Reddit reviews Peaceful Parent, Happy Kids: How to Stop Yelling and Start Connecting (The Peaceful Parent Series)

I highly recommend No Bad Kids and Peaceful Parent, Happy Kids. Both books helped me tremendously as a parent, and helped me parent the exact opposite of how I was raised. One of the most important things at this age is consistent, clear boundaries, and standing your ground. Do not make empty threats - follow through.

I am a father of a 2 year old and have been reading many parenting books recently. The ones that have the most impact are Playful Parenting and Peaceful Parent, Happy Kids

Both talk about holding your child until they are done having "difficult feelings" and playing through the experiences they have difficulty with. While these might be harder with older children there are other techniques to use with older children in the books. There are so many techniques to deal with difficult children besides hitting, it is just that corporal punishment is the fastest and easiest to dole out.

I am always confused with adults who talk about how they turned out alright even though they faced corporal punishment. I always want to ask if they turned out like they did in spite of their upbringing or because of it. Do we then compare our circumstances (I make X amount, I have X amount of stuff, I have X amount of free time) and if my circumstances are better, does that mean my parents raised me better?

Ah! I can relate to this thread. I have bought a lot of parenting books and mean to get through them when I can. My favorites so far have been

• Peaceful Parenting
  https://www.amazon.com/Peaceful-Parent-Happy-Kids-Connecting/dp/0399160280
  
  
• Gentle Discipline
  https://www.amazon.com/Gentle-Discipline-Emotional-Connection-Not-Punishment/dp/0143131893
  
  
• Parenting Beyond Belief
  https://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/0814437419/ref=dp_ob_neva_mobile
  
  
  
• Raising Freethinkers
  https://www.amazon.com/Raising-Freethinkers-Practical-Parenting-Beyond/dp/0814410960
  
  
• Raising Cain: Protecting the Emotional Life of Boys
  https://www.amazon.com/Raising-Cain-Protecting-Emotional-Life/dp/0345434854
  
  
  I own the Whole Brain Child and just can’t finish it. The technical parts about the brain have stumped me and i kept having to reread paragraphs over and over so I moved on to something else.
  

I couldn’t finish the book. I stopped reading when they recommended locking a 5-yr old in their room during a tantrum, and gave a detailed explanation on how to wedge a blanket just right if you don’t have a lock on the door.

One of the authors, Foster Cline, was a big proponent of attachment therapy, a controversial therapeutic technique that killed a few kids back in the 1980’s and 1990’s.

Personally, I think Love and Logic is dangerous, and if I hear of a parent using their techniques, I would suggest alternative books.

I like Peaceful Parent, Happy Kid, How to Talk so Kids Will Listen, and The Whole Brain Child..

Continue with the counselor. Don't be afraid to see a different counselor that is a better fit for you. The problem with the term "counselor", is that is could mean someone with 1 year of college experience or a person with extensive residency with 7 years of university experience. I would look for a registered psychologist who specialized in CBT or EMDR. Although all professionals legally have to report child abuse. However, I don't think simply having the desire to strike your child would be grounds for a CPS call granted you aren't doing it.

First off, I would find a new child care provider. Your mom is still abusing you. The more you are around your mom and subject your children to her behaviour, the worse it will get. There ARE child care providers that are versed in allergies. You may need to pack lunches as well as provide a list of do's and don't's. Consider a in-home nanny, or a child care provider with training.

It is really hard to re-train your brain. You have trained your brain to act out with violence/anger when upset. Retraining that will take serious time, mindfulness, and patience. Consider looking into more anger management courses as well as parenting courses. When in doubt, if you feel like you are going to explode. Make sure your kid is in a safe environment, and leave the area. Go to your room/bathroom. Relax. Takes some breaths.

I can suggest these books:

• https://www.amazon.com/Peaceful-Parent-Happy-Kids-Connecting/dp/0399160280/ref=pd_sim_14_1?_encoding=UTF8&pd_rd_i=0399160280&pd_rd_r=7PMR1CTCYJGZDGWNWE6F&pd_rd_w=jL1qX&pd_rd_wg=kE4mT&psc=1&refRID=7PMR1CTCYJGZDGWNWE6F
  
• https://www.amazon.com/No-Drama-Discipline-Whole-Brain-Nurture-Developing/dp/034554806X/ref=pd_sim_14_4?_encoding=UTF8&pd_rd_i=034554806X&pd_rd_r=ACH627BTDQ8YCYQ5SF1R&pd_rd_w=uZWwA&pd_rd_wg=tbVWJ&psc=1&refRID=ACH627BTDQ8YCYQ5SF1R
  
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