Reddit reviews Your Own Worst Enemy: Breaking the Habit of Adult Underachievement

I found these books to be helpful:

https://www.amazon.com/Your-Own-Worst-Enemy-Underachievement/dp/006098872X/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=&sr=

https://www.amazon.com/How-Stop-Worrying-Start-Living/dp/0671035975/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1500068717&sr=1-1&keywords=how+to+stop+worrying+and+start+living

Another thing I found that works for me is that when I have a feeling of guilt, I consciously acknowledge it and ask if I am really doing anything wrong, or was I taught that it was wrong. Answer yourself appropriately, and a lot of those "guilt trips" are never taken in short order.

You might enjoy reading this book: "Your Own Worst Enemy: Breaking the Habit of Adult Underachievement"

https://www.amazon.com/Your-Own-Worst-Enemy-Underachievement/dp/006098872X

It's scarily accurate for people in our "group"!

I've been here before. At the very least you can acknowledge it and have taken steps to improve.

I picked up this book a few years back that might be of interest: Your own worst enemy: Breaking the Habit of Adult Underachievement

I started with this book, went on sort of a binge of "self-help" topics and I think I've improved vastly. Best of luck.

Buy this book and let it change your life. It did mine when I was your age. Trust me, it will help immensely. I’m not calling you an underachiever! Just helps to understand why you’re struggling.

Some things I have found to be total game-changers:

Check your neurotransmitters. Try supplementing with 5-htp (precursor to serotonin) and tyrosine (precursor to dopamine). Both are OTC and both absolutely work. 5-htp improves my mood and sleep quite a bit, and tyrosine in the morning dramatically increases my motivation. If you're eating poorly because you're bummed out, it is further depleting both of these.

I asked a similar question about being an unfulfilled adult INTP, and someone recommended "Mindset" and "Your Own Worst Enemy." I read both books and they have not just been apt; they've been life-changing.

Agreed on quitting the drugs. Escaping from the root cause of your malaise will only make it worse and continue to damage your self-esteem.

Practice standing up for yourself, setting personal boundaries, and telling others exactly how you really feel, if you don't already. Let other people have their own reactions to it. Depression and anxiety often coincide with codependency. Everyone I know who was codependent had generalized anxiety, and once they started asserting themselves it went away. The more you do it the easier it gets.

Strategically remove people from your life who do not make you a better person when you spend time with them. You become more like the people you choose to surround yourself with whether you want to or not.

Also, don't get overwhelmed by the choice of "what to do with your life." Any decision you make is not final, just the step before the next step. It's okay not to know. Take a look at how you prefer to spend your free time for clues about what you're really passionate about. You can either monetize these activities or identify aspects of them that you love, and figure out careers that share those aspects.

Best o' luck!

Hey man, sounds like you've had it rough. It's not a panacea but read this book, it can really help you re-frame things and get started on making some progress in your life. the truth is that no one can fix this but you. I'll send you a copy of the book if you p.m. me your address.

Ken Christian's Your Own Worst Enemy gave me an interesting perspective before starting an engineering degree. It's not perfect, but it touches on enough angles that I'm sure you'll identify with the material in some way.

I'd also recommend noting what course(s) next semester will give you the most trouble and spend some time preparing for those now. It's amazing what a concentrated effort can afford you in terms of progress.