Reddit reviews When Panic Attacks: The New, Drug-Free Anxiety Therapy That Can Change Your Life
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>I failed a college course because I was too afraid to do public speaking.
I did too. Shit sucks, I've gotta work on it.
/u/TomasTTEngin is right though, behavioral therapy can fix this if you go through it.
A strategy I've been considering is going to toastmasters in conjunction with using the Cognitive Behavioral Therapy techniques from this book.
Supposedly CBT really does work surprisingly well. There was a recent study about people with social anxiety who did a self taught online CBT course and in only 9 weeks they showed it caused actual structural changes in their amygdalas (fear-processing center of their brain). I'll see if I can find that one, but yeah, there is hope to change!
Edit: Here's that study
Type 1 diabetes sounds pretty scary, so I can understand why you would worry so much about your future. But if you take good care of your body (eat healthy foods, exercise, take your medication, etc.), then that much worrying is probably going to be counterproductive.
Have you considered going to a therapist to get help with your anxiety?
By the way, I found When Panic Attacks helpful for my own anxiety.
Do you have a kindle account? If not get one and read these books:
When Panic Attacks
Constructive Living
The Confidence Gap
The Dare Response
Just download the samples and see which one resonates with you most that you might like to read. Seriously potently life changing stuff. These have been invaluable techniques for me personally.
I've dealt with the same things in my relationship. I'm also in my first (and hopefully lifelong) relationship and I feel the same sort of separation anxiety sometimes. Even when we are just going to be apart for a day I get all depressed and anxious. We've been together four months now (almost five) and he's become such an important part of my life, and being with him has become part of my daily routine. When we don't get to see each other, I feel like my day is thrown off.
I went to Disney World with my family about 2 months into our relationship and we were apart about 10 days. I dreaded the lead up to it (even though I was also excited about going to Disney World) and I had that ache in my chest the first day. I just knew he'd realize he wasn't really in love with me and that he'd dump me through text or something (which never happened of course...) Luckily it got better (though I did have a sort of depression episode on one of the days, which was caused by a couple of other issues...) We Facetimed together, texted, and talked on the phone for a little bit each day, and that made it easier while being apart.
I had the same questions about over-dependency also, but I've come to the conclusion that those feelings are because you're still building trust with one another, and for anxious people like us, it's a lot more difficult to learn to trust someone else, so to compensate we get a little clingy. I still get anxious when I know we're not going to see each other, but it's not NEARLY as bad as when we first entered into a serious relationship with each other.
A few things that have helped me get through those times are... Being honest with one another. We agreed, right from the start, that we would always be honest about how we're feeling with one another. My BF also deals with some depression / anxiety so he knows what it's like. I've been open with him about my hyper-anxiety issues and about how my mind takes small things and blows them out of proportion. He can usually tell when I'm having a "flare-up" (as I like to call them) and if he asks what's wrong, I usually tell him "I'm dealing with some anxiety right now, my thoughts probably aren't rational, so let's talk about it later when I'm thinking rationally again, ok?" In those few times, he's just backed off with the questions, held me if we were together, assured me it's going to be ok, and then we talked about it later when I felt better.
I also started looking into cognitive therapy techniques. These specific ideas in particular have helped me quite a bit.
Anyway... I've gone on way longer than I intended and probably moved into things that aren't even part of your issue, but there it is anyway... If you're interested, here's a link to the book that helped me a bit:
https://www.amazon.com/When-Panic-Attacks-Drug-Free-Anxiety-ebook/dp/B000GCFVV0/ref=tmm_kin_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1482052893&sr=8-1
Also, here's a link to the anxiety journal I made for myself based off of stuff from the book (I spreadsheet pretty much every part of my life lol!) Disclaimer: I'm not a professional. This is just something I've made for myself based on information given in the book above, which I've found helpful for me. (Also, don't judge me too harshly on my thoughts written in it... I'm leaving them in it just so you can see what I do. I know they're pretty melodramatic...)
https://docs.google.com/spreadsheets/d/1i6XTy5OkRNjfaoGnwHqSZjtWZUuJkbqaBvhP-RwKPI8/edit?usp=sharing
https://www.amazon.com/When-Panic-Attacks-Drug-Free-Anxiety-ebook/dp/B000GCFVV0
Here's some info on CBT and other treatment. I also found this book to be helpful, along with this workbook. :)