Reddit reviews Siblings Without Rivalry: How to Help Your Children Live Together So You Can Live Too
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>The 4 yr old says "Yes, I did do that..." I put and end to it and put both in time outs until one of them would decide to be truthful with me and admit they did it.
You put the 4 year old in time out until he'd admit it, after he admitted it?
> I reprimand the 4 year old for lying, breaking my trust, and speaking rudely/accusing his brother. ... this is NOT the first time this almost EXACT situation has played out.
And then you used the word of someone you know is untrustworthy to reprimand the 4 year old?
Punishment has a lot of well-studied negative side effects, not the least of which is increased frequency and skill at lying. And on top of it you're letting your kids use your punishments as a weapon against each other. Time out, accusations, and reprimands - particularly over situations you have no clear understanding of which results in punishments that appear totally capricious - are not things that generate a positive environment. I'd suggest you take a look at How to Talk So Kids Will Listen and Siblings Without Rivalry, as they both outline a number of strategies for tackling these situations more productively.
My daughters are not as old as your kids yet but we've recently started having more sibling rivalry issues, especially related to things not being faaaaair. We read Siblings Without Rivalry and it seems like a good guide, especially for parents of kids in elementary school. It's written by the same authors who did How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk.
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I think all parents with 2+ children should read Siblings without Rivalry. I can not recommend it enough.
Siblings without Rivalry is a good one to get in front of the sibling infighting and prevent resentments between kiddos.
I have this book in mind for down the road, but as for preparing the older child, I don't think any one book will do it, each kid will handle it differently. I'm just collecting random library books. None of them stand out as of yet, sorry.