Reddit reviews Unfollow: A Memoir of Loving and Leaving the Westboro Baptist Church

Unfollow by Megan Phelps-Roper

She was a member of the Westboro Baptist Church, born into it, and participated wholeheartedly in its shenanigans for 25 years. Then she left.

As someone who also went through a rough deconversion experience (though from a denomination decidedly less whackadoodle than Westboro), I could relate to so much of what she wrote.

So you assume they are unreasonable and can't be changed and have their mind opened, just like they have certain assumptions about you? Sounds like both sides have some pretty strong biases and boxes they have put the other side in. But yeah, if that's your perception then I guess violence is the only answer for you.

But it honestly just sounds like you're just as much in need of a person to talk to and reason with as the racist guy in this video.

People can absolutely change, and be reasoned with, but yes, it does take more effort than throwing a punch does. I hope you can open yourself up to that possibility some day. If you're interested, below are a few suggestions of stuff to read/listen to by people who have been pulled back from, or pulled others back from, that kind of bias and racism.

Unfollow by Megan Phelps-Roper (or her [TED Talk] (https://www.ted.com/talks/megan_phelps_roper_i_grew_up_in_the_westboro_baptist_church_here_s_why_i_left.Megan/discussion))
NPR's Interview with a former Neo Nazi Christian Picciolini
NPR's Interview with Son of KKK Grand Wizard Don Black, Derek Black.
Accidental Courtesy: Daryl Davis, Race, and America