Reddit reviews Signals: How to Use Body Language for Power, Success and Love (Fully Illustrated)

I'll work on a bundle or a list of something later for you and OP. Do me a favor and try to steer clear of the whole "Pickup Artist" communities at this point. It's not a bad place... it seems like they're a group of guys openly trading tips and techniques that work. They often do. But until you have done some important work, you won't be able to separate the signal from the noise, and there's a lot of advice out there that works for everyone, it seems, BUT for ISTPs who just can't pull it off. Once you know some important things about the how, the why and the what, then feel free to poke around there.

Trust me here - I went down that road and I'm still haunted by the embarassment from trying out things I thought were clever things I'd read in some book. I was an "actor" and not my genuine self - and I regret it.

Here's what I want you to do. Grab a piece of paper or a notepad document. This will be private - just for you.

Divide it in two sections.

Section one: write out all the things you're good at. The things you offer to the world. Hobbies, skills, character traits like honesty, integrity, persistence, etc.

Section two: list out all the qualities, interests, and features of your ideal match of a romantic partner. Put stars next to the most important ones.

This will be extremely important later. Do it. Seriously.

I'll see if I can gather some of the most important things I've watched. I had to torrent a lot of them, but I may still be able to pull them up.

Oh, and if you're not particularly good at noticing when someone is attracted to you - you really want to grab a body language book. I actually mod /r/bodylanguage and brought that sub back to life. Check out some work I've done here. My favorite book on the topic is this one It's older, but the study hasn't changed much and it has the best illustrations I've seen - they're better than photos.