Reddit reviews Not All Princesses Dress in Pink

This is fantastic. Our 3 year old daughter is going through a big princess phase, which provokes the exact train of thought listed in the comic. We've been reading her books like The Paper Bag Princess and Not All Princesses Dress in Pink to try and broaden her view of what princesses are and aren't.

Ironically, my niece, from whom my daughter caught this princess craze, went this past Halloween as the Hulk. There's this awesome picture of her, with green face and those huge "Hulk Smash" fists sitting with the rest of her ballet class, who are all princesses or fairies or ballerinas. Her classmates were all pretty nonplussed when she showed up to class. :)

The only book I can think of is called Don't Cry, Big Bird BUT I would ask you to preview it to see if you think it's acceptable because I don't remember all the details and I don't want to be held responsible for traumatizing your cousin!
From what I can remember, it's a picture book where Big Bird is very sad because he's too tall to join in games (jump ropes are too short, etc.). He's all sad about it, but then Mr. Snuffleupagus, who is also really big, says that he likes Big Bird's size. He helps Big Bird modify games (tying two jump ropes together) and eventually Big Bird likes his size and finds it useful-- he rescues his friend's kite from a tree when no one else can.
The reasons I can remember for not recommending this book wholeheartedly-- I believe they use the word "big" instead of "tall." It seems like a little thing, but for a girl who is already feeling self-conscious, it might not be the best choice of words. (And yes, no one should be ashamed of their body, regardless-- but I know that personally, when I was called "big" as an underweight but tall preteen, it stung.)

Another resource-- not specifically for tall girls, but adhering to the theme of loving yourself for who you are-- I found this list of "Positive Princess" books really helpful when I started nannying for a very appearances-centered kindergartener. She loves princess books, but a lot of them weren't sending a very positive message. These princess books focus more on having a healthy view of yourself rather than idolizing some airbrushed "Princess" character. I haven't read all of these, but Jane Yolen's and Heidi Stemple's Not All Princesses Dress in Pink is phenomenal.

More awesome picture books celebrating differences and diversity (Amazon has most of these for less than $3 used, and they're mostly popular enough that I would think your library would have them):
It's Okay to be Different
What I Like About Me
I Like Myself!

To take a different approach-- I know this sounds shallow, but when I was still growing and way more self-conscious about my height, I LOVED the fact that Nicole Kidman was (well, is) 5'11" (I was obsessed with Moulin Rouge). I ordinarily do not care about celebrity...stuff, but I thought it was so awesome that she was the same height as I was! Depending on what your cousin's interested in, consider showing her some pictures of tall girls to boost her confidence. For example, if she's familiar with the President's family, Michelle, Malia, and Sasha Obama are all quite tall (Michelle and Malia are both 5'11", and Malia's only 14!) The Obama girls are gorgeous and stylin, and I know I would have loved to see photos of tall younger girls when I was a kid (as opposed to tall women). Hell yeah, tall first family!
5 is too young for The Hunger Games, but Jennifer Lawrence is 5'9 and taller than her costar. She also seems to have a fairly positive view of health/body image as well.
There are a lot of tall women in the media-- Queen Latifah and Tyra Banks are 5'10, Taylor Swift (if she's into her music) and Karen Gillan (I love Doctor Who too much to not include her) are 5'11... and that's just a start! Look at Olympic athletes (Missy Franklin is only 18, 6'1, and a 4-time gold medalist) for other tall role models!

But at the end of the day, more than any books or media, you are the one who will have the most positive impact on your cousin! Make sure to talk about your own height in a positive manner, don't set a bad example by saying anything negative about your own body (or anyone else's), and be sure to mention how much you like being tall when you're around your cousin. I outgrew my mom, sister, aunts, uncles, and all my male and female cousins as a kid-- I would have loved to have a role model like you! Your own personal relationship with your cousin will be by far the most powerful and long-lasting influence on her self image.

Might I suggest, for those who want to reclaim the word, The Princess and the Pizza, or Princess Grace. Not all Princesses Dress in Pink is not my favorite, but isn't bad either.

There are some good picture books that challenge traditional gender roles/stereotypes - try Not All Princesses Dress in Pink, Pink is for Boys, Beautiful, and Jamie is Jamie.

My daughter is six right now, and I was (and still am) the main stay at home/work from home parent ever since my wife’s maternity leave ended when she was five months old.

I’ve long called her “chaos with a pony tail”. She was sprinting soon after walking, and at times on the playground I felt like the word I was saying most to her was “Careful!” She’s had tons of spills and I always felt like my reaction to those spills would teach her how to react to scrapes and falls, etc. I likened her falling down to a coin that landed on its edge, and whatever I did in that moment would dictate which way it would fall.

Now she’s in kindergarten, and has had a ton of scrapes during recess. Visits to the nurse are common for her, but nothing too serious, we usually only hear about them from her that night. One time just two weeks into her school year I got a call from the nurse, as she had collided with another kid by accident and ended up landing in a shrub with her neck getting scratched. After I talked with my daughter during the call (who told me she didn’t want to get picked up, and wanted to finish the day, bus ride home and all), the nurse got on and assured me that she’d be fine to continue at school but remarked that she was One Tough Little Girl.

She definitely loves dresses and princesses and pink sparkly girly stuff, but she also flips over rocks and revels in finding bugs we’d rather she avoid, like grubs and slugs. Her aunt gave her the book Not All Princess Dress in Pink, but she didn’t need to be taught that from a book. She figured that out on her own.