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4 Reddit comments about The Verbally Abusive Relationship, Expanded Third Edition: How to recognize it and how to respond:

u/Cleverusername531 · 8 pointsr/legaladvice

Please talk to a lawyer but also get support.

The Verbally Abusive Relationship is the best book I’ve come across about verbal abuse. It gives examples of the types of verbal abuse there are, the fact that you and your partner are operating in two different realities (you’re being reasonable and he’s trying to gain power, so anything you respond to as a reasonable person is going to be twisted so he can maintain power over you); it breaks down the various categories of verbal abuse and gives scripts on how to respond/shut it down. It helped me to stop second guessing myself: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B004GUS7OG/ref=dp-kindle-redirect

Second, The Hotline can help you make a safety plan, and supportive chat. There is also a link here to emotional safety planning, which is important: https://www.thehotline.org/help/path-to-safety/

I’m sorry you’re in this situation and I wish you all the support in finding peace.

u/FreyjaSunshine · 2 pointsr/AskWomenOver30

THIS! I found that book after I got out of my 21 yr abusive marriage, and it validated my experiences. Hey, I wasn't the crazy one after all!

Here is a link to the book for anyone who thinks this might apply to them. Worth every penny, easy to read, will open your eyes and let you know that you are not alone.

Seriously, this book did wonders for me, OP.

u/HotBedForHobos · 2 pointsr/Catholicism

Perhaps you could read The Verbally Abusive Relationship?

u/tigalicious · 1 pointr/survivorsofabuse

Personally, I'm very indebted to self-help books. It may sound silly, but that was seriously more helpful than any therapist has been for me. They give me a way to process new information without having to feel vulnerable in front of someone right that minute, you know? The most useful to me, that relate to your post at least, was The Verbally Abusive Relationship. It helped me to wrap my head around what happened, and helped me feel strong enough to give new relationships a shot. For me at least, that book helped to draw me out of the fear and other symptoms that I was living with.

I think, in the end, the struggle we go through will eventually make us stronger people; more empathetic, more able to see the difference between subtle bad signs and good ones, and more equipped to support other survivors. It just takes a lot to turn us into those people... But the future is there. Eventually, this will all be just a story that you'll tell about the life experiences that gave you your wisdom and strength.