Reddit reviews What's Going on in There? : How the Brain and Mind Develop in the First Five Years of Life
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Great question!
I check these occasionally for new research:
I should have read more of this book:
This site is also more focused on young children:
Wikipedia has a lot of background info:
You might find these [three] books interesting:
What's going on in there?
Slow and Steady, Get Me Ready
Phonemic Awareness in Young Children
Every child will be different, and it does depend on what they are exposed to.
Building vocabulary (by reading to a child, not lessons or flashcards), phonemic awareness, problem solving and building skills, creativity, and physical agility and strength through play are all more important than learning facts right now. Think of it as creating the sponge that lets a child be ready to learn when they are ready. Knowing an alphabet at 2 isn't that useful, but being able to identify individual sounds in a word is a fundamental pre-reading skill. Knowing what architect designed a building is cute at 4, but problem solving and building things with blocks and such is more important.
Just keep playing, talking, and reading, and it will all be OK.
some weird stuff I've been reading (I have a 3mo) babies this age do not have the capacity for cognitive memory. Their cerebral cortex just isn't developed enough. This is why we cannot remember this stage in our lives. Babies this you DO though have associative memory as that is an entirely different part of the brain that is much more developed by then. This is why that nurse (or doctor) messed up. The reason children fear needles is USUALLY because of this. They have a associative history with them. If the nurse/doctor hid the needle and made sure the baby was not looking when they administered what looks like vaccines this would not take place and would lessen the chances of negative association with needles later in life.
This is from https://www.amazon.com/Whats-Going-There-Brain-Develop/dp/0553378252
by Lise Eliot Ph.D.
Any video claiming to teach your baby stuff is bogus. Pure, utter bogus garbage. Skip it.
The best thing you can do is read to your kid, talk to them, interact with them. Give them face time, not screen time.
My girly will be 6 weeks on thursday and we're reading Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy a few evenings a week. Right now I think she likes the sound of our voices, but even that is hardwiring her brain for the english language.
Read "What's Going on in There?" if you want to learn how best to give your kiddo's brain a boost from birth onwards. Amazon Link
Parents are responsible for their childrens behavior. This could be a blind spot preventing you from holding your own parents accountable. If you can't emotionally understand this you wont logically understand this following argument.
If a parent needs to get their children to do something or not to do something out of fear of punishment then it's not a relationship. It's dictatorship and you'll never get respect or compliance from your children when you act like you know what's best for them - and this is the reason why abuse escalates.
It's the parents responsibility to teach their children right and wrong by talking and listening to them, helping them understand, and ultimately modelling that behaviour themselves.
Before you have children, it's important to work on yourself because everything you experienced as a child from abusive parents thats lingering in your unconscious will come to the surface when you have your own children.
It seems you area already projecting some of this by thinking experimentation like smoking in the room or lying about homework is bad. Wouldn't it be better to foster a relationship where your children can you tell they tried a cigarette or don't want to do their homework? That way you can actually be involved in their lives.
If you raise your children correctly I wouldn't worry about most bad activities because you'll give them the skills to know better. The science shows that addictions, victim of bullying and peer pressure are all caused by child abuse and an unstable home. If you want to know more about this look up Gabor Mate (I have more resources).
Actually as children get older they become easier to parent when you raise them peacefully and being involved because you have built up a relationship.
Here are books I'd recommend:
Why Love Matters: How Affection Shapes a Baby's Brain
http://www.amazon.com/Why-Love-Matters-Affection-Shapes/dp/1583918175
The Drama of the Gifted Child: The Search for the True Self http://www.amazon.com/Drama-Gifted-Child-Search-Revised/dp/0465016901
The Truth Will Set You Free: Overcoming Emotional Blindness and Finding Your True Adult Self http://www.amazon.com/Truth-Will-Set-You-Free/dp/0465045855[2]
For Your Own Good: Hidden Cruelty in Child-Rearing and the Roots of Violence http://www.amazon.com/Your-Own-Good-Child-Rearing-Violence/dp/0374522693[3]
Stefan Molyneux: Real-Time Relationships: The Logic of Love http://www.freedomainradio.com/free/books/FDR_3_PDF_Real_Time_Relationships.pdf
On Truth: The Tyranny of Illusion http://board.freedomainradio.com/blogs/freedomain/archive/2008/09/11/book-on-truth-the-tyranny-of-illusion.aspx
Between Parent and Child: The Bestselling Classic That Revolutionized Parent-Child Communication http://www.amazon.com/Between-Parent-Child-Revolutionized-Communication/dp/0609809881
Playful Parenting http://www.amazon.com/Playful-Parenting-Lawrence-J-Cohen/dp/0345442865
Unconditional Parenting http://www.amazon.com/Unconditional-Parenting-Moving-Rewards-Punishments/dp/0743487486
Raising Our Children, Raising Ourselves http://www.naomialdort.com/book.html
Parent Effectiveness Training http://www.amazon.com/Parent-Effectiveness-Training-Responsible-Children/dp/0609806939
The Philosophical Baby: What Children's Minds Tell Us About Truth, Love, and the Meaning of Life http://www.amazon.com/Philosophical-Baby-Childrens-Minds-Meaning/dp/0374231966
What's Going on in There? : How the Brain and Mind Develop in the First Five Years of Life http://www.amazon.com/Whats-Going-There-Brain-Develop/dp/0553378252
Becoming the Kind Father: A Son's Journey http://www.amazon.com/Becoming-Kind-Father-Sons-Journey/dp/0865715823
Connection Parenting http://connectionparenting.com/connection-parenting-book.html
I also found point #3 to be true. Almost all the advice I got was total nonsense. When people tell you stuff, go look up whether or not there is any scientific evidence that shows that it works.
I recommend this book:
http://www.amazon.com/Whats-Going-There-Brain-Develop/dp/0553378252/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1290829728&sr=8-1
It details how the baby's brain develops. Very revealing.
There's absolutely nothing wrong. Walking earlier or later isn't even linked to IQ so no worries there. I was a daycare teacher for that age and I saw kids walk anywhere from 9-18 months. Your baby is totally normal and still has 4 months to start walking before a pediatrician would even bat an eyelash. I have read in this book written by a neuroscientist that walking is not something that can be taught so you don't have to practice it. That book also talks about how good crawling is for the brain because of the cross lateral movements involved and the sensory input the baby gets from their hands.
http://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/0553378252/ref=mp_s_a_1_1?qid=1419721700&sr=8-1
Related: What's Going On In There? is an excellent child brain development book written by a neuroscientist after she became a mom. I loved it! But, warning, I could see how it could scare some people if they aren't the sort to like to learn about the good and bad of everything. I listened to the audiobook, which was well narrated.
It's not about fatherhood, really just about the first year of baby's life, but I recommend The Science of Mom (yeah, ok, the title literally says 'mom' not 'dad' - but ignore that bit!). It's an evidence-based guide on the first year of life, she goes over many studies and meta-analyses about many different parenting topics.
I've also heard great things about What's Going on in There?, but I haven't had a chance to read it yet.
You want a "fact-based" pregnancy/parenting book? There is no proven "100% correct" method for pregnancy, childbirth or parenting. Anyone who tells you differently is trying to sell you a book.
Most of the books on the market are basically laundry lists of things that can go wrong. It's dull reading indeed. And since the science itself is contradictory, they will all be wishy-washy.
I recommend:
The Pregnant Body Book, by DK Publishing for it's glossy pictures and diagrams of pregnancy and labor
What's Going on in There, a book about brain development (this will do a better job addressing what is and isn't safe during pregnancy better than all the "how-to" manuals)
I liked What's Going on in There? : How the Brain and Mind Develop in the First Five Years of Life https://www.amazon.com/dp/0553378252/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_7LAXCbTRSVYR7
Very scientific but she does a good job of breaking it down, for the most part.
Related: depending on where we are in in our own life cycle, humans perceive time and movement differently. Just after birth newborns till about two months babies are capable of tracking slowly moving objects, but their eyes move only in jerks called saccades and they tend to fall behind the object they are trying to follow. By three months babies can perceive motion and their eye movement tracks moving objects smoothly. By six months months the brain can actually anticipate movements, that is, the eyes focus slightly ahead of a steadily moving object.
Also related is the steady improvement of visual acuity, the ability to detect detail. It starts at 20/600, which is thirty times poorer than 20/20 vision, and improves rapidly over the first six months of life, and then more gradually. Full acuity (20/20) isn't reached until a child reaches five years of age!
Together these explain why when playing with a young toddler, you can perform clumsy slight of hand tricks which impress and amuse them significantly, whereas it wouldn't work with an older child.
Source: This book by Dr. Lise Eliot (p212). Great read for parents expecting a newborn btw.
I also remember seeing a documentary about time perception of different creatures. And I remember that different creatures do have different time perceptions. Not only does a hummingbird perceive time more efficiently, so to speak, than you and I, but a slug perceives time less efficiently. I don't remember the documentary so I don't have a source for this though.
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While not specifically for pregnancy, I found these books incredibly helpful. They're written by neuroscience researchers at the University of Washington and my daughter and I ended up being selected as participants in some of their student's studies! The second book heavily influenced my parenting style (or reinforced what I was doing instinctively) and either I got lucky with a good kid or they're quite effective.
What's Going on In There: How the Brain and Mind Develop in the First 5 Years of Life
and
The Scientist in the Crib
I am leaving my other comment separate. I'm sorry it doesn't answer your question, really, but i still stand by the rec. As far as an actual answer to what you wanted, a what to do, how does it work, book, go with What's Going on in There https://www.amazon.com/Whats-Going-There-Brain-Develop/dp/0553378252
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Also as a piece of personal advice, the best (worst) way to spoil a child is not just to give them everything they want, but to shield them from everything they don't like.
Learning how to deal properly with annoyances can only happen if you experience some annoyances in the first place. Disappointment, loss, frustration, difficulty, hard work, waiting, having consequences for actions, having to apologize, compromise, and generally resolving conflicts (in this day and age, it is so easy to give up on anyone who makes you mad or doesn't please you 100% of the time... there are tons of people to replace them... but learning the skills to apologize, be kind, listen, etc, will establish friendships that you can trust and depend on).
But for the first couple months of baby's life, she literally cannot be spoiled. Start moral training once they can do things on purpose, 6-9 mo +.