Reddit reviews The Secret Social Phobia: Shy Bladder Syndrome (Paruresis)

Ive still been working on it too. I get to the gasp feeling point. I feel a cool wave come over me and my pelvic area relaxes. It def feels like im about to pee and if I hold for 10 more seconds its gonna go.

It took it me awhile to get to that point. I had so much fear when even entering public restrooms that i was unable to be relaxed enough to really try.

Ive been doing exposure for 4 weeks. Started at home with with wife and kid, with my parents at their hosue, with a remote pee buddy over skype. I pee with door open at home now and my wife usually comes with me.

Ive told family, friends and co workers that i have this condition.

I just graduated to public places. I had misfires at a big box hardware store last week. but at least i tired.

Last night, i went to the mall. My plan was to scope out the bathrooms, enter and stand in a stall as long i could. I had no expectations to pee. I had pretty high urgency. There are 4 bathrooms at this small, low traffic mall. I peed a bit in the 3rd bathroom with people coming in and out. I was shocked. I kept at it. Went back to bathroom 1 and dad (my pee buddy) says there no time pressure. you have all the time you need. I stood in a stall for what seemed like 5+ minutes as people came in out. i could feel the fear in me and didnt fight it. I just told it i dont it right now and you are not going to win. I stood there and took a damn whiz and fully emptied by bladder. HUGE FUCKING WIN!!!!!! Im going back today for more exposure.

This is the first time i peed in a multi person public restroom in....i honestly dont even remember. i have avoided them for so long.

I am beginning to understand that paruresis is not about not being able to pee. I pee everyday. It is about the fear of judgment from others for how i do my business in the bathroom. im learning to focus on myself and what i can control.

I take longer to feel relaxed and pee, even at home or at friends houses and that ok. we are all human and we are all different.

Great comment from a week ago.

https://www.reddit.com/r/Paruresis/comments/d9jgty/is_it_possible_to_get_over_it/f1lc1v7?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x

These links need to be on the sidebar

pauresis.org

ipatalk.org

https://www.amazon.com/Secret-Social-Phobia-Syndrome-Paruresis/dp/1973406268

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I got this quote from my support pee pal. i have it written on my mirror in my bathroom.

"We gain strength, and courage, and confidence by each experience in which we really stop

to look fear in the face... we must do that which we think we cannot."

Eleanor Roosevelt

quote from recovered user on ipatalk

"no fear, no "need" to conceal, I have NOTHING to worry about in a restroom, and with nothing to worry about...I pee just like at home alone "

i feel im on the right path and i determined to recover from this after 15+ years.