Reddit reviews The Heart of Tantric Sex: A Unique Guide to Love and Sexual Fulfillment

The way we are typically educated to have sex is based on high levels of tension and excitement in a way that is thrilling, but not really deeply satisfying. As you learn to really relax, some of the 'normal' ways of doing things may no longer suit you.

When I got to this 'problem' I learned tantric sex, it is a relaxed non-doing style of lovemaking that seeks to build sexual and emotional connection with yourself and your partner.

In that context being relaxed, present and not chasing orgasm is an advantage, rather than a problem. When orgasm does occur, it relies much less on muscle tension and still feels lovely. Since this method builds a lot of sexual feelings between you and your partner, it tends to be an add-on to'normal sex' rather than replacing it ;)

I enjoyed 'The Heart of Tantric Sex' by Diana Richardson.

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Erotic fiction plus a vibrator is excellent for Valentine's Day. In the racy-romance category, maybe Outlander by Diana Gabaldon; it's both hot and a really fun read. In the erotica category, a short-story collection is a good starting point, like this Best of 2010 collection. The Heart of Tantric Sex for both of you.

I recommend read a book. This one

You need to bring your partner on board. Tantric sex takes two to tango.