(Part 2) Best baby & toddler feeding supplies according to redditors

Telescoping handle with wheels and bottom support perfect for this, uh, project.

Hi! I’m back!!
Although I thoroughly intend to write my birth story when I’m ready, I just finished my first piece since the baby arrived so in celebration, I’ll pair it with something useful.

I really appreciated posts like this while I was pregnant so here goes:

Things I didn’t know I needed:
(AKA things I have frantically ordered on amazon at or around 2am)

•Bottle Drying Rack This probably seems obvious, but when we didn’t get this from our showers we were like... idk why we can’t just use a towel??

•Safe way to cosleep My husband built a BEAUTIFUL Sidecar Crib, but it was attached on my side of the bed and it took 2.5 weeks for me to have healed enough to climb in bed around it safely with the baby. This way, I didn’t have to bend over to pick up baby or even spit up to check on/soothe him.

•Lactation Suppliment My lactation consultant approved. This one worked well in my breakfast tea.

•Better flanges My poor nipples were so sore and the flames that come with the Medela... well I’m not sure who they’re supposed to fit but not me. My doula practically ordered these for me. GAME CHANGER.

•Pumping bra I was cutting holes in sports bras. This is better.

•Nipple Shells Another kind reddittor sent me in the direction of this AMAZING INVENTION after I posted a photo of ice packs tied to my nipples with a burp cloth because I refused to wear a shirt my nipples hurt so bad. I will be purchasing these for EVERY PREGNANT WOMAN FOREVER. They keep your nipples dry, collect drips, apply counter pressure to keep your nipples shaped correctly for latching, and most importantly omg nothing touches the precious nips and you can wear a shirt!!

•Car mirror

Me: that seems extra, he’s in a car seat and safe why would I need a mirror??

Hormones; HAHAHAAHAHAHAHAH YOU FOOL

•Car adapter for my breast pump Cheaper than batteries

•Shade for his side of the car because anything that wakes up my sleeping baby is the devil. This one has a bonus that allowed me to roll the window down and it was HOT in the south

•Better suction for the breast pump Again- just better than whatever they send you

•My Breast Friend we got the boppy but this one saved my back

•Heating pad Turns out I’ll do ANYTHING to keep the baby asleep when I transfer him to his crib including preheat the darn thing (on low!) before I lay home down

•Stroller Caddy You’ll want somewhere to put your keys, phone, and coffee

•Baby K’tan An easier way for my husband to wear the baby.

•Leggings I had a pair of these before, and they are SO COMFORTABLE on my postpartum body that I bought 5 more in different colors!

•Extra pump parts for whichever pump you have

•A hands-up swaddle I found at Target

•Wine.

Anyway, hope this helps! Best of luck to all of you!

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Twins are 2 months old! Also, that is what my bottle prep looks like.

I am pumping, and supplementing my breast milk to boost the calorie content still. I use the Dr. Browns's formula mixer pitcher to prep the milk for the day, and then sterilize and fill bottles so they just have to be warmed up.

Also if you are pumping make sure to change out your valves if you notice a drop in output. You can use the duckbill with most pumps, and they are easy to clean. I just don't get why something for 2 boobs comes in a 5 pack.

If you have a Costco, their brand of formula is identical to Similac and it's much, much cheaper. My son has been on it since a month old and has done perfectly well with it.

As for outings, I take bottles with water in them and the diaper bag dispenser of powder formula measured out. I'm sure somebody linked it already, but it is usually a round container with three compartments and a lid that rotates so you can pour out one section at a time. Super handy, I use it often. This is what I have...the single one is nice if I know he'll only need to eat once when I'm out.

Another thing I recommend for home is the Dr. Brown's Formula Mixing Pitcher for mixing up a day's worth at a time. Around a month he should be eating anywhere between 24 and 32 oz, possibly more during a growth spurt. My son was at the top end of that, but he's leveled out to 34 oz a day at 6 months. Anyway, this really helped prevent wasting any formula because you can pour out 2 oz, and if he finishes it, give him 1 or 2 more. It takes a bit of time to figure out how much he wants at once, and sometimes it will vary a lot because he's still little, but overall he'll get pretty regular for a bit before he starts needing more at once.

Also, feel free to come join us over at /r/FormulaFeeders. It isn't the busiest sub, but we're a helpful bunch of you have any other specific questions! :) Congrats on your little one!

Could you premeasure everything? Like put the water and herbal mixture in the bottle then have the formula mix in another container? I had something like this that I measured out the formula powder into. Then dump the powder into the bottle and shake vigorously. Took the hassle out of explaining it.

I accidentally hit save, here are some more items you might want to register for:

Corner bumpers more of a concern when baby starts moving, but if you get it out of the way now you don't have to worry about it later. Same goes for plug covers and cabinet locks! Furniture anchors are a must-have, too. I haven't registered for those yet, need to figure out how many we need.


Pack'n'Play portable playpen, changing station, play mat, and bassinet. Even if you don't travel much, I think it will be handy for taking baby around the house while I do chores. They come in all kinds of designs, this one just stood out because of my nursery theme.

A glider or rocking chair, dresser/changing station, and crib. I don't have recommendations for these because I got mine as hand-downs.

Baby monitor I'm going with middle of the line video, because the audio only ones aren't much cheaper, so why not? I'd like to be able to peek in on baby and make sure he's okay without constantly disturbing him by entering the room. These come in all ranges with all kinds of features, so look at a few to figure out what you want.

Bibs. I love these because they have food-catchers. Mess will still happen, but it looks like these will at least lower the amount.

Infant soothie pacifiers

Breastfeeding pillow for sitting up Probably superfluous with the other one, but I like that it straps around your waist, cushions your back, and has pockets for drinks/snack/phone.

Pacifier clips, so you aren't knee deep in pacifiers that keep falling on the floor

Butt paste. I've heard a lot about this from other moms, apparently it's the best diaper cream.

Butt spatula admittedly I felt silly with this one, but the reviews are raving. Butt paste gets everywhere, and it's water resistant so an utter pain to clean - especially under your nails. On top of that, this makes sure you get a nice, even layer for baby's comfort.


Breastfeeding scarf! I think this thing is so neat, especially with a winter baby. You can wear it like an infinity scarf, but it'd big enough that when baby is ready to eat it will cover both of you comfortably! There are a lot of different styles, I picked a black one and a grey one just so they will go with any outfit.

Graco glider soother I picked this because I thought it was neat, then I saw a bumper with post partum advice list it on her must-have rundown.

Diaper bag! I went for the backpack style so DH and I could both comfortably use it, and honestly I don't want to deal with baby in one arm and an over-the-shoulder bag on the other.

First aid and grooming kit

Bottle sterilizer, because screw trying to hand wash them

Bottle warmer, no microwave/boiling water and guess


Bottles!

High chair. I picked this one because it is a 4-in-1, it adjusts from infant all the way up to toddler booster, so I know I'll get my use out of it.

Puj tub - it folds into your sink to be a warm, soft bathing surface for baby, and then when you're done you hang it flat in the shower, bo fuss, no mold!

I also registered at Target and BRU for some variety, some things that I don't have amazon links for:

Travel system.... I absolutely want one that is a carrier, clicks into a car base or a stroller. Getting two bases, one for each car, and the stroller base, would probably still be cheaper than buying two car seats, a carrier, and a stroller, and with these systems you don't have to wake baby up with every transistion.

Various cloth products, swaddlers, burp blankets, bath towels, bibs, etc. These are everywhere so just pick whatever suits you! I'm not registering for any clothes just because I know everyone is going to see "the cutest little onesie" and get it regardless.

Diapers! You can never have enough. I'd get a couple of packs from each size range. Don't open them until you know how big baby is, so you can exchange any that start too small.

Toys galore. Again, people will give you these registered or not, but if you see something that really strikes you, throw it in there! Jumpers and playpads are good to pick out.

Nursery decor - if you haven't gotten it all yet, black-out curtains, crib set, sheets, matress protectors, diaper genie, changing pad, laundry hamper, mobile, etc etc.

Books! Instead of cards, I'm going to ask people to bring inexpensive books with their personal note to baby, that way he can keep their messages as he grows. I put a good amount of books between $3-$6 on my registry for this, so hopefully we won't get a million copies of the same book.

This turned into an epic novel, but I hope it helps you with some starting places! Check out the reviews and similar products on things I linked, hopefully it will lead you to some things you like!

I've had a lot of luck with the Munchkin Miracle cups - https://www.amazon.com/Munchkin-Miracle-Sippy-Green-Ounce/dp/B00MRZIGVG/ref=zg_bs_166801011_1?_encoding=UTF8&refRID=KNKVPVNP3VCR5JPXVPKA&th=1
Our 3.5yo takes one with him anywhere he goes that we don't want him spilling, and even takes it to bed with him without fear of pre-processed water soaking into his sheets.

if you pump daily, you should replace them every month. Or if you are fed up with how shitty they are, buy duckbills. They're a million times better and easier to clean.

https://www.amazon.com/NeneSupply-Duckbill-Breastpumps-Breastpump-Breastshields/dp/B00XVASFGC/ref=sr_1_1_a_it?ie=UTF8&qid=1502805050&sr=8-1&keywords=duckbill+membranes

This is a rhetorical question, but why would you use a shortened Amazon link to hide your spam affiliate link, when you can make the link say whatever you want right in Reddit?

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Bumbos are cool little devices that keep baby in a sitting position as well.

Better yet invest in one of these. A drop kick across the room will not break it open.

We were talking about breastfeeding, and how I'd like to wait at least a month with just the boob, before I pump and use a bottle to help trade off feedings.

DH goes.. but, how am I going to help during that month? My friend was in the room and mentions the strap on boobs for men that he can wear. His face as he yelped.."I have to wear boobs?!" was amazing.

Mr Milker, Now Men Can Breastfeed https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00BJLSD3U/ref=cm_sw_r_fm_apa_HyCKzbK59QW9A

:( That does sound hectic. My registry is kinda all over the place because I've already bought a ton of stuff, but just some suggestions of some things (FTM so no idea really if these are good or not, some were recommendations from friends, some were recommendations from various online resources).

• car seat, extra base if you have more than one car, and stroller
  
• baby carrier - I got the ergobaby 360 with infant insert but the Lillebaby 360 is also super popular.
  
• swaddles - aden & anais seem to be hugely popular.
  
• bathing supplies - washcloths, bathtub
  
• first aid kit supplies - NoseFrida, nail clipper, thermometer
  
• feeding - bottles, sterilizer (some people told me I had to have it, some said it was totally unnecessary), bottle cleaner brush, drying rack (seems like everyone else loves the Boon grass, but I don't have the counter space!) You can get a pump through your insurance if you plan to breastfeed, I ordered mine through Aeroflow. I ultimately chose the Spectra S2 over the Medela PISA because it's a closed system, which apparently means less chances of bacteria getting into the system and thus easier cleaning.
  
• burp clothes - I was told to just get a ton of cloth diapers to use as burp clothes, and to have them everywhere.
  
• diaper pail - I have two friends who say this is good enough, so I went with it. They also said to use doggie poop bags to contain the smelly diapers.
  
• humidifier
  
• Boppy for nursing
  
• Backpack style diaper bag
  
• baby may need a more convenient place to be set down other than the crib, something you can have near you in the kitchen, shower, whatever. Popular options are the rock n play, Boppy lounger, or a pack 'n play. I plan on getting the Chicco FastAsleep pack 'n play because the crib/dresser/changing station is on our 2nd floor, so I figured this could double as a changing station/napper on the first floor.
  
  Lucie's List is probably the best resource I found online.

Intimia Pillow

This works wonders. The Intimia Pillow is on Amazon. It stops the lines as long as you wear it snuggly to the chest (but not too tight). It’s comfortable to sleep in. May take a night or two to get used to it. Has adjustable straps!

I don’t have any advice for things for this specific pump, although I️ have the spectra and really like it, but I did get a few general items that have made pumping and storing milk easier:

Freemie cups (especially if hands free pumping is important to you. Just be aware the flanges only come in two sizes).

Medela breastmilk cooler . The bottles won’t work with the spectra flanges, but the cooler is a nice size and you can use the included bottles as extra storage.

Silicone food storage tray. I use this instead of bags because it lets me freeze milk in 1 oz amounts so that I can defrost exactly as much as my daughter needs. The tray has a lid that actually stays on and the cubes are really easy to pop out. Then I just put the cubes in a freezer bag.

Boon lawn and twig for drying all your breast pump parts.

Other stuff you might want to consider: a hands free pumping bra, an extra set of flanges in your size (especially if you pump a lot), a bag if you are going to carry the pump frequently, and a car adapter.

Edited to add: Enjoy the pump! It is great!!

Also if you have medium to large breasts and are a side sleeper the weight of your boobs actually folds/pulls that skin down while you sleep!! I tried so hard to sleep on my back but just couldn’t swing it.

So I got a chest pillow for sleeping that holds the girls apart and keeps the skin from folding! It felt kind of ridiculous at first but now I actually feel uncomfortable sleeping without it.

Here’s what I use:

Intimia Breast Pillow Chest Wrinkles Prevention and Breast Support https://www.amazon.com/dp/B005EUH1A8/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_ILMDDbSZG3MXZ

Again it looks silly but an ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure!!

6 months in: we got a ton of crap. Here's what we actually used:


Baby car seat and base: Make sure the one you get is a rear facing one. Find a model/make that has the detachable base and fits into a stroller. example: graco If you have two cars, get two bases. It will save you from having to install the seat each time you need it. Just install the base once and you are done. If you are unsure of the install, check with your local police or fire department, they might have someone that is "certified" to install them. If you do find a deal on used ones, check the expiration date. They are required to have one. AND NEVER USE ONE THATS BEEN IN AN ACCIDENT.


Furniture:

Crib, sheets, mattress pad covers(3-4) bouncy chair, Boppy pillow, nursing pillow(if mom is nursing)


Diaper bag with changing station: Is a diaper bag that can unfold to a portable changing station anywhere. example <- dont get this one too expensive. Shop around.



Consumables

Diapers; if you plan on using disposables. Avoid getting newborns as they're usually only good for a week or two at the most. Stock up on 1,2,3 sizes. Wait for the sales and coupons at the local stores then buy, buy buy. You can never have too many. If you switch sizes, you can either save them for the next or donate them. No shelter will turn away free diapers. When you think you have enough, buy two more cases.

Same with wipes. Generally the wipes and diapers go on sale at the same time. Buy buy buy. You can never have too many. Keep an eye on coupons. we were able to get boxes for 2$ each with a combo sale/coupon.

Diaper Geni: Trust me. Get one. FYI, you can get generic refills online for 1/2 price.(amazon)

Spit up rags, there are as many out there as you can think of. Wanna save money? kitchen towels. Cheap, buy in bulk, they do the same job as the "baby spit up rags" but without the added "Baby" price tag.



Wearables

Swaddles: newborns love the swaddle(most of them). there are two kind, the wrap and the cheat. The wrap is just basically a small towel that any nurse can show you how to use. The cheat uses velcro. Halo sacks are a good name brand.

This is not answering your question, but if you are looking for an inexpensive but sturdy crib, IKEA has really great options. We got ours for $100 (not including the mattress). My daughter didn't sleep in until she was 5 months old though. She slept in a rock n play or her swing or when being held up until then - hated any flat surfaces the minute we got home from the hospital.

Regarding necessities at first - the boppy was completely necessary. I had one for the upstairs and one for downstairs so I didn't have to carry it around all the time.

Get something like this for formula. If you're breastfeeding, I just got used to feeding in public. I would find a quiet spot and get down to it. I've found Starbucks or hotels always have restrooms with changing tables. Nordstrom has the most amazing women's lounges with quiet areas for feeding and changing. You can buy something on your way out as a thank-you.

I use this Medela Cooler Set and store pump parts in a Ziplock bag between sessions. I keep the cooler set and the Ziplock bag in a generic tote bag in the refrigerator at work. I wash everything when I get home.

This is the one I use, FYI.

We have five kids, so things here have lasted at least that long:

Baby Bjourn Babysitter which goes by a new name now.
NoseFrida Snotsucker is the grossest name, but very handy and BIFL
Bumbo floor seat is a plastic seat kids sit on, on the floor
Boppy is a big U-shaped pillow for floor sitting or nursing
Wood stacking toys - either Ikea or Melissa & Doug
Saddleback leather/Love41 bucket bag for a diaper bag

She must pump, its' no more complex than that. It's a must.

So my wife had one of these. http://www.amazon.com/Medela-Pump-Style-Advanced-Breast/dp/B004HWXCJS/?tag=15615-20 Yes . . . it's expensive, but truly worth it. With a cigarette lighter attachment, it's a beautiful thing.

Along with it she had nursing bra's that zipped.

She'd latch on the pump then zip the bra to hold the pump in place, then would be completely hands-free for :20

And if by "busy" you mean "has a job", then I would hope that she would be able to sit in a bathroom or unused office somewhere for :20 and pump while reading things relevant to work on her phone or tablet.

Pumping 4x a day will absolutely keep here supply and size up. But it will only last a few months before supply starts to fall off and no amount of pumping will bring it back. within a year/year and a half, she'll be all deflated and empty anyway.

We love the Munchkin Miracle Cup. I bought one of these, realized it was amazing, then bought more and threw out everything else.

Amazon link (on mobile, sorry):
https://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/B00MRZIGVG/ref=mp_s_a_1_1_a_it?ie=UTF8&qid=1467161845&sr=8-1&keywords=spoutless+sippy+cup&pi=SY200_QL40

They are not 100% spillproof - when my daughter (who is now 19mo) throws them on the floor, a few drops fly out. But that's it. They're still way better than any other cup I've tried.

We get the Target Up & Up Advantage (generic for Similac Advance). It’s $21.99 for the 35oz tub and often buy them 3 at a time to get the $10 gift card. Also, in case you don’t have one already, a formula dispenser is a lifesaver for on-the-go.

Buy shaker bottles that have the screw in bottoms for the powder. I do this sometimes during busy days. you can have the powder ready and water cold and in the bottle like this - https://www.amazon.com/BlenderBottle-ProStak-22-Ounce-Bottle-Storage/dp/B00IOO2YSK

I've had good luck with these: https://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/B00XVASFGC/ref=mp_s_a_1_2_a_it?ie=UTF8&qid=1505233867&sr=8-2&keywords=duckbill+valve

I have a Spectra S2 and a Medela manual pump and can confirm they work with both.

Yep pretty much. My son hated it also and would almost immediately cry, but after after a few weeks, he got more used to it. Tummy time also strengthens their neck and core muscles so they can hold their head up better. Its very beneficial. If she hates it so much, just do it in short bursts often. We would commonly do 3 or 4 minutes before he hated it too much and would cry hard enough that I couldnt handle it and had to pick him up. To get rid of the flat spot, just gotta keep them off of laying on it during the day as best you can except for during naps. Carry them, put them in bouncy chairs, tummy time, anything you can think of that stops them from laying on their back during awake hours will work.


We had one of these which worked really well also once they are old enough: https://www.amazon.com/Bumbo-B10056-Floor-Seat-Blue/dp/B0092NNQ98

Edit: lol at the downvotes. I dont mean leave your kid crying on their tummy for hours. Just that they are probably going to cry for a couple of minutes which is perfectly fine because nearly all kids hate tummy time at first. Pick them up after a few minutes if they really hate it!

Yeah that Meal Prep Haven one looks cluuuutcccchhh.

Sorry it took me so long to get back to you.

This is what I use. Ya know, typical usage. Wash them at the end of the day when I'm done and when I heat up food I zap it for 1 minute.

This is my lunch bag that I use everyday. I bring it to work everyday. I use it as my quasi wallet/junk bag too. Wallet, smokes, iPod, vape, and random other assorted junks I use through out the day. It's got 3 "shelves" for tupperware containers, side pockets for junk or thermos or mixer bottle, within the main compartment you can fit a freezer pack, and finally it's all insulated. I swear by this thing.

I just found this on Amazon. Looks interesting. Figure it's better then baggies of brown "cocaine" in my lunch bag.

We use this.

We used to boil everything until the day I left everything boiling on the stove and forgot it. All of the nebulizers melted together into a colorful slab of plastic.

These three brands are the ones I have seen recommended, because they mimic the breast the most closely. They claim to limit colic and nipple confusion.

• Adiri
  
  
  
• Breastflow
  
  
  
• Born Free
  
  
  I have heard that this type of pacifier is nice, because it can't be upsidown in their mouth, and it has that little tab on it so that your baby can't easily get it in it's mouth sideways and get it stuck. It's also made of one single piece of medical grade silicone, so none of it can break off and choke your baby.
  
  
  Personally, I'm not putting any pacifiers or bottles on my registry because I don't know if I will actually need to use them or not. I figure people have doing just fine without them for hundreds of thousands of years, and if I have them around I might end up using them just because I have them.

We made homemade purées starting at 5 months. It’s pretty easy really. We had a magic bullet lying around for some reason, and that worked pretty well. A blender would work too. You don’t need some fancy baby food maker device.

Beyond that:

• a steam basket and a sauce pan for steaming vegetables
  
• this silicone freezer tray or a regular ice cube tray
  
• gallon freezer bags
  
  And that’s about it. We made a couple batches of various fruits or vegetables every week or two. The cubes last a while in the freezer, and we took a couple cubes out of the freezer every night to use the next day.

I use Muji tubs and pump bottles. If you're in an area that has one I'd definitely check it out. Not sure how the shipping is, or if it's worth it but something to consider.
Someone posted this once which seemed like a good idea for things that go in tubs since it's meant for powdered supplements and snacks so I doubt it leaks.

In my opinion: bring the car seat!
Pros:
-Buy a car seat trolley. http://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/B005CNEQK0/ref=mp_s_a_1_1_a_it?qid=1463885954&sr=8-1&keywords=carseat+trolley&pi=SY200_QL40 (sorry for formatting on mobile). It basically turns the carseat into a stroller.
It will keep them in their own space and you can relax. We were arriving from out of the country so we had to go through customs and the whole 9 yards and it kept her happy for 99% of try time.

-Your baby will be comfortable. Bring their normal car toys/snacks or whatever. It'll be no different than being in the backseat of the car.


Cons:
-It is big. It'll give them the ability to actually kick the seat in front of them. But personally I'd rather feel little feet tapping my back than potential screaming

-It adds time to boarding and disembarking. Takes approximately 3-5 minutes of having to unstrap it from the trolley and hook it into the seat. But sit at the back of the plane if you can (southwest should be relatively empty at the back) so you're not holding people up.

I know we took our daughter on a 2 hour flight last year (when she was about 14 months) and it was a looooong 2 hours with climbing all over us and fussing. We took her this year on the same flight with a car seat and it was like she wasn't even there for most of it...she slept for at least a solid hour.
I literally just got back today from the aforementioned flight, and I promise it was a breeze compared to no car seat. Worst case scenario is you have to check the car seat from the plane (it's not a big deal to do it that way I've done it with strollers before).

I just flew JetBlue so I'm not sure about Southwest, but if you get there early and board as soon as you can I'm sure you can get decent seats for your situation.

Good luck!

Try these:

https://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/B00278WA4W/ref=mp_s_a_1_3_a_it?ie=UTF8&qid=1488315049&sr=8-3&keywords=sippy+cup

The First Years Breastflow is supposed to be very good and somewhat similar to nursing. http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B001R1SOSG/ref=cm_cr_asin_lnk

But to be quite honest there's a good chance that he's just not ready yet and you might have to postpone your trip. My daughter refused cups and bottles as well and it wasn't till she was a year that I could go anywhere without her. I'm not saying that you should feel guilty for wanting to get away Lord knows I sure did, but sometimes you have to play the cards you're dealt.

I have used the Ameda Purely Yours and the Medela Pump in Style, generally I think the Medela is the most popular one, but I liked the Ameda more.

http://www.amazon.com/Gerber-Graduates-Grips-spill-Colors/dp/B00278WA4W/ref=sr_1_7?s=baby-products&ie=UTF8&qid=1410498808&sr=1-7
Gerber graduates! They have a little valve inside. Rarely the valve part falls off and it's a mess then, but it doesn't happen often. Definitely immune to shaking.

Dad here. We've been alternating since almost birth our two month and a half baby.

Hadn't had any issues with him not interested in nursing, and honestly, I really enjoy having the opportunity to feed him :)

We use Avent bottles, the 4oz ones. With #2 nipples. Also, it's a real life saver to have a practical sterilizer. We use this one:

http://www.amazon.co.uk/Philips-AVENT-SCF276-01-Steriliser/dp/B003P9WSVW

Now it seems they have a new model, probably this one:

http://www.amazon.com/Philips-AVENT-Electric-Steam-Sterilizer/dp/B0057ECYS0

You load the bottles, nipples and whatnot, and 6 minutes later they are ready to use.

At first it's kinda stressful measuring everything and getting the logistics in order. But after feeling like a master Chemist for doing your first few bottles, you'll get the hang of it.

Enjoy :D

Honestly, road trips when bubs was under 1 year were so much easier than they are now at 1.5. He gets bored much more easily now, and needs much more movement. If your kid is active, I agree with the other posters that it really helps to stop every couple hours at a rest stop and let him run around in the grass and fresh air for a few minutes.

As for the formula, could you just fill some bottles with water, then use a formula dispenser when it's time for a bottle? Something like this: https://smile.amazon.com/Munchkin-Formula-Dispenser-Combo-Colors/dp/B000RFCXIK/.

Good luck!

If I decide to pump exclusively after maternity leave, I am going to go with the Spectra. Specifically the Spectra S2 if they're still available (the first and third gens haven't had as many great reviews as the second).

Personally, I am going to breast feed and manually pump during my 6 week leave. I bought these breastflow bottles that I'm hoping will allow hubby to feed baby during the night with my pumped milk and not inhibit baby's taking to the nipple. I'm still contemplating how long I am going to breast feed. I believe I am going to try a combo approach closer to the end of leave and slowly wean baby off of the breast as he will have to be transitioned into day care.

Spectra has some excellent reviews, though, so I would really look into their products if they're covered by Aeroflow. There are two STMs that I work with who tried both Medela and Spectra and opted for the Spectra pumps. The biggest thing for me was the reviews about how quiet they are as I don't want to be announcing to my whole office that I'm pumping, you know?

"Unfortunately, the car seat we have is a convertible, so it’s pretty heavy and not meant to be carried around. "

FYI you can get a dolly to wheel the carseat around the airport, and the kid can sit in it too. We travel with a convertible seat often and it's fine. (one time we forgot the dolly and I had to carry the seat one handed to and from the plane, do not recommend that but not the end of the world)

Britax Car Seat Travel Cart, Black https://www.amazon.com/dp/B005CNEQK0/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_i_5Id4Cb7BGZ2A7

Hand wash them in a pot of soapy water. Then they go into the baby bottle sterilizer with fresh distilled water in the basin. I only do the distilled though to keep hard water buildup off my nebs, my town has very hard water.

Philips AVENT 3-in-1 Electric Steam Sterilizer https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0057ECYS0/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_8wk3CbTZVG7SG

The default size for the flanges for Medela brand is 24 mm. If you find the angle uncomfortable, consider getting the Pumpin Pal flanges. They come in packs of 3 with 3 different sizes. Kind of annoying, oh well. You can reuse the flanges, just put it in boiling water for 10 min to sanitize it. I wouldn't buy a pumping bra this early, your size will probably change.

Yes to tubing, it's good to have extras lying around. Be advised, they are generally sold in singles and you'll need 2 if you're dual pumping.

DO NOT PURCHASE MEMBRANES. Those stupid white flaps are crap. Get the duckbills instead.

I'm getting this one from Medela https://www.amazon.com/Medela-67068-Breastmilk-Cooler-Set/dp/B00H5OI9XO

These Ameda ComfortGel pads have helped me deal with blisters/skin getting ripped off

If I don’t use them I use Lanolin after every nursing or pumping session.

Looks like a bumbo seat to me. I never used one, but I’ve seen them a lot.

ETA: link

The Spectra is so much better. Spectra Baby USA Double/Single Breast Pump with Rechargeable Battery, 3.3 Pound

The S2 is cheaper because it doesn't have the built in battery, but it's great to be able to brush your hair and then go pack lunches all while pumping. You can also easily rig Medela parts to it if you want. They do make nice flanges and are more readily available.

Works for me: http://www.amazon.com/Intimia-Breast-Pillow-Wrinkles-Prevention/dp/B005EUH1A8

The Spectra is great! I had both the Medela PISA and the Spectra at first, but I was never able to get a letdown with the PISA. So I broke down and bought a second Spectra S2 (same as S1, but without the battery) so I wouldn’t have to carry it to and from work every day.

My pumping day is: Pump before work around 6am, then at work at 11 and 3. I bring flanges and other pump parts, 4 bottles, a pumping bra, and this cooler with ice pack. The cooler fits the Spectra bottles perfectly. In between pumping sessions at work I store the flanges in a clean ziplock bag in the fridge and wash them when I get home.

ETA: In the beginning I was pumping every three hours at work, but I was in the lucky position of pumping more than I needed and was able to drop a pump.

Congrats on the baby! I’m 3 months out. Here’s what worked for me. Please know that every woman and baby is different though!

For the first 3-4 weeks my baby ate only from the breast. This was to ensure that my body knew to make enough milk. Yes, it meant me waking up sometimes every 30 min - 1 hour for cluster feeds. Yes, it was so fucking tough on my nipples. (If her nipples hurt, I highly recommend these gel pads.). I almost quit multiple times. But as some others have posted, it’s really important in those early weeks to have baby on breast each time baby wants to eat so that your wife’s body knows to make enough milk. My husband helped by bringing the baby to me, handling diaper changes, and making sure that I was eating and drinking enough (this is important!! Her body needs the proper fuel to make milk.). We also had support from his mom who would hold the baby while we got in a nap for an hour or two. Once baby got back up to his birth weight and I felt like we were doing well with breastfeeding (around 3-4 weeks), I pumped about an hour after a feed in the early morning, which is when milk production is at the highest. Just make sure to leave around an hour between pump session and next feed. Then, the next night my husband fed the baby with this milk and I got up and pumped. It sucks, but it’s important for supply issues. Not pumping when baby is fed can lead to decreased supply and also potentially clogged ducts and mastitis from being too full of milk.

With regards to introducing a bottle, we started at 3-4 weeks. Not too early so as to avoid nipple confusion and bottle preference and not too late to avoid bottle refusal. We started with Dr. Brown’s level 1 nipple, but he was leaking milk out of his mouth and got a bit fussy at the breast, so we switched to preemie nipples to reduce the milk flow rate. Here’s a helpful chart on nipple flow rate.. It all depends on the flow rate from your wife too - if she has a strong letdown, slow letdown, etc. Hope the best for you guys!

Just hope she doesn't find the mr milker bras...


Edit: I only know of this because my FBIL#2 intercepted this package my FMIL bought and promptly returned it and told her she bought a fake item when it never showed up


Thank you FBIL#2. That guy deserves his own holiday for all the shit he has stopped

Not the OP but as someone who's gone through just about every sippy cup, my favorite are these.

https://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/B00H5OI9XO/ref=mp_s_a_1_2_a_it?ie=UTF8&qid=1520704181&sr=8-2&keywords=medela+cold+pack&dpPl=1&dpID=41060u4AsFL&ref=plSrch

I have this and it keeps it cold for 12 hours

[cups! Where do all the cups go?] (https://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/B0054YZDWC/ref=aw_wl_ov_dp_1_12?colid=4BT22CEFKD1R&coliid=I107PH0QV972T1) :)

Household additions:

• Handles in the shower
  
  
• Removable shower head
  
  
• Shower stool
  
  Temporary adjustments:
  
  
• Water near the places he'll be sitting. A large pitcher in the living room & the bedroom.
  
  
• Easy access to healthy, easy to eat snacks. Consider renting or borrowing a mini fridge if it's a long walk from a living space to the kitchen. Prepare snacks ahead of time.
  
  
• These sippy cups are awesome for anyone recovering from anything (I bought them for my husband after a surgery). You don't need to sit up to use them and they're absolutely spill proof. The downside is they may be hard to unscrew for your dad.
  
  Go through the house and act out common scenarios (bathroom, showering, eating, drinking, keeping tidy) and make sure all the essentials are in place for someone with limited mobility. Small things, like making sure a waste basket is in every room & easy to reach, can make a big difference.
  

I use an avent electric sterilizer.

The way you sit or even sleep may be the cause. Try to massage them throughout the day. When I was plugged up, I would massage the area constantly and push towards the nipple. It would be painful and it took more than a week, but finally went away.

Have you tried a straw cup? Like this one maybe?

If nothing else works, you might be able to get a large dropper from a pharmacy, just ask a pharmacist for a big one. My baby won't drink from anything, and I've had to give him formula that way. Gives him about an oz at a time.

A few things to think about --

Although there generally isn't harm to suckling on a pregnant woman's breasts, if your wife is at all going to have a high risk pregnancy, you may want to avoid suckling while she's pregnant as there is a chance that the oxytocin released into her body could cause her cervix to soften before it's supposed to. La Leche League suggests that women in high-risk pregnancies wean any existing children. For the rest of us, it's more than likely safe.

Obviously, no breast feeding for the first few days/weeks after childbirth, as the colostrum your wife will produce needs to be saved for the child.

In general, once the child is born, you can drink your fill after the baby is full.

While your wife is pregnant, practice your latch.

Here's a really helpful sticky post from Fetlife on adult latching and other topics.

1. The First Years Breastflow bottle is helpful for adults hoping to practice the vacuum/suction motion required for a proper latch. It's difficult to "trick" this particular bottle into releasing fluid without having a rhythmic latch. Drinking 3 - 5 ounces of fluids in the Breastflow each day should help in building tolerance and tone for suckling. Most adults will find this a bit tiresome and frustrating at first.
   
   https://www.amazon.com/First-Years-Breastflow-Bottle-Ounce/dp/B001R1SOSG?ie=UTF8&*Version*=1&*entries*=0
   
   
2. When initially beginning to latch-on to the breast, the suckler should gradually build their tolerance, as tired muscles do not maintain a solid latch. When the adult suckler's mouth and jaw become fatigued, they typically adopt a "lazy latch", meaning without realizing it, they begin to lightly use their teeth for a bit of natural leverage. No one wants to develop poor habits, so start with short periods of suckling.
   
   
3. The instructional latching videos created for mothers of nursing infants are still helpful for participants in ANRs. Adult sucklers need to ensure their upper lip strikes the breast just above the nipple, with the majority of their mouth falling below the areola. The action of coaxing the milk from beneath the areola, versus trying to "suck it from the nipple", is also consistent in all nursing relationships.
   However, since an adult mouth is much larger than that of an infant's, an adult suckler will not be able to duplicate the nipple placement explained in traditional latching videos. A baby's mouth is so compact that the hard and soft palates consume the majority of its structure. So, the adult nipple obviously reaches a great distance into the infant's mouth or well into the soft palate.
   
   The adult mouth has a much larger surface area, and the size of the hard and soft palates vary greatly, making nipple placement a much more variable factor. Since there is no scientific data regarding adult suckling, the exact nipple placement in an ANR is always going to rely on trial and error. EARLY communication is key. Discomfort should be immediately discussed and patiently problem solved. Remember, once poor habits develop, it's more difficult for the adult suckler to learn new strategies than it is to develop successful ones early on.
   
   https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Zln0LTkejIs
   
   
4. Pay close attention to body placement when problem solving latch difficulties. When working on latch problems, try to be side-by-side. Take time to make sure you're comfortable. The suckler is frequently too high on the nurser's body, so if there's continued latch discomfort, the suckler should move down towards the nursing partner's feet until the partner expresses greater latching comfort. It may surprise the couple how low the suckler is eventually placed before the latch feels right. Also, the suckler may have to switch sides before nursing the second breast. Sometimes a latch is not comfortable nursing both breasts from the same side; its just an inconvenient truth. In addition, EITHER the upper OR the lower breast may feel more comfortable being nursed on one side or the other; this too varies. Try to be flexible and start without preconceived notions until the latch feels free from discomfort.
   
   
5. Latching can feel uncomfortable during the Newman-Goldfarb protocol and during certain phases of the menstrual cycle. Higher levels of estrogen can cause nipple sensitivity for many women, which complicates the process of achieving a comfortable latch. If a normally painless latch feels uncomfortable, consider current estrogen levels as a potential cause.
   
   
6. Lower milk levels can contribute to a much less comfortable latch. The early stages of establishing a milk supply are generally some of the most difficult phases of latching. However, the more the glands and ducts develop, the more successful latching becomes, and the less discomfort suction causes. Hang in there! Use breast gel packs whenever possible to relieve discomfort and don't let those nipples crack. This is the time to lather on the nipple cream.

Ok, I will try to format this nicely, but for some reason it always comes out TERRIBLY, so if you see it's been edited, it's just for formatting. Also, I didn't do any sort of price search, so these links aren't the best price guaranteed.

Dream Team Pumping Purchases

• Spectra Pump S1/S2 - one has a battery, that's the only difference. You can vary both the suction strength and the suction frequency on both the milking and letdown settings. There is a timer (yay!), and it remembers your settings. The only drawbacks is the tubing has a strange surface finish that picks up everything, so that kind of sucks, and the default is it's not on the letdown setting when you power on.
  
  
• Pumpin Pal Flanges - Unfortunately these aren't compatible with the Spectra style pump parts, so you need some other pieces to use them. They draw the whole breast in, not just the part around the areola.
  
  
• Maymom Adapters - These allow you to use the Medela style connectors and flanges with the Spectra.
  
  
• Medela Connectors - These don't have to be Medela, they can be Maymom or Nenesupply, but I couldn't find ONLY the connectors from either companies in my quick search.
  
  
• Duckbill Valves - These are way better than the little yellow piece valve with a rubber flap (if the flap moves, it doesn't always work). These are one piece, way awesome.
  
  As for bottles to attach...you can use Ameda or Medela bottles, or any bottle that fits the Medela connectors (I use the Medela bottles and sometimes Dr. Brown's bottles since they fit (depends on what's clean).
  

My insurance totally covered this one: http://www.amazon.com/Medela-Pump-Style-Advanced-Breast/dp/B004HWXCJS/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1395185842&sr=8-1&keywords=medela+breast+pump

Get yourself some hydrogel breast discs. Continue to apply lanolin like there is no tomorrow but also the breast discs on top. They really speed up healing and feel AMAZING (particularly if you put them in the fridge first). Something like this: https://www.amazon.com/Ameda-17261M-ComfortGel-Hydrogel-Pads/dp/B003IP2L38/ref=sr_1_5_a_it?ie=UTF8&qid=1511837404&sr=8-5&keywords=hydrogel

These.

It's more expensive than you asked for but I highly recommend this Bumbo seat: Bought one of these for my first nephew and it lasted all three boys through infancy. Perfect for providing sturdy, hard-wearing seating whenever your family goes camping.

Nowdays you can also get a version with a tray, like this Mamas & Papas Baby Snug and Tray - Raspberry

Under $10: The Peepee Teepee for the Sprinkling WeeWee: 5 Camping in Cellophane Bag - Perfectly themed for changing junior's diapers out in the wilds.

Well the first thing I would buy would be these

Munchkin Miracle 360 Sippy Cup, Green/Blue, 10 Ounce, 2 Count https://smile.amazon.com/dp/B00MRZIGVG/ref=cm_sw_r_sms_apa_i_FoVhDbC3CDHW5

Now It depends if you like sippy cups or for bottles but having a pair of sippy cups around is really helpful I'm a daddy and I use my little sippy cup when I'm sick because these are so useful since you can fully tip them over and they won't spill. They have smaller ones with handles too.

Other then that I would suggest of blankie something soft that you can rub when stressed.

The rest depends on if your a little/middle, do you like oral things (like gum, cigarette/vape, chew on your hair fingers or lip) or are you more touch sensitive where blankets and stuffies of multiple fabrics and fluffiness would come into play. Are you an artistic little then crayons coloring books glitter and the like would be good buys.


but what are you looking at right now?

I would get one for a "just in case" situation. Is there a chance you could get stuck working late one night? Or can't get back home on your lunch break? I also work about 15 mins away from home, and there have been times where I've forgotten to get the milk in the fridge asap (thanks, Baby) and was thankful I had my cooler. I got a Medela cooler set and love it.

Yeah, it was a pain in the butt trying to wean him from it, but we did it in one day. He was like 3 months old by then. Hopefully you can find a way that works better. We also used the breast flow bottles which seemed to help correct his latch. http://www.amazon.com/The-First-Years-Breastflow-Bottle/dp/tags-on-product/B001R1SOSG

Our favorite straw cup is actually one of the Take n Toss cups. It's very basic but the lid has a seriously good grip to the cup. He tosses it on the floor and it only leaks two drips from what was in the straw. I've only had one crack open from dropping it.

http://www.amazon.com/The-First-Years-Straw-Ounce/dp/B0054YZDWC

The other we use for in the car or diaper bag is the munchkin click lock. It's spill proof but does leak from the straw a bit. He also has to work harder to use it. I tried it myself and it was pretty difficult. But, I don't have to supervise.

http://www.amazon.com/The-First-Years-Straw-Ounce/dp/B0054YZDWC

The one mentioned below from target on sale for $84.99 is like what we had. I don't recall the brand but it rocked side to side and it strapped them in like a car seat kind of.

Bumbo is a brand. Sold at target too. https://www.amazon.com/Bumbo-B10056-Floor-Seat-Blue/dp/B0092NNQ98

Philips AVENT Electric Steam Sterilizer

https://www.amazon.com/Philips-AVENT-Electric-Steam-Sterilizer/dp/B0057ECYS0/ref=gbps_img_m-6_f45d_ef99b5bf?smid=ATVPDKIKX0DER&pf_rd_p=c624455a-ed52-4f78-9f81-675ed6faf45d&pf_rd_s=merchandised-search-6&pf_rd_t=101&pf_rd_i=13887280011&pf_rd_m=ATVPDKIKX0DER&pf_rd_r=2HAGPYTTX86K3ZQ7VZ78&th=1

Yep, my daughter uses them. The First Years Take & Toss Spill-Proof Straw Cups - 10Oz, 4 Pack https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0054YZDWC/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_AtnPybN75GPQ8

Work out childcare backups -- people you can call if you have an emergency, need a date night, need a daycare.

Work out a pediatrician -- ask friends, your girlfriend's OB-GYN.

What I'm glad I had:

• car seat that doesn't turn into a baby carrier
  
• boppy pillow
  
• wearable baby carrier
  
• swaddle blanket
  
• a rock-n-play
  
  What I could have waited on:
  
  
• stroller until 6 months
  
• finishing his nursery until 6 months
  
• toys until 3-4 months
  

Try going to a thrift store, and searching through all the camisoles with a built-in elastic "bra". If you find a large enough one, they can support your breasts just enough to sleep comfortably without being too tight. This works for me, though mine are G/H so I'm not sure it'll work for you, but it's worth a shot! They also make things like this, which can help keep them separated while on your side.

I bought this breast separating pillow from Amazon and it made a huge difference to my comfort sleeping on my side. Also helped with morning chest wrinkles. Not sexy, but then neither is pregnancy 🙄

https://www.amazon.com/Intimia-Breast-Wrinkles-Prevention-Support/dp/B005EUH1A8

My son has these Nuby straw cups. They are easy to clean and a really good size for his little hands to hold. He drops them a lot and the plastic hasn't cracked or anything.

I've seen and appreciated my fair share of vaginas, and probably your fair share as well. And my appreciation has been appreciated. That's why I can be so adamant about the utter stupidity of making silly predilections out of vaginal characteristics.

One of the great things about being a man is that we have created the freedom for ourselves not to objectify women and create long lists of specifications that they must have for us to be attracted to them or to be able to love them. One of the greatest things about being a man is that we have the capacity to appreciate and love women for who they are. Both unfortunately and currently there are few better ways to appreciate their diversity and individuality than by appreciation of their vaginas.

When we start objectifying women and coming up with various and sundry detailed specifications for "our perfect woman," we are literally emasculating ourselves. We literally turn ourselves into women - objectifiers who carry around detailed mental checklists that we compare against the women for whom we are shopping. And there can be no greater symbol of that emasculation and feminization than the line on your spec sheet marked vaginal characteristic preference.

I mean c'mon, vaginal characteristic predilection has gotta be the most bitch-ass thing since Mr. Milker.

It's been awhile, but for me it was a Baby Bottle Sterilizer.

I hated boiling bottles and then if you forgot to do it, there were not clean bottles. Such a pain with a screaming, hungry baby!! I had it sitting there and when it got full, I automatically started it up, so never went without a clean bottle. ;-)

This product may help you out.

Why don't they just give him a normal glass with meals at daycare?

Failing that, show him how to drink from this sippy cup - http://www.amazon.com/Munchkin-Miracle-Sippy-Green-Ounce/dp/B00MRZIGVG/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1421360007&sr=8-1&keywords=360+sippy+cup

But buy it at a store, because 20 bucks for two of them is ridiculous.

Also - it won't kill him not to drink during the 8 or so hours he's at daycare. If he gets thirsty enough, I am sure he'll drink.

I bought like 10 different kinds of cups. Lots of people say the straw cups are the easiest but I could not get him to drink out of any cup other than a open cup.

What finally ended up working as a "sports top"

http://www.target.com/p/multicolored-tear-drop-bottles-2-pk-colors-may-vary/-/A-13788730

Which help him figure out this camelbak kids water bottle

CamelBak Kid's Eddy Water Bottle, Dino Party, .4-Liter https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00NXX0N76/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_QPysybZADAHRV

Now he also can use

Nuby 2-Pack No-Spill Cup with Flex Straw, 10 Ounce, Colors May Vary https://www.amazon.com/dp/B003N49ML8/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_hRysyb1E4YSRQ


Now that I look it seems like a logical transition. He couldn't figure out how to suck and once he figured that out he's been able to apply it to the other cups.

This took from 6 months to 15 months to find what works.

Have you tried a bumbo seat? As long as she can hold her head up she can use it. It fully supports her back to allow her to sit up and see what's going on. You can get a tray that attaches so she can bang teethers and rattles and such on it.

Edit: https://smile.amazon.com/Bumbo-B10056-Floor-Seat-Blue/dp/B0092NNQ98/ref=sr_1_1_m?s=baby-products&ie=UTF8&qid=1480706101&sr=1-1&keywords=Bumbo

Search for breastfeeding simulator or breastfeeding dad or similar.

I know nothing about this particular item other than it came up on a Google search.

https://www.amazon.com/Milker-Now-Men-Can-Breastfeed/dp/B00BJLSD3U

It really is a huge help to have them in the seat on the plane. I don't travel often but I bought a used lighter and cheaper seat to use for one trip earlier this year.

I also bought this:
https://www.amazon.ca/Britax-Seat-Travel-Cart-Black/dp/B005CNEQK0/ref=cm_cr_arp_d_product_top?ie=UTF8

It won't get used often, but it was soooooo nice to have in the airport, partly because the kids can sit in their seat while you pull it.

We use the Munchkin 360 cups and Contigo cups for water and Take and Toss for milk.

None of these have a chewy, durable nipple though. My son was EFF/bottle fed (Dr. Browns) so we did a few weeks of this transitional bottle before making the switch. But ultimately the 360 cups worked best from 6M-1 year and then the hard spout on the Contigo was just easier for him after his first birthday.

Just in case you or someone else is wondering about this, I saw an awesome solution on r/SCA: these bad boys (in the 40cc size). I filled each compartment with product and it's been amazing for traveling, sleepovers, etc.

http://www.amazon.com/Gerber-Graduates-Grips-spill-Colors/dp/B00278WA4W/ref=sr_1_2?ie=UTF8&qid=1374509775&sr=8-2&keywords=sippy+cups

plug in an external keyboard (or wireless one)

If you are on the go. This is what I recommend!

http://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/B004HWXCJS/ref=mp_s_a_1_sc_1?qid=1370534482&sr=8-1-spell&pi=SL75

It is what I have. Everything is conveniently in a bag.
Clean up is easy.

Cooler bag to store milk so it doesn't spoil. Etc.

I use this when I'm at school.


Though I wish I heard about this one.

http://www.medelabreastfeedingus.com/products/463/freestyle-breastpump

It doesn't need an outlet

I also have sensitive nipples. It did hurt in the beginning but we worked through it and I'm so glad we did. It was absolutely worth it. Also: nipple shield, and nipple gel pads

I like the duckbill ones a lot better because they are easier to get off. These are the ones I have.

I use one of these

Blender Bottle makes good shakers, which is how I prefer to mix my powder most days. The real secret though is those pro stak containers. I picked up the extra 2 pack of larger (250cc) containers as well. The larger ones are the perfect size for a meal of Soylent and the smaller ones are good for snacks.

I generally weigh it all on the scale the night before, snap the containers to the bottle (I usually put a smaller one inside the shaker too) and all I have to grab in the morning is my shaker bottle. I love it!

This one. i like that it's a closed double pump and actually it's one of the highest rated on Amazon. It doesnt come with a carrying bag but that doesn't matter to me. If Tricare will only cover a few select ones though, like other insurers, I'd pick whichever one is free. :)

I have so much experience with sippy cups lol. My son has sensory issues and straw cups do not work well, and he cannot drink out ofa normal cup.

The ones that we started with were these. They are great for just starting out. Nice handle, easy to clean, etc.

Ones that I love are Gerber. They have a very large insert that does not get lost and they do not leak.

Ones that I think are okay are Playtex and The First Years. Playtex are nice because the spout doesn't get gross (my son bites the spout of his cups), but they do leak a little bit if your child is like mine and shakes the cup upside down. The insert is easily lost but they sell replacements. The First Years are nice the first two months you use them, but they get gross. The spout has a little rubber part that cannot be removed, and it eventually grows mold. They also eventually will leak pretty badly because the spout gets stretched out.

I do not like the take and toss cups. Some people swear by them but they leak like crazy, and my son would just bite the lid off and dump whatever was in them everywhere.

We went through SO MANY cups! I finally found this one and it works like a charm (kid is almost 3 and still uses them). We just take the straw on the inside out, because he can't grasp the concept that you DON'T tilt the cup to your face.

I agree with the OP of this comment, too. Your kid is just doing normal 11 month old stuff. Early intervention isn't going to be much help when he's pretty much done with bottles!

Get on amazon and buy these. Pay for the fast shipping.

http://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/B003IP2L38/ref=mp_s_a_1?qid=1348250700&sr=8-2

These saved me with both of my babies!

Also, start nursing twice in a row per side for a few feedings - so left left right right - get it?
This will give each nipple more time to heal after a feeding. Apply something cold- like an ice pack or ice wrapped in a soft baby washcloth before AND after nursing. The cold can give you a little numbness before nursing and be really soothing after.

These are really, really great: http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B00CZAQIZ4/ref=oh_aui_detailpage_o04_s00?ie=UTF8&psc=1

They are leak proof, small and you can add on or take away different sizes as needed.

We've used these and these for years.

As a 4x parent, I am no expert, but more of a skilled advisor.

A "nose frida" is helpful for when a child gets congested and wont let you use "the bulb" on their nose. https://www.amazon.com/NoseFrida-The-Snotsucker-Nasal-Aspirator/dp/B00171WXII?th=1

Bumbos are nice for when they are a few months old - plop them in that bad boy and it helps them if they are tired of laying on their back: https://www.amazon.com/Bumbo-B10056-Floor-Seat-Blue/dp/B0092NNQ98/ref=sr_1_1_s_it?s=baby-products&ie=UTF8&qid=1484947425&sr=1-1&keywords=bumbo

Blankets & burp cloths galore - you can never have enough!

If you are a worrier, a SIDS monitor is helpful, but they are spendy: (and currently out of stock, but its a starting point!) https://www.amazon.com/Owlet-Baby-Monitor-Current-Version/dp/B013PY7FJQ

Maybe add some "days off work" to your list?

Also don't forget things for YOU - make sure you have food, clothes, nursing bras, nursing pads (to stop leakage), lanolin (to stop cracking) tissues, and netflix/hulus to last you a couple weeks (it will fly by and you wont' feel like dragging the kids to the store for just one or two things).

Otherwise--I say don't worry too much about it. As long as the kids have food to eat and diapers to poop in, you don't NEED a whole lot else (want is different!). Good luck!

This isn't gospel or anything, but just info I gleaned. If you plan on breastfeeding and want bottles for either - breaks for you or to give babe pumped milk when you're at work - then Dr. Brown's Natural Flow are popular, nipple size preemie or newborn to start. They don't let milk out as fast (sort of like a boob) so hypothetically your baby doesn't start being like "no boob - I want that fast flow!!" Also, if you're going back to work and/or just pumping and saving a lot, some freezer bags for milk, microwave sterilizing bags, and breastmilk soap (search: medela quick clean removal soap on amazon) are super handy to have around. If you plan on pumping some extra bottles (I just used medela plastic ones, they might have even come with my pump...) are nice for collecting milk (although lots of women do it straight into bags, i wasn't that talented :) )

If you're not planning on breastfeeding and want to go formula I know my sister in law likes the glass bottles because they clean nice. Things like a long handled mini scrubber or bottle warmer is nice too. I don't have a good guess of how many bottles you need in this scenario, but someone likely will!

You certainly will use sippy cups and kid cutlery at some point, so if you have the space for it - go for it. These are my favorite sippy cups because you can separate the lid into 2 parts and REALLY get it cleaned as opposed to the other ones which always smell a little funny no matter how often I clean them :/

I got this one twice cause 2 kids-- it was really the only one the hospital offered. I liked it alright, but honestly struggled with pumping. I don't think it was the pumps fault though--the struggle was part not being hydrated enough and part because I struggled with "let down" when it was a machine and not my kid nursing. I had a manual one that I used a couple times when I was engorged while travelling, but I actually found that hand expressing was a little easier. The manual pump gave my hands a cramp after a few minutes. That's pretty much the extent of my breast pump advice. Oh and since you're gonna nurse-- LANOLIN and lots of it.

BlenderBottle ProStak System with 22-Ounce Bottle and Twist n' Lock Storage, Black/Black

Does anyone know where I can buy BlenderBottle's GoStak locally?

I second the take and toss! They're the closest to the ones I used as a kid. They're just not leak/spill "proof".

I've also had pretty good luck with these ( Gerber Graduates Fun Grips Hard Spout Sippy Cup in Assorted Colors, 10-Ounce, 2 cups https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00278WA4W/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_oxewxbF8PFMWM ) and another one that I can't remember the brand but it was like the cheapest one at Walmart. Good luck!

I started getting those too, because I'm a side sleeper, and my boobs would smoosh together. If you're a side sleeper too, you might want to look into a boob pillow.

Maybe I just have a forceful kid, here are the cups we have tried and how they stack up


Leak

• oxo tot straw cup
  
• munchkin 360
  
• nuby no spill
  
  Small / minimal leaks
  
• Tervis
  
  
  Don’t leak (so far...)
  
• munchkin weighted straw (this is a beginner cup though and is very slow flow)
  
• contigo (make sure it’s this design for ease of cleaning)
  
• platex stage 3 (these are the newest to the collection and used exclusively for juice, the special treat, so maybe he doesn’t want to try to spill these)

One poster linked this: https://www.amazon.com/Intimia-Breast-Wrinkles-Prevention-Support/dp/B005EUH1A8

I bought this skip hop diaper bag and the medela bottle cooler bag . I found diaper bag at my local Home Goods for $20 and it fits the cooler and my Spectra S2 pump perfectly. I usually just leave the bag/pump at work and only bring home the washable parts and cooler daily.

I have not tried them yet (pregnant with my first), but have heard that the Ameda hydrogels last a lot longer than the other brands. Still disposable, but much less so than medela. You can get them on Amazon here.

Salmon, skin down on a cast iron griddle. Get that skin all crispy and enjoy.

Yummmmm.

No soup for you!

Here's a kitchen related item

They keep well. I have one of these bad boys that I cook and store them in. Thinking about buying a second one because my husband has started sneaking mine. It fits comfortably in an 8 at but for the 6qt you'll have to trim the corners.

BabyBliss Eco Friendly Silicone Baby Food Freezer Storage Tray | 9 Large Cups (2.5 Oz) | Clip-On Silicone Lid | Toxin and BPA Free & FDA Approved | Ov https://www.amazon.com/dp/B01M188L3L/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apip_J5XdHuFBZHppi

We just kind of dove in. We offered a cup at mealtimes, and once he got more of that in his mouth than on his lap, we started offering a cup throughout the rest of the day too. Right now, we offer a regular cup like this shot glass whenever he asks for water, and he has access to one of the 360 cups full of water on a low shelf in the dining room at all times.

Rose went from bottles straight to straws. She didn't figure out sippy cups until she was 2. We went with a Tommee Tippee variety at first, and then bought some Munchkin ones like this. Now we use cups like these, and they have sippy cup lids too (my second daughter prefers sippy lids to straw lids).

My daughter refused traditional sippy cups at all costs. The only cup that worked for us were straw sippy cups like this:

http://www.amazon.com/Nuby-2-Pack-No-Spill-Flexi-Colors/dp/B003N49ML8

current post-workout protein is this: [ISO Pure] (https://www.amazon.com/Isopure-Protein-Powder-Isolate-Flavor/dp/B012T9EYQA/ref=sr_1_4_a_it?ie=UTF8&qid=1523940240&sr=8-4&keywords=isopure)

And buy these: [blender bottles and storage cups] (https://www.amazon.com/BlenderBottle-ProStak-22-Ounce-Bottle-Storage/dp/B00IOO2YSK/ref=sr_1_5?ie=UTF8&qid=1523940457&sr=8-5&keywords=blender+bottle)

easy way to add protein to your diet

My LO started doing the choking/coughing this week while bottle feeding. I found that she needs to burp whenever she does it. Of course she throws a fit an gets super fussy because she still wants to eat but still needs to burp. Once she burps she starts to eat again fine.

If you want to slow him down while eating and have more of a "breast" like eating experience I would suggest the Breastflow bottle as it slows them way down. But it's also kind of an annoying bottle. You can't get all of the milk out when feeding. But it's the one our LC suggested when we were still trying to BF.

Wow. Thanks for the advice. I really appreciate your input. Thanks for sharing the pics too :)

I'm planning on taking the first two weeks off to help my wife. My wife is taking a full 12 weeks, and I've made it clear to my retired mother-in-law that she's welcome to move in for that first month. She's wonderful and should be a great help.

We're getting there. Picked up a Sony Nex-5N over Christmas to capture all the memories. Also definitely planning to get this Medela and the Miracle blankets.

As for my original question, we did find a recliner we like. It's the Havana recliner from Macy's. It's a bit pricey but we called and it's supposed to go on a one-day sale tomorrow, so we'll see. We're planning to pull the trigger tomorrow. I must say, it's not easy finding a modern recliner with nice, clean lines. They all look like teddy bears.

In our search, we did come across this awesome glider recliner loveseat (8908 style). Both sides independently recline and glide. Amazing if you're prepared to drop $1300.

Something like this?

https://www.amazon.co.uk/Blender-Bottle-ProStak-Protein-storage/dp/B00IOO2YSK

So your pour the whole bottle in, with cotton wool at the botttom?

Can you put something tasty in them, like diluted apple juice or even cold water? My girl has been on sippy cups since we started solids (with water) so we've tried several different kinds. These are our faves this and this

What pump do you use?
You could try these to replace your parts.

I had the spectra s2 and replaced my duckbill valves with these after a few months. They also can replace the valve/membrane combo on the medela!

It sounds crazy but when I'm tossing and turning at night, I sometimes wonder.

[This one makes wrinkle-fighting claims.] (http://www.amazon.com/Intimia-Breast-Wrinkles-Prevention-Support/dp/B005EUH1A8) [This is more basic.] (http://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/B00DZFUXPE/ref=mp_s_a_1_2_a_it?qid=1457919197&sr=8-2&keywords=breast+pillow)

It is so hard at the beginning! My first never latched well and we ended up exclusively pumping and eventually switching to formula at 10 weeks. We had to do what we could to save our sanity.

My second ended up having a tongue and lip tie. It was so painful that first week before they were discovered! As soon as we got them both revised, things got easier. She was still constantly eating the first month, but I was able to keep my soreness to a minimum with lanolin and Medela soft shells for sore nipples. I highly recommend those soft shells! Also Ameda hydrogels provided great relief the first week when we were battling the tongue and lip tie. They last for several days.

Here's links to both but they also sell them at like Babies R Us type stores if you want to run out and get some immediately:

Ameda ComfortGel Hydrogel Pads https://www.amazon.com/dp/B003IP2L38/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_Am1LybZ3NTJGR

Medela SoftShells for Sore Nipples https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00LSP1PE6/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_Gn1Lyb42HY72B

I've only tried these: Nenesupply 5 Count Duckbill Valves for Medela and Spectra. Designed for Spectra S1 Spectra S2 Spectra and Medela Pump In Style Not Original Spectra Pump Parts Replace Medela Valve and Spectra Valve https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00XVASFGC/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_MUcWBb26HRDY0

And I don't think they work as well as original so I bit the bullet and bought the originals. I know reviews say they are just as good, but that wasn't my experience.

They are too small for the travel cart (baby luggage roller). One thing that helped us was this https://www.amazon.com/Munchkin-Formula-Dispenser-Combo-Colors/dp/B000RFCXIK?th=1 Or something similar.

They are also a have these, which helped a lot for snacks, but you are too early for that too. https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B06XBSQC26/ref=s9_acsd_topr_hd_bw_bPeLSV_c_x_w?pf_rd_m=ATVPDKIKX0DER&pf_rd_s=merchandised-search-11&pf_rd_r=YWWRS3ECJNP8NXXRJSQB&pf_rd_t=101&pf_rd_p=c4a6ef1b-1185-599f-85a0-59ba492404e0&pf_rd_i=379024011&th=1

Extra pacifiers (probably five just in case), they will always drop them in the most inconvenient places. Keeping them up after feeding and before boarding worked well for us, but neither of us ever had to do it alone. For the flight, plan, plan, plan and then take it as it comes.

Here are mine:

• Secure Beginnings Crib Mattress - a totally breathable crib mattress. You can take the "sleep surface" off and throw it in the washing machine when needed. I surprisingly don't do it that often. The mesh fabric and space under it helps in temperature regulation and air exchange. Basically, helped me as a new mom not worry about suffocation. I ended up going wild and getting two sleep surfaces per mattress. I got one set in the regular size and a mini crib for our room.
  
• LED Touch Light - these suckers are rechargeable and hold their charge a long time. They're super portable. What I like best is that you can turn them suuuuper dim, which is great for middle of the night wake ups and diaper changes. We have one hanging from our headboard and one hanging above the changing table. And then another around the house. There are tons of sellers of this type of product and they're quite inexpensive.
  
• Wet Bag - a reusable and washable bag to stash wet/dirty stuff. An essential for cloth diaperers, but also great for pooped on clothes, bathing suits, etc.
  
• Fischer-Price Ultra-Lite Day and Night Play Yard - this is a smaller and less expensive version of a traditional pack and play. We kept it in the living room and baby spent a lot of time there as a newborn.
  
• Gripe Water Lots of gripe water. Good for gas, sometimes hiccups, and gentle relief for stomach upset. Also helps some newborns poop.
  
• Grovia Magic Stick Diaper Balm - made for cloth diapers, but would work for sposies. A barrier "cream" on a stick, so you don't have to get your fingers gross. Smells amazing - I literally sniff the stick every time we use it.
  
• Freemies - great for hands-free pumping, especially in the car or at work. Fits inside the shirt. Can be hit or miss on if it works for individuals, but it works GREAT for my boobs. Regular flanges hurt me and didn't yield good output, but Freemies agreed with my body wonderfully.
  
• Spectra Pump I have nothing but good things to say about the Spectra pump. I have the S1 (battery operated), S2 (plugs in), and the S9 (battery operated, but not as fancy as S1). I haven't had any issues with my pumps, but others have had great customer service experiences. It's a "closed" system, which means it's impossible for milk to get into the pump on accident. This is a good thing.
  
• Kiinde Storage Bags - these breastmilk storage bags are more expensive, but highly durable. I love the twist top - much easier to use then a zipper top. We used the whole bottle system from 0-6 months. At six months, he realized he could take the nipple off the bottle and we switched to Como Tomo bottles. But for those months, it was SO NICE to just send the bags to daycare and wash only the nipples (the shells stayed at daycare).
  
• Lillebaby Complete Airflow Baby Carrier - while baby carrier preferences will vary widely by body type and personal preferences, I love my Lillebaby most. It doesn't require any special insert for newborns and the lumbar support was awesome. The airflow version was great, as I live in a very hot state.
  
• Lectrofan Sound Machine - you may be wondering why this is $45 and other sound machines are $20. Because it is amazing, that is why. Seriously 100% amazing.
  
  Hope this helps somebody!
  
  Edit: added a few more after the Spectra.

I bought this guy: Philips AVENT 3-in-1 Electric Steam Sterilizer https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0057ECYS0/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_tai_GOu6BbVTANBMP

HHere ya go! It doesn’t have a drying option, but after doing tons of research this is what we chose. The price can’t be beat.

I have a Medela hand pump with those membranes. I'm not a fan because it's easy to lose the little white parts.

I prefer these off brand replacements (cheaper, too): Nenesupply 5 Count Compatible Duckbill Valves for Medela and Spectra for Spectra S1 Spectra S2 https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00XVASFGC
It's kind of funny that they come in a 5 pack.

Just because you're working 2 jobs I hope you don't expect her to do the household chores (and later baby care) by herself. Remember there's nothing more manly than cooking for your woman. And why should women breastfeed?

I'm late to the party... I use the BlenderBottle ProStak. It's just the right size for mixing up one meal, and doesn't require additional measuring equipment for the milk. Bonus, the little cup on the bottom is just large enough to fit a single scoop of Schmilk if you want to stow a meal for later.

Munchkin 80103 Powdered Formula Dispenser Combo-Pack (Colors May Vary) https://www.amazon.ca/dp/B000RFCXIK/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_i_DCZyCb82T3ZPF

Having the two options (single and multi) was definitely handy.

Not sure where you are located, but here in Canada, President's Choice makes their own version that I have seen in Loblaws.

My son figured out the camelback straw cup at like 9 months. He snatched my cup and used it. We got him his own and he likes it. I wouldn't call it leak proof though. It leaks quite a bit after being bumped around a lot. We use these and so far they are the least leaky (it still happens on occasion but way less than anything else) and they can take quite a beating (our son throws his around a LOT).

https://www.amazon.com/Nuby-2-Pack-No-Spill-Straw-Colors/dp/B003N49ML8/ref=zg_bs_166801011_17?_encoding=UTF8&psc=1&refRID=0WD0VFS2DCK9Y4390Z3J

You could try a blender bottle, pour hot Starbucks in and add the coconut oil and butter from the bottom little cup.

With the separate little cup you can have 2 portions of oil and butter in it and use half each time to get 2 meal replacements.

• Diapers Sensitive skin runs in our family and the regular brands made her break out something awful but cloth, babyganics and [up & ups] (http://www.target.com/p/diapers-bulk-plus-pack-select-size-up/-/A-15121671 ) worked great. Pull Ups for older ones.
  
  
• Potty Training We have [This one] (https://www.amazon.com/dp/B01C431NRE/ref=twister_B01E930B16?_encoding=UTF8&th=1) and [This one] (https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B00F667QS2/ref=oh_aui_search_detailpage?ie=UTF8&th=1)
  
  
• High Chair like this
  
  
• [Stroller] (https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B00H8MQBFQ/ref=oh_aui_search_detailpage?ie=UTF8&th=1) its well padded and is comfy for even the older kids.
  
  
• Carrier We have [This one] (https://www.amazon.com/Carrying-Positions-Carrier-Detachable-Included/dp/B01IUS08FK/ref=sr_1_4_a_it?ie=UTF8&qid=1478452855&sr=8-4&keywords=mei+tai) and a ring sling that I still use but I wish we had bought one like [This] (https://www.amazon.com/Infantino-Cuddle-Ergonomic-Hoodie-Carrier/dp/B01B45KW0C/ref=sr_1_6_s_it?s=baby-products&ie=UTF8&qid=1478453079&sr=1-6&keywords=carrier) It would be easier to put on.
  
  
• [Nursing pillows] (https://www.amazon.com/Boppy-Nursing-Pillow-Positioner-Peaceful/dp/B00HMGBJCS/ref=sr_1_4_s_it?s=baby-products&ie=UTF8&qid=1478458541&sr=1-4&keywords=nursing+pillow) my husband used it all the time and this is her favorite spot to cuddle up still
  
  
• Pack n Play
  
  
  
• Bouncer chair I believe ours was the previous model.
  
  
• [Swing] (https://www.amazon.com/4moms-rockaRoo-Baby-Swing-Classic/dp/B00I0BVQFO/ref=sr_1_27_s_it?s=baby-products&ie=UTF8&qid=1478452147&sr=1-27&keywords=swing&th=1) We have one similar to it the other ones tend to be a pain to move around.
  
  
• Some sort of walker This or [This] (https://www.amazon.com/Bright-Starts-Around-Activity-Zippity/dp/B00OC8B1IQ/ref=sr_1_6?s=toys-and-games&ie=UTF8&qid=1478454444&sr=1-6&keywords=activity+jumper) or [This] (https://www.amazon.com/Evenflo-ExerSaucer-Learn-Jumper-Jungle/dp/B006PB2H4A/ref=sr_1_7?s=toys-and-games&ie=UTF8&qid=1478454444&sr=1-7&keywords=activity%2Bjumper&th=1)
  
  
• Some sort of activity toys like This, This,
  
  Comfy rocking chair
  
  When it comes to cribs, pack n plays, rock n plays, bouncers and swings its upto the childs taste. Out of my nieces and nephews 1 always napped in a rock n play, 1 in the swing, 1 would sleeps anywhere, 1 would sleep on mommy or a boppy, 1 in the crib and my daughter would only sleep in the carrier or being held. She never used the rock n play, crib or pack n play but loved the bouncer and occasionally accepted sitting in the boppy or swing. They are all so different. With our little girl her reflux was so bad that if she was laid flat she would immediately throw up.
  
  
  (I will edit to add more when I get a minute)

Breast milk and letting them get lots of air! When you can't just hang out topless, just a tiny bit of coconut oil feels really great. Also these things. You can put them in the fridge and they feel SO good. But don't use them with milk or oil, just a little bit of water if you don't want to use them dry since they can be kind of sticky.

They promote improper swallowing and tongue thrust issues. You should use something like this:
Munchkin Miracle 360 Sippy Cup, Green/Blue, 10 Ounce, 2 Count https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00MRZIGVG/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_i_zOvYDbH6SNSBZ
And try to have them drinking from an open cup (at least at mealtimes) by age two.

Oh! My LO is the SAME WAY. We use these and she LOVES them. She also can't close them and then cry when she can't open them back up, so that's nice. We've also recently bought one of these for water because it holds more than a sippy cup. She LOVES hitting the button to open it!

Ya, that. The early stuff is mostly about you.

That said, you could get him this.
http://www.amazon.com/Milker-Now-Men-Can-Breastfeed/dp/B00BJLSD3U

We had a long journey from fast flow bottles in the NICU to breastfeeding with no problem. The double nipple bottles (Breastflow) were a huge help for us. They make the baby both suck and squeeze, mimicking the nursing motions. Then we did a nipple shield and slowly weaned off of that. It took about 3 weeks before he would breastfeed without any extra stuff. Now he switches back and forth without any issues.

One thing I've found is sometimes my nipples deflate when he's trying to latch. I tug on them and get them to perk up so he has something to grab on to. It seems to help when he's frustrated. Also try different ways to hold your breast, her head, etc. Different pillows (i.e. Boppy vs. bed pillow) can make a difference too.

Try not to put extra pressure on yourself. It does take time and practice.

EDIT: I remembered something the lactation consultant had me do. Start out with a bottle and give her a little snack so she isn't freaking out. Then try to breast feed. We did this same method to wean off the nipple shield and it worked great.

Check if you or your SO gets a discount through work. I was surprised to find both my work and my husbands had signed up for parent hood support groups. I got my Medela Pump in style at half price and I like it. Medela Pump in Style Advanced Breast Pump with On the Go Tote However, you should not lend or sell your pump. It would be like sharing used underwear and it is advised against for health reasons.

Express milk can stay at room temp for 6-8 hours before going bad. For night time I set up two bottles of 2/2.5oz. One goes with me to the bedroom (we co sleep) and the other goes in the fridge. Some times she will eat half the room bottle as we transition her from sleeping in her swing to the room, so when she wakes up for her middle of the night feeding I feed her what's left of that bottle then bring her out to the husband (he sleeps on our couch cause he was really bad insomnia) to sleep in her rocker/ eat her second bottle while I pump. I then fill up two more bottles when I'm done pumping. Same thing one goes with me and the other ones in the fridge for her morning feeding.

For outings I have the Medela cooler ( http://www.amazon.com/Medela-67068-Breastmilk-Cooler-Set/dp/B00H5OI9XO ) I have a pre set bottle of 2/2.5 and then I take a couple bottles with me. My lo isn't picky about the temp of the milk, so she will drink it straight out of the cooler. If yours are picky then I recommend filling up a bottle after the finish the one they are on so it has time to get to room temp.

I got the Medela pump in style that is built into a tote bag. Everything fits and pack up inside, then you can just zip down the side panel to access the pump/tubes. I comes with a mini cooler bag that I put my bags of milk in at the end of day. My commute is only half an hour so I don't even put an ice pack in it, just go from work fridge to home fridge.

This is it:
http://www.amazon.com/Medela-Pump-Style-Advanced-Breast/dp/B004HWXCJS

I've heard wonderful things about this Spectra one. My insurance paid for the Medela PISA, but I plan to buy this one out of pocket if it doesn't work out for me. It's hospital grade and less than 200$.

I tend to do smaller ring, and micro mail, and use GoStak containers which are nice and portable:

https://www.amazon.com/BlenderBottle-GoStak-Storage-4-Piece-Starter/dp/B00CZAQIZ4

I keep my 18ga 3/16" rings in the taller ones.

http://www.amazon.com/Medela-Pump-Style-Advanced-Breast/dp/B004HWXCJS/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1376648292&sr=8-1&keywords=Breast+pump

Additionally, I've gone out of my way to provide a private place for people to breast feed. From empty offices, to empty classrooms. All you have to do is ask. I've actually gone far out of my way to make sure someone could breastfeed in private.

Oh, where to start.

I guess, first of all, equipment will probably be pretty low on you concerns. Any thing you end up lacking can usually be remedied with a couple quick emergency shopping trips by dad. That said, I can recommend some stuff.

• burp cloths..
  
• a yoga ball for bouncing.
  
• breast pump and bags..
  
• new born pacifiers.
  
  And there are other things you might like such as small blankets, blackout curtains for the windows.
  
  However, what I think is the most important is to setup your support network. A lot of people don't get this established in time, and it can make a lot of difference in your quality of life. You may get a really easy baby, but even in the best of times, you'll benefit from help.
  
  My wife signed up for a new parents meet up this one won't work for you, but if you can find something similar, it can be a huge help to have other moms going through the same thing you are, and she made some really good friends. Also, establish, if you can, some people to help out. Do you live near any of the grandparents? Can they come over once a week to help with laundry and dishes for the first few weeks? Can you make some frozen dinners to ear when you're to exhausted to cook? Is there going to be anyone who might be able to give you a couple hours off to sleep or recharge if you're running on empty? These sorts of things are hugely helpful.
  
  I'm sure you'll get lots of help finding out what products you'll want in you life, but my 2c is to spend some time arranging the people you'll want in your life as well.

What brand are you drinking?

There are a number of protein shake mixes available that run about 25g protein and <4g of carbs. I'll usually make one with an extra half/full-scoop of pure whey protein (+12-25g of protein) and 1 Tbsp of MCT oil (+14g of fat) and 1 Tbsp of heavy cream (+6g of fat). Sometimes I'll add 2 Tbsp of flax meal (0 net carbs) or sliced almonds (+5g of fat, +1g of net carbs, +2g of protein, +1g fiber) if I'm running the immersion blender through it. Almond flour would be a good alternative if you want to use a blender bottle. Toss in a little K-salt (.25 tsp) to get your potassium up as well with negligible impact on flavor. The bitterness of the K-salt actually seems to help cut the perceived sweetness too. If you're taking creatine, you could mix that in as well.

If you need something that will travel, get a blender bottle and some of their little stacking cup things. The MCT oil should travel okay, just keep it out of direct sunlight. If you have access to a cooler or fridge (or it's winter and you live somewhere cold) the heavy cream is an option too. I'd avoid pre-mixing the dry and wet ingredients though, I've not had good results doing so.

I would put the premeasured water in the bottles and send the measured formula in in one of these formula dispenser

my sister swears by a breast pillow like this one She puts it on under her pjs and it prevents the between-the-boobies wrinkles like the ones you're describing.

My little girl will drink from her straw cup but loses interest at the breast. My logic is that the nursing slows her down, with a cup she can keep playing and drink whenever she wants to.
Try a straw cup like this one. There's a lot of bad reviews, mostly because the bottom straw is not long enough to reach the bottom so I'm trying to find these because you can trim the straws to fit the playtex bottles. Anyways, I use these for now, even though if she throws the cup it spills everywhere, I try to keep it contained by taking the cup away if I notice she's not interested anymore.

That's awesome!

Since its $500 though, I will add on a suggestion that would be not quite as cool, but much cheaper. You can buy car seat travel carts, like this, this, or this, and use them with the car seat you already have.

We offered it cold from the fridge, or room temp. Made night feedings a bit easier.

Things that worked for us (2 kids, both formula-fed after 3 months each due to PPD):

mix a batch of formula for overnight, if you're using powdered. Protein shake mixer cups work wonderfully for that.

Don't warm bottles past room temp - makes it easier if you are out and can't warm a bottle.

Powdered and liquid ready-to-feed formula apparently do not taste the same to baby. My son will not drink RTF formula, only powdered.

for on-the-go with powdered formula, you can use small containers for formula like this one.

Coupons - most manufacturers have some sort of coupon program. Enfamil and Similac bith regularly send out $5 off coupons.

watch for deals - Babies R Us and Target often have good ones.

Dr Brown's wipes - if you are out and about, use 'em to clean a bottle instead of carrying 87 bajillion bottles or trying to do dishes.

Get the least complicated and most readily available bottles your baby will accept. Least complicated means fewer parts to wash, readily available means replaceable if one is lost/broken/whatever.


Good luck, mama!

Yeah, those are great. I have two styles of baby food molds. I use the rounded 7-compartment mold in my 6qt IP:

https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B00MYE40CO

I use the square 9-compartment mold in my 8qt IP:

https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B01M188L3L

I'm very fortunate to have both IP sizes, which cuts down meal prep time because I can run two batches at once & get 16 egg bites ready to freeze in one shot, and it's easy enough to just throw more eggs & whatnot in the blender. I'd imagine you could probably stack them with a double trivet to double up in each pot as well...hmm, might have to try that at some point.

We use these with their car seats: https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B005CNEQK0

But if we weren't taking car seats, we would for sure use a double stroller.

Third option over microwaving and boiling: https://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/B0057ECYS0/ref=mp_s_a_1_4_a_it?ie=UTF8&qid=1499322817&sr=8-4&keywords=bottle%2Bsterilizer&dpPl=1&dpID=41XNHFJUOYL&ref=plSrch&th=1&psc=1

It's basically an oversized baby formula dispenser in a cup, right? Is there room in the outer cup for a mixing ball or some other kind of mixer? If not, it's less functional than those items separately, because you aren't going to put the dispenser back in a dirty cup so you still need room for both in your bag. If it does include the mixer, I could definitely see a market for it, especially those who don't know about formula dispensers because they do work great for protein powders and such.

Get a blender ball go stack or pro stack

https://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/B00CZAQIZ4/ref=mp_s_a_1_sc_2/141-2419754-4275704?ie=UTF8&qid=1499905412&sr=8-2-spell&pi=AC_SX236_SY340_QL65&keywords=blender+bottle+pro+stack

I've traveled with it many times and never had a problem.

Its definitely tough and a lot of work. I will say based on your summary, it seems like you are doing everything to the best of your ability, which is the most important thing. I just passed the two month mark, so I will tell you now, it only gets slightly better. Supposedly at 3 months, it can start to get a lot better in regards to having a pattern and more control over the schedule. But, as a 2 month vet, here is how I'm managing this to the best of my ability:

You wife definitely does need support. Depending on how well you can sleep, instead of STAYING awake with her, get up, get the baby, help her set up for a feed, then go back to sleep.

I don't know about yours, but my baby needs to feed for anywhere from 30 minutes to a full hour. an hour of sleep 3-5 times a night can make a big difference with your ability to handle it long term.

Also, buy your wife this pump. Its WAY better than the free one we got with insurance, it pulls out way more milk, and it's easier on her breasts. As an exclusively breastfed baby, this will allow her to pump, make a bottle, then SHE can go back to sleep and you can take 1 or 2 feedings every once in a while.

You love your child. you are trying, and you are asking for advice. You are already doing EVERYTHING right. Hang in there, it'll get better.

P.S. Once you get your first regular baby smile, it'll allllllllll be worth it

A type of nursing pillow

https://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/B00HMGBJCS/ref=mp_s_a_1_3_a_it?ie=UTF8&qid=1482674005&sr=8-3&keywords=boppy&pi=SY200_QL40

You should check with the airline, but if your kid is under 2 and has his own seat, I'm pretty sure he must be in an FAA approved car seat or a CARES vest. I prefer the car seat, because my kid is a squirmer. But YMMV.

As for lugging the car seat around the airport, you will have to do that yourself. No one will bring it to the gate for you. But you can invest in one of these, which is basically a luggage trolly for your car seat. We used it with our monkey on our last trip, and it worked great. If it were me, I'd put my little in a carrier and tote the big one around with the car seat carrier. Check the double stroller and infant car seat as baggage (it's free). Much easier way to move around the airport.

As for layovers, I avoid them at all costs. More chances for ear aches going up and coming down. More chances for delays every time you take off and land. Usually more than doubles travel time. Just not ever worth it in my book.

Hope that helps. Good luck on your trip!

Recipe: (you can bake at 350 if you don’t have InstantPot)
4 eggs
1/4 c heavy cream
1.5 c grated cheese
.5 c cottage cheese.
Season to taste.
Blend ingredients
Fill egg bite mold (http://amzn.to/2zCOHY0

Add 1 c water to InstantPot
Cover with foil. Set to stream for 8 min. Do natural release. Enjoy!