Reddit reviews Psycho-Cybernetics, A New Way to Get More Living Out of Life

> Why are they so easy to talk to, but regular girls aren't?

They're working off tips.

What you are asking makes perfect sense. To build confidence on the inside takes some work. It's not easy to be outcome independent. This is what works for me. First, realize that you don't really have to be anything to have confidence. By this I mean you don't have to be funny, or charming, or extremely good looking to become confident - although they certainly can help. The fact that you are simply alive is enough of a reason to be confident. Just think about it, your body is comprised of trillions of cells - life itself is incredible, you just really have to stop and think about it. YOU ARE THE UNIVERSE EXPERIENCING ITSELF - that in it of itself is enough for confidence. We are all born from exploding stars - why the fuck wouldn't be confident. I really that may sound a little cheesy, but I truly believe all of the above - you just have to be.

Another really big thing that has helped me to gain a sense of internal confidence I actually kind of got from the movie A Knight's Tale. Heath Ledger's character may he rest in peace, was talking about how the first knights became the first knights, all they did was decide they wanted it and they took it. That's all you have to do - you have a decision on how you want to act, you can either be confident, or insecure. So why not just be confident - I realize that's easier said than done, BUT if you fake it for long enough, it will eventually become your reality. Fake it till you make it - it truly does work, although you must be patient as these things will not come over night.

Also consider reading Psych-Cybernetics. It's an amazing book that has helped me a ton.

pyscho-cybernetics -- http://www.amazon.com/Psycho-Cybernetics-New-More-Living-Life/dp/0671700758 -- many self help books/gurus are based of this book. you can get the audio book on youtube i believe or just find a review on it there.

Ok, last rant: " Generally, all areas of my life get better and I just feel so stimulated"

When you said that, it really resonated with me. You should definitely read psycho-cybernetics.

http://www.amazon.com/Psycho-Cybernetics-New-More-Living-Life/dp/0671700758/ref=sr_1_sc_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1406752729&sr=8-1-spell&keywords=psycho+cybternetics

I can send you a PDF of it. One of the great messages in the book is this:

"Human beings function like a bicycle. It can maintain its poise and equilibrium as long as it is heading forwards. With no place to go, it is difficult to maintain balance and the bike will be "shaky" in its balance."

When you are on your binge, you are growing and you bring equilibrium to all parts of your life. In other words, if you want to have a "better" life like you mentioned, you need to keep growing in some aspect. You can start growing/ go on a binge with this book. Seriously, its pretty cool and eye opening.

I read a book several years ago called Psycho-Cybernetics, which is more about how to re-program yourself than it is the attempts of others programming you. But it provides a great understanding of the unconscious self and how it manifests in your thoughts and behavior, which was pretty eye-opening.

https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0671700758/ref=oh_aui_detailpage_o02_s00?ie=UTF8&psc=1

As far as techniques used on television...I've not seen a great central source to discuss that material. But learning about psycho-cybernetics allows you to immediately recognize when someone is saying something with a specific intent of embedding a thought in your mind, or to change your opinion. I consider myself fairly observant, but I think anyone who spends some time reviewing the topic will get a broader perspective on speech, and how to use their analytical part of the brain to filter out phrases that prey on your weakness.

Obviously, I really like this subject and wish everyone was more educated on it. They'd find themselves supporting more informed opinions.

EDIT: A good example is to watch some crappy primetime TV show, which shouldn't be too hard to find, particularly ones with government agents. You will hear the words "conspiracy theorist" freakishly often. What's funny is that in these shows, the theories usually turn out to be true. As they now say...truth in fiction, fiction in news.

These are some great books I've read recently:

Influence: Psychology of Persuasion. How salespeople use psychology tricks on you.

http://www.amazon.co.uk/gp/product/006124189X?psc=1&redirect=true&ref_=oh_aui_detailpage_o03_s00


Power of now. The present moment is the only thing that exists. Very deep book and not too hard to get through.

http://www.amazon.co.uk/gp/product/0340733500?psc=1&redirect=true&ref_=oh_aui_detailpage_o02_s00


Psycho-cybernetics. A book about psychology, more about improving your self-image and confidence.

http://www.amazon.co.uk/gp/product/0671700758?psc=1&redirect=true&ref_=oh_aui_detailpage_o03_s00


Think and grow rich. A good book that will motivate you to work harder.

http://www.amazon.co.uk/gp/product/1906465592?psc=1&redirect=true&ref_=oh_aui_detailpage_o05_s00


Way of the superior man. Great book on relationships with women and what it means to be a man.

http://www.amazon.co.uk/gp/product/1591792576?psc=1&redirect=true&ref_=oh_aui_detailpage_o07_s00


Mediations by Marcus Aurelius, nearly 2000 year old book! Great wisdom in here but I'd read some of these other books first. Make sure you get this version (Gregory hays translation) if you do buy the book, as apparently it has the best translation.

http://www.amazon.co.uk/Meditations-Marcus-Aurelius/dp/0753820161/ref=sr_1_3?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1425294467&sr=1-3&keywords=meditations

This post and most of the replies seem to be reeking of mis information and/or misguided people. Do your research. I'll just leave this here.

http://www.amazon.com/Your-Drug-May-Problem-Revised/dp/0738210986/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1426745893&sr=8-1&keywords=your+medication+might+be

http://www.amazon.com/Psycho-Cybernetics-New-More-Living-Life/dp/0671700758/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1426745906&sr=8-1&keywords=psycho+cybernetics

Psycho-cybernetics for sure.
http://www.amazon.com/Psycho-Cybernetics-New-More-Living-Life/dp/0671700758

Seriously, read Psycho-Cybernetics, it's not a multi-million copy bestseller for nothing.

Psycho-Cybernetics by Maxwell Maltz

Check out a book called Psycho Cybernetics by Maltz. Its focus is redefining perception to facilitate a positive self image.

Here is the amazon link for reviews: http://www.amazon.ca/Psycho-Cybernetics-Maxwell-Maltz/dp/0671700758

Read Psycho-cybernetics by a plastic surgeon (Maxwell Malz) who had to help disfigured people adjust after corrective surgery.

http://www.amazon.com/Psycho-Cybernetics-New-More-Living-Life/dp/0671700758

check this book out

the author was a former plastic surgeon who saw the type of mindset you have in his patients, even post-op. this book addresses how to change that mindset. look at some of the amazon reviews to see what others think about it

Hi!
I have a solution that can fix this problem once and for all, don't worry about the other comments for now just follow this.
Your fear of failure is a self fulfilling prophecy. The reason you feel you are a failure is because this belief was reaffirmed in you over time, we believe our thoughts and they create a self fulfilling prophecy. A study was done on a student who had bad grades, through hypnosis he had the belief installed in him that he was a success, every morning by a therapist. This led him to become one of the top in his class.
There's a book I think everyone should read on this called psycho-cybernetics. I know The name of this book makes it sound boring and complacated but the book is life changing.
http://www.amazon.com/Psycho-Cybernetics-New-More-Living-Life/dp/0671700758
If you dont want to read the book you can still stop this cycle of failure, here is how, using these excercises. This will take you ten minutes a day, and it may feel silly at first, but if you do this the level of change it creates will be ridiculous. You will not believe how effective this is.
There's a few disclaimers.
1:You have to do this every day for at least 180 days, I reccomend doing it for a whole year. this does not work if you miss a day, if you plan on doing this here and there, or maybe once every second day, just forget it. If you,are not doing this every day you will be wasting your time.
2:It will take 21 days before you start seeing the results of this. Therefore reserve any judgements for these twenty one days, you may feel it is stupid or it will never work, but don't make any judgements until you have done this consistently for 21 days.
Here is the excercise.


1: Affirmations, for five minutes every morning you will close your eyes and in your head say the statement "I am a successful person". Over and over in your head for five minutes


2: Visualization: for five minutes every day you will visualise what it is like to be a successful person, e.g sit down and imagine getting a report with a grade A plus (or whatever grades you have in your country), Imagine how this success feels. Get as much detail as possible, where are you sitting, what sounds are there, who is there with you. It's ok if your Visualizatiom is a little hazy at first. Just stick with it.
Here's a video on how to properly do visualisations to help you.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=q89nSsjWjFs

That's all you have to do, if you do this, you will experience a huge change in your state. It won't require you to put in effort to change your habits you can just relax, that will be taken care of for you by the subconscious mind as you start to get past 21 days of doing this excercise.

This will work, it's not a matter of "maybe if you do this things might change" they are guaranteed to change, this is how the mind works, it is a fact that if you do this properly it will work for you, the only reason it won't work is if you don't do the excercises. And most people don't, they either start strong or fizzle out after a couple weeks. The reason for this is because the mind naturally resists change, this means you may find yourself wanting to stop, maybe after a week of doing this you will start telling yourself it is stupid or it is not working, maybe you'll start telling yourself I must be doing it wrong (this happened to me with visualisations) just be persistent, remember all you have to do is get through those 21 days, than it will become a habit and become easier. I know it seems stupid to think that you will have trouble getting through this, it's only ten minutes a day of simple excercises, but you will experience resistance, it caught me off guard when I started doing visualisations, I found myself stopping twice because I was convinced it would never work, but I used visualisations and affirmations to go from having social anxiety to being outwardly confident.

Stick with these affirmations and visualisations as crazy as they might sound, they work, wonders :)

Try reading Psycho-Cybernetics by Maxwell Maltz. I just began reading it not too long ago and it covers changing your personality. The book is often referred to as the original self-help book. Don't believe when people say it's impossible. You aren't the same person you were 10 years ago. People are always changing based on their experiences. You can create the experiences to make yourself into the person you want to be.

Your welcome! Glad it helped. The relaxation thing is something most drummers don't want to hear because it seemingly has nothing to do with music. It also makes people feel weird or self-conscious. But it absolutely works.
There are several books on the subject that really helped me. https://www.amazon.com/Psycho-Cybernetics-New-More-Living-Life/dp/0671700758

https://www.amazon.com/Effortless-Mastery-Liberating-Master-Musician/dp/156224003X

https://www.amazon.com/Inner-Game-Music-Barry-Green/dp/0385231261

One other thing I wanted to mention is the concept of dancing and drumming. There is a direct connection between the two. In Bob Moses book Drum Wisdom, he states that it behooves all drummer to dance. I tell tell students, if you're embarrassed about dancing in front of people go in your bedroom, shut the door, and dance. Again, this makes people feel weird, but it works. You don't have to be a good dancer. You just have to learn to relax and move with the music.

I would also add:
New Psycho-Cybernetics

I think knowledge is power. I would start educating yourself through books. One of my all time favorites is this one
http://www.amazon.com/Psycho-Cybernetics-New-More-Living-Life/dp/0671700758/ref=sr_1_2?ie=UTF8&qid=1407878989&sr=8-2&keywords=the+new+psycho+cybernetics

Most self help books draw their knowledge from the above book. It really opened my eyes.

What exactly are you looking for help in? Trying to lose weight or trying to get motivated or something else?

Read this. Weird title, but great book.