Reddit reviews The Whole Lesbian Sex Book: A Passionate Guide for All of Us

I think a lot of it has to do with being able to imagine ones self more easily. Though there are many motivations for this I'm sure. There are also plenty of lesbians who like gay male porn, and straight guys who like it as well, and many of the variations. The rule in our house is what you get off to is not what you want in bed. Honestly, I highly recommend you read The Whole Lesbian Sex Book. No one has ever taken me up on that, but if you're a woman or have sex with women it is an invaluable tool to in making sure your partner actually enjoys herself, as well as having many sex positive things discussed like what I mentioned above. Its eye opening for making people feel more comfortable with their sexuality and being more open about sex.

Why do I have to educate him? I'm not going to talk to him about my sex life. It's none of his business. There's enough websites and books out there that he can look it up.

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The Whole Lesbian Sex Book is a phenomenal resource. I'd suggest checking it out.

You can take a peek at this quick and dirty introduction by Erika Moen, or if you're willing to invest a bit of money, get this book

Although I'm a virgin the idea of giving oral isn't appealing to me...it just seems...a little gross...so I get where your gf is coming from, that said, there is a good book on sex that I was recommended:
http://www.amazon.com/The-Whole-Lesbian-Sex-Book/dp/1573441996
Sometimes it seems a little out there, but I think there is some good stuff to be had

Try visiting a sex shop together and picking out somethings that pique your interests. Which includes a nice vibrator if you are going to be using one because the good ones are quieter then the drug store ones and work a hell of alot better FYI. Also a 69 position would allow you all to be body to body and still get a better angle. But really all you can do is mix it up and stuff with different angles and stimulations and see if that helps. I would suggest checking out this book or this one

Also are both of you new to this or is one of you recently out? To me it seems like it would be a self-conscious thing maybe. At least that kind of was how things were when me and my girl started doing stuff. It had to be dark and she'd feel weird if I watched her undressed before climbing into bed. But eventually we worked it out where we're both completely comfortable with each other and communicate to the point where its better everytime.

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But more importantly be led by what feels good. If you're not enjoying something don't force it.