Best books about compulsive behavior according to redditors

It's because he (rightfully) feels much more threatened by normal people supporting normal academic thought. It's sorta like Eric Hoffer's True Believer, which talks a lot about how communists were more easily led to being fascists than centrists and fascists were more easily led to being communists than centrists.

/u/Prince_Kropotkin feels more "threatened" (lol because these people already won, idiot) by regular folks than extremists because he thinks at least extremists want extreme change, he just needs to convince them that his way is the best way to do so. Normal people who are like "I don't really like this thing, and we need to change it incrementally using the systems already in place, but not burn it down and replace it with a totally different system" anger him the most, and I think that's cute.

A philosopher named Eric Hoffer wrote a really good book about this sort of phenomenon called The True Believer.

A quote:

>The quality of ideas seems to play a minor role in mass movement leadership. What counts is the arrogant gesture, the complete disregard of the opinion of others, the singlehanded defiance of the world.

The truth is that there's no carefully thought out plan. It's anger and bluster. And historically, these movements have not ended well.

Texts and Reference Books

Days in the Lives of Social Workers

DSM-5

Child Development, Third Edition: A Practitioner's Guide

Racial and Ethnic Groups

Social Work Documentation: A Guide to Strengthening Your Case Recording

Cognitive Behavior Therapy: Basics and Beyond

[Thoughts and Feelings: Taking Control of Your Moods and Your Life]
(https://www.amazon.com/Thoughts-Feelings-Harbinger-Self-Help-Workbook/dp/1608822087/ref=pd_sim_14_3?_encoding=UTF8&psc=1&refRID=3ZW7PRW5TK2PB0MDR9R3)

Interpersonal Process in Therapy: An Integrative Model

[The Clinical Assessment Workbook: Balancing Strengths and Differential Diagnosis]
(https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0534578438/ref=ox_sc_sfl_title_38?ie=UTF8&psc=1&smid=ARCO1HGQTQFT8)

Helping Abused and Traumatized Children

Essential Research Methods for Social Work

Navigating Human Service Organizations

Privilege: A Reader

Play Therapy with Children in Crisis

The Color of Hope: People of Color Mental Health Narratives

The School Counseling and School Social Work Treatment Planner

Streets of Hope : The Fall and Rise of an Urban Neighborhood

Deviant Behavior

Social Work with Older Adults

The Aging Networks: A Guide to Programs and Services

[Grief and Bereavement in Contemporary Society: Bridging Research and Practice]
(https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0415884810/ref=oh_aui_detailpage_o02_s00?ie=UTF8&psc=1)

Theory and Practice of Group Psychotherapy

Motivational Interviewing: Helping People Change

Ethnicity and Family Therapy

Human Behavior in the Social Environment: Perspectives on Development and the Life Course

The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work

Generalist Social Work Practice: An Empowering Approach

Publication Manual of the American Psychological Association

The Dialectical Behavior Therapy Skills Workbook

DBT Skills Manual for Adolescents

DBT Skills Manual

DBT Skills Training Handouts and Worksheets

Social Welfare: A History of the American Response to Need

Novels

[A People’s History of the United States]
(https://www.amazon.com/Peoples-History-United-States/dp/0062397346/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1511070674&sr=1-1&keywords=howard+zinn&dpID=51pps1C9%252BGL&preST=_SY291_BO1,204,203,200_QL40_&dpSrc=srch)


The Man Who Mistook His Wife For a Hat

The Curious Incident of the Dog in the Night-Time

Life For Me Ain't Been No Crystal Stair

The Diving Bell and the Butterfly

Tuesdays with Morrie

The Death Class <- This one is based off of a course I took at my undergrad university

The Quiet Room

Girl, Interrupted

I Never Promised You a Rose Garden

Flowers for Algernon

Of Mice and Men

A Child Called It

Go Ask Alice

Under the Udala Trees

Prozac Nation

It's Kind of a Funny Story

The Perks of Being a Wallflower

The Yellow Wallpaper

The Bell Jar

The Outsiders

To Kill a Mockingbird

Is this your first adolescent client? How did you get set up working with this client if you don't do family therapy...? kind of comes with the territory...Just a bit concerned, because these are typical issues that are to be expected working with this age group (the parent issues, need for family counseling sessions, the teen's response to you, not trusting you, etc.)

To start:

1. let go of using the words "resistant client". not helpful for anyone.
   
2. no where in this description did I hear anything about what the client might want. You have the referral info and plenty of information about mom. The client may sense that you are also preoccupied by mom, probably like they are quite used to. Focus on building trust and rapport with your client, even if mom isn't thrilled.
   
3. Motivational Interviewing IS KEY. I use it with substance use , juvenile justice , and court-mandated populations. Roll with the resistance don't fight it. Use the client's own language to clarify or amplify a statement. "I don't want to be here" "You would rather be anywhere else in the world but here" "Well know I didn't say that" "Oh, what did you mean?" Now you are talking to each other :D
   
4. You are the professional here. You can set the rules if its conducive the best care for the client - such as doing individual sessions without mom present, then building towards a family therapy session. Having mom in the room for a 14 year old coming out of a hospitalization is just not going to work.
   
5. Although it appears you client does not want to be there - make no mistake. Their history and suicide attempt is incredibly serious and this is a child that does want and need help - no one wants to suffer. The key is trust. Right now there is not trust. Establish confidentiality to be between you and the client, and clarify what the exceptions with be for you to tell mom.
   
6. seek supervision and consultation, if this is your first time working with this age group and doing family therapy. Brush up on adolescent development and counseling skills, along with family counseling. I think this sub has a good resource list for books. I learned mostly in the field but I liked this book. It's not too big, a quick read.
   
   Hope your next sessions feels a bit more progressive for everyone :) Good luck!

> He's a hoarder and his house was hit hard by the hurricane. My sister and I can't let him go back there due to the risk of infection. We want to get the state involved for my dads house to condemn it. We absolutely cannot let him go back until he's in the clear with his open heart surgery....


These sorts of situations have come up a couple of times on the U.S. television show Hoarders (A&E). Someone still recovering from a serious illness is ready to be released, but their home environment is hoarded and not safe for the patient to return to.

On those episodes that I saw, in each case the patient's physician and the hospital's social worker were notified that releasing the patient would mean returning the patient to a hoarding environment. So they would make arrangements for the patient to stay in an appropriate facility until the house could be cleaned up.

That said, insurance wouldn't pay for it forever, so the pressure was on to clean up, and quickly, from building inspectors and social services.

That's the only solution I know of for your situation--involve the doctors and social services.

1. If possible, get photos and/or video of the home your dad will be returning to, then get in contact with the social worker at the hospital.
   
2. Make sure that the social worker understands that this is a hoarding situation that involves multiple family members who are hoarders themselves; if the social worker is not familiar with hoarding disorder, tell him that it's imperative that you speak with a social worker who is familiar with (and preferably has worked with) hoarders and hoarding situations.
   
3. There's also a great book, The Hoarding Handbook: A Guide for Human Service Professionals. It's written for social services professionals, but can be useful for family members looking to understand their options. It might be a good idea to get a copy for yourself, to help you formulate a plan to best leverage the available services.
   
   Given the situation with Hurricane Harvey, I don't know what--if anything--the local gov't can do about your dad's home right away. They have a lot of urgent stuff to take care of, so they may just refer you to your dad's insurance agent.
   
   Your best bet may be doc + social worker + Adult Protective Services, depending on how bad the hoard is.
   
   Be forewarned: be prepared for an absolute shit-storm of stubbornness, blame, threats, and pure unadulterated rage from your dad after you reveal the hoard. Hoarders typically don't give one red shit about health consequences--they'll fight to protect that hoard, because they genuinely believe that they can have both the hoard and a safe recovery environment for themselves.
   
   It is VERY common for compulsive hoarders to see a loved one's choice to reveal their hoarding to "outsiders" as the deepest possible betrayal, and it may permanently shatter their trust in you. They may start to regard you as an absolute enemy.
   
   That's a worst-case scenario, of course. The hope is that, thanks to the hurricane, your dad will see sense once the seriousness of his condition is impressed on them by medical and social services. I can only urge you to enlist help from the hospital, and be prepared to adjust as you deal with this situation.
   
   Good luck!

I'm a DBT therapist working for the LA County Department of Mental Health. I would recommend purchasing the DBT skills manual http://www.amazon.com/Training-Treating-Borderline-Personality-Disorder/dp/0898620341 and reading through Dr. Linehan's conceptualization of the disorder, as well as her evidenced based rationale for engaging in both skills group (more like a class) and individual treatment. It is important to note that if you aren't doing BOTH skills group and individual treatment, you are not engaged in DBT - to the best of my knowledge, the research demonstrating efficacy has been conducted using BOTH skills group and individual treatment. DBT is an intensive and complex treatment, but it has been demonstrated to be very effective targeting and reducing impulsive, maladaptive, self harm and suicidal behavior. Essentially, treatment involves balancing change with acceptance and a non-pejorative view of current behavior, and replacing emotion regulation behavior that results in undesired consequences (i.e. self harm, substance use/abuse) with skillful behavior that promotes desired outcomes.

Mindfulness provides the basic framework for both change and acceptance strategies - very briefly, mindfulness (in the DBT context) refers to observation and description of internal processes in order to build in space between urge/impulse and action/behavior. This space allows for consideration of alternative behaviors, acceptance and tolerance of distressing cognitions/emotions, and use of skills based coping behavior.

I would describe myself and my situation very similarly to how you've described yours. Perfectionist. Messy. Random collections. I self-medicated with shopping.

Here's how my realization went...

1. Several years ago, I visited my parents in another state and my mom said she had DVR'd an episode of Oprah that I just had to watch. It was about a woman with a hoard up to the ceilings in her home. My mom said, "that's you." I was terribly offended because I certainly did not have stuff up the ceiling (I didn't). I rolled my eyes and went about my life.
   
   
2. For my birthday a couple months later, my mom got me this book. I was once again offended. I put it on a shelf and forgot about it.
   
   
3. That's about when all the shows about hoarders started. I watched Hoarders because it's interesting and I think I liked to say to myself, "See, mom? I'm not a hoarder. I'm not these people living in piles of garbage."
   
   But then...as I watched Hoarders and listened to the hoarders talk about WHY they didn't want to give up one particular item or another, I realized I understood them and I felt their pain. OMG. Do I understand them because I am one of them?!
   
   
4. I dug out that book my mom gave me and read it. I also read this book. They explain in detail a few different thought patterns that contribute to hoarding and I definitely saw myself in a couple of them. I was definitely a low-level hoarder with the potential, as you said, to slide down that slippery slope to disaster. I guess the realization itself was a slippery slope. ;-)
   
   Since that time I have been able to recognize those wrong thought patterns and get things under control before it became a real problem. I give a lot of credit to my SO for helping me channel my energies into productive pursuits.

Congrats! Economy and Society? [Foundations of Social Theory] (http://www.amazon.com/Foundations-Social-Theory-James-Coleman/dp/0674312260/)? Applied Multiple Regression/Correlation Analysis for the Behavioral Sciences? I'd go for the latter, definitely helped me the most (and I still use it regularly).

Also check out this list or this one.

EDIT: A question is also whether you want to have a book to put on your shelf or whether you actually want to read/use it.

The defense mechanism of Turning Against the Self or more globally, the psychological organization of Masochism. One of the oldest axioms in psychoanalysis is "anger turned inwards becomes depression."

See Nancy's Mc Williams Psychoanalytic Diagnosis for a explication of this.

https://www.amazon.com/Psychoanalytic-Diagnosis-Second-Understanding-Personality/dp/1609184947

I’m reading the seminal work on it right now: Internal Family Systems by Dick Schwartz. It’s a good place to start.

this is a common problem and is addressed in the book Buried In treasures. you get overly focused on the small details of organizing instead of on the big picture of getting rid of stuff. It's a great book and they have exercises to help you get past this.

That's such an interesting question.. I'll give you three, although my answer may change radically from day to day.. These have all shaped me in very significant ways..
http://www.amazon.com/Gift-Therapy-Reflections-Being-Therapist/dp/0749923733
In my opinion the best book on what therapy is actually like for the therapist as well as for the client.
http://www.amazon.com/Persuasion-Healing-Comparative-Study-Psychotherapy/dp/0801846366
This is a fascinating book about the power of the placebo affect in therapy. The author argues that a therapist's confidence is the primary factor in psychological healing..
http://www.amazon.com/Human-Change-Processes-Foundations-Psychotherapy/dp/0465031188
This book is utterly brilliant, and made more fascinating to me by the fact that the author eventually committed suicide. Many therapists have, including Freud...

Both time series and regression are not strictly econometric methods per se, and there are a range of wonderful statistics textbooks that detail them. If you're looking for methods more closely aligned with econometrics (e.g. difference in difference, instrumental variables) then the recommendation for Angrist 'Mostly Harmless Econometrics' is a good one. Another oft-prescribed econometric text that goes beyond Angrist is Wooldridge 'Introductory Econometrics: A Modern Approach'.

For a very well considered and basic approach to statistics up to regression including an excellent treatment of probability theory and the basic assumptions of statistical methodology, Andy Field (and co's) books 'Discovering Statistics Using...' (SPSS/SAS/R) are excellent.

Two excellent all-rounders are Cohen and Cohen 'Applied Multiple Regression/Correlation Analysis for the Behavioral Sciences' and Gelman and Hill 'Data Analysis Using Regression and Multilevel/Hierarchical Modelling' although I would suggest both are more advanced than I am guessing you need right now.

For time series I can recommend Rob Hyndman's book/s on forecasting (online copy freely available)

For longitudinal data analysis I really like Judith Singer's book 'Applied Longitudinal Data Analysis'.

It sounds however as if you're looking for a bit of a book to explain why you would want to use one method over another. In my experience I wanted to know this when I was just starting. It really comes down to your own research questions and the available data. For example I had to learn Longitudinal/fixed/random effects modelling because I had to do a project with a longitudinal survey. Only after I put it into practice (and completed my stats training) did I come to understand why the modelling I used was appropriate.

A classic https://www.amazon.com/True-Believer-Thoughts-Movements-Perennial/dp/0060505915

There's a good book about that

I'm a bit of an OCD hoarder. It's not the worst part of my OCD and meds mostly keep it under control.

I just thought I'd drop you a book recommendation that I just finished reading.

It's Stuff -- Compulsive Hoarding and the Meaning of Things by Randy O. Frost and Gail Steketee.
http://www.amazon.com/Stuff-Compulsive-Hoarding-Meaning-Things/dp/015101423X

I thought it was really good. It's another book to add to my collection of books I keep in case I might need to use them as reference at some time in the future :)

I found the book Stuff: Compulsive Hoarding and the Meaning of Things to cover the psychological roots of hoarding more than the others. Buried in Treasures: Help for Compulsive Acquiring, Saving, and Hoarding is more of a workbook for groups to go through. I haven't seen Treatment for Hoarding Disorder: Workbook (Treatments That Work) yet and am surprised I hadn't heard of it.

Here is the OCD Foundation's main page for hoarding They have support groups listed somewhere on the site. Clutterers Anonymous also has good literature. We use things from both groups at our meetings. CLA has online and phone meetings IIRC.

We like Cindy Glovinsky's books a lot too. She has a good sense of humor. One Thing At a Time: 100 Simple Ways to Live Clutter-Free Every Day is short sections of tips and how tos for overcoming the issues. I also really like her Making Peace with the Things in Your Life: Why Your Papers, Books, Clothes, and Other Possessions Keep Overwhelming You and What to Do About It.

I haven't spent much time on the hoarding subreddits. One of them tended to be more people asking for help dealing with their hoarding relative. The other was geared more for the hoarders. IIRC, one is r/hoarders and the other is r/hoarding. There's probably more.

While I haven't dealt with this myself, after watching Hoarders, I became interested in the subject and researched it a bit.

I came across this website and this book. I admit I haven't read it yet, but the authors, Gail Steketee and Randy Frost, have great credentials.

What you must know is that your father cannot change on his own. He needs psychotherapy. Also, you and your brother need to go to counseling to undo the psychological damage done by your parents.

Also, as others have pointed out, you have to move out, regardless of whether your folks sell the house or not, because even if the deed and mortgage were in your fathers name, the house would still have to be cleared and fixed so prospective buyers could see it. But, why are you waiting for the house to be sold? What relevance does your dad's house have to you moving out?

Get a job, just any job and rent a one-bedroom apartment. Or find a two bedroom apartment and take your brother with you. And keep on applying to colleges. You have to do this, because you deserve a clean and healthy place to live in. A place to call a home, a place where you can feel relaxed and where you can invite friends. You deserve it and so does your brother. And you have the power to make it happen. You don't have to wait for your parents to do anything. You can do it on your own right now.

How about instead of:
>I aim to live somewhere that is clean, in good condition, where I can find everything and not trip over stuff, and looks like a house rather than a storage unit.

You would say:
> I will live somewhere that is clean, in good condition, where I can find everything and not trip over stuff, and looks like a house rather than a storage unit, and I will do it by september.

Make a plan and stick by it. And once you are out of the house you will also be able to help your father. Psychotherapy really works if he also agrees to go through it.

I think that you will have more strength in confronting your father, more energy, both physically and mentally to do so if you move out first. You said it yourself that the house is a drain on your health (due to allergy and asthma) and on your mind (because it is depressing).

Take care of yourself first and then you will be able to take care of others.

All this being said, a big internet hug and I really hope to see a positive update in a few months.

Motivational Interviewing: Helping People Change by Miller and Rollnick. Motivational interviewing is relevant to pretty much any sort of problem, and is pretty much the only effective way to engage a client who comes to therapy under duress.

Miller and Rollnick’s book on motivational interviewing was required reading at a previous job, I highly recommend it: https://www.amazon.com/Motivational-Interviewing-Helping-People-Applications/dp/1609182278

https://www.amazon.com/Motivational-Interviewing-Helping-People-Applications/dp/1609182278/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1497318185&sr=8-1&keywords=motivational+interviewing

That's one of my favorite resources for MI. For CBT, this is the best:

http://file.zums.ac.ir/ebook/082-Cognitive%20Behavior%20Therapy,%20Second%20Edition%20-%20Basics%20and%20Beyond-Judith%20S.%20Beck%20Phd%20Aaron%20T.%20Be.pdf

You made me google something and now there's another book I have to read. Jerk.

SALT! You need SALT! I use this brand. And you should really be drinking half your body weight in FL OZ of water per day.

EDIT: Here's also some reading material that might be interesting for some

I just finished "Stuff", a book about hoarding. It gave me some perspective about why people hoard, and some treatment plans therapists have used effectively.

The question you posed is perfectly valid and totally allowed to be posted here. :) The rest of the community may also have some great ideas to help you, here are some of my suggestions.

You could ask your therapist if she was comfortable reviewing some of the exercises with you. (Some therapists will not go this route though if they are uncomfortable with it.. but it can't hurt to ask.) Purchase one of the DBT books, Skills Training Manual for Treating Borderline Personality Disorder (this is the first edition but has handouts at the back of the book, and is less costly than the 2nd edition which is split into two books) or The Dialectical Behavior Therapy Skills Workbook. Use them it a guide, and do the exercises. This may give you a bit more accountability in keeping with them.

Another way that some people have suggested is to print out a 'cheat sheet' (example 1, example 2 example 3) of the skills and keep it in a highly visible place in their home (bathroom/bedroom/kitchen).

You could also try doing a diary card every day to get into the habit of 'checking in' Either on paper or there are apps that also do this (although I don't know how great they are)

Try to not get discouraged going it on your own. I've had personal accounts from people who are in the same or similar situations as yourself who have had success with self study.

Sounds like you've encountered a True Believer.

From the wiki about this book:

>"mass movements appeal to people who want to escape a flawed self by creating an imaginary self and joining a collective whole. Some categories of people who may be attracted to mass movements include poor people, misfits, former soldiers, and people who feel thwarted in their endeavors. Hoffer quotes extensively from leaders of the Nazi and communist parties in the early part of the 20th Century, to demonstrate, among other things, that they were competing for adherents from the same pool of people predisposed to support mass movements. Despite the two parties' fierce antagonism, they were more likely to gain recruits from their opposing party than from moderates with no affiliation to either."

>"The book also explores the behavior of mass movements once they become established (or leave the "active phase"). With their collapse of a communal framework people can no longer defeat the feelings of insecurity and uncertainty by belonging to a compact whole. If the isolated individual lacks vast opportunities for personal advancement, development of talents, and action (such as those found on a frontier), he will seek substitutes. These substitutes would be pride instead of self-confidence, memberships in a collective whole like a mass movement, absolute certainty instead of understanding."

1984 is phenomenal, one of my very favorite books. Orwell was a genius of sociology. However, some of Orwell's best ideas are obscured by the fact that this is a novel.

If you want to have your mind truly blown, please, please, please get a copy of The True Believer.

A work of genius about the sociology of mass movements, short, written in extremely clear, unacademic language.

I’m currently reading The Hair-Pulling Problem: A Complete Guide to Trichotillomania , I was fortunate enough to find this book in my school library and I think you’ll find it helpful. Right now I’m at work but I don’t mind taking some pics of the pages for you that might be beneficial as a family member.

Also just want to point out that it’s so amazing you’re here making an effort to be more supportive for your brother. I come from a family/culture that doesn’t even acknowledge mental health issues so this disorder has always been something that is “all in my head” . It really makes me happy to know that you’re supporting a fellow trichster in as many ways as you can.

https://www.amazon.com/Hoarding-Handbook-Guide-Service-Professionals/dp/0195385519

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I'm reading a book right now called "The True Believer: Thoughts on the Nature of Mass Movements". It spends a lot of time delving into what might be the motivation behind people who join any ideological group. The author has some interesting ideas about why. Fear can be one of the motivators, but other possible motivations for joining a mass movement (and adopting their ideology) are:

• a dissatisfaction with one's own life and thus a need for something to distract oneself from one's personal issues
  
• an acute lack of hope in the present, and thus a willingness to bet the farm on some hypothetical better time or place in the future
  
• people who are simply so bored they are looking for some purpose to devote themselves to in order to escape the boredom
  
• people who've done something very bad and are looking for a cause they can devote themselves to in order to redeem themselves (both in the eyes of others and in their own eyes)
  
• naturally manipulative people who in a movement or ideological organization see an opportunity to demonstrate loyalty and in trade receive power or influence
  
  Anyway, I'm probably butchering the concepts from the book, but the point is that it delves into these questions and comes up with some pretty interesting theories.

FenderJazzbass (OP, deleted), first, congrats on your sighting - but be careful not to jump to alien conclusions too soon, as there may just be a mundane explanation for your sighting. Always be on the lookout for confirmation bias in your thinking! There is a great book you might want to check out called The True Believer: Thoughts on the Nature of Mass Movements (http://www.amazon.com/The-True-Believer-Movements-Perennial/dp/0060505915)

I'm guessing you are fairly young and relatively new to the subject of UFOs, and your posting history certainly seems to indicate a "desire to believe". You're going to get called out again and again, if for no other reason than your commenting history seems fairly uncritical and leans heavily toward the true Believer end of the spectrum, and, more importantly, relies pretty regularly on ad hominem attacks and ad hoc retractions of posts. This is all very suspicious behavior, if you are really looking to take this subject seriously, and have others take you seriously.

This is not an attack on you. Please take it as constructive criticism and keep looking up!

> The parallels I see are.......spooky.

there are parallels, but could also apply to lots of authoritarian movements or cultish groups. though superficially different, these groups tend to use the same tactics and strategies. even when groups are opposed and in conflict, there's usually more in common than not. e.g., Catholics and Protestants fighting throughout European history. In early 20th Century Europe the communists and fascists were fighting in the streets, but always trying to convert each other: both hated capitalism (had different approches for dealing with it), both hated democracy, both believed individual rights were less important than society, etc

great book:

https://www.amazon.com/True-Believer-Thoughts-Movements-Perennial/dp/0060505915/ref=sr_1_1/146-9344767-0472412?ie=UTF8&qid=1502838684&sr=8-1&keywords=true+believer

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_True_Believer

>does the corporation produce those goods, or do the people who work for the corp produce them? I don't want to trade with the CEOs and the middle-managers; I want to trade with the people whose hands formed the product.

Who knew Karl Marx was so computer savvy, AND has an Atari?

The value is only created by the downtrodden worker, and the rest of the people in the company are but parasites :)

A couple more gems:

>But the fact is is that the economic value of lying and other unethical behavior so far outstrips the value of anything else it gives the liar/scumbag almost total control over ethical players in the market.

Only unethical players succeed in the free market - thus, all rich people are thiefs, thus we need to get our money back from them.

Added bonus - the market is stupid and cannot figure out who consistently lies as time goes by.

>You never truly have a "free" market - that would be a power vacuum, which nature abhors. It's either regulated by a government entity, or if is de facto "regulated" by the strongest player in the market.

I've never said that before on Reddit, but you, sir, are a true believer. I'd highly recommend reading this before you become cannon fodder for the revolution. It might just save your mental health and self-respect (and the conveniently provided amazon link saves you the need to leave the house and see all those scary people outside). Oh, and there is no associate code on the link - you do not have to be concerned about a worthless parasite siphoning off the fruits of your labor. After all, we all agree that information has NO value.

No, I don’t know of any other online “cheat” sheets although I’m sure there are some out there. And I mean no offense to the noble efforts of the OP, but I think that a revision of the list would be kind-of pointless.

To be honest, it requires both a comprehensive understanding of the bible and a good understanding of the psychology of the fundamentalist mind in order to effectively crush their absurdist arguments. I’ve actually experienced the most success when I take one of their own absurd positions beyond the realm of the absurd and into the realm of pure insanity, where even they cannot deny it. (When you get them to the point that they are attacking their own beliefs, they usually get very upset and bolt for the nearest exit.)

Here’s a reddit I wrote up 4 months ago.

See what I mean? Stuff like that makes their heads go boom.

But, that being said, it would be a waste of time to study the bible in order to disprove it. I don’t need to read Peter Pan to disprove the existence of fairies.

One book that I highly recommend is “The True Believer” by Eric Hoffer. It explains the mindset of the fundamentalist with such insight and simplicity that it will leave you feeling stupid for not seeing it beforehand. It’s my favorite book of all time, written by a longshoreman in 1951. I’ve had the book for over ten years but I still pick it up and read it to this day (on my third copy). I guarantee that you will see the world differently after reading it - It's that good.

I conceptualize dermatillomania and related disorders like trichotillomania (trich) as overactivity of the genes that govern grooming behavior. Because we evolved from animals that groom themselves and others, lots of people find grooming-like behavior such as picking at scabs, picking at their skin, pulling out their hair, pulling out ingrown hairs, and cleaning their ears/nose, etc, to be very rewarding.

It often starts as a self-soothing behavior, done when people are stressed, anxious, or bored (the same circumstances under which other mammals groom a lot), but it may soon become more of a habit.

I rarely think of this type of behavior as a "problem" unless (a) the person really wants to stop and can't, (b) the person is spending so much time doing the behavior that it is interfering with their ability to get anything else done, and/or (c) the person's social or occupational functioning is impaired (e.g., relationships suffer because of it; can't get a job because you're covered in scars). At that point, treatment is probably warranted.

Treating any of the above problems is very similar to treating OCD - there are medications (usually SSRIs or tricyclic antidepressants), and there is cognitive-behavioral therapy. The therapy usually consists of things like self-monitoring, figuring out when you pick, figuring out if there are any cognitions related to the picking (e.g., obsessive thoughts that the picking helps alleviate), learning adaptive ways to deal with stress in general (if needed), and replacing the picking with an alternate behavior. You can either work through such a program yourself, or with a therapist. Although I'm not sure if there are self-help books out there specifically for skin-picking, it's so closely related to hair-pulling that you could get one of the many available trich books and just mentally replace "hair-pulling" with "skin-picking" while you read it.

A quick tip for reducing the frequency of any of the above behaviors is to apply hand lotion whenever you feel like you want to pick or catch yourself picking. This works especially well if you live with someone who will help you really monitor yourself and 'nag' you to put lotion on when you're picking. Having hand lotion on reduces the 'hold' your fingers can get on your scabs (or hair, or whatever) and makes the picking a lot less rewarding, thereby helping you break the habit.

(sorry, I don't know how to create links with descriptions)

1. http://www.amazon.co.uk/Training-Treating-Borderline-Personality-Disorder/dp/0898620341 (Skills Training Manual for Treating Borderline Personality Disorder)
   
   
2. Talking to others with BPD, to reinforce the fact that this isn't my own freakish, crazy problem.
   
   
3. Mindfulness!
   
   Edit: 4. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fhOotNCqg2E

Someone mentioned CBT, which is similar to DBT, which is what I came here to recommend. DBT is an AMAZING resource, and you should be able to find a weekly group to get her in NOW, and it will be more affordable. I'm positive there are at least a couple DBT groups running here. All Souls might be able to direct you to one, or maybe even Mission knows who you should contact. Without insurance, it'll probably be around $100/week, but you could ask about a cash discount perhaps.

Also, order the DBT workbook and read some of it each night with her. It's a wonderful resource and the information is SO helpful, that I personally think the curriculum should be taught in schools to the general population.

Workbook

Editing to add: Doing a daily mindfulness exercise is very helpful, too. It calms the nervous system and really helps to reset things. Some meditations include tensing and relaxing your body in order from top to bottom or from bottom to top, watching the flame of a candle for a few minutes while letting thoughts leave your mind as quickly as they come in, doing a sound meditation where you close your eyes and hyper-focus on sounds around you, counting your breaths until you get to 10 then starting over again, and envisioning a warm disc of light glowing in your chest and warming you with calm light.

Also, for immediate "distress tolerance", taking a bath can help, walking a dog or snuggling with a cat, distracting her with TV or a movie, putting lotion on your arms or legs, writing your worries/thoughts in a journal, even screaming into a pillow.

I'll be keeping you in my thoughts tonight, and PLEASE PM me if you need any more info or support.

Here is some basic info about DBT. It is such a wonderful approach.

Much love and light to both of you tonight.

First, you can start DBT by yourself right away by buying Marsha Linehan's workbook. The workbook is very powerful all by itself and if taken seriously and practiced diligently, it will help right away. You can find additional books by Linehan on Amazon.

I don't think there's a cure for BPD but there is a lot you can do to ensure that it interferes as little as possible with your life. I think Buddhism is the best practice because it is a see for yourself guide to happiness. Above all else, it helps by teaching mindfulness. Mindfulness will be your greatest ally throughout life. It will help to mitigate strong negative reactions to triggering events. Most importantly, it will make it possible for you to know yourself and to be compassionate towards yourself, greatly reducing self-hate.

My sister has been struggling with BPD most of her life. A couple days ago, we were talking about an incident that took place a while ago during which she attacked me viciously and kicked me out of her home. I told her how I remembered the incident and why I left and she told me she remembered it entirely differently claiming that I was the one who got angry and left of my own accord.

Now I'm left wondering if people with BPD occasionally have psychotic episodes during which they are not in touch with reality in any way. I have never suspected her of being psychotic but this would explain many terrible events in our past. My question is, do people with BPD experience psychosis under great stress so that they can have completely different memories of past events. [forgive me for asking a question instead of offering more help, but I really need input on this. I tried posting this question yesterday but my post wasn't made public for whatever reasons reddit has for doing this sort of thing.]

Psychiatric Interviewing by Shawn Shea, Cognitive-Behavioral Treatment of Borderline Personality Disorder by Marsha Linehan, and CFT Made Simple by Russell Kolts.

Plenty of others ... what sort of specific topics are you interested in?

When you say drug and alcohol unit, what do you mean exactly? Are we talking medical detox only? Yikes. Or are we talking general rehab?

If you are literally doing nothing but medical detox and then the patient moves on to treatment elsewhere, then beware the burnout. ETOH and Opiate detox patients in the throes of detox are some of the most unpleasant people to be around I can think of (and I work in a maximum security prison!). This is generally offset by getting to work with them long-term and seeing the benefits of sobriety and clarity in the long run, so hopefully you'll get to see that aspect, too.

If we're talking just general rehab, then it won't be so bad. The experience you get will also depend on whether or not your clients are voluntary, and if so what level of volunteerism there is there (for example a "voluntary" methadone program can feel very involuntary to an opiate addict).

You will definitely get myriad opportunities to hone your motivational interviewing skills. It can be frustrating at first as you learn the meaning of success in working with this population. Sobriety is hard work and takes time. Sometimes seeing your client shoot up four times a day instead of six after a month's work is the best improvement you've seen in any client all month, and you have to learn to motivate yourself with these little steps.

Anywhoo . . . I used to work at a methadone clinic. Let me know if you have any specific questions.

Edit: Just saw that you've not yet been in an MSW program. If you can spare the cash, I recommend picking up Miller and Rollnick's book. It'll give you the foundation you need to start practicing and understanding motivational interviewing, and if the program you get into focuses at all on direct practice then you're probably going to end up needing it anyway.

>Not everyone responds well to graphic images and videos, satirical, passive agressive criticism, or being called out and having their beliefs challenged.

So don't do any of those things. Unless the person is already open to the idea of veganism, those are recipes for disaster.

>How do you effectively change people or plant the seed in their minds

This is the book you want. And if you have somebody who is willing to have a conversation with you, something like this book might be pretty good (it's mostly for therapists helping people deal with addictions and stuff, but that's still relevant). One good video I saw recently, that clearly uses a lot of these tactics, is this vegan street interview.

You can probably do some googling for blogs and articles on the psychology of persuasion and behavior change.

EDIT: You can't expect to just show people the truth and have them immediately change their thinking. This is a quote from a book about climate change, but it's definitely relevant here:

>Ironically, one of the best proofs that information does not change people's attitudes is that science communicators continue to ignore the extensive research evidence that shows that information does not change people's attitudes.

Congrats on the career switch! :) Methinks you'll find helping people with this topic to be quite fulfilling and honestly, you'll have a head start if you're already a teacher b/c there are a lot of overlapping skills.

In the interest of time I'm going to forego personal anecdotes in favor of something that will help 10x more.

When it comes to talking to people / motivating then around fitness, everything is super counterintuitive. Logic won't convince most people, acting like a "trainer" won't motivate most people, and explicitly telling a client that they screwed up will only make them want to rebel. (If you teach kids, you'll see where these parallels come in...)

So, the best advice I can give you is to spend $50 on the book below. It is worth every single penny and will put you ahead of 99% of nutrition/fitness/healthcare professionals in your field who don't realize that helping people is all about being able to interact with them and get past their defenses.

http://www.amazon.com/Motivational-Interviewing-Helping-People-Applications/dp/1609182278/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1464203858&sr=8-1&keywords=motivational+interviewing

(note: In no way do I benefit monetarily from the link above ha.)

http://www.amazon.com/Psychodynamic-Understanding-Depression-Willard-Gaylin/dp/B000K3MX1G is a recommended reading on depression by Nancy McWilliams in her book http://www.amazon.com/Psychoanalytic-Diagnosis-Second-Edition-Understanding/dp/1609184947.

And in her book you will find that besides guilt and depression another strong pairing is shame and depression. And based on persons dynamic therapeutic approach is different.

As much as people will recognize Freud more, I'd suggest reading modern authors.

There's a third edition book out now, and there are a few significant changes in the model. http://www.amazon.com/Motivational-Interviewing-Third-Edition-Applications/dp/1609182278

If you like to hold a book, this is probably the first one you should get. However, there are tons of great free resources for MI training on the internet as well.

Here are a few manual-type easy reads:

http://www.psychmap.org/uploads/Motivational%20Interviewing%20brief%20guide.pdf

http://www.motivationalinterviewing.info/resources/CTI_MI_Pocket_guide.pdf

http://www.motivationalinterview.org/Documents/LearnersManualforMotivationalInterviewing.pdf

this is about coding (how well an interviewer is using MI) but there are some good examples here: http://www.motivationalinterview.org/Documents/miti3_1.pdf

Motivational Interviewing.
https://www.amazon.com/Motivational-Interviewing-Helping-People-Applications/dp/1609182278

Find a training here: https://motivationalinterviewing.org/

When packing, keep all the items you personally would deem important/necessary/"good" into boxes separate from the junk/unnecessary, and in a third category, trash. Have her unpack the first category when she moves in, and see if you can save the rest for until she's in a better place mentally and will have a better chance of recognizing that not all of that trash and junk is actually useful or necessary for her life. Try to unpack together IF and only if you personally have the mental energy. Do not do anything that stresses you our or makes you depressed/unhappy/anxious, etc. You need to take care of your own well-being first - helping a hoarder is exhausting, frustrating, and depressing, and you have no obligation to subject yourself to that if you don't want. You can help your sister with some things and then quit any time if you feel like it's negative impacting you and your happiness.

I think that therapy could be very, very helpful for your sister. Try to find a psychologist who specializes in or has experience working with people wth hoarding disorder. My mom (a hoarder) finally got a skilled therapist, and is already making good progress after two sessions. That said, my mom 100% acknowledges that she has a major problem and has hoarding disorder, so she is very open to treatment and wants to change (even if she doesn't know how and can't fully control her hoarding behavior).

As I'm sure you know, hoarding often goes along with other mental illnesses, which create a negative spiral and make the hoarding worse. For my mom, it's schizoaffective disorder (a kind of schizophrenia with both manic and depressive episodes). In my experience, getting effective treatment for her other mental disorder(s) made the hoarding much better. Now when she's manic, she isn't AS manic and doesn't go out and buy hundreds of items at a time to add to the hoard. When she's depressed, she isn't as depressed or for as long, so can get back to cleaning/daily life sooner. And her attachment to useless possessions and trash also seems to be lessening.

With comorbid mental issues, it's really hard to stop the spiral. It may not even be possible - most often you have to aim for "harm reduction" or "harm minimalization" rather than them being cured, because hoarding disorder is virtually incurable in traditional senses of the word. It will almost certainly always be there in some form, and you and your sister need to learn how to work around it, live with it, and minimize the damage it causes. You're lucky that you realized the problem now and can take steps to change the course of it. I didn't realize how horrible my mom's disease was until she was almost 70, and now I'm afraid that it's too late because her whole house and basement are stuffed with trash and there are only goatpaths. She won't have repair people into the house, so there is no electricity to half the sockets, only one stove burner out of four works, half of the sinks and toilets are broken, none of the drains work properly, and there is a massive mouse infestation. It's horrible what hoarding can do. It starts slowly, but given a couple of decades untreated can absolutely ruin your house, your mind, and your life. I am so, so glad that your sister is getting help now rather than later.

Before you can worry about how the place looks, you have to prioritize safety, and make sure that your sister's living situation is liveable and not dangerous. So, make sure that things function (her bed, sofa and bathtub are not too covered in trash to be used; there are no flammables near the stove; no tall piles that could tip over and hurt her or her animals, no rodent or bug infestations, etc.)

Not all hoarding is a form of OCD, as previously thought. Current research suggests that there can be many different causes including OCD, past trauma, genetics, difficulty with decision-making/making value judgements (pre-frontal cortex), past poverty, etc. I recommend getting some books on hoarding and reading them if you have time. I like Digging Out, a book for relatives of hoarders, and Buried in Treasures. I hope you can find copies in Germany.

Best of luck with your sister and the move. She is fortunate to have you there to help her, and I hope that you can work together to help her get to a better place mentally.

EDIT: Also, if you run out of time while packing, prioritize the important things. Worse comes to worst, you can take all the necessary items and pay someone else to help you bag/box up the trash and/or throw it out. I recommend not getting rid of anything that could be perceived as vaguely useful, but literal trash... I would personally throw it out. Your sister may be mad at you, but your mom shouldn't have to deal with it in her house. If sorting the good items from everything else is overwhelming, maybe you can ask your sister if it's alright for you to bring in outside help, like a friend. She may not want to agree, but if it's that or lose a lot of her possessions (in the event of a severe time crunch), it may be necessary. Just do the best you can - it's a really hard situation.

From what I've read, relationship OCD is pretty common. People with the condition feel that they can never be sure that they have chosen "the one". They doubt if they truly love their partner. How can you ever be sure that you really love someone? They also sometimes feel the need to confess to their partner their doubts which can cause turbulence in the relationship. It's frustrating that your parents won't pay for treatment. OCD ruins lives (it ruined my life). Sadly, in most cases it's also very treatable. In the last two months, I started reading books about the condition. Reading has been extremely helpful and in a short amount of time I've come to understand much more about my problems. I would highly recommend that you do this. Also, when you read a few books on the topic, you'll be able to show your parents experts' opinions on the condition. When they see that, they hopefully be more likely to give treatment a chance. Furthermore, to be honest, most treatment out there is complete crap. I saw a therapist for 6 years and made no progress. I only realized in the last year or so that the reason for this is that he had no formal training in OCD and therefore was not equipped to treat it. Going to regular "talk therapy" for OCD is generally considered to be a waste of time. Exposure with response prevention therapy is the only method that works. Anyone how says they treat OCD but doesn not do ERP is just a fraud.

This is the best book I read on the disorder:
https://www.amazon.com/Freedom-Obsessive-Compulsive-Disorder-Personalized/dp/042527389X


These three were very good as well:
https://www.amazon.com/Imp-Mind-Exploring-Epidemic-Obsessive-ebook/dp/B002I1XS5I

https://www.amazon.com/Getting-Over-OCD-First-Self-Help/dp/1593859996

https://www.amazon.com/Coping-OCD-Practical-Strategies-Obsessive-Compulsive-ebook/dp/B003TU2KJC

My experience of the field of psychology is that it is very large and diverse, and how personality and character function is understood is fairly contentious and the validity of any tests are dependent on the purpose of the test.
The most robust empirically sound test I am aware of is the Strange Situation, which measures one's "attachment" to others. Knowing one's attachment style can be profound, assuming you understand and are open to what it actually means, which without training or a helpful therapist can be difficult.
Less robust, but much more similar to Myers Briggs in description are the psychoanalytic character styles, best described by Nancy McWilliams in Psychoanalytic Diagnosis. This isn't psychometric testing and cannot be easily empirically validated - however it does find some validation in how it helps practitioners understand their clients and patients (and selves), so to better be able to help them with their concerns.
And there are other tests still, to help decide if a person is more suitable for prison, or community treatment, or suited for a certain high stress activity, etc., etc., the validity for each test being dependent on its desired outcome.
So I guess what I am saying is how valid Myers Briggs is depends partly on what you're using it for and how consistent the results are, which at least according to u/Mockingbird42's informative post, is not very.

I have a copy of Motivational Interviewing, Third Edition: Helping People Change (Applications of Motivational Interviewing) and would recommend it as a first read. Motivational Interviewing in the Treatment of Psychological Problems, Second Edition (Applications of Motivational Interviewing) is also pretty good. Also, as a person-centred psychotherapist, I'm bound to recommend 'Client-centered Therapy' by Carl Rogers. His non-directive, phenomenological approach to therapy was a supposedly a key influence behind MI.

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it's making the front page daily, many are True Believers (READ THIS PLEASE) and I can prove it's turning would-be Trump voters away...and is closely tied to the extreme alt-right and antisemitism.

Read a book called The True Believer by Eric Hoffer. It will tell you where this kind of thinking comes from. Any library would have this.

https://www.amazon.ca/True-Believer-Thoughts-Nature-Movements/dp/0060505915/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1495212440&sr=8-1&keywords=the+true+believer

The True Believer: Thoughts on the Nature of Mass Movements

A lot of people are on here oddly

True believer. There's a book about it

https://www.amazon.com/True-Believer-Thoughts-Nature-Movements/dp/0060505915

How about you go read a history book or a book on geopolitics or psychology. This violence has little to do with Islam and a whole lot to do with other things. Heck, go listen to Osama bin Laden's speeches for the political causes, or here's a CIA analyst who's book was recommended by ObL.

this is another great one

extra interesting because the dud is self educated, but unlike most self educated people isn't a fool.

I think you can use it either way, I originally quoted from this book and I think he makes a good point that both theists and atheists, if they absolutely believe God exists or doesn't exist, both rely on a kind of faith since neither can be proven.

https://www.amazon.com/True-Believer-Thoughts-Movements-Perennial/dp/0060505915

Or read this book.

I also recommend Eric Hoffer's [The True Believer](The True Believer: Thoughts on the Nature ohttps://www.amazon.com/dp/0060505915/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_fPNmyb4156PRT) - I am having my US History students read it this term. (This is a coincidence, albeit a sad one.)

The True Believer is good. Just go in with the understanding that this covers a lot of what make negative social movements as well(i.e. Nazism) win as well.

I have an odd story behind my finding the book I'm going to recommend. Have you seen the movie Serenity? You know, the Firefly movie from Joss Whedon? Without giving too much away, the hero is being pursued by an assassin who works for the (overbearing, tyrannical) authorities. Our hero is in conversation with a friend-counselor of his, discussing his plight, and the friend warns him about how intractable the assassin is. The assassin is a zealot of the regime. The exact words are: "He's a true believer."

The line, "He's a true believer," was delivered so meaningfully that it struck me, while I was in the theater, that there was something behind this. I went home and looked on Amazon for the title. I found this: The True Believer, by Eric Hoffer.

I read the book's description and then ordered it right away. I honestly don't know if Whedon was referring to this book or if this was just a coincidence and my mind jumping to conclusions. But the book is fascinating, and at 192 pages, how can you go wrong?

Filed under the "anything is better than what I have today" idiot category.

It's right next to "change is always better than status-quo, no matter which change we're talking about" file.

Seriously - please spend a few hours of your life reading The True Believer: Thoughts on the Nature of Mass Movements by Eric Hoffer - it will help you understand why your post above is so misguided.

P. S. Please skip the "I got positive Karma and that implies I'm right" argument if you care to reply to this post, as popularity has nothing to do with being right.

1. Move out. If you're living with it, you're condoning it.
   
   
2. Get educated. Start with reading "Stuff", you're going to find it VERY validating.
   
   
3. Start getting REALLY clear with yourself: what do you want for yourself? Do you want a healthy life? A relationship? Can you have one living here?
   
   The hardest thing is going to be the guilt. You are going to feel like the world's worst daughter. Here's something to remember:
   
   Deep down, your father loves you.
   He wants you to be happy, healthy, and to have the best life possible.
   
   In a normal family, the parents' actions help their children have this.
   
   Your dad's actions are controlled by his illness.
   
   To which do you owe your deepest loyalty? Your dad's truest wishes for you, or his illness's demands to be accommodated/validated?
   
   And when it comes to supporting him,
   
   Do you owe it to him to help in the way his illness wants to be helped, or to do the things that will help him the most to be stable and healthy in the long run? And do you trust yourself to be old enough, wise enough to know the difference?
   
   This is going to purely suck, but you can do it.
   
   Your best tactic is repeating, over and over and over again, the absolute truth:
   
   "Dad, I love you, but I can't live here because it's making me sick. I will come to visit, but I will need to leave once I start having trouble breathing. "
   
   Then do it. Every time.
   
   He is going to have to come to his own conclusions about what is important. Start by making him see what is at stake.
   
   AND GO GET THAT BOOK!
   
   
   
   

I do any of the following:
Examine the hair.
Pull it between two fingers to feel the texture of it.
Rub it against my lip
Save the ones with follicles, either sticking them to a paper, or the light switch panel if in the bathroom.
Curl them into springs, by dragging a hair strand between a finger and finger nail. (scalp only)
If I end up with a split hair, I pull the strand into two


I have a major preference for ones with follicles as it allows me to play with the follicle or stick it something.


From Page 12 of The Hair-Pulling Problem by Fred Penzel
"Beside providing visual and tactile stimulation, pulling also seems to provide needed oral stimulation. In Dr. Christensen and colleagues' study of sixty hair pullers, 48% reported a minimum of one of a number or oral behaviors performed with pulled hairs. Some 25% rubbed the hair around their mouths after pulling it out, 33% chewed or bit off the end of the hair, and 8% licked it. In addition 10% reported eating the hair. Other studies have reported higher rates."

If you interested in that book you can find it here: https://smile.amazon.com/Hair-Pulling-Problem-Complete-Guide-Trichotillomania/dp/0195149424
Note you can select to support the TLC foundation when shopping on smile.amazon.com, so that TLC gets a small percentage of the sale. The book was published in 2003, and thus the data and research in it is a bit out of date now, but overall it's an amazing in depth book about trich.

>but am afraid, if I throw it away, might have to buy it again

My mother was like that, and it's part of why I'm very minimalist. I buy very carefully and don't keep things I don't actually need/use.

http://www.amazon.com/Overcoming-Compulsive-Hoarding-Harbinger-Self-Help/dp/157224349X/

http://www.amazon.com/Buried-Treasures-Compulsive-Acquiring-Hoarding/dp/0195300580/

http://www.amazon.com/Making-Peace-Things-Your-Life/dp/0312284888/

Sell the cable on Craigslist or at a junk dealer, and move on. If you do some construction/wiring in future, you can get more cable. It's ok.

I'm a lay person. Got it on Amazon!http://www.amazon.com/Hoarding-Handbook-Guide-Service-Professionals/dp/0195385519/ref=sr_sp-atf_image_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1375773923&sr=1-1&keywords=hoarders+handbook

Association for Play Therapy: https://www.a4pt.org/

The books we used in my intro play therapy class:

• Kottman
  
• Landreth

One of my professors insists that "All learning occurs in relationships," and that this is especially true for kids. During my first practicum, I started a play therapy program for children who had anxiety symptoms. I found this book to be really helpful.
Imaginary play can be really helpful for the 5-12 age group.

EDIT: I think this video is one of the first ones we were shown during that course. It's kind of like staying one step behind the child, letting them lead the way, instead of guiding them. You're narrating their story and allowing them to naturally play out what's in their head without too much adult interference. They're told what to do basically all the time and then during session with you they can show you some of what's going on.

You're Not Sick, You're Thirsty!

Me too.

Fuck items.

Have some stuff.

Hoarding is very closely linked to OCD and depression. If hoarding and hoarders interest you at all you should check out the book Stuff:Compulsive Hoarding and the Meaning of Things, its amazing and scary at the same time.

It's called STUFF. Here is the Amazon link.

I finished the book in a day. Unlike the shows you see on TV, the authors really dig deep into the psychology of hoarding and how trauma, anxiety, OCD, etc. play massive roles... it made me cry a few times.

(Edit: OCD, not LCD...)

A couple of my recent favourites:

Neurotribes by Silberman - interesting and easy read on the history of Autism/Aspergers

Stuff by Frost - entertaining book around the history and current theories of hoarding

For all the people who have clicked on this just to say "Me too" (or "my mom/dad/SO/child/friend"):

Go read this INCREDIBLY PERCEPTIVE ENLIGHTENING HELPFUL BOOK called "Stuff"

I have a deep distrust of most selfhelp books; this isn't one. What it is is a collection of case histories and a ton of thoughtprovoking commentary. IT WILL HELP.

This is a throwaway account that I will never use again. If y'all upvote this post, people coming here in trouble with hoarders of their own will see it and quite possibly find a valuable resource.

I feel like most psychiatrists think psychodynamically, but prescribe therapy cognitive-behaviorally. I recommend, Brief Dynamic Therapy by Hanna Levenson. This helped me conceptualize maladaptive behavior in a way that really fit my own worldview. It's dynamic theory but has many CBT components, and it's super short.

Right now I'm reading Persuasion in Healing. It's not exactly what you're asking for but it gives an interesting history of conceptualizing the healer and their role in the relationship.

If you have not already done so, read this:

Persuasion and Healing: A Comparative Study of Psychotherapy https://www.amazon.ca/dp/0801846366/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_pkx2DbBE0EWXF

I spent a while with the label of Borderline Personality Disorder, and trust me, you don't want that. Here's the story:

I talked to my doctor about taking an antidepressant because I was feeling kind of depressed. I'd had treatment for ADHD in the past, but hadn't taken anything in a few years. He started me on Prozac.

I then got more depressed and began have suicidal thoughts. His answer was to up the dose of Prozac, and then I got more depressed and became actively suicidal. I ended up in a psych hospital for a week where they did nothing other than keep me away from sharp things. (The food was good, though.)

When I got home, I got to see a psychiatrist who diagnosed me with bipolar disorder. And added a med at night so I could sleep, and Neurontin. And upped the Prozac dose. I refer to this time of my life as "when I went nuts."

I began to self harm, and then they labelled me as Borderline Personality Disorder. Suddenly, I was the pariah of every person who saw my chart. People wouldn't make eye contact. They were afraid to make jokes with me. I wasn't a real person anymore.

The only good that came of this was I got to participate in a skills group for Dialectical Behavioral Therapy. It turns out, this helped me with what I now think is a simple case of Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria, (common with ADHD.)

To cut to the chase, I got fed up so I moved to a new town, and managed to get state health insurance. I got off the meds, (and the suicidal ideation and self-harm stopped,) and went back to finish my university degree. I got re-diagnosed with ADHD, and started taking Wellbutrin and Concerta. Didn't go nuts. Well, not completely nuts, anyway. Did finish my degree.

Bottom line is - a diagnosis isn't a magic cure. Listen to yourself. If a treatment isn't working, try something else. DBT is great for a lot of conditions, but don't pursue getting a certain diagnosis, unless you have to to get the treatment you need.

Hang in there. It gets better. And remember, only people who are truly insane don't worry about being insane. They're blissful in their insanity. If you worry about it, then you're not crazy.

If you can't find a DBT skills group to participate in, there's a lot you can actually do on your own: https://www.amazon.com/Training-Treating-Borderline-Personality-Disorder/dp/0898620341

I AM NOT A THERAPIST! DO WHAT YOU WANT, AT YOUR OWN RISK!

Feel free to pm me if you want more info.

http://www.amazon.co.uk/Training-Treating-Borderline-Personality-Disorder/dp/0898620341/ref=pd_sim_b_2

I did a year of group dbt therapy (also with individual therapist), in the uk, and really we just worked our way through the book above, so have a wee look and see what you think. Best of luck.

No, but I have been through the DBT program a few rounds, mostly back in 1998-2002.

The textbook for the program I was in, was Marsha M. Linehan's Skills Training Manual for Treating Borderline Personality Disorder.

That in itself is a useful book to be able to review from time to time, but as I said, it's kind of annoying to get to since I tend to keep most of my similarly sized books in storage.

I haven't read the eBook on offer in this thread, but I'm familiar with DBT. I just wanted to make sure people understood that DBT was 'real mental health stuff'.

I'm a psychotherapist who has zero training in DBT and who will soon be starting a job at a residential program for teens where DBT is one of the primary treatment modalities. I'll obviously be trained when I get there, but in the meantime I'd like to get as up-to-date as I can so that I don't have to start from scratch.

So, I'd like to buy some books. Specifically, I want books that focus on the practice and theory of DBT, so obviously not self-help books aimed at clients. I've found a few so far and I'll link them below (I'm happy to buy any or all of these books, and obviously any others that people recommend):

1. Dialectical Behavior Therapy in Clinical Practice: Applications across Disorders and Settings
   
   
2. Doing Dialectical Behavior Therapy: A Practical Guide (Guides to Individualized Evidence-Based Treatment)
   
   
3. Cognitive-Behavioral Treatment of Borderline Personality Disorder
   
   
4. DBT® Skills Training Manual, Second Edition
   
   Thanks!

Depends how much work you feel like putting into this. Read about what she might be going through, what treatments are effective, realize the limits of what you can do and you could conceivably create a very helpful adjudicative role in her recovery. By realize the limits of what you can do I mean try to get her a good doctor, don't expect to be her doctor.

https://www.amazon.com/Hate-You-Dont-Leave-Understanding-Personality/dp/0399536213

https://www.amazon.com/Rebuilding-Shattered-Lives-Post-Traumatic-Dissociative-ebook/dp/B000WCTLM4/

https://www.amazon.com/Cognitive-Behavioral-Treatment-Borderline-Personality-Disorder/dp/0898621836/

I agree with Freakonomics, but more than that I think you should read:

True Believer by: Eric Hoffer
https://www.amazon.com/True-Believer-Thoughts-Movements-Perennial/dp/0060505915/

You are clearly a “true believer” in your own system, because you are defending an abstract concept with passion and vigor. Not necessarily a bad thing, but own up to it, because that's what you're doing and that's what you advocate; a non-existent system; you know, like heaven or nirvana. With that said, let’s try to grapple with a couple chunks of your reasoning.

First off, it's not bullshit. You are advancing a theoretical model that has, by your own admission, never existed. So then, how is one supposed to critique this model in a way that you can't defend in some equally rhetorical way? One probably cannot, therefore it's on par with a religious ideology. However, I’m going to give it a try, because I like to think people have the ability to change positions when confronted with new arguments.

On the Roman bit, I’m not critiquing that you didn’t write a thesis, I’m saying you lack nuance because you clearly don't know what you're talking about, yet insist on debating me on the particulars of a system of which you lack a sufficient amount of knowledge; again much like a religious argument against something like evolution.

Patronage was the dominant societal glue that transcended the fall of the republic into the era of empire. That’s not just my position, that’s the position of almost every Roman scholar who has written on the topic. Further, the only scholars that I’ve read who disagree are also the ones who also believed in the genetic inferiority of the “barbarians.”

“Corruption” is like the devil/Satan of your way of thinking. It’s a throwaway term that can be used to vilify everything, but actually means nothing. On that note, monarchy is still the norm, and I'd bet you'd agree, but the problem is that you agree for the wrong reasons. A strong executive branch was central to the Roman Republic and it is central to our own system, because the framers were essentially obsessed with the Roman model. In fact, the attendees of the Constitutional Convention debated the merits of a triumvirate, when figuring out how the Executive branch would function. So, in saying it was outside the scope of the debate, I was attempting to allow you to politely bow out of a topic in which you are outclassed. It is well within the scope, but I just don’t suppose that the finer points can be debated meaningfully until you attain more knowledge on the topic. Rest assured “corruption” is not really the answer you think it is.

So, you see, your understanding of Roman history doesn't require a thesis, but guess what? Corruption is baked into the entire system. The Constitutional framers knew it, just as the Romans did. Corruption is part of the political process, and arguably is the political process itself.

Now, let’s move away from Rome, and talk about your proposition itself. Am I defending our democracy as it stands? Of course not; it has many problems. However, you’re seemingly more interested in rhetoric than logic, so let’s play the rhetorical game. Democracy is bullshit, because the people don’t know their ass from a hole in the ground. Guess who ordered that Socrates be put to death? Guess who wanted to maintain segregation in the south? Guess who has stood in the way of LGBT rights? It wasn’t a monarch, the corporate system, or any other abstract evil; it was the people.

Now more rhetoric: What system has higher quality? I’d say your model is totally lacking in quality, because it would assure majority rule. You think of the people in highly vaunted terms, but you should not. The people are every bit as tyrannical and misguided as the leaders that they elect, and that’s the true problem with our current system. Our government is designed, in part, to safe guard the minority against the very system you advocate. Could the civil rights bill have been passed with your system? No. Nor could any of the other laws founded on progressivism. The majority doesn’t know shit about shit. PERIOD. Your majority rule concept is shallow, but that’s no matter, because you know in your heart of hearts that you’re right. You know; just like the religious.

“actually, yes it does. my approval +50% of people.” Okay, so do I really need to point out the flaw here? You say we don’t have a democracy, then say you plus 50% is required for approval. I struggle to articulate the silliness of this statement, so I guess I’ll merely say that you know exactly what I was saying. You advocate a non-existent system, yet democracy has and does still exist. Therefore, your definition is completely irrelevant. Also, what if me plus 50% agreed you’re totally wrong? Would you still be wrong, or would you suddenly advocate Gandhi’s position that “the truth is still the truth in a minority of one?” Hmmm…

So, have I come across as a condescending dick? Yes. Is there a purpose behind it? Yes. I believe a lot of the same things you do, but when you run around talking about invisible chains and the subverted will of the people, you make progressives look just as dogmatic as ultra conservatives, because you are advancing a belief, not a logical argument. Below is a list of books I’d suggest you read, if you really, REALLY want to know about the topics upon which you currently so freely expound, and the ones which have informed my viewpoint. Your dogmatic tone and the fact that I have little faith that your viewpoint is changeable makes me trust that you’ll need to have the last word on the topic, so I’ll give it to you. However, I do implore you to actually allow the holes in your way of thinking to bother you… at least some day.
Here’s the list
http://www.amazon.com/Fall-Roman-Republic-Penguin-Classics/dp/0140449345

http://www.amazon.com/The-True-Believer-Movements-Perennial/dp/0060505915

http://www.amazon.com/Brilliant-Solution-Inventing-American-Constitution/dp/0156028727

http://www.amazon.com/The-Fall-Roman-Empire-Barbarians/dp/0195325419

The True Believer: Thoughts on the Nature of Mass Movements by Eric Hoffer. I would say it is the book that changed me the most.

In all seriousness, as I've posted a few times, Bitcoin enthusiasts largely fit a profile outlined in one of the best books outlining mass movements.

http://www.amazon.com/The-True-Believer-Movements-Perennial/dp/0060505915/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1411180962&sr=8-1&keywords=the+true+believer

It should be mandatory reading in high schools imho, the US would be a better place.

Seriously - no one said 1984 yet? It's an amazing comment on humanity and the collective's extreme desire to suppress the base desires that give life meaning. It's an astute commentary on the nature of bureaucracies, the legal system, and sadly the direction in which society seems to be heading.

Besides that? Six Frigates by Ian Toll is a great read if you care about American military history - it's about the first six frigates commissioned by Congress, the birth of the Navy, and the war against the African pirates (of "to the shores of Tripoli" fame).

Candid by Voltaire is exceptional as well.

If you haven't read it The True Believer is one of the few books that caused a paradigm shift for me. It explains mass movements (religion / populist movements / political movements) and why some people are so extreme in their desires. It changed the way that I view the political / religious system and redefined how I interact with people.

The True Believer was written about you.

This book analyzes it nicely as well:
http://www.amazon.com/True-Believer-Thoughts-Movements-Perennial/dp/0060505915/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1453406490&sr=8-1&keywords=the+true+believer

Even if I agreed with your opinion on what causes political/religious violence or how much the individual carrying it out "owns it," its still extremism either way which is what Im getting at.

Also you're really underestimating how much terrorists, regardless if their motive is religion or not, have some kind of believe in an intangible higher power or cause that justifies their actions.

If you have the desire I'd recommend checking out this book about the nature of fanaticism, it makes a pretty convincing argument that fanaticism is about losing your individually regardless if your a religious/political/nationalist fanatic. http://www.amazon.com/The-True-Believer-Movements-Perennial/dp/0060505915

To summarize the idea is that fanatics are people who've become so sickened by their lives and the world that they resort to things like revolution/terrorism. Such individuals aren't eager to reinforce their individuality, instead they want to abandon it and join whatever "Holy Cause" is offering them new meaning for their lives. So for example the guy who shot up San Bernadino was probably someone who was so disgusted with himself and his life he decided to abandon that and recast himself as a "holy warrior." But it applies to more than just religious individuals young Germans in the 20/30s were often swept into communist or nazi organizations for the same reasons.

The book makes a good case for the argument in my opinion that there's little difference between fanatics regardless of how different their ideologies notionally may be. So thats why I say extremism and fanaticism is the real problem.

I recently read Eric Hoffer's The True Believer: Thoughts on the Nature of Mass Movements which he wrote in 1951, so a fairly short time after the Second World War. It is insightful to understanding the appeal of these groups, the ease with which you can win some people over to your cause however abject. And how violence can be an integral and 'natural' part of that cause. The book is still in print and can be had fairly cheaply on Amazon for instance. Even though it's over half a century old, this book even helps understand groups like IS.

Yes; I think the surrounding circumstances and history matter a lot, as described in The True Believer.

Es triste que tengas razón en lo que dices, de que la TV abierta es el medio más popular por que es el que todos pueden acceder, cuando es el más manipulador de todos los medios. Independientemente de quién sea el dueño, o cuantos canales haya, la TV siempre tendrá ese poder manipulante. La diversidad en la TV se busca, no para reducir el poder de la TV, sino para distribuirlo y evitar que se concentre.

Creo que en clase de Ciencias Sociales, en lugar de enseñar frivolidades como los mitos de los niños héroes y la independencia de México, deberían enseñarle a los niños a pensar críticamente, a ser algo rebeldes, a debatir, y a que no los manipulen. Irónicamente, dirigir el odio contra los manipuladores también es una forma de manipular! Lo mejor sería enseñarles a detectar una manipulación y a poder reirse de ella, a saber que no son inmunes, y que, mientras sean ellos los que decidan si seguir o no la propuesta, con sus pros y sus contras, eso es lo que cuenta.

En otras palabras, creo que temas como "economía", "finanzas", "historia financiera de México", "Teoría de Juegos", "Neuromarketing" e "Inteligencia Emocional" deberían de ser los temas de la educación básica en ciencias sociales, en lugar de irrelevancias como "historia de México", "arte", "civismo", y esas tonteras sin profundidad...

Por cierto, sobre el tema de la manipulación de masas, te recomiendo el libro "The True Believer" de Eric Hoffer...

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I would suggest picking up Gary Landreth's book on play therapy. It is amazing and some amazing things can happen with the use of play therapy.

https://www.amazon.com/Play-Therapy-Relationship-Garry-Landreth/dp/0415886813

This book is filled with great information to use as a reference. I lived on diet coke until I read that book.

Water: For Health, for Healing, for Life: You're Not Sick, You're Thirsty! https://www.amazon.com/dp/0446690740/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_JdGSDbPV57X7A

This?

If you're interested, there's a book called "Stuff" about hoarding that's full of good information and incredibly readable.

http://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/0547422555?pc_redir=1409968651&robot_redir=1

Made me really feel for hoarders, but also have a glimmer of hope about treatment.

Applied Multiple Regression/Correlation Analysis for the Behavioral Sciences by Cohen, Cohen, West, and Aiken and Using Multivariate Statistics by Tabachnik and Fidell are both good for your situation, I think. They are easy to read, touch on a wide variety of popular methods, and have lots of examples with code and data from popular software (including SPSS).

I bought as many books as I could on DBT and ACT not all at once only when I could afford it.

I started by reading http://www.amazon.com/Cognitive-Behavioral-Treatment-Borderline-Personality-Disorder/dp/0898621836/ref=sr_1_2?ie=UTF8&qid=1408057792&sr=8-2&keywords=cognitive+behavioral+therapy+for+bpd

&

http://www.amazon.com/Doing-Dialectical-Behavior-Therapy-Individualized/dp/1462502326/ref=sr_1_sc_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1408057888&sr=8-1-spell&keywords=doing+dialectical+behavioural+therapy

to get a better understanding of BPD and DBT. and right now I am working with these workbooks:

http://www.amazon.com/Training-Treating-Borderline-Personality-Disorder/dp/0898620341/ref=sr_1_3?ie=UTF8&qid=1408057792&sr=8-3&keywords=cognitive+behavioral+therapy+for+bpd

and


http://www.amazon.com/Expanded-Dialectical-Behavior-Therapy-Training/dp/1936128128/ref=pd_sim_b_6?ie=UTF8&refRID=1H69WV6FGR18FCSQ5TSQ


and I have just ordered this one.

http://www.amazon.com/Dialectical-Behavior-Therapy-Skills-Workbook/dp/1572245131/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1408057792&sr=8-1&keywords=cognitive+behavioral+therapy+for+bpd

the Acceptance and Commitment Therapy book I got is (I have yet to start this one):

http://www.amazon.com/Acceptance-Commitment-Therapy-Second-Practice/dp/1609189620/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1408058093&sr=1-1&keywords=acceptance+and+commitment+therapy


I do what is on the workbooks and I also do further research on the skills online so I can understand it better and see what works and what doesn't for me and I test them out forcing myself to do exposure sessions ( or try to get used to using them in the moment they are needed or helpful) and I write down everything so I don't forget and kind of monitor myself and my progress.

If you have a good rapport with your current therapist, maybe she would be open to getting a workbook that the two of you could work through together. I've used this workbook. I haven't used this but that is a reputable publisher (New Harbinger) and looks good.


DBT is a very "manualized" treatment; meaning it's standardized and books and workbooks are used. There is a clear structure and process for DBT. All DBT includes the same basic principles. It's pretty standard stuff for a therapist.

DBT was originally conceived by Marcia Linehan as a group therapy model, but it's been adapted to individual therapy. There are specialized training courses in DBT, but as far as I know, any licensed therapist can use the basics of DBT as long as they've done some reading and understand it. You can read more about it on Dr. Linehan's website.


Even if you're not totally convinced of the BPD diagnosis, the skills in DBT are really excellent for emotion regulation, tolerating distress, and relating better to the other people around you.


I would talk to your current therapist and see what she says. She may be willing to do this with you, but she may not. Ultimately, you'll have to rely on her to be the judge of whether or not she feels comfortable working with DBT with you.

http://www.amazon.com/Training-Treating-Borderline-Personality-Disorder/dp/0898620341

I recommend this book highly. Borderlines have to basically relearn how to react to things. We are extremely emotional. Stay strong and remind yourself you are not your illness

Oh yes there was, though I received photocopied dittos. http://www.amazon.com/Training-Treating-Borderline-Personality-Disorder/dp/0898620341

Here is a good recap of the skills: http://www.dbtselfhelp.com/html/dbt_skills_list.html

I also read the manual that they give to therapists wanting to administer DBT. It helped. Made me see myself through the therapist's eyes.

This is a sample o f a diary card: http://www.dbtselfhelp.com/html/diary_card_1.html

I would recommend two books, and highly recommend to look for a few more.

This book has changed my life and several friends, all with varying disorders. Saved my best friend from bulimia, helped my husband greatly with BDP, and my brother come out of meth addiction.
Man's Search for Meaning https://www.amazon.com/dp/0807014273/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_RcS3CbEF3R10K

This is to work through BPD and I know it’ll help you define if that’s what’s going on:
Skills Training Manual for Treating Borderline Personality Disorder https://www.amazon.com/dp/0898620341/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_pbS3Cb2EDVHH8

You should definitely seek out a therapist. Be empowered to call places locally. It’s so great to figure out what’s going on, especially early.

Woah buddy you have a lot going on! First off, deep breath!!!! You have taken the biggest step - asking for help. If I were you (and I kinda was, at 25 (29 now) I was diagnosed as Bipolar II, Generalized anxiet, and BPD traits), I'd make sure I was seeing that psychologist as much as possible, I'd be looking at seeing a psychiatrist for medication, and on top of all else, looking for a strong DBT program.

I'd also talk to your gf, be fully honest with her. Let her know this is a process and the prognosis is good if you fight (which it seems like you want to) but you need her help and understanding. It may be best to consider taking a break to shield her until you work through some of this treatment - I know that option sounds shitty, but trust me, had I listened to that advice when I was 25, my life would have been drastically different.

If you can't get into a DBT group quickly, pick up a book such as this one - This was the book I used in group. It makes WAY more sense with a group, but reading it yourself may help. The author actually created the DBT model.

More than anything else, remember the single best part of being bipolar: you may be one mood now, but that mood always passes.

You can PM me if you want to chat too. I promise, it can get better.

BUY THIS BOOK ASAP!

Even if it's a bit expensive, it is worth all the money you spend on it. Order it today and start using it right away. It will change your life radically right from the time you start using it. DBT combined with talk therapy is most effective treatment. Consult a psychiatrist. You may benefit greatly from medication if you are able to use it responsibly.

http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0898620341?keywords=the%20skills%20training%20manual%20for%20treating&qid=1458305187&ref_=sr_1_1&sr=8-1

I used this one, her skills book and the videos (took a look, but not sure where the whole package is) Cognitive-Behavioral Treatment of Borderline Personality Disorder https://www.amazon.com/dp/0898621836/ref=cm_sw_r_other_awd_DI03wbY8QRFNJ


This one is I think more general DBT® Skills Training Handouts and Worksheets, Second Edition https://www.amazon.com/dp/1572307811/ref=cm_sw_r_other_awd_UJ03wb5V1P12Q

There's a lot of controversy here, I won't lie. People are pretty divided over her efficacy. All I know is that I was diagnosed at 17 with BPD, in recovery at 19 and missing most traces of the issue by 21.

Internal Family Systems is a theory that human minds consist of parts that have their own independent will and drive. Yes it's also useful as a therapy model, but it's not a symptom of illness.

This book gives the best overview of the system

https://www.amazon.ca/Internal-Systems-Therapy-Richard-Schwartz/dp/1572302720

And here's a brief description of the theory

https://www.selfleadership.org/outline-of-the-Internal-family-systems-model.html

Hope this is useful

https://www.amazon.com/Internal-Family-Systems-Therapy-Guilford/dp/1572302720

The author is Richard Schwartz.

How well do you think you have sorted out your childhood neglect and how long did it take you? How old are you?

What I can tell you is that there are parts of your mind that are angry and frustrated because those parts believe that being so will help you in some way. Figuring out what those parts have to say is totally possible. Here are a couple books that I can suggest that have tools in them to help with just such a process:

Focusing by Gendlin is really great. I linked the audiobook version which you can listen to in like an hour, although the text is just as good: https://www.amazon.com/Focusing/dp/B006H9RQ6Y/ref=tmm_aud_title_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=&sr=

IFS is another technique that really gets into dialoging with the different parts of your mind. IFS stands for Internal Family Systems: https://www.amazon.com/Internal-Family-Systems-Therapy-Guilford/dp/1572302720/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1474851623&sr=1-1&keywords=internal+family+systems

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I've not read the IFS book I linked, so it may be hard to read or something. One thing you can do with both IFS and Focusing is just google it a whole bunch--I bet you can get the gist of it without buying anything at all.

You're not broken. There are tools and people that can help you. You've got this.

Sure. It's nothing out of the ordinary for people coping with OCD.
I highly recommend you the following books, they are talking about things you're describing and giving great advises:

1. https://www.amazon.com/Coping-OCD-Practical-Strategies-Obsessive-Compulsive-ebook/dp/B003TU2KJC/ref=dp_kinw_strp_2
   2.https://www.amazon.com/Mindfulness-Workbook-OCD-Overcoming-Compulsions-ebook/dp/B00H28YC98/ref=sr_1_1?s=digital-text&ie=UTF8&qid=1503184088&sr=1-1&keywords=mindfulness+ocd
   

I really enjoyed Mindless Eating, by Dr. Brian Wansink. I learned about it from my Weight Watchers leader and it was eye opening. It's very scientific and detailed but also informative and easy to read. It helped me realize where my extra calories were going when I conveniently forgot to track them.

Congrats on making a positive change and seeing good results!

As others have said, engaging your senses and mind in the cooking process makes more of a "complete story" for the parts of your brain that feel satisfied - you choose foods, prepare them, anticipate them, and finally get to enjoy them. (Similarly, pet experts recommend exercising pets before feeding them, so they get the same type of anticipatory buildup before eating, and feel more satisfied after)

I recommend that you read Mindless Eating to learn more ways to subtly adjust your appetite, cravings, and satisfaction as you continue to prepare food and try to get to a better body comp that works for you. It can be as simple as leaving the bones on your plate after eating wings to help your brain know that it should be full.

A couple tips as someone who changed lifestyles and eating habits to drop some weight: if you can work in a moderate but sustainable exercise/activity increase (ex. walking 20 min or 10 min elliptical 3x a week), it will help food you cook to be even more satisfying, and don't get discouraged when your weight loss slows a bit. It's common to have a lot of weight loss up front, then it levels out, or even stops a bit. What's important is that you're sustaining a net drop over time, and a bit of weight gained can mean you're putting on some muscle if you're exercising. If you can keep up healthier habits over years, it will be easier to keep that going over a longer term so you don't yo-yo back.

Keep at it, and keep exploring and loving food!

Nancy McWilliams has written an incredible book on personality structures which covers the Borderline structure. It's aimed at trained mental health professionals so it's very dense, but also very well written.

http://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/1609184947?pc_redir=1409108898&robot_redir=1

Otherwise, James Masterson writes a lot about BPD, some writings are more accessible than others.

Two that have been particularly helpful in working with more complex cases are Psychoanalytic Diagnosis by Nancy McWilliams, and Schema Therapy by Jeffrey Young et al. I have several other recommendations for emotion-focused therapy, but I'll limit myself to two I've been coming back to recently, Case Studies in Emotion-Focused Treatment of Depression by Jeanne Watson et al. and Working with Emotions in Psychotherapy by Les Greenberg and Sandra Paivio. And of course, Focusing by Eugene Gendlin.

I'm sorry to hear that. It's difficult when you do truly care about someone and the relationship just isn't working anymore.

If the clutter is as serious as it sounds she may have some sort of OCD/hoarding issue. It is difficult to deal with and you may want to read something like this to try and help her overcome the issue.

Hey no worries, I'd highly recommend you check out motivational interviewing:

https://www.amazon.com/Motivational-Interviewing-Helping-People-Applications/dp/1609182278/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1521061152&sr=8-1&keywords=motivational+interviewing&dpID=513Sr6aUE%252BL&preST=_SY291_BO1,204,203,200_QL40_&dpSrc=srch

Socratic questioning is a similar technique that involves asking open-ended questions to guide someone (rather than arguing a point). I think MI is specific to decision-making whereas socratic questioning can be about whatever.

Read Motivational Interviewing: Helping People Change

Really helped me with issues like this.

Helping People Change by Miller & Rollnick is a great text for learning MI.

True believers.

https://www.amazon.com/True-Believer-Thoughts-Movements-Perennial/dp/0060505915

User binary_search_tree mentioned a book i should read, and here i mentioned that i was having money issues so i'd have to get it later.

He sent me an Amazon gift certificate for the book. It arrived yesterday :D

Reddit is awesome :D

My GF has trich problems and offers this advice:

> In a book that I read, it mentions how people who pull their hair have a hard time living in the moment. They're either worried about the future, or are living in the past. By pulling our hair, it grounds us to think of the present. If you can find a way to touch something other than your hair, and focus on your breathing, it may help. The book is called The Hair-Pulling Problem.

When I catch my GF pulling her hair and I point it out to her, she was unaware of it. I help her by holding her hand for the moment, so she can ground herself. When I'm unavailable, and she catches herself pulling hair, she switches to squeezing a pillow or whatever she can get her hands on. I'm not sure how this will mix with your OCD, but maybe you can turn it into something positive, rather than debilitating.

Yes! People vastly underestimate how important hydration is.

There's even a book called You're not sick -- you're thirsty!

http://www.amazon.com/Water-Health-Healing-Youre-Thirsty/dp/0446690740

Awesome! I take it you're not seeing clients yet. I'm applying to internship this year (ugh!). I'm going to give you a reading list because I'm super biased about all this stuff. You have no obligation to read anything I suggest. I'm a contemporary behavior therapy person myself. (ACT, DBT, BA, FAP, MI).

Randomized trial of behavioral activation, cognitive therapy, and antidepressant medication in the acute treatment of adults with major depression. Lead author is Sona Dimidjian (2006) That builds off a Jacobson study (http://tinyurl.com/lb82qhj).

http://www.amazon.com/Guide-Functional-Analytic-Psychotherapy-Behaviorism/dp/0387097864 (this form of therapy could use any uncomfortable situations about your hand to become a therapeutic tool.)

http://www.amazon.com/ACT-Made-Simple-Easy---Read/dp/1572247053/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1377316771&sr=1-1&keywords=act+made+simple This is the biggest modern behavior therapy. It's based of relational frame theory (http://www.amazon.com/Learning-RFT-Introduction-Relational-Application/dp/1572249064/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1377316825&sr=1-1&keywords=learning+rft)

Last book I'll recommend is the main DBT book. (http://www.amazon.com/Cognitive-Behavioral-Treatment-Borderline-Personality-Disorder/dp/0898621836)

For sure read the first two articles. They're super important. The rest is just the stuff I'm interested in because I'm biased. Let me know if you ever want to nerd out about the behavioral side of CBT.

I've known a fair share of Scientists in my life and I can tell you, they are no more immune to political bias than you or I. My father recently retired from his 22 year career with NASA as a Biomedical Scientist, and my mother has been teaching high school level Earth Science classes for nearly as long. In case you're wondering, both of them agree that anthropogenic global warming is very likely but neither is willing to admit absolute certainty, just like the rest of the scientific community, including your own beloved IPCC. Your kind of faith is reserved for the True Believer.

The dangers of extrapolation.