Reddit reviews Why We Do What We Do: Understanding Self-Motivation

When I've managed people I've told them several things:

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1. I'm not your superior. We just have different roles within this organization.
   
   
2. You're well-being is just as important as mine.
   
   
3. I want to train you on how to do your job, so you can run your part of the show on your own.
   
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   Resist the urge to tell them what to do. Present a problem and see what they come up with. There's a book called "Why We Do What We Do: Understanding Self-Motivation" which talks about how to support autonomy in the workplace. https://www.amazon.com/Why-We-What-Understanding-Self-Motivation/dp/0140255265/ref=sr_1_1?crid=1EYK0JG0VW6QO&keywords=why+we+do+what+we+do+understanding+self-motivation&qid=1555479585&s=books&sprefix=Why+We+Do+What+We+Do%2Cstripbooks%2C388&sr=1-1
   
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   Don't make people bend the knee to you. People are not puppets.
   
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   When one place I worked at was bought out by blood-sucking vampires, I told my reports what was happening and encouraged them to find other options if they could. I took severance pay and left.

These might help

https://www.amazon.com/Myth-Self-esteem-Rational-Behavior-Psychology/dp/1591023548

https://www.amazon.com/Why-We-What-Understanding-Self-Motivation/dp/0140255265

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Failing doesn't make you a failure, it just means you need to change your goals or find a better way to achieve your goals.

If this topic interests you...

https://www.amazon.com/Why-We-What-Understanding-Self-Motivation/dp/0140255265

This video is definitely a very accessible (and entertaining) way to introduce management or HR (or teachers or coaches or whoever) to the problems of bribes.

Dan Pink also did a great TED talk on this topic.

Besides Drive, there are a number of other great books on the topic:

• Punished by Rewards
  
• Why We Do What We Do: Understanding Self-Motivation

• A Mind of its own: How your Brain distorts and deceives
  
  
• Why we do what we do: Understanding Self-Motivation
  
  
• Strangers to ourselves: Discovering the Adaptive Unconscious
  
  
• The Psychology of Judgement and Decision making
  
  And last but not the least;
  
  
• List of Cognitive Biases