Reddit reviews You Are Not So Smart: Why You Have Too Many Friends on Facebook, Why Your Memory Is Mostly Fiction, an d 46 Other Ways You're Deluding Yourself
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A few thoughts to get your mind going:
I hope that helps jog your brain a bit, I find empathy and asking the right questions tend to help me understand the world around me better, especially when my own biases get in the way.
Edit: Here's a great book that explores a lot of cognitive biases and explains the points I made much more eloquently. https://www.amazon.com/You-Are-Not-So-Smart/dp/1592407366
I think one of the biggest things spurning that kind of faulty thinking is the belief that smart people don't get caught up in it.
"I'm smart, it won't happen to me" style thinking - that is to say, thinking that is riddled with confirmation bias and post-hoc rationalization, is very common among the well educated.
Being smart does not magically make your brain immune to the invisible gorilla and other phenomena. Sadly, there are very few people who actually study failures in thinking and perception, and even less who make it a habit to be mindful about their own thoughts on a regular basis. It is much more comforting to stroke your own ego than to believe things that may imply you are somehow flawed.
If anything, people who are used to being right most of the time will probably not spend as much time self-analyzing their beliefs. This gives very long windows in which infectious ideas can take root and the meme machinery in our brain takes over. By that point, it may be too late to reach them, the circuitous nature of the arguments in their brain are probably too big to dissect or even point out as being flawed.
It is very hard to argue with a crazy person who is smarter than you.
Then you'd love You Are Not So Smart!
Loved "You Are Not So Smart." Really funny and covers a LOT of fallacies/self-delusions:
https://www.amazon.com/You-Are-Not-So-Smart/dp/1592407366
Just read You Are Not So Smart. Seriously, it's a great book.
> started giving up the hobbies
> First it was weed
> shortly after the painting (so she could focus on music)
> then the music (so she could focus on writing)
> and then that too, because she was tired of it.
> got really into fashion, wasting hundreds of dollars on designer clothes/accessories.
> quit her job to do office work for a factory to make more money
> spits out a kid, and becomes a stay at home mom.
Honestly, this sounds like the typical U.S. "growing up" timeline. She grew the fuck up.
> some no bullshit insight I'm missing.
Yeah, your memories are mostly fiction - get this book and read it cover to cover several times.
The thermonuclear fusion reactor neutron star oneitis you keep comparing other women to... is fiction.
She wasn't the way you remember her. That's why dwelling on the past is so alluring and so self destructive.
Move on with your life by recognizing this as the unhealthy habit it is and conditioning yourself out of it.
I also recommend You are not so smart
Address the root cause, not the symptom. They have misunderstood science, the scientific method and sprinkled conspiracy theory on top. They probably harbor a distrust in science as a whole.
Luckily for you, the topic at hand is more accessible to laymen than physics; it's introductory philosophy of science, but you can avoid the academic jargon.
You have to establish trust in science first. Questions you need to raise and discuss are (in no particular order):
Obviously you need to learn these topics first. Use a book on philosophy of science or equivalent. In my country it happens to be a mandatory very short course for all engineers.
How you go about introducing these topics to them depends on their personality. You can discuss IRL, motivating them to take a course or, if they'll read it, give them an book such as the one above or something simpler. Regarding conspiracy there are plenty of fun books, especially on self-delusion, like How we know what isn't so or You are not so smart. The latter is also a podcast.
In general avoid using youtube as a source, but if they won't listen to anything else there's a ton of videos raising the topics above, see the veritasium channel for instance.
My political opposition isn't along a left/right axis but people who are dogmatic in their thinking. Left, right, middle; I don't care so long as you can recognize and temper your own biases. (I'm such a "neutron.")
Therefore, I like You Are Not So Smart by David McRaney. It's written (appropriately) for the general audience and is affably conversational in tone.
If they're hungry for more, the next book would be Thinking, Fast and Slow by Daniel Kahneman for the way it breaks down fast and slow systems of thinking.
Either book should be part of a Neutral Politics recommended reading.
Do checkout the inspiration for the article you are not so smart. Great written articles in addition to the podcast. Do buy the book You are Not So Smart. Do be conscious of the time you spend reading it. After reading every day I nearly melted down from the lack of control it points to.
Here are a couple that come to mind....
Games People Play is a classic. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Games_People_Play_(book)
This one was less clinical and more entertainment.
http://www.amazon.com/You-Are-Not-So-Smart/dp/1592407366
Neither have a yellow cover though.
Just piggybacking to add that if anyone is interested in starting to learn the basics of fallacious argument tactics/logical fallacies that we’re seeing running rampant among politicians/propagandists for the past few years: the series You Are Not So Smart is a great place to begin.
podcast
YouTube
Book 1
Understanding the basics (even just knowing that these actions/thought patterns have been identified and have names) reeeeally helps to recognize and unpack tactics that are more complex and/or the use of multiple tactics simultaneously.
Highly recommend this guy’s work in general, but especially if you have the misfortune of encountering this shit irl and want to better prepare yourself to navigate, “disarm”, or deescalate bad faith discussions or tense discourse at work or during upcoming holiday gatherings.
God speed y’all.
Try
You Are Not So Smart:
http://www.amazon.com/You-Are-Not-So-Smart/dp/1592407366
Trust Me, I'm Lying: {the second part of the book}
http://www.amazon.com/Trust-Lying-Confessions-Manipulator-ebook/dp/B0074VTHH0/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1374416648&sr=1-1&keywords=Trust+Me%2C+I%27m+Lying%3A+Confessions+of+a+Media+Manipulator
And this are not books but they will open your eyes {I strongly suggest you dont watch this if you can't stand blood or violence }
Interview with a Cannibal
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BosZxa1bYcE
Karachi
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xgIl1vmIchA
Slaves of Dubai
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gMh-vlQwrmU
It doesn't? Remember seeing Santa as a kid?
People are inherently delusional in a great many ways. Perhaps you should read this book: You are not so smart
We as a species suck balls at perceiving reality.
Here's a link to it, it's really terrific: http://www.amazon.com/You-Are-Not-So-Smart/dp/1592407366/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1451495188&sr=8-1&keywords=you+are+not+so+smart
https://www.amazon.com/You-Are-Not-So-Smart/dp/1592407366
This question gets asked a lot! Good on ya for reading outside your field of study.
Best recommendation for easy readability:
https://youarenotsosmart.com/
"You are Not so Smart", and possibly it's follow up (*which I haven't read)
https://www.amazon.com/You-Are-Not-So-Smart/dp/1592407366
https://www.amazon.com/You-are-Now-Less-Dumb/dp/1592408796/
it's all about perception not reality plus most decisions are made by senses not rationale. i strongly recommend to read about cognitive biases especially for youngsters who are about to begin career or graduate. this great book found a funny way to cover the basics
I am a forensic psychology major so I'm super excited to see what everyone recommends for you! I love reading psychology books!
this book has been recommended to me so many times! I just started reading it and it's very good so far!
I also really enjoyed this book on criminal profiling which is a subject that fascinates me.
Shaynoodle is damn sexy!
I think my answer to that question is going to be in the form of a book. Read the book "you are not so smart"
Tldr: your brain lies to you about absolutely everything. All your memories cab be fake or faked. It's not hard at all to implant memories into people.
Edit: http://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/1592407366?pc_redir=1411919997&robot_redir=1
Searched it up and it seems like a very interesting read.
Just wasted $70 on books though so it'll be a while till I can buy it.
Last book I read fully was You Are Not So Smart.
A great book on the human mind.
Not fully was World War Z.
Seriously this may be a great coming-of-age title for you: Infinite Jest.
Also since you got your first job check out The Wall Street Journal's Guide to Starting Your Financial Life. If you haven't yet appreciated math, I would suggest you do so as you're going to need it for any decent job these days. Detach yourself from Fallacious Thought.
Look at banner, NamesNotCrindy! I am dying to read this book because I'm not so smart. Sigh. So it goes.
Sooo many lol, here are some of my favorites.
ADHD
Smart But Stuck: Emotions in Teens and Adults with ADHD https://www.amazon.com/dp/111827928X/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_1.Y9ybCSGW7GF
General Brain Stuff
You Are Not So Smart: Why You Have Too Many Friends on Facebook, Why Your Memory Is Mostly Fiction, an d 46 Other Ways You're Deluding Yourself https://www.amazon.com/dp/1592407366/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_abZ9ybEHGSMEK
You are Now Less Dumb: How to Conquer Mob Mentality, How to Buy Happiness, and All the Other Ways to Outsmart Yourself https://www.amazon.com/dp/1592408796/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_vbZ9ybKY1636G
School/Study Help
A Mind for Numbers: How to Excel at Math and Science (Even If You Flunked Algebra) https://www.amazon.com/dp/039916524X/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_gcZ9ybCDM8Q6K
Social/Relationship skills
What Every BODY is Saying: An Ex-FBI Agent’s Guide to Speed-Reading People https://www.amazon.com/dp/0061438294/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_1cZ9ybQJXS3BK
The Chemistry Between Us: Love, Sex, and the Science of Attraction https://www.amazon.com/dp/1591846617/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_OdZ9ybBFRG9R4
Cosmology
Parallel Worlds: A Journey Through Creation, Higher Dimensions, and the Future of the Cosmos https://www.amazon.com/dp/1400033721/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_GeZ9ybHP9J2J5
Each one of these books has had a big impact on me, as a side note I'm have become a big fan of audible since I normally have a hard time sitting still to read, so I'd recommend giving it a try if you never have. You'll be surprised how much of a book you can comprehend while listening to it as do you other random chores and stuff throughout the day.
> So we can rule out that she's doesn't have a choice in this.
hey you didn't reply to my shit (in fact I addressed this very point in my second response to you), but I gotta say you have a wild misunderstanding of how human beings work. The notion that human beings have 100% agency at all times, and that decisions, even those appearing to be self-made (i.e. "I am choosing to do this") are 100% independent or unaffected by the environment around you and your past development is just... wrong. I don't even know how else to put it, it's a gross misunderstanding of human psychology and neuroscience.
Plus, even if you ignore the headier and more philosophical aspects of this, I don't know why you wouldn't consider the very simple and very realistic scenario of her having a troubled home life. Also this weird attachment to her "SECOND TIME" doing this, like people can't make the same mistakes or incorrect judgement twice? Or can't be affected by the same traumas and hardships twice? I've probably cut people off more than once while driving, so what, does that mean I 100% willingly and deliberately chose to it do past mistake #1?
It's like common sense shit, so I have to assume you're being obtuse or willfully blind. It's like for you to accept this you literally have to see her being dragged away in chains and a gag, and THEN you'll go "ohhhhhhh she was in a bad situation".
I don't mean this in an offensive way, but it just reeks of immaturity and inexperience to me (and that's me being charitable and not adding on other elements to it related to sexual frustration / misogyny). Here's a cool book to get started:
https://www.amazon.ca/You-Are-Not-So-Smart/dp/1592407366
The title isn't a jab at you, don't worry.
EDIT:
> “What do you tell a woman with two black eyes?’’
> “Nothing, you already told her twice!’’
dumb fucking slut amirite
You Are Not So Smart and You Are Now Less Dumb by David McRaney
It's counterintuitive, isn't it? I found that factoid in the book You Are Not So Smart, by David McRaney. It's a fascinating book about cognitive biases and the various ways people delude themselves without knowing. I'm currently reading it and I highly recommend it, BTW.
But yes. Venting does not seem to help. The relevant book chapter can be found in its entirety online here: http://youarenotsosmart.com/2010/08/11/catharsis/
It's an interesting read.
I will admit though I'm not an expert on the topic, and this is just something I recently learned.
EDIT: This is a New York Times article from 1983 with that same premise, that venting anger may actually do more harm than good.
I'm not saying you're wrong -- because what you suggest is simply impossible to verify (the scientific term is unfalsifiability) -- but it's worth considering you may occasionally fall victim to confirmation bias.
I believe it's important that all people at least understand their own biases (we all have them) so they can attempt to bypass their emotional, subconsciously-conclusive judgments, and make come to more logical conclusions.
A good place to start is by reading You Are Not So Smart, which was actually written by one of the founders of reddit. It's a fantastic read, and it'll have you questioning all of your previously-unchallenged beliefs (in a good way).
The GOP hates all democrats. It's no different with Hillary (maybe even worse). Obama had more of a socialist ideology and he was incredibly charismatic and persuasive. Do you think they'd al be best buddies if Obama was exactly the same person with white skin? (It's very possible my bias is leaking through here, but I am aware, and that's what's important).
Cheers.
I'm not saying you're wrong -- because what you suggest is simply impossible to verify (the scientific term is unfalsifiability) -- but it's worth considering you may occasionally fall victim to confirmation bias.
I believe it's important that all people at least understand their own biases (we all have them) so they can attempt to bypass their emotional, subconsciously-conclusive judgments, and make come to more logical conclusions.
A good place to start is by reading You Are Not So Smart, which was actually written by one of the founders of reddit. It's a fantastic read, and it'll have you questioning all of your previously-unchallenged beliefs (in a good way).
Cheers.
While I have no doubt that the various authors of the Heracles myth were familiar with the concept of strongmen performing feats of strength by witnessing it firsthand, I seriously doubt that there is anyone in history whose life resembles that of the Heracles myth in any meaningful way, even in purely naturalistic terms. However the verifiable accounts of David Koresh, Osha, L. Ron Hubbard, Joseph Smith Jr. all attest to the fact that charismatic gurus, cult-leaders and con-artists are common phenomena in human history, and there's no good reason to not believe that every founded since the Axial Age was initiated by such a figure. While there is almost certainly more narrative fabrication in the gospels than in the Joseph Smith narrative (to say nothing of the supernatural accounts which we can safely dismiss), there's not really any good reason to not believe that there wasn't some charismatic guru and dime-a-dozen (or a dozen-hundred) messiah with a life that roughly maps out around the Jesus narrative around about place and space it is attributed to. Although I am generally most sympathetic to Bart Ehrman (and by extension Albert Schweitzer's) account of Jesus as an apocalyptic prophet, I am convinced that he is wasting his time by harping on about the the reliability of the witnesses' memories. While that is a perfectly valid point, if Jesus scholars would compare the historical accounts of the widely publicly witnessed "miracles" in Joseph Smith Jr. life then they would realise that it is a pointless point -it's totally unnecessary account for miraculous claims with memory and confabulation when hundreds modern, literate, post printing-press people can be bamboozled and believing the wildest shit imaginable right in the very moment. Like the convoluted Spalding-Rigdon Theory, it's a solution to a problem which doesn't exist (that JS was some kind of of moron who was too stupid and ignorant to have dictated the BoM). Anytime a Christian apologist starts boring us with the reliability of the witnesses, the scholar should just be able to say "Two words: Martin Harris", drop the mic and walk off the stage.
No. No it doesn't. I'm tired of this (very tired) argument.
It is a representation of the desired body image. Read the book You Are Not So Smart and read the chapter about why women flock to rich old guys and why men will fuck a Real Doll.
We want better than what's average or normal, we want the best, so we make it happen. The 70% hip-to-waist ratio is ideal, but we're more drawn to a 50% ratio, which would effectively kill any woman who tried to give a natural birth if she had those measurements.
/rant