content!
The classes are actually less helpful than you would think. It's more piece of mind for my wife. I put the website below for more info. You can gain most of the information from the internet.
Really good book. I have like a thousand bookmarks on various pages. It goes through what you will be going through, how your boyfriend will be able to tell what you are feeling and what he should be doing to make you more comforatble and be more supportive. I highly recommend this one.
Good luck and congrats!
Congratulations! It weird...there's a bond between BOTL and there's a bond between fathers that make us celebrate with people we've never met face to face! I'm seriously thrilled for you!
My wife and I have a 16-month old girl and it is worth everything you have to go through to get there. The fears and frustrations and pains and changes are nothing compared to the end goal.