Reddit reviews The Big Book for Littles: Tips & Tricks for Age Players & Their Partners
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It’s ok. One more time - it’s ok. You are a perfectly normal kinky human being. One last time - it’s ok.
Your post really struck a chord with me, because my little likes really quite dark (for me) ageplay (which btw is what you were doing sexually.) If you take a look at my post history, you’ll see a post about me trying to get my head around the stuff she likes me to say in bed. Link: https://www.reddit.com/r/littlespace/comments/bq6lih/question_for_the_daddies_and_other_cgs_of_sexual/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=ios_share_flow_optimization&utm_term=control_1 [Potential trigger warning.]
I’d like to recommend a couple of resources that you may find useful:
The Big Book for Littles: https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/1535100818?ref=ppx_pop_mob_ap_share
Age Play for Couples: A Quick Guide https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B06Y56K8F3/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_CRo8CbRK1RZSH
The Toybag Guide to Age Play https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B005CIZ2WG/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_WRo8Cb7VP23X8
The Toybag Guide to Playing With Taboo https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B005CIZ3UW/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_gSo8CbHMVZ7Y8
As far as the incestuous aspect, ‘Daddy’ and ‘Mommy’ don’t necessarily take on the literal meaning. You’ll find there are plenty of littles that have a ‘mommy’ rather than a ‘daddy’ (and some that have both!) During sex try to remind yourself that it’s just your caregiver Daddy, not your biological father, that’s doing these things to you. And if what your partner said in that occasion is too much, explain to him that you don’t want him to be that dark again.
As far as your horrific childhood experiences - have you sought therapy for the trauma? If not, please do - and try to find a kink aware therapist for this as they’ll understand. There are a lot of littles who’ve been abused in childhood, who engage in the sort of dark ageplay you describe. It does not make you a bad or ‘sick’ person!
Take a look at r/ddlg, r/littlespace, r/MiddleSpace, r/DDLGDiscussions and r/AgePlaying - you’ll find plenty of likeminded people over there 🙂
For me, it was a bit jarring and “WTF?!” when my little first confessed her desires to me - and she’d hid them for 18 months before telling me (and we’d been together for 7 years at the time she first felt little!) because she was terrified I’d run a mile and she’d lose me.
I’m still here - and so is your partner! You’ve got a supportive person there, so don’t be afraid to talk at length with him about everything swirling through your kinky mind. I’m sure he’ll understand 🙂
(Oh - and you can use the word ‘pussy’ here - you don’t have to worry about using an asterix 🙂)
The only book I've read on the subject was The Big Book for Littles by Penny Barber. It's not from a medical standpoint. I believe she is an ABDL model/ caregiver. I read it with my girlfriend who hadn't had any experience with the fetish until recently. It seemed to give a good broad spectrum look at it both as a lifestyle and a fetish.