Reddit reviews The Narcissistic / Borderline Couple: New Approaches to Marital Therapy

Kinda sounds like me as an Asian dude but only because I got burned by my Chinatown community, if not for my Borderline Personality Mother/Narcissistic Personality Father (like many TRP fellas complaining about haven fallen victim with the Achilles’ Heel for “Cluster-B” Personality Disorders girls...therefore becoming all-encompassing misogynistic) doing the BPD/NPD ‘V-Spot’ Winnocott True/False Self dance—sandwiching me with their enmeshed-role-reversal-parentification as an only child where I became psychotic.

If only my parents could read The Search for The True Self by James F. Masterson—a simple layman entry that triumphs any ‘5 Love Language in Loving Each Other’ type of garbage psuedo-self-help/pop-psychology/self-development books by X English con artist that are reappropriated by PUAs. Probably would help many other cucks from not having to read and follow empty platitudes and conjured artificial phoniness of PUA instruction and utilizing false cognitive-behavioral “tips and tricks” from said books too.

I’d make /r/asianparentstories proud..but I got over most of it with non-CBT insight-oriented psychoanalytic psychotherapy and intense introspection with now discontinued adjunctive psychiatric medication (Ablify, Depakote, plus Cogentin for auxiliary anti-Parkinsonism).

I have no problems with most of my ethnic identity just that sometimes insecure Asian bros try to sabotage, undermine, cockblock me and everyone patronizes thinking I’m a legit autist retard because I dropped out of school...and as I’ve lamented to my counselor the other day on the topic of romance, I probably didn’t have much emotional availability or attraction to Asian chicks because of this, if at all. But I think I’m beginning to find light at the end of the tunnel? Unfortunately there are more Whites here than Asian Mecca’s elsewhere though with a larger degree of separation..

http://www.apadivisions.org/division-39/publications/reviews/narcissistic.aspx

https://www.amazon.com/Narcissistic-Borderline-Couple-Approaches-Marital/dp/0415934710

edit: “...why couples stay in painful, conflictual, never-ending relationships (traumatic bonding). The new chapters, case illustrations, and updated treatment sequences are invaluable to both beginning and experienced clinicians. The Narcissistic / Borderline Couple is an essential text for every marital therapist, offering an improved understanding of marital pathology within the framework of our changing world.”

‘Traumatic bonding’ awefully sounds like our inter-Asian community relations interwoven with introspective identity politics to scapegoat our inner childhood torments of an overbearing mother and pain of an emotionally unavailable scolding father, while we all confide pseudo-anonymous to soul-search aka find ways to amend our collective Erik Erickson arrested identities development issues, if not for the Mahler ‘seperation-individuation’ or Bowlby insecure disorganized attachments for truly healthy intimate bond and healthy relationships.

I’m intellectual New England by greater upbringing to which I find a lot of phoniness in trying to vilify and find a savior in a celebrity-god-worship through a Hollywood hero complex that y’all West Coast types seem to do. Joseph Campbell...Jungian archetypal psychology stuff for me here

http://gettinbetter.com/dance.html

http://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/0415934710/ref=redir_mdp_mobile