(Part 2) Best books about anxiety disorders according to redditors
We found 277 Reddit comments discussing the best books about anxiety disorders. We ranked the 91 resulting products by number of redditors who mentioned them. Here are the products ranked 21-40. You can also go back to the previous section.
Kinda sounds like me as an Asian dude but only because I got burned by my Chinatown community, if not for my Borderline Personality Mother/Narcissistic Personality Father (like many TRP fellas complaining about haven fallen victim with the Achilles’ Heel for “Cluster-B” Personality Disorders girls...therefore becoming all-encompassing misogynistic) doing the BPD/NPD ‘V-Spot’ Winnocott True/False Self dance—sandwiching me with their enmeshed-role-reversal-parentification as an only child where I became psychotic.
If only my parents could read The Search for The True Self by James F. Masterson—a simple layman entry that triumphs any ‘5 Love Language in Loving Each Other’ type of garbage psuedo-self-help/pop-psychology/self-development books by X English con artist that are reappropriated by PUAs. Probably would help many other cucks from not having to read and follow empty platitudes and conjured artificial phoniness of PUA instruction and utilizing false cognitive-behavioral “tips and tricks” from said books too.
I’d make /r/asianparentstories proud..but I got over most of it with non-CBT insight-oriented psychoanalytic psychotherapy and intense introspection with now discontinued adjunctive psychiatric medication (Ablify, Depakote, plus Cogentin for auxiliary anti-Parkinsonism).
I have no problems with most of my ethnic identity just that sometimes insecure Asian bros try to sabotage, undermine, cockblock me and everyone patronizes thinking I’m a legit autist retard because I dropped out of school...and as I’ve lamented to my counselor the other day on the topic of romance, I probably didn’t have much emotional availability or attraction to Asian chicks because of this, if at all. But I think I’m beginning to find light at the end of the tunnel? Unfortunately there are more Whites here than Asian Mecca’s elsewhere though with a larger degree of separation..
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https://www.amazon.com/Narcissistic-Borderline-Couple-Approaches-Marital/dp/0415934710
edit: “...why couples stay in painful, conflictual, never-ending relationships (traumatic bonding). The new chapters, case illustrations, and updated treatment sequences are invaluable to both beginning and experienced clinicians. The Narcissistic / Borderline Couple is an essential text for every marital therapist, offering an improved understanding of marital pathology within the framework of our changing world.”
‘Traumatic bonding’ awefully sounds like our inter-Asian community relations interwoven with introspective identity politics to scapegoat our inner childhood torments of an overbearing mother and pain of an emotionally unavailable scolding father, while we all confide pseudo-anonymous to soul-search aka find ways to amend our collective Erik Erickson arrested identities development issues, if not for the Mahler ‘seperation-individuation’ or Bowlby insecure disorganized attachments for truly healthy intimate bond and healthy relationships.
I’m intellectual New England by greater upbringing to which I find a lot of phoniness in trying to vilify and find a savior in a celebrity-god-worship through a Hollywood hero complex that y’all West Coast types seem to do. Joseph Campbell...Jungian archetypal psychology stuff for me here
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Tenho TOC, o que mais me incomodava eram os pensamentos intrusivos, as vezes eu via claramente eu matando as pessoas, mesmo da família, eram pensamentos bem gráficos, não só pessoas como animais também. Tenho tiques também, seja de olhar pro relógio e ver alguns números, ou colocar e tirar e colocar e tirar e colocar e tirar a chave do buraco da porta ou do carro, apagar e acender luzes, movimentos com os olhos, e mais um monte de coisa, inclusive escrever, apagar e escrever de novo, se for a mão, eu reescrevo em cima, meu caderno sempre foi cheio de palavras com a escrita grossa devido as repetições. Pensamentos que me via agarrando as pessoas e tascando-lhes beijos calientes, mesmo com minha vó, era só eu conversar com alguém que aquele pensamento vinha, podia ser meus pais, meu professor, qualquer pessoa que eu conversasse, o pensamento vinha. Ou até mesmo os pensamentos sexuais, seja na rua, seja onde for, eles apareciam, era só ver um rabo de saia e lá estava meu pensamento.
Uns 2-3 anos atrás comecei a me interessar como funcionava a mente, comecei a ler sobre Flow, porém não terminei, o livro é cheio de explicações que eu não entendia nada. Depois fui indo mais pro lado da meditação e mindfulness, comecei a ler sobre também, li esse que me abriu bem a cabeça em relação aos pensamentos e medos (muita gente pode falar "AH MAS É AUTO AJUDA", eu sei, mas pra quem ta na merda, qualquer coisa pode ajudar) hoje leio esse livro, é voltado tanto para pacientes como para terapeutas, ele explica bastante coisa sobre ansiedade, medos, tem exercícios também, fala bastante de mindfulness que seria atenção plena, tem bastante livro sobre isso, estou nele há um bom tempo já, mas quero ir até o final.
Cheguei a ler um livro sobre TOC mesmo, depois de ler os outros, esse chegou em hora certa para mim, como eu já sabia mais ou menos como o TOC agia em mim, eu lia as coisas e pensava "po, o cara em tal livro tinha falado disso", só que eu não conseguia ver como usar aquilo no TOC, eu recomendo MUITO esse livro pra quem tem TOC.
Hoje faço tratamento com fluoxetina (luvox 150mg) e psicoterapia, eu comecei a fazer e não estava em crise, já estava tomando o remédio há uns 3 meses, a terapeuta mesmo diz que hoje eu estou super bem, e eu mesmo percebo isso (eu também tinha fobia social). Acho que o auto conhecimento é super importante quando você se trata de um distúrbio mental, pra saber como como ele funciona e poder reagir a ele.
A minha terapeuta fala bastante de não se deixar levar pelos pensamentos, de estar sempre presente. Eu quando começo a pensar em coisas que sei que não são reais, ou são dúvidas do TOC, eu falo pra mim mesmo que aquilo não é real e é fruto do TOC. O que me ajuda bastante também é identificar o que é TOC e o que não é, assim eu sei quando devo me preocupar com alguma coisa ou não.
Se quiser conversar mais só mandar mp.
TLDR: Contei minha trajetória na minha guerra contra o TOC, recomendei livros e como faço pra evitar me levar pelos pensamentos.
Can you cite a scientific test that psychoanalysis is better than any other "sit down and talk" approach? I think Freud was a genius, so are many other people with bad theories, but he served a useful cultural function of shaking things up. However, I'm pretty sure that almost all of his ideas about psychology and mental illness are at best pseudoscience.
For a compelling critique from a philosophy of science perspective, see http://www.amazon.com/The-Foundations-Psychoanalysis-Philosophical-Pittsburgh/dp/0520050177
I read up quite widely on the web, then got these books:
Overcoming Social Anxiety
Painfully Shy
Diagonally Parked in a Parallel Universe
I think the first was the most directly useful.
The basic way to treat an anxiety disorder is Cognitive Behavioral Therapy or CBT. You do two things. One is to challenge the patterns of thought that lead to the anxiety, and the other is to challenge yourself to do the things you are frightened of, a little at a time. Things like these 'flashbacks' are unhelpful ways of thinking, that can cement the idea that you will be humiliated in social situations. The way to deal with them is to refuse to accept them. Think of them as 'your anxiety talking' instead.
On the behavioral side, I worked at it gradually, and in the end I worked up to the worst thing I could imagine doing and then did it. For me, this was taking up Salsa dancing. Just about the hardest thing I've ever done was making myself go through the door the first time, but I wouldn't let myself bottle out. You can only make this stuff work if you're really ready to change, because it takes real willpower, but it's so worth it. My life isn't ruled by fear any more. That's pretty cool :-)
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A Primer of Drug Action by Robert Julien (http://www.amazon.com/Primer-Drug-Action-Non-Technical-Psychoactive/dp/080507158X)
Awesome book. He goes through drug class by drug class, explains effects on the body, drug-drug interactions, and even has a chapter on natural medicines. Very thorough!
A: No one said running away is a good solution in fact i stated that someone who was raised in a unstable enviroment has a higher chance of using bad coping mechanisms (which running away is)
B: It is easier said than done, leaving your family behind even if they abuse you, people can have many reasons to stay in those relationships. It is a well documented fact that (some) kids still love their parents even if they abuse them. They might even get Stockholm syndrome (i don't have any english papers laying on hand but i will find some to educate your ignorancy at a later time)
C There is nothing simple about breaking away from your parents at a young age. Changing attitude is not a "very simple task" Context matters and you are willfully (or too ignorant to realise) ignoring that fact.
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\> running away from home makes 0 logic what so ever
Humans do not operate on logic alone. In fact we tend to act more on emotions than logic. Running away might be a call for help, a way for the child to communicate it does not like the way things are going at home, a way of getting revenge on parents, a way to figure out if parents still care about them... in fact there are countless reasons why someone might run away, logical or not. That is not even to speak of the fact that reporting your family might not solve your problem. There is a reason why being put in a foster home is usually the last option. (It's cause it's quite traumatic to be removed from your home)
\> which I and many asian children go through on a daily basis
Just because it was/is easy for you does not mean it is easy for others. Context matters.
Every person has a list of protective factor's and risk factors. The more protective factors you have the easier it is for you to cope with situations. This can have very far reaching consequences, The fact someone was abused is enough for being at a higher risk of mental disorders or even lower life expectancy... There are standardized tests to test for higher risks like the ACE quiz . These are all scientificly backed...
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in your case, you would have had more protective factors that kept your situation from becoming more problematic. This is different from person to person.
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It is very clear you have no social background and don't even have a basic understanding of psychology.
to remedy this i would highly suggest This book to start off with, it gives a couple of refrences at the end of the book you can use to further educate yourself.
You come over as a rude person and i gave you a rude response back but if anything i do hope you pick up this book (or any psychology book really). Put your money where your mouth is. If you are right... then that would be confirmed in books and science yes?
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This sounds like my son at that age, who was also middle of the spectrum. the developmental pediatrician recommended Floortime for us, which is an approach that was developed by Stanley Greenspan (child psychiatrist) together with Serena Wieder (I think psychologist). Sadly, Dr. Greenspan has passed away. However, I found those books and materials helpful, and we also received some help from trained Floortime therapists in our area.
Here is a youtube video of Dr. Greenspan helping a family: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vApghedypFc. That same channel has a whole bunch of videos: https://www.youtube.com/user/greenspanfloortime/videos
Here are some things you can check out in that direction, if you are interested:
In addition, this book here changed my life in terms of altering my outlook and helping me think more positively -- the authors are parents and doctors, and the mom-doctor is a neurologist, in fact -- there are some concrete helps in here -- a lot of the material is better for when your kid is older, maybe, because a lot of it is about helping them at school, but it helped me to shift my focus in a more positive direction, and just gave me a good framework for understanding things: https://www.amazon.com/Mislabeled-Child-Solutions-Childrens-Challenges/dp/1401308996/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1505513398&sr=1-1&keywords=the+mislabled+child
Finally, I recommend this book, which can help you understand the sensory issues: https://www.amazon.com/Out-Sync-Child-Recognizing-Processing/dp/0399531653/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1505513523&sr=1-1&keywords=the+out+of+sync+child.
And then get this one: https://www.amazon.com/Out-Sync-Child-Has-Revised/dp/0399532714/ref=pd_sim_14_1?_encoding=UTF8&psc=1&refRID=7NP2KCQY50ZRWTC9JQA0, which will help you design activities around the sensory issues.
I stopped here because I didn't want to overwhelm you, but let me know if you want more recommendations, more info, or more shared experience. happy to help, just let me know. feel free to pm me also. my kid is now 10.
> I wonder if there's a genetic component?
Absolutely. As someone who is also very sensitive, and has worked with sensitive kids (though I don't have kids of my own yet), I am quite convinced there is a genetic component as well as an environmental component. You and OP might both find the book The Highly Sensitive Person interesting; there's also a sequel called The Highly Sensitive Child. While "highly sensitive" isn't a technical term or official diagnosis in any way, I find there's a lot in these books that I can relate to and some helpful tips, including the reminder that these can be very positive traits as well!
It's certainly possible that your son is more sensitive than most kids (maybe not "too sensitive"), but also is dealing with a lot of big emotions from your home situation. Hopefully the domestic violence counseling will include resources to help your son cope with that? Since he has seen out-of-control emotions from your husband, it may be hard for him to fully believe that others' emotions are safe and okay to be around.
This is absolutely the right thing to do for unwanted intrusive thoughts. Exposing yourself to the thoughts will help to make them lose power over you. Also, when these thoughts are in your head deliberately (during exposure), it's a lot more difficult to perform mental compulsions or rituals that you'd otherwise use to try and get rid of the thought, this is exposure and response prevention for your thoughts with a little different rationale. The rationale sounds a little like ACT like others have said, which is related to CBT. Exposure and response prevention and ACT are pretty compatible, but I don't want to bore you with all of that.
Source: clinical psych grad student, studying anxiety disorders and their treatment for 4+ years now.
http://www.amazon.com/Exposure-Therapy-Anxiety-Principles-Practice/dp/146250969X
The above book (p. 193-194 to be exact) contains the rationale for what your therapist is doing. It is written by three of the most knowledgeable CBT for anxiety researchers on the planet. The 1st author, Jon Abramowitz, is the president elect of ABCT (the world organization for CBT) for 2014-2015.
tl;dr: This stuff is CBT exposure with a splash of an ACT-ey rationale given. This is legit as far as being scientifically-based treatment. Hope this helps!
http://gettinbetter.com/dance.html
http://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/0415934710/ref=redir_mdp_mobile
I read about this technique in a book on Emotion Efficacy Therapy which combined ACT and DBT. Both ACT and DBT are well-known, proven treatments for problems with emotion regulation.
Emotion Efficacy Therapy: A Brief, Exposure-Based Treatment for Emotion Regulation Integrating ACT and DBT https://www.amazon.com/dp/1626254036/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_WI2EAb1QCMG3R
There are many choices if you are looking for books that deal with drugs very directly. If you are looking information on the social aspect of drugs (i.e., what it is like for a person who doesn't care about the educational aspect of doing drugs to do drugs, including stereotypes of which people do which drugs, what stupid things people on drugs will frequently do, etc.), something like Fear and Loathing in Las Vegas would be good.
For a clinical perspective, understanding how drugs affect people physically, books about neurotransmitters and receptors and brain function and the like, A Primer of Drug Action has served me well, though it is a bit dated and is not written with the psychonaut in mind. There is certainly value to learning about non-recreational drugs, as there are a wide variety of things like anti-psychotics or steroids or NSAIDs whose usage isn't 'fun' but nonetheless are interesting from a neurobiological standpoint. For a further understanding of the brain in general, an intro neurobiology textbook might be advised.
I feel like many people have already put forth a good selection of philosophical books on drug use, so I will abstain from providing any more. The Doors of Perception, as already mentioned, is a fantastic place to start. Few other books have filled me with such reverence of psychedelics and the human mind.
Lastly, and most importantly, I would like to point out (warning, .pdf link) Prometheus Rising. It is not a highly drug-centric book, but if you are interested in doing drugs to better understand the self and the human mind, as well as to reach 'enlightenment' (whatever that may be), this book is possibly the most valuable tool for that purpose. I highly recommend that everyone read this, though I must suggest that you not take it so seriously because it is not meant to be read in an overly-academic or fact-oriented light. Much like a zen koan, it is meant to illuminate through 'shocking' the mind into awareness, albeit in occasionally ridiculous or offensive ways.
This is a copy paste of an email I've sent a couple of friends. My child has dyslexia and I found these resources useful. The Amazon links are not affiliate links or anything, just links to the books. The first two books were especially intersting and useful, and will apply even as an adult!
Dyslexic Advantage - by Brock and Fernette Eide
Overcoming Dyslexia - by Sally Shaywitz - the first part of the book is the most interesting - it's the science of dyslexia - the second is strategies for teaching/learning
Some other books:
I read them all - at least mostly - but I can't separate the info in my memory to remember which was best at what
Some good websites:
Hmm, I don't fully agree that there exists a lack of control over our mental and emotional state post treatment. We can't control the intensity of our primary emotions, but we do have control over how we respond to them. It's just not always an easy thing to do. Are you referring to just primary emotions when you say we lack control?
I've just recently heard of ACT. I found something that looks like it's going to be really awesome when it's released. It's a therapy that combines DBT and ACT called Emotion Efficacy Therapy.
You might be interested in Adolf Grunbaum's response to Popper:
My psych residents find Stahl's Prescriber Guide to be very helpful for clinical decision making. I believe the latest edition is the 5th.
Kaplan and Sadock's Synopsis of Psychiatry is good for general psych knowledge. Latest edition is 11th I believe.
Don't forget to have a copy of the DSM 5! At least for billing/coding purposes. Despite its limitations, it is the system that all insurances, etc use.
Also a shout out to Daniel Carlat's website, newletter and CME products. I find them helpful, and devoid of any Pharma advertising.
These are good sources for the psychopharm side of practice. If you are interested in doing psychotherapy, there are some good sources out there as well.
Hope this helps. And thanks for entering our field. We desperately need more good people, and the work though tough is very rewarding.
This is a terribly tough spot. The ethical thing to do is to emphasize that dyslexia and dysgraphia are seriously impacting his ability to do grade level work, and that your hourly fee may be better utilized by placing him with a tutor who is experienced in helping dyslexic students, and can deliver an Orton-Gillingham based program with the utmost fidelity. However, what also needs to be considered, is that it takes about 2-3 years to progress through a program like that, and while he is concentrated in a program to become the best reader his disability will allow, his high school years are still going to be happening, and expecting more and more out of him; this seems to be much of a "too little, too late" predicament.
Generally, appropriate instruction is first thing to address, while employing ideal accommodations and modifications. But I can't help but think that A&M should maybe be at the forefront in this scenario because he has so little time left?
If these parents have $$$, and private schooling could be a consideration, that would add another layer to this issue. Would private schooling, specializing in dyslexia, be his best/better option?
So many factors and variables to consider. Tough spot for sure. You've compiled a pretty great list of resources, and I admire your tenacity to learn about dyslexia. You may want to add Ben Foss's "Dyslexia Empowerment Plan" to the list (he also has a website).
What kind of background do you have with exposure therapy? Are you looking to learn about it in general? Are you curious about how to approach it with a specific person in mind? I ask, since that might help point you in some good direction.
"Traditional" exposure therapy relies heavily addressing negative reinforcement (operant conditioning), with an emphasis on habituation. Having a solid understanding of how negative reinforcement fuels anxiety disorders is a fundamental starting place in this line of work. Since exposure therapy works by attempting to extinguish a fear response through habituation, understanding this process becomes important not only for your own knowledge, but for psycheducation to help your clients/patients understand why you want them to do the things you'll ask them to do (e.g., face their fears).
It's worth noting that the habituation model isn't the only way to approach exposure therapy. Michelle Craske's article on inhibitory learning provides some additional context on enhancing exposure work and offers some useful insights that move beyond the habituation model. Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) provides another school of thought involving exposure work, but as that's outside of my area of expertise I'm hesitant to recommend books there. However, anything by Steven Hayes is bound to be a good way to learn more about ACT
Within the habituation realm, Exposure Therapy for Anxiety Disorders would be a good place to start, as it gives a broad overview of the concepts and begins delving into specifics.
Beyond that, however, my suggestion would be to focus on learning about exposure and response prevention (ERP), particularly for OCD. The concepts here apply to every other anxiety disorder (although certain adjustments need to be made in certain situations, such as patients with BDD or PTSD). OCD is simultaneously simple and complex to treat with ERP. The principles are straightforward (i.e., response prevention aimed towards compulsions, exposure aimed to obsessions and avoidance), but building and designing the appropriate treatment plans takes a solid understanding of both the process of ERP and a patient's individual symptoms. Two great places to start are The "Treatments That Work" book on OCD, which is part of the reading list for the International OCD foundation's Behavior Therapy Training Institute (BTTI), as well as Johnathan Grayson's book, Freedom from OCD, which I recommend to all of my patients with OCD.
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There is also a DBT in schools book I've found useful. I've linked it here. I think the concept of Walking the Middle Path is helpful with adolescents. They are very extreme thinkers. It's either all or nothing and DBT concepts can help with balancing their thinking.
Here is one about buddhism and psychotherapy, written by a bunch psychotherapists, referencing tons of studies https://www.amazon.com/Mindfulness-Psychotherapy-Second-Christopher-Germer/dp/1462528376/
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This:
http://www.amazon.com/Anxiety-Disorders-Caregivers-Ken-Strong/dp/1590790561
Maybe try this? I haven’t read it myself, but I’ve heard people talking about it a lot.
highly sensitive child book
Previously I had been to psychologists for talk therapy and psychiatrists, etc... None of that was productive until I discovered Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR). There are aspects of it that I think were adapted or influenced by CBT. I see a doctor of psychology, but there are many others without doctorates who are licensed to perform EMDR.
Check out this book, it was written by the woman who discovered and developed it.
Also, the wikipedia article is decent.
I see a therapist that is familiar with OCPD vs OCD as I have a comorbid condition, but it is under-researched and under-treated. If you are interested, you can order a book about a new form of therapy designed specifically for OCPD - https://www.amazon.com/Training-Radically-Dialectical-Behavior-Therapy-ebook/dp/B06XGCP36Z
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As others mentioned, it is a personality disorder so there is no getting rid of it. But self-awareness about aspects of the disorder that are unhelpful can help you make positive changes.
It sounds a little like social anxiety. But don't look it as a curse or you're weird. It's just something to be aware of and work on.
Would studying in the library help? They sometimes have private study rooms with a door and everything. I used to sit in the back because of my anxiety. But then I found in the classes I really like, I started sitting in the front so I could read the board easier. Turns out if I focus on the content of the class and purposefully ignore everyone else it's a lot easier. A lot of the time I was worried about what other people think of me when they see me. If I walked into the room and let thoughts like "They probably think I'm a freak and they're probably a lot smarter than I am" then I'd be miserable. But if it just say, those are just anxious thoughts and remind myself, "I'm a student just like they are" I had a much better time. Don't judge yourself harshly.
Quote goes back way before them. There's a Mick Conway album, and this book in 2000.
So basically, right after you feel ok. You might have cried a bit, you might have ranted a bit. Whatever. You recover. Over the next couple days, the reprocessing part kicks in. Depending on who you are, and how severe the trauma, your mood may range from normal to slightly grumpy to heavy-duty PMS. She should be prepared to be emotional in the days following. If she will be going every week, you will see a pattern most likely. From normal immediately after, to moody, to back to normal if not improved before the next session and so on. It is not going to be easy, but it will be relatively quick. The longer it's been since the trauma, the more sessions and work it will take to treat. Persevere. Some days, she's going to be very resistant to going, some days she may be fine. Don't give up, don't quit until you're done. Go for as long as you need to, and the better off you'll be. http://www.amazon.com/EMDR-Breakthrough-Movement-Therapy-Overcoming/dp/0465043011 This book is what clued my mom into the treatment, and it explains how it works, and I think how to deal with triggers in the moment.
Here, this is by Routledge, a giant in academic publishing that often puts out pretty authoritative guides and anthologies. It addresses real life situations, and how they feel, but most of the focus is on the mental structure of an anxiety disorder. It was a great introduction to Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, and there were detailed explanations of ‘treatment techniques’ so I felt prepared for therapy and knew what I wanted to accomplish.
It’s really wonderful knowing a little about how your own mind works, especially when it’s giving you grief. These personal issues, in general, are definitely worth the study.
Thank you, so much this. I'm seeing a lot of posts lately that appear to be making this mistake. It's my opinion that you may be a little, you may love being comforted and cared for by your caregiver, but first and foremost you are an adult and responsible for your own mental health. We can strive for healthy interdependent relationships, but being in a CGL relationship is not an excuse to be codependent. Or in other words, to recognize "that you need your partner and your partner needs you., but both of you also need to be individuals."
I'd like to add if therapy is still out of reach for folks, this DBT workbook could be a great stand in for now to help you develop mindfulness, as well as better emotion regulation and self care.
I don't mean to invalidate anyone's feelings or imply that it isn't hard -- It's so hard! And scary! But after taking so many difficult steps forward, it does get easier. Better. And the process is forever ongoing, I'm still learning the tools I need to be a healthier self, partner, and little.
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EDIT: Better yet, here is a CBT workbook you could use in Little Space!
Synopsis Of Psychiatry by Sadock, Sadock and Ruiz
https://www.amazon.com/Kaplan-Sadocks-Synopsis-Psychiatry-Behavioral/dp/1609139712/ref=mp_s_a_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1537285344&sr=8-1&pi=AC_SX236_SY340_FMwebp_QL65&keywords=synopsis+of+psychiatry+11th+ed&dpPl=1&dpID=51Zh0rYBDaL&ref=plSrch
Pocket DSM - V
https://www.amazon.com/Pocket-Guide-DSM-5-Diagnostic-Exam/dp/1585624667/ref=mp_s_a_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1537285418&sr=8-1&pi=AC_SX236_SY340_FMwebp_QL65&keywords=pocket+dsm+v&dpPl=1&dpID=41n2aRvk4KL&ref=plSrch#
This is quite a lot, I promise.
https://www.amazon.com/Rookie-Teaching-Dummies-Michael-Kelley/dp/0764524798/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1482559751&sr=1-1&keywords=teaching+for+dummies
https://www.amazon.com/Communication-Skills-Dummies-Elizabeth-Kuhnke/dp/1118401247/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1482559793&sr=1-1&keywords=interpersonal+skills+for+dummies
https://www.amazon.com/Psychology-Dummies-Adam-Cash/dp/1118603591/ref=sr_1_22?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1482559850&sr=1-22&keywords=for+dummies