Reddit reviews Part Asian, 100% Hapa

Wow. That was an unpleasant, hate spewing chunk of the Internet. I've always associated the term Hapa with pride. First learned the term from this photo book with forward by Sean Lennon.
Part Asian, 100% Hapa https://www.amazon.com/dp/0811849597/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_gFZuzbPB4FBKQ

The book is relatively well known. Last time I saw it was in the LA MOMA souvenir store.

Yeah, I grew up in Hawaii and then moved to NY for college. It took me a number of years to sort out what was going on and identify the racism that I was being subjected to. When I first started coming to terms with it I wondered if I was going crazy, but then I'd come back home and remember what it was like to be seen as an equal. I'm much more vocal about racism now, but since I'm Hapa people constantly try to invalidate my status as a minority.

I always say that being biracial only counts against you. I get all the negative stereotypes of being asian, but if I try to speak out against it then I'm considered white and my voice doesn't count. I really recommend this book by Kip Fullbeck. It's a great work of photography that documents the Hapa experience.

In regards to OP, I'd say to hang in there. It's hard being biracial, and especially hard being hapa. You don't fit neatly into the racial boundaries that society has drawn and it can make it really difficult to develop your sense of identity. It's always something you'll have to deal with, but you can learn to see it as a source of strength instead of a character flaw. Besides, isn't genetic diversity healthy and superior anyway?

> Now how many do you think would have seen us together and assumed I was fetishizing her and that she hated Asian men or whatever the suggestion is. Someone who applies those assumptions on the regular would have seen me with her, at a party or just walking down the street, buying groceries together, and just have that belief re-enforced, despite being wrong in this case.

I don't assume that.

> "Seems to be a trend" is a bit of a cop out, an apology to absolve one of the intellectually lazy, shallow, negative generalizations that are about to follow.

Wouldn't you say that it's a trend that the_donald is often transphobic or islamaphobic? There is a new dude from /r/the_donald saying they have a traditional wife but "will be well rounded kids with no identity issues." Maybe twice a week? If you don't believe me come join the sub. Do I think all white guys dating asian girls fetishize them? No. That would be grossly hypocritical. I have a white ex.

> but is anyone really benefiting from a conversation that seems to revolve around and reinforce these generalizations?

Is it radical to ask couple to analyze why they are together and to make sure it isn't because of internalized racism or fetish and to make sure it truly is of love? Better couples with internalized racism or fetish don't have kids. It's not a good home environment. Racist people are not competent to raise mixed race children. They will only make their children's lives miserable.

Who is benefiting, I would say future hapa kids who are born from the a toxic environment need people to relate to and become comfortable in their racial identity, it's one place you won't be othered for being hapa. I would say it's a community by hapas for hapas mainly.

Oh and it's also benefitting future parents. There have been several threads asking for advise to what people thought their parents got right and got wrong and how to help raise a healthy mixed kid. Making sure people have access to hapa representation and common mistakes is also important. These are great booksr on raising mixed race.

http://www.amazon.com/Part-Asian-100-Hapa-Fulbeck/dp/0811849597?ie=UTF8&*Version*=1&*entries*=0

http://www.amazon.com/Raising-Mixed-Race-Multiracial-Post-Racial/dp/1138999466?ie=UTF8&*Version*=1&*entries*=0

I'm not sure that this is what you're looking for, but you might find it interesting: https://www.amazon.com/Part-Asian-100-Hapa-Fulbeck/dp/0811849597