Reddit reviews The Secret Thoughts of Successful Women: Why Capable People Suffer from the Impostor Syndrome and How to Thrive in Spite of It

I'd read a blog post that said the classic Burberry was just canvas and not even waterproof, and it's $2k! I was a bit startled to realize that it wasn't even practical for the weather. It doesn't mean I still don't WANT one but realistically if I'm going to spend that much money it would have to be something that has more use than a dry day, and living in the PNW that's 2 months of the year. They have other regular raincoats with removable lining, detachable hoods, etc. and they are half the price which helps but I'm a cheapskate.

The London Fog coat is supposedly comparable in style to the useful Burberry. I went on a hunt last Wednesday to try on the LF coat and ended up liking it. But they didn't have the one I wanted, which is this one with the removable lining and detachable hood. Anyway, I hope it fits ok. My concern is how the arms will fit with the liner in it. I don't want to size up since it'll then be too big everywhere else. We'll see what happens!

As for the book, it's The Secret Thoughts of Successful Women: Why Capable People Suffer from the Impostor Syndrome and How to Thrive in Spite of It. It's a pretty good read and I see myself in so much of it. I don't know how it'll impact me in the long-run, particularly since I have to actually do some soul searching and implementing what is said (and clearly procrastination is a huge thing since I'm on Reddit when I should be working on my giant list of things to do).

I highly recommend this book, and bear with me:

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Valerie Young titled this book so it's directed at women, but it clearly applies to men as well. She's clear about that throughout the book. Please don't let "women" scare you off. It scared me off for months and I'm a woman.

This has helped me to identify some of the self-destructive behaviors I have that tie into impostor syndrome. I knew some of them were not the best behaviors, but didn't realize how they were tied up in that persistent feeling of anxiety. I'm not perfect at controlling all of them all the time (I'm particularly bad about over preparing), but being cognizant of these behaviors has helped me.

I also found being casual exceptionally triggering for impostor syndrome because of the circumstances in which I left an earlier job. Is there any way that you can keep looking for a more permanent position? I got to go permanent and while I still break into a cold sweat every time someone questions something I've done, and now I only have low-level panic attacks about half of the time someone goes to see my boss.

Also, I like to write down specific times and places I feel inadequate and review them periodically (oddly, not as triggering as it sounds). It helped me identify subjects and people that made me feel useless.