Reddit reviews The Ghost of Eternal Polygamy: Haunting the Hearts and Heaven of Mormon Women and Men

A quote from the prophet Lorenzo Snow:

>“As man now is, God once was: As God now is, man may be.”

Well Mr. alleged exmormon, you're either someone who never seriously studied Mormon doctrine or are purposely obfuscating the truth. The fact is that the LDS Church DID teach it when I was growing up and does not deny nor repudiate what Mormon prophet Lorenzo Snow said.

As far as polygamy goes, the LDS church DOES believe that Mormon men will take more than one wife throughout the eternities and to try to deny or downplay its significance is dishonest. People seeking the truth can verify everything I've said through Mormonthink.org and can even double check it on the church apoologetic and gaslighting site Fairmormon.org to come to their own conclusions.

The mental gymnastics you're capable of are gold medal worthy.

https://www.amazon.com/Ghost-Eternal-Polygamy-Haunting-Hearts/dp/0997458208/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1468994106&sr=1-1&keywords=carol+lynn+pearson

If you have any interest in books (sorry--that's my jam), Mormon Feminism: Essential Writings is a fantastic collection of essays, sermons, some blog posts, and other writings by Mormon women about feminism. It has the benefit of being easily digested in small chunks that stand alone pretty well, so you can skip sections that don't interest you as much or jump to some areas that really speak to you.

I actually think the book Women at Church: Magnifying LDS Women's Local Impact might be another great option for what you're looking for. It's by a very believing Mormon woman who until a few years before writing the book had worked for the church (I think in PR if I remember right) and it basically has two halves: first, explaining to Mormon men (and many women) who don't see any problems with sexism in the church why faithful members feel that there really is (and they're not crazy); and second, laying out suggestions that could be implemented at the local level that wouldn't be against any church policies but which could alleviate some of the problematic aspects of Mormon culture w/r/t sexism.

A few other book options to consider: Mormon Women Have Their Say Essays from the Claremont Oral History Collection; Mormon Women: Portraits and Conversations (covers everyone from a Utah housewife who started a major charity to a woman who fought the Marcos regime as a communist guerrilla in the Philippines!); Educated: A Memoir (a memoir about growing up in a seriously dysfunctional Mormon family but going on to achieve awesome stuff); literally anything written by Chieko Okazaki (or even listen to some of her talks in General Conference to the worldwide church)--she is beloved by literally every Mormon woman I've ever met, liberal or conservative; and Carol Lynn Pearson has written some great stuff about women and Mormonism, like The Ghost of Eternal Polygamy: Haunting the Hearts and Heaven of Mormon Women and Men and (if you're into one-woman plays) Mother Wove the Morning. Many of these have Kindle editions if you don't like hard copies.

Anyway, hope some of that might sound interesting to you. Good luck!

We are all dealing with some level of religious PTSD. It's no surprise that we are so triggered by aspects of LDS practice and culture. We spent a minimum of three hours per Sunday at church and likely so much more time on mandatory tasks in a high demand religion. We read through Joseph Smith's bible fan-fiction multiple times. We defended policies that stemmed from his inability to keep his pants on. Many of us spent 18 months or two years working full time, as an unpaid volunteer trying to convince other people to abandon their faith and join this American Restorationist, insular, frontier religion with all too many "cult" aspects.

It's ironic that all of us apostates have to be the Christlike people in our relationships when dealing with believers. We have to forgive their actions when they lash out in anger at our interest in scandalous activites like "drinking coffee" or "sleeping late on Sunday" or "funding our 401k instead of tithing". Believers have a doctrinal base for being suspicious of apostates. It's not fair and does not hold up under objective scrutiny. But it will be used as an emotional weapon against us. Forgive them; for they know not what they do.

We have to be better than that. If you are being hurt by the LDS church then simply leaving is your best strategy. If you are on the LGBT spectrum then simple leaving is likely your best strategy. If you can still deal with believers in an emotionally healthy way, then being patient with their socially pressured fears is incumbent on you if you want to have a relationship with them. Do your complaining while in /r/exmormon and be kind when faced with believers.

I'd consider "The Ghost of Eternal Polygamy" by Carol Lyn Pearson https://www.amazon.com/Ghost-Eternal-Polygamy-Haunting-Hearts/dp/0997458208

And the interviews carol lyn pearson did for it, they are all really devastating since she goes to the heart of the "feelings" that have ruined a lot of people's lives over polygamy.

http://radiowest.kuer.org/post/ghost-eternal-polygamy

http://www.athoughtfulfaith.org/carol-lynn-pearson-the-ghost-of-eternal-polygamy-with-lindsay-hansen-park-and-gina-colvin/

Give them a copy of a new book, "The Ghost of Eternal Polygamy" for Christmas.

https://www.amazon.com/Ghost-Eternal-Polygamy-Haunting-Hearts/dp/0997458208

It is a call to remove polygamy entirely from the church, made by a respectible-within-the-church author. Until Mormons do this, they are going to be hurting women's minds by making them all worry that their husband will pick up a few extra wives in super VIP heaven.

The Ghost of Eternal Polygamy by Carol Lynn Pearson

Just came out in July, and she's a well-known Mormon author, so not too weird to give him a book by her.

https://www.amazon.com/Ghost-Eternal-Polygamy-Haunting-Hearts/dp/0997458208/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1474751363&sr=1-1&keywords=ghosts+of+polygamy

Ghost of Eternal Polygamy, by Carol Lynn Pearson

https://www.amazon.com/Ghost-Eternal-Polygamy-Haunting-Hearts/dp/0997458208

She deconstructs any reason for keeping polygamy "sanctioned" in heaven.

A great book and an active (well known) member who will defend you: The Ghost of Eternal Polygamy by Carol Lynn Pearson author of the beloved children's hymn "I'll walk with you".