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u/isambardkilgore · 2 pointsr/Parenting

I found the first three months very hard (I am the mum) coping with little sleep and the initial hurdles with breastfeeding. But I made sure to take everything one day at a time, and stay well rested and hydrated.

I googled every little thing my baby did, but the best resource was actually this book: http://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/076115213X/ref=redir_mdp_mobile/188-6777316-8943906.

My year got significantly better as I embraced the change - for instance my baby thrived on routine where me and my husband were disorganized and quite lazy - which was probably the biggest lifestyle adjustment!

u/EmoticonIlliterate · 2 pointsr/2X_INTJ

I found a lot of the books geared towards mums like What to Expect The First Year and The Toddler Years by the same author/publisher to be a little condescending and where I wanted to know how the brain worked and why my daughter thought like she did, these books answered a little too superficially for my taste, and I also disliked the format. I found myself referring to a textbook I had from college (I started as a nursing major but ultimately went a different route when I discovered I wasn't very good with "customer service"). This book is readable but explains more the physiologic and psychologic changes the child, adolescent, and ultimately adult goes through, and I found it way more helpful than the "mommy" books. Any similar textbook would probably work. I bet they have child development textbooks that would be even better.

I try to live by the "treat others as I would like to be treated" adage and I think the same applies to be successful with children. I don't think being INTJ would be a hinderance to enjoying or relating to children. In fact I think their simple, honest, forthright nature is actually easier for us to understand.

u/GordonTheGopher · 2 pointsr/Parenting

"What to expect the first year"

http://www.amazon.com/What-Expect-First-Workman-Publishing/dp/076115213X

Pretty much a basic baby manual that tells you everything you need to know.

You probably need to get it official that you have 100% custody. This will take a lawyer. It sounds like the mother is very unstable and will need to have zero contact, at least for now.

u/tahoebigah · 2 pointsr/daddit

The books that helped me the most are these 2.

What to Expect When You're Expecting

What to Expect the First Year

u/UnicornToots · 2 pointsr/beyondthebump

Oh, my daughter is usually 1-2 weeks ahead of the "leaps" but once I noticed that trend, I just auto-adjust when I read the book and look at the app. I also appreciate that they mention many times in the book and app that no baby will ever hit 100% of the milestones all at once.

I guess I should also recommend "What to Expect: The First Year" - There's a lot of this book that I really don't like, but the most helpful bit of it is how they break down what "a few", "some", "half of", and "most" babies do at each month in the first year. It helps me be logical and not freak out when my daughter doesn't hit some milestones when she's "supposed" to, and feel proud when she's accomplished some things that only "a few" babies do at that time.

For instance, my daughter is almost 9 months and does not crawl at all. I don't think any baby hates the notion of crawling more than she does. She also rarely rolls over, even though she was supposed to have mastered this 3-4 months ago. But, she claps (which she's not "supposed" to do until she's 11 months), waves (same), and pulls herself to standing (1 month "early"). It helps me not worry knowing these things!

u/jdcollins · 2 pointsr/daddit

Get the following:

  • Happiest Baby on the Block: great descriptions on swaddling, soothing, pacifier use, nursing, etc. A lifesaver for sure.

  • What to Expect: The First Year: Tons of info about everything you didn't know to even ask. Bathing the baby, sleeping schedules, nursing/bottle feeding, etc. More of a "desk reference" type book, and actually a very good bathroom read.

  • The Baby Sleep Solution: Not everyone is down with this type of book, but it really helped us get ourselves and our baby on a schedule, which is vital for parents to keep them SANE.

    When the pediatrician comes to check in on the baby while at the hospital, ask TONS of questions. They don't mind and it will make you feel better. That's what you're paying them for!!

    Finally, relax and enjoy. They are tougher than they look.
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u/corellia40 · 1 pointr/AskReddit

It sounds like the two of you have talked this through and made a decision. That's good. That itself should help your mental state.

Personally, I'm an information person. If something is changing in my life, I look it up. Internet, books, whatever. In this case, I recommend What to Expect When You're Expecting and What to Expect the First Year. They're pretty straightforward, and have information that will make you feel more informed and comfortable, help you decide what supplies you need and make decisions (breast or bottle, crib or bassinet, circumcision, etc.), as well give you little tidbits about how the baby's developing at each stage and how the mother's body changes (things she might have noticed but not thought to attribute to the pregnancy). If either of you is a worrier, I would recommend you skip the chapter on what could go wrong - every other page mentions the words "hemorrhage and die", and even though a complication that severe is incredibly rare, especially with good prenatal care, it might freak you out again. Personally, I read it, but that's just me.

Support each other, and keep communication very open. You need to be working together on this in every way. Keep in mind she may need physical support, as well as emotional. Morning sickness can be a bitch, or she may be tired all the time. Then again, she may get no symptoms. Every pregnancy is different - even for the same woman. You never know how she'll feel.

Find a good OB/GYN she's comfortable with. It's not fun being groped by and sharing intimate symptoms with someone you don't like. Find out what hospital to go to and if he'll be on call to deliver, and if not, who will be. Try to check the place out - some places offer maternity tours. Basically, plan enough and learn enough that you are as comfortable as possible with the process and confident that you know what you want. Be prepared to change your plan as necessary - it happens, and trust me, it's a significant part of parenting.

As for parenting - Be there for your kid. Spend time together talking, playing, and letting him or her know you love him. Learn to be patient, because you'll need it. Cover those, and you cover most of parenting. The rest is about teaching him to be the person you hope he'll be. Every parent starts with no experience and it's all on the job training, so your not at a disadvantage there. You'll learn as much from your kid as he'll learn from you.

Most importantly, don't worry so much! It will all fall into place, and you're in a much better place to deal with having a child than many. I realize that's futile advice, because even when it's planned, hell, even when it's planned and it's not your first, it's nerve-wracking. Pregnancy is like that. But the panic will subside, and you'll calm down tremendously once you realize that you can handle this - and you CAN handle this.

Congratulations, and good luck :)