Best breastfeeding supplies according to redditors
We found 747 Reddit comments discussing the best breastfeeding supplies. We ranked the 258 resulting products by number of redditors who mentioned them. Here are the top 20.
We found 747 Reddit comments discussing the best breastfeeding supplies. We ranked the 258 resulting products by number of redditors who mentioned them. Here are the top 20.
Hi! I’m back!!
Although I thoroughly intend to write my birth story when I’m ready, I just finished my first piece since the baby arrived so in celebration, I’ll pair it with something useful.
I really appreciated posts like this while I was pregnant so here goes:
Things I didn’t know I needed:
(AKA things I have frantically ordered on amazon at or around 2am)
•Bottle Drying Rack This probably seems obvious, but when we didn’t get this from our showers we were like... idk why we can’t just use a towel??
•Safe way to cosleep My husband built a BEAUTIFUL Sidecar Crib, but it was attached on my side of the bed and it took 2.5 weeks for me to have healed enough to climb in bed around it safely with the baby. This way, I didn’t have to bend over to pick up baby or even spit up to check on/soothe him.
•Lactation Suppliment My lactation consultant approved. This one worked well in my breakfast tea.
•Better flanges My poor nipples were so sore and the flames that come with the Medela... well I’m not sure who they’re supposed to fit but not me. My doula practically ordered these for me. GAME CHANGER.
•Pumping bra I was cutting holes in sports bras. This is better.
•Nipple Shells Another kind reddittor sent me in the direction of this AMAZING INVENTION after I posted a photo of ice packs tied to my nipples with a burp cloth because I refused to wear a shirt my nipples hurt so bad. I will be purchasing these for EVERY PREGNANT WOMAN FOREVER. They keep your nipples dry, collect drips, apply counter pressure to keep your nipples shaped correctly for latching, and most importantly omg nothing touches the precious nips and you can wear a shirt!!
•Car mirror
Me: that seems extra, he’s in a car seat and safe why would I need a mirror??
Hormones; HAHAHAAHAHAHAHAH YOU FOOL
•Car adapter for my breast pump Cheaper than batteries
•Shade for his side of the car because anything that wakes up my sleeping baby is the devil. This one has a bonus that allowed me to roll the window down and it was HOT in the south
•Better suction for the breast pump Again- just better than whatever they send you
•My Breast Friend we got the boppy but this one saved my back
•Heating pad Turns out I’ll do ANYTHING to keep the baby asleep when I transfer him to his crib including preheat the darn thing (on low!) before I lay home down
•Stroller Caddy You’ll want somewhere to put your keys, phone, and coffee
•Baby K’tan An easier way for my husband to wear the baby.
•Leggings I had a pair of these before, and they are SO COMFORTABLE on my postpartum body that I bought 5 more in different colors!
•Extra pump parts for whichever pump you have
•A hands-up swaddle I found at Target
•Wine.
Anyway, hope this helps! Best of luck to all of you!
If you're looking for a cheaper Lanolin alternative someone mentioned to me Nipple cream. Its super cheap and you can get A LOT of it. I personally love any products that have lanolin in it. Bite's lip balm and lip mask are my favs.
I ended up buying these for when I want something simple and effective. Would highly recommend.
In the US it is required that insurance provide a breast pump (thanks, Obama!!!).
Unfortunately this doesn't always mean an electric pump - some insurances have managed to loophole their way into satisfying this requirement while only providing a simple hand pump, but it's better than nothing.
Be sure to check with your insurance provider. Some require you to obtain prescriptions from your doctor that you can take to a Durable Medical Equipment Supplier. Some just ask for your OB's name and contact info and will do the legwork for you.
Rave: Lanolin
Holy shit, guys. Thanks to recommendations I found via the search bar, my lips are healing! Lipsense destroyed my upper lip and it was chapped and scabbed for 3 full months. I got some Lanolin from Amazon a week ago, mixed in a bit of Aquaphor, and put it into some empty squeezable lip balm tubes, and my lips are almost back to normal!
Lanolin! It's an occlusive like petrolatum, but it also absorbs through the skin. It's chemically very similar to the moisturizing layer our skin naturally produces. It's AMAZING. It gets me through my crazy-dry winter lips every year and got me through a course of accutane this summer.
One caution!: Lanolin comes from sheep (it's a waxy layer on sheep wool that's removed as a part of the woolmaking process) and if you buy unrefined lanolin, it'll kinda smell like farm animals. I think it's subtle enough, but if you're sensitive to smells you can buy refined lanolin, which is marketed to breastfeeding mothers, so you're going to have to deal with a tube that says "chapped nipples" on it.
Amazon links: Unrefined lanolin, refined lanolin
edit-- I just use lanolin at night. It keeps my lips nice and moisturized that they can take a long day of lipstick. When I was on Accutane, or occasionally in the depths of winter, I do lanolin all day and it has a nice gloss.
Dudes, slanted shields. Life changer.
https://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/B0085CBA90/ref=mp_s_a_1_3_a_it?ie=UTF8&qid=1498508887&sr=8-3&keywords=breast+pump+shield&dpPl=1&dpID=31fp62yyihL&ref=plSrch
It's not actually a lip balm, but the lanolin used for nipple cream for breast feeding is the most awesome lip balm I've ever used. Here's a link to it on Amazon. I found out about it via /r/skincareaddiction and holy shit it works awesome. If my lips should get cracked/dry, it fixes them within like a day and a half.
Twins are 2 months old! Also, that is what my bottle prep looks like.
I am pumping, and supplementing my breast milk to boost the calorie content still. I use the Dr. Browns's formula mixer pitcher to prep the milk for the day, and then sterilize and fill bottles so they just have to be warmed up.
Also if you are pumping make sure to change out your valves if you notice a drop in output. You can use the duckbill with most pumps, and they are easy to clean. I just don't get why something for 2 boobs comes in a 5 pack.
Hydration is key- but you may also need an occlusive/moisturizer to help get them better. I use a lanolin based lip balm but anything with lanolin (try a nipple balm for breastfeeding moms ) or petroleum jelly will help.
I know it sounds crazy, but nipple cream. Yes- cream for chafed nipples which happens when breastfeeding (apparently?! And sounds no bueno). It’s lanolin has a vaseline consistency, and comes in a purple tube. Holy grail for super dry and chapped lips:
Lansinoh Lanolin Nipple Cream, 100% Natural Lanolin Cream for Breastfeeding, 1.41 oz Tube https://www.amazon.com/dp/B005MI648C/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_sxLvCbVHBEY2Z
I would recommend getting a Haakaa from Amazon $12.99 I think. It uses suction and can relieve the pressure without emptying your breast, so your brain won’t get signaled to increase your supply.
Haakaa Manual Breast Pump 4oz/100ml,2019 New Style https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07CWK4S5W/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_iFWEDb5YHN16S
Have you tried using a haakaa? It suctions onto your breast and gathers milk from your let down. So when you breastfeed, you put it on the side the baby isn’t currently using. It’s a really good way to stockpile some bottle feeds, without risking creating and oversupply.
I could usually get an ounce or so per feed. You can combine several sessions to get enough for a bottle, then freeze. Just make sure that the milk is the same temp when combining. So if you already have a container of milk in the fridge, let the new milk cool before adding it to the container. You can leave in the fridge for several days before you need to freeze.
https://www.amazon.com/Haakaa-Breast-Manual-Silicone-Breastfeeding/dp/B07CWK4S5W/ref=mp_s_a_1_2_sspa?keywords=breast+pump&qid=1569093074&sr=8-2-spons&psc=1&spLa=ZW5jcnlwdGVkUXVhbGlmaWVyPUEyT01OQTkzREZXUTgwJmVuY3J5cHRlZElkPUEwMzk4MjAyM1RFNFMyMzlEOE9IRyZlbmNyeXB0ZWRBZElkPUEwMTYwMjE2NTRUM0s0WElFTTAyJndpZGdldE5hbWU9c3BfcGhvbmVfc2VhcmNoX2F0ZiZhY3Rpb249Y2xpY2tSZWRpcmVjdCZkb05vdExvZ0NsaWNrPXRydWU=
if you pump daily, you should replace them every month. Or if you are fed up with how shitty they are, buy duckbills. They're a million times better and easier to clean.
https://www.amazon.com/NeneSupply-Duckbill-Breastpumps-Breastpump-Breastshields/dp/B00XVASFGC/ref=sr_1_1_a_it?ie=UTF8&qid=1502805050&sr=8-1&keywords=duckbill+membranes
Hi All!
Here's the posted link to the angled flanges for pumping(the reason you'd want these is so you can lean back while you pump instead of having to sit straight up. So much better, especially if you are pumping after every feed).
https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B0085CBA90/ref=oh_aui_detailpage_o02_s00?ie=UTF8&psc=1
Things are going well with the twins. WE've figured out a sleep schedule for my husband and I so we are both getting a guaranteed 4-5 hours a night, and that;s been the greatest thing ever. We were trying to do everything together at first, and it just wasn't going to work as it made both of us very exhausted. Our schedule is roughly that I sleep from 7/8(nurse and pump right before sleep)-12/1AM, he gives some of the pumped milk(I'm extremely fortunate to have enough to supplement with breast milk) and then he sleeps the rest of the night. When sleeping, the twins are elsewhere so you don't hear them at all. This is the number one thing I would recommend. Don't be a team and try and do everything together. Split night time. Get some sleep. Life will be so much better.
The Haakaa Manual Breast pump, if you plan on breastfeeding. It catches the milk from the other breast while your LO nurses. No more losing that liquid gold all over your shirt/bra. Because, you’re pulling milk out by simple suction on one side, you are also boosting milk production! Serious, lifesaver! Only 12.99 on Amazon!
Check this out: Haakaa Breast Pump Manual Breast Pumps Silicone Breastfeeding Pu... https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07CWK4S5W/ref=cm_sw_r_sms_awdb_t1_kNiaCbW0GBDWV
It won't negatively impact her in any way, but you might feel engorged and uncomfortable, even leaking. Ensure you have pads in your bra or you might be in for some embarrassment.
My daughter was extremely difficult to get to accept formula, but I started trying pretty late, about 6 months old. A 2 month old would probably be fine.
Here's a $30 pump if you decide to leave some breastmilk in the fridge instead of buying formula. It's also useful for relieving pressure on trips away from the baby.
http://www.amazon.com/Medela-Harmony-Manual-Breast-Pump/dp/B0006HBS1M/
One is simply not "set" on diapers, you need more. A little thing, but you need them - pacifiers. "Oh, we have a 2-pack already." No, you need about 8 of those within reach at all times (our pediatrician recommended not giving until 2 weeks old).
Also, if the female species is feeding the spawn, then invest in these. You will not be able to find them in stores and the 24 to 48 Amazon takes to deliver will make turn the female species into the devil. While you are at if you do not have a quality breast pumping if she will be breast feeding, invest in that as well.
And while you are at it a baby straight jacket for sleeping. This has helped our spawn sleep longer throughout the night.
Few things I brought second trip that I didn’t think of first time (I’ve had two NICU babies):
Comfortable clothing. Post delivery the pre pregnancy stuff won’t be comfortable nor will the maternity stuff. For summer, I’d do soft cotton dresses, maxi skirt etc for the weeks after delivery. I couldn’t stand stuff touching my incision.
For immediate post op, comfy pajamas. Something you won’t be embarrassed to wear from your room to NICU (I didn’t want to wear hospital gown).
I’d get some soothie pads for your nipples. Your breasts will be super sore and the NICU will want you to pump every 3 hours. Lansinoh Soothies Gel Pads for Breastfeeding, 2 Count https://www.amazon.com/dp/B002KGHUL4/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_LSpWCbF9CESBE
Breast feeding bra or tanks of your choice. You probably won’t want anything with an underwire.
Long phone charger (10 feet) bc plug locations aren’t convenient.
Insulated water bottle. You’ll need to drink massive amounts of water post delivery while pumping / breast feeding.
It took me about 3wks before things started to settle and get easier. And honestly, it kept getting easier. I'm not sure why people are telling you it gets worse! I'd second checking for a tongue/lip tie and maybe meet up with an LC to make sure you've got the latch down. My baby was small and had a really small mouth when she was born, so while our latch was perfect in form it was also shallow. My nipples didn't feel great! I used philips thermal gel pads quite frequently, I kept them in the freezer. They helped a lot. I also used lansinoh gel soothies and I kept those in the fridge for extra cooling relief. Used lots of lansinoh. Just slather it on. Let your boobs air dry a little too. It takes some time for your nipples to adjust to their new use! Once we got to 3wks it was just second nature. There was no pain, it became super easy.
If you're super stressed, and are feeling like you can't handle breastfeeding - formula is perfectly great too! All the matters is a fed baby at the end of the day. You've gotta do what works best for you, and what keeps you sane. I'd keep trying for a little bit, visit an LC as soon as possible and then re-evaluate after a week or 2 whether you want to continue or switch to formula full time. If it makes you miserable, switch!
haha bad timing :)
good thing it's super cheap though!
I highly recommend using a lanolin-based nipple cream ( I use Lansinoh) at night - it is unparalleled in terms of adding moisture to your lips, moisture retention throughout the night and healing sores and cracked bits, etc. I also use the Jack Black lip balms with SPF during the day mostly because I don't want to carry around a tube of nipple cream to reapply after eating, lol. Any lanolin-based lipbalm would do, tho!
I assembled this cart for our living room, and I thought y'all would appreciate it. We also considered naming it the T&A cart, but "boob & butt" won out.
The bottom shelf just has extra diapers, wipes, and nursing pads.
Get a nipple cream. I use the Lansinoh brand and have found it to help with the itchiness perfectly. It's thicker than lotion and stays on much longer. It's more like Aquaphor.
Also - breast milk storage bags are excellent for yeast storage. They are sterile and cheap, much better for yeast storage than glass jars.
And you don't even need to be a parent to have them: https://www.amazon.com/Lansinoh-Breastmilk-Storage-Bags-100/dp/B006XISCNA
I use the Lansinoh, or Target version of the Lansinoh, because they freeze flat for storage. I dont have a chest freezer, but what I use in my regular freezer is throwaway aluminum food trays, They work well to keep the bags organized. I recommend using the shelf in the freezer to lay the bags to freeze, if the shelf is wire like, you may want to put something smooth and flat down to lay the bags on. When I froze the bags right on the wire shelf, it was hard to stack the bags side by side because the bags became wavy from the shelf.
I like the Spectra S2. It's gentle but efficient. I've also tried a Madela PISA, and it definitely has stronger suction, but it hurt like hell and didn't seem to get as much milk as my spectra did. I feel like the Spectra better imitates the suckling motion of a mouth. Bonus, it's also pretty quiet, it's easy to control suction strength and speed, and it has a night light (for those 2am sessions). I bought mine used, but it's also one of the cheaper options if you buy new.
I was just researching this last night on Reddit (here and SCA) to see if I could find other options before buying the Laneige Lip Sleeping Mask that I'd been eyeing a while. The thing is, my lips aren't really chapped or super dry, but I find that they tighten up pretty quickly and I needed something that wasn't just an occlusive moisturizer (which is what my Aquaphor basically amounts to, with SPF 30).
One thing I realized is I've been exfoliating the lips too much. I tend to scrape off the top layer (it comes off easily, it's not dry either but moist) every morning and I think that's caused a vicious cycle of it peeling easily. So this morning I used my thumb to go over my lips and remove leftover balm without scraping the lip itself. This may not be helpful to you in particular but I figured I'd mention it in case anyone with an issue similar to mine checks out this thread too.
More to the point: I decided on trying Lansinoh, which is lanolin (it's actually marketed to breastfeeding mothers for their chapped nipples, but who cares). I got it this morning and it's definitely unlike anything else I've put on my lips and they haven't felt dried out all day. I went for this option because people said lanolin can penetrate deeper for more lasting moisture, rather than just sitting on top like petroleum jelly. It's $7 on Amazon for 3 little tubes (https://www.amazon.com/Lansinoh-Lanolin-Minis-Breastfeeding-Mothers/dp/B00FNZQHJA/) so I think that's worth a shot for anyone who'd want to avoid spending more right away. The Laneige pack is so much more pretty-looking though that I might want to try it anyway…
I don’t have any advice for things for this specific pump, although I️ have the spectra and really like it, but I did get a few general items that have made pumping and storing milk easier:
Freemie cups (especially if hands free pumping is important to you. Just be aware the flanges only come in two sizes).
Medela breastmilk cooler . The bottles won’t work with the spectra flanges, but the cooler is a nice size and you can use the included bottles as extra storage.
Silicone food storage tray. I use this instead of bags because it lets me freeze milk in 1 oz amounts so that I can defrost exactly as much as my daughter needs. The tray has a lid that actually stays on and the cubes are really easy to pop out. Then I just put the cubes in a freezer bag.
Boon lawn and twig for drying all your breast pump parts.
Other stuff you might want to consider: a hands free pumping bra, an extra set of flanges in your size (especially if you pump a lot), a bag if you are going to carry the pump frequently, and a car adapter.
Edited to add: Enjoy the pump! It is great!!
I just wrote this comment somewhere else too, but get a haakaa!!
https://www.amazon.com/Haakaa-Breast-Manual-Silicone-Breastfeeding/dp/B07CWK4S5W
Make sure if you feed from both breasts that you use it for the whole feed and put it on the other breast when you switch sides so that it is not all foremilk.
If your supply is regulated appropriately, you’re not going to get much extra from pumping (which is GOOD because you don’t want oversupply!)
You have to wait til milk is chilled to the same temperature to combine, but I’ve found with my haakaa I can get 1-2 oz per feed. Sometimes I’ll hand express into it while baby is feeding to get a little more out of it. I have multiple since they’re so cheap so that I don’t have to wash them between every feeding. If you use it every time, you’ll probably have an extra 5 oz by the end of the day that you can then use for a bottle. Then you could pump a full bottle’s worth at once when you need to use it.
I also find I get much more from the pump in the morning than at night, so if you’re going to do a bottle feed morning could be a good time for it.
I’ve read that if you plan to freeze milk it’s best to do it straight away rather than after time in the fridge, so if we don’t have immediate need I’ll usually freeze the milk from the full pumping session.
This $9.00 adapter allows you to use Medela partsand accessories with your Spectra if you go that route: https://www.amazon.com/Maymom-Breastshield-Connects-Backflow-Protector/dp/B01DGEDVUM?th=1
There's a couple options.
Pump one boob while baby is nursing the other.
Slap a haakaa on the non-nursing boob while nursing the baby
Have the pump ready to go before feeding, pump right after the morning feed. The milk can sit out for a couple of hours just fine.
Pump while someone else holds the baby.
Pump after a night feeding. I always used a manual pump for night after-feedings. I just didn't like to deal with all the set up and noise. I only did 10 minutes a boob.
Don't worry yourself too much about a stash. Generally you just need enough to get through the first day because you'll usually pump enough at work for the next day. Its nice to have extra. But really, it's not worth stressing about..with my youngest here I was stressing and when I finally stopped, it seemed like the milk just came a flowing.
I second this comment, and here is why:
I used the medala double-electric pump-in-style for my first 3 months at home, so that I could sleep for more than 2 hours at a time and my SO could help with feedings.
Well, on top of being ridiculously loud and waking the baby every time I went to pump, it gave me no range of motion whatsoever. So if by chance you are home alone and they are napping next to you on the couch, should the noise wake them up, it is near-impossible to comfort them with all the cords and tubes in the way. If they are napping in the other room, should they wake up, detaching yourself from an electric pump in a hurry is both frustrating and messy. I now know what it feels like to cry over spilled milk.
A hand pump is quiet and can be used anywhere. After getting my hand pump I could sit cross-legged on the couch. Before that I was sitting in a stool near an outlet, bending forward awkwardly so as not to lose any milk from the chambers. If you need to tend to the baby while you are using a hand pump, set the pump down on the table. It is that easy.
The little nubbins you stick the tubing into with Pump-In-Style broke twice. The replacement part was upwards of 30 dollars, each time, for a small bit of plastic. The only replacement I ever needed for my hand-pump was a small rubber o-ring, which I purchased at a hardware store for less than a quarter.
I know I'm in the minority here, but I HATE my electric pump!!!
Here is the handpump I used. They can be purchased used on craigslist for around 12 dollars, if you are up to sterilizing.
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If you end up with super sore and chapped nipples I cannot recommend hydrogel breast pads enough! They are amazing, cooling, soothing and help speed up any healing. Like these ones!
This sounds weird, but the cheapest easiest way to get this stuff is nipple cream for women who are breastfeeding. They use it because it’s awesome for moisturizing but it’s safe if baby accidentally gets some. Lip moisturizer with lanolin will be like three times the cost of nipple cream and it’s the exact same stuff. I recommend this one.
https://www.amazon.com/Lansinoh-Lanolin-Breastfeeding-Soothing-Essentials/dp/B005MI648C/ref=mp_s_a_1_3?keywords=nipple+cream&qid=1564173135&s=gateway&sr=8-3
I use this Medela Cooler Set and store pump parts in a Ziplock bag between sessions. I keep the cooler set and the Ziplock bag in a generic tote bag in the refrigerator at work. I wash everything when I get home.
Even if your wife is planning to breastfeed, have formula on hand just in case. I'd recommend the ready-to-feed (RTF) stuff that comes in the little bottles (like this). That way you don't have to worry about your water source, or washing/sterilizing bottles. You can get individually wrapped nipples for them, too (Amazon link). One of the other commenters said you have to refrigerate the RTF formula, but that's only true once it's been opened.
If your wife *is* planning to breastfeed, i'd recommend a manual breast pump and/or a haaka in case baby has trouble latching and she wants to express milk. They have electric pumps with battery powered options, too, if you want to look into that. (in this case you'd obviously also need bottles and a way to wash/sterilize them).
Obviously diapers and wipes too. Another thing is we do so much freakin laundry, which, in the event of an extended outage, wouldn't really be possible. So more onesies and swaddles than you think you need and burp cloths/rags in case you have a spitty baby.
Some items we Amazon Primed in the first week or two that we didn't know we needed: simethicone gas drops, probiotics, vitamin d drops, velcro swaddle, different size pump flanges, slow flow nipples, saline spray/drops, miracle blanket swaddle, and a partridge in a pear tree.
Newborn babies are hard, and I hope you don't have to deal with a hurricane at the same time! Praying for calm weather in your area!
She must pump, its' no more complex than that. It's a must.
So my wife had one of these. http://www.amazon.com/Medela-Pump-Style-Advanced-Breast/dp/B004HWXCJS/?tag=15615-20 Yes . . . it's expensive, but truly worth it. With a cigarette lighter attachment, it's a beautiful thing.
Along with it she had nursing bra's that zipped.
She'd latch on the pump then zip the bra to hold the pump in place, then would be completely hands-free for :20
And if by "busy" you mean "has a job", then I would hope that she would be able to sit in a bathroom or unused office somewhere for :20 and pump while reading things relevant to work on her phone or tablet.
Pumping 4x a day will absolutely keep here supply and size up. But it will only last a few months before supply starts to fall off and no amount of pumping will bring it back. within a year/year and a half, she'll be all deflated and empty anyway.
This stuff is amazing - expensive as HELL but really amazing: CV Labs Skin Balm I've also had great luck with the Bite Agave Lip mask, although that is just as expensive and is less versatile in terms of using it on other dry patches. I'm also ordering some of the Lansinoh balm, which I've heard good things about and which is much much cheaper.
http://www.amazon.com/Pumpin-Pal-Super-Shields-Complete/dp/B0085CBA90 <--- you may find those are more comfortable. They are tilted flanges that allow you to sit in a more comfortable position and still get great milk flow.
Medela Soft Shells for Nipples
My friend was telling me about this when she was breastfeeding.
Cloth diapers - flour sack towelsfrom amazon as the stuffers - cheap and clean easily. Bamboo liners for the poop. Rubber gloves for swishing it in the toilet for the parts that don't come off with the liners. Lot's of covers that can be used from newborn to 35 lbs. You can use any bum cream if you use the flour sack towels as well FYI because it doesn't ruin them. Also pick up a couple of these laundry bags. Wipes.
Cleaning is easy - "quick wash" with a bit of soap, then a hot long wash for extra soiled diapers.
Baby nest was nice to have but not a necessity. Blankets/towels can help. Also a wrap is nice for the first 6 months but not necessary.
Gripe water for gassy baby, Punkin Butt teething oil
A pump, even hand pump will be handy. Especially in the first few weeks she's regulating her supply.
Zip up sleepers (snaps suck)
Baby Bag (backpack style)
Don't worry about a baby changing table, you can change anywhere. Don't worry about a diaper genie since you're cloth diapering.
Breastfeeding scarf/carseat cover
Older baby (6-12 months will come fast)
- snack containers
- Food holder thing(frozen bananas are awesome for teething)
I also recommend trying to bring baby and husband with you to the wedding for reasons mentioned by other posters.
If you would feel more comfortable with baby at home, I’d recommend getting the haakaa to build up a little supply for when you are gone. You suction it to the opposing breast when breastfeeding and it collects leakage/let down. I wish I had it in the beginning days when I was leaking everywhere. This way you don’t have to worry about pumping!
The pains definitely ease up. Use all the lanolin you can get for those cracked nipples! (Or, I really like earth mama natural nipple butter) And it will take a few weeks for your supply to figure itself out, but eventually you will start to worry why your boobs aren't hard any more and if it means your supply is dipping (it's normal and no, your boobs are just figuring out how much to produce and at what time). Warm compresses on your boobs help.
I recommend getting a haakaa milk catcher or similar type of non-pump device to catch those flood gates of milk and save it! You don't really want to pump a lot right now because that will just increase your supply more and more.
Thanks for the advice!! And for the Silicone Breast Pump!! link for the u.s.
I actually had no idea that this was even a thing until my mom had mentioned something to me the other day. She told me I would have to put a towel or something over my other breast while the baby was eating. I had NO IDEA!! So, this thing is going on my registry.
Also, she's SUPER ADORABLE!! I love those eyes!!
You're welcome. Seriously check it out! It even got my overly enthusiastic boobs to mellow out. That didn't happen with my first for three months. I hope it can help you.
https://www.amazon.com/Haakaa-Silicone-Breastfeeding-Manual-Phthalate/dp/B01F8W7CF0
I got a haakaa pump to catch the milk that leaks from the opposite breast while my baby feeds from the other one. (I don’t use the suction though to avoid creating more demand for milk.) I just prop it under my breast to catch what drips out and then I store it in the fridge. That helps because I’m not wasting the milk and it doesn’t go all over me or the baby.
I also bought the lansinoh ultimate protection nipple pads and they are AMAZING. They hold so much milk and you can avoid getting milk on your bra or clothes.
And I got the lansinoh nipple cream because it’s safe for baby, no need to wipe it off before she eats. And I haven’t had dry or cracked nipples yet!
My baby is only 11 days old but this combo has been working so far!
YAYS:
Chux pads, hands down, were the best purchase we made. Those saved us so much laundry and so many diapers. The link is hit or miss - one box we got was great and quilted, the second box was not quilted and they fall apart more easily. Which really sucks because we're not going through several a day anymore, so it has time to really fall apart before it gets soiled. Even the shitty ones are incredibly helpful.
A Haakaa breast milk catcher. Best money I've ever spent. I stopped using it every day at 11 months PP. 11 months of daily use.
An electronic nail file. I cut too close once, and decided I don't ever want to do that again. It's quiet, it has a little light on it, two speeds, and a bunch of different nail heads.
Stacking cups. Don't know why we even have other toys. Did you know you can throw them and chase after them and then throw them again, mom? You can put them inside each other! You can put them in the toy basket and then take them out and then put them back in again! You can knock them down when mom & dad foolishly stack them up! You can clack them together! You can bang them against EVERYTHING!!
This inflatable tub. It has a little shoehorn for the crotch so you can use it before baby can totally sit up by themselves. We're still using it because my child is dead set on committing suicide in the bathtub.
Sleeved bibs. Or as we like to call them, eatin' ponchos. We got some "art smock" cheaper ones to alternate with, but the Bumkins one is 👌👌👌 so much better. The art smocks are fabric-y on the body, so they stain.
A ring sling. No link because I actually borrowed from my local babywearing community. But I checked out a ring sling back to back to back. My chonker outgrew the Moby wrap I had (which was super hot and a PITA to get on and off) by 3 months when I finally discovered ring slings. Ring slings are like the cool, breezy older sister.
A yoga ball. We spent hours bouncing our child.
NAYS:
This Graco Swing. Well, any swing, but this is the one we had. Of the several swings at daycare, my baby tolerated one kind...for a few minutes. Obviously this is a my baby thing.
A walker. We got one used from a garage sale before we realized they're not really recommended for babies anymore.
Any chew-toy specific type teether.
If you decide to go the route of discreet pumping in public area, I would suggest using https://www.amazon.com/Freemie-Collection-Cups-Concealable-Funnels/dp/B00UV6JDN8 cups and quiet battery operated electric pump. The freemies can be worn under a loose fitting shirt with just a couple of thin tubes going to the pump.
Keep the breastmilk. You don't need a fridge, an ice pack will keep it cool.
I've had good luck with these: https://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/B00XVASFGC/ref=mp_s_a_1_2_a_it?ie=UTF8&amp;qid=1505233867&amp;sr=8-2&amp;keywords=duckbill+valve
I have a Spectra S2 and a Medela manual pump and can confirm they work with both.
When I got the chance I did some searching and found some experts showing how it's done. Same technique applies for adults (of course your mouth is a bit larger so you'll probably end up taking more in, but it all works out).
Aim the boobie for the roof of the mouth, when your mouth takes in the boobie it'll slide down to where it's almost gagging you.
You'll make like a seal and it'll just stay where it's supposed to be. You use your tongue to massage the teat (Don't know how else to describe it, but once you play around you'll figure it out, and breathe through your nose.
As the suckler it was a bit weird and until I learned to relax my jaw got a little tired trying to do more work than necessary.
Your nipples being a little sensitive afterwards sounds normal. I know nursing mothers sometimes get cracking, but there are fixes for that
I don’t know if it’s available in the UK but I used mother’s love nipplecream.
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My first piece of advice is to seek out help NOW before the baby comes, because it's much harder in the blurry newborn days to have the energy and strength to do so. Find your local La Leche League or other breastfeeding group, contact them, let them know your situation and see if you can get a phone number or two for the leaders so you can call. Also see if your hospital has IBCLCs (professional certified lactation experts) that will be available to you and let every member of the nursing staff know that you want to see them as soon as possible after your baby is born. You may have no problems at all. But if you do you'll be prepared to get help.
There's a little device you can buy that is like a little suction bulb, that you put on your flat nipple to draw it out right before you latch the baby on. Here it is: latch assist nipple everter. I used it, it helped. A pump would do the same thing, it's just much bigger and more cumbersome and expensive.
My first was in the special care nursery so like a low-level NICU. Did you know that the woman on the cover of that infamous Time magazine issue "Are you mom enough?" breastfeeding her 3-year-old was a NICU mom? It's definitely an additional hurdle like you say but you have got this and you're going to do great! Good luck!
Alright, this isn't exactly a diy lip mask but I use nipple cream. I use this every night and I wake up with awesomely smooth lips. I don't know why, but it temporarily plumps my lips afterwards.
Use this, you need a tiny bit on the area and you will be good!
Lansinoh HPA Lanolin for Breastfeeding Mothers, 40 Grams https://www.amazon.com/dp/B005MI648C/ref=cm_sw_r_other_apa_UAklxbCMT79D7
You can find the Aritaum lip mask on Amazon.
If you want something cheaper, I really like pure lanolin - it's really sticky and thick, but it works wonders. Something like this is super affordable.
I recommend [Dr. Dan's Cortibalm] (https://www.amazon.com/Dr-Dans-Cortibalm-Balm-Count/dp/B00DME6W76/ref=sr_1_4_a_it?ie=UTF8&amp;qid=1520993027&amp;sr=8-4&amp;keywords=dr+dans+cortibalm), it should help with the swelling. On top of that put lanolin - I use this [one]
(https://www.amazon.com/Lansinoh-Breastfeeding-Moisturizer-Preservative-Hypoallergenic/dp/B005MI648C/ref=sr_1_6_a_it?ie=UTF8&amp;qid=1520992749&amp;sr=8-6&amp;keywords=lanolin). The [Laneige Lip Sleeping Mask] (https://www.amazon.com/LANEIGE-SLEEPING-Berry-Sleeping-Treatment/dp/B018AYHZX2/ref=pd_lpo_vtph_194_bs_t_1?_encoding=UTF8&amp;psc=1&amp;refRID=6CE1FFJBSM6B0QN5JPNK) is also great. I've been using all of those products and my lips are looking better than they did before accutane. Also, I get buying three things isn't realistic for some folks, so I would suggest getting the Dr. Dan's and putting vaseline over it.
Everything I'm recommending can be bought on Amazon fairly cheaply:
1st Cleanser (PM only to get rid of sunscreen or makeup): The Face Shop Rice Water Bright Cleansing Rich Oil Dry Skin
2nd Cleanser: Cerave hydrating Cleanser
Hydrating Toner: [Klairs Supple Preparation Facial Toner] (https://www.amazon.com/Preparation-Alcohol-Paraben-Cruelty-Eco-friendly/dp/B00PGOFYG0) or
Hada Labo Rohto Hadalabo Gokujun Hyaluronic Lotion Moist
Medium Moisturizer: Cerve PM Moisturizing Lotion
Heavy Moisturizer: Benton Snail Bee High Content Steam Cream
Sleeping Pack: Cosrx Ultimate Rice Overnight Mask
Sheet Mask: Benton Snail Bee High Content Sheet Mask, illi masks, MBD masks (these might be out of your price range as they are between $1-3 per use).
Sunscreen: [Biore Kids Sunscreen] (https://www.amazon.com/Japan-Health-Personal-Care-carefree/dp/B019IDQ57G)
Lips: Lanolin
Makeup
BB: Missha Perfect Cover BB Cream #13 (RP), Mizon Snail Repair Blemish Balm
Cushion: Innisfree
Concealer: Nars Radiant Creamy Concealer
Lanolin is the crowd favorite here. Some people shy away from it because it's actually a nipple-chafing cream, but it's a natural substance with no irritating additives. Many people find that it works FAR better than any of the typical lip-care products. This is the version that most people use, though you can search for products that are made with lanolin but look like typical lip-care products.
Mother's Love worked great for me. It can also double as diaper cream.
I survive breastfeeding the first couple months with the help of this.
Earth Mama Angel Baby Natural Nipple Butter, 2-Ounce Jar https://www.amazon.com/dp/B000JVCBBG/ref=cm_sw_r_awd_chHPub0ASWG0M
Without it, I think I would have quit trying from first couple of days.
This too shall pass! Be strong mama.
This is the only thing that helped me too! I use a thick layer of Lansinoh every night. Dirt cheap and a giant tube will outlive us all.
I like the Lansinoh brand...
Amazon
Target
Walmart
Honestly, there isn’t much you can do. It takes a few weeks for your nipples to toughen up. I think mine finally stopped bothering me around the end of week three beginning of week 4. My LO is now 10 weeks old and they only hurt when she grabs them with her razor talons. Some things you might try in addition to applying the nipple cream.
IMO, it's a bit of a waste of time to pump after a feed session. It would be all you do! I had great luck with the Haakaa manual pump by putting on the other breast while nursing. I typically ended up with an extra 3oz/day and gradually made a supply from there.
Also maybe look into trying the Haakaa. It’s a pump you use on the opposite breast while the baby is nursing. It just suctions on and does the work for you. It’s very easy to use and only costs about $15. Just another tool to help keep your breasts as empty as possible. Good luck!
Edit: here’s the link
Haakaa Manual Breast Pump 4oz/100ml,2019 New Style https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07CWK4S5W/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_CEIrDbDCREG7N
How is the one that you linked different from this one that is already $12? Just doesn’t come with a lid? https://www.amazon.com/Haakaa-Breast-Manual-Silicone-Breastfeeding/dp/B07CWK4S5W
The spectra suckles somehow, and is much more gentle. I had the medela first, and when I ordered the spectra I was disappointed at first because the letdown mode is much slower, and I was worried it would not work for me. However, the suckling feels more similar to breastfeeding and once I got used to the pump I had no issues with letdowns. The medela generally gets the job done, but I feel a bit more like a cow in a factory getting my udders yanked :)
Regarding the parts - I bought this: https://www.amazon.com/Maymom-Breastshield-Connects-Backflow-Protector/dp/B01DGEDVUM . This allows the spectra to be used with the medela flanges and bottles. So I can use the same parts and bottles for both of my pumps. If you just have the spectra though, you can use the parts it comes with.
You can get the actual Hakaa or a similar brand on Amazon that includes a stopper and lid!
This was the only piece I needed to use Medela parts with my S2.
https://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/B01DGEDVUM/ref=mp_s_a_1_1_a_it?ie=UTF8&amp;qid=1496459635&amp;sr=8-1&amp;keywords=spectra+to+medela+adapter&amp;dpPl=1&amp;dpID=31cWLYYI1hL&amp;ref=plSrch
I'd recommend getting a few sets of them, I would lose one from time to time and then I'd be stuck only pumping one breast at a time until my replacement arrived. That was not fun.
My first recommendation is to check to see if she has a baby registry. New parents need/want LOTS of stuff, and while all gifts are appreciated, having someone help cover the essentials always made us really happy! Some of my favorite gifts were for things we needed like extra bottles, bassinet sheets, and giftcards to Amazon.
Now, to your question - here are some top items we've used with our new baby:
With the exception of the activity mat, you can really never have too many of the above items!
So, I totally breastfed one kid and then pumped exclusively for the next, and for the third breastfed a little but mostly pumped and then when I was sick of pumping, I switched to formula.
A couple of things to know about breastmilk production. First is that the initial wave of hormones that triggers the production of breastmilk comes from the delivery of the baby and the placenta. Your milk will come in whether you do anything or not. But, to maintain your supply, you need to empty your breasts and stimulate your nipples about 8 times a day. It doesn't have to be in 2 hour intervals around the clock. A baby doesn't cue to eat at exactly 2 hours around the clock. When you breastfeed you follow the baby's cues. If you are exclusively pumping, then you can pump more frequently in the day and then at night give yourself no more than one 4-6 hour stretch for uninterrupted sleep. Don't go more than six hours without pumping or feeding a baby unless you are trying to decrease your supply, because that is what will happen. If you do go more than six hours, beware that you can get plugged ducts or mastitis. Your supply regulates at 12 weeks, so the first 12 weeks if you want to develop your full supply, it's important to keep up the frequent breast emptying and nipple stimulation. After that, you can go further apart and some people are able to pump as few as 4 times a day with a couple "power pumps" throughout the week (pumping on an off for 10 minutes over a 1 hour period to simulate cluster feeding). But some people need to keep up the eight pumps for the duration of pumping, so you will figure out what works for you. If your goal is not to provide breastmilk only, you can pump less and give some formula, but your supply will tend to gradually dwindle. That might be what works for your family.
Some people do use formula during the very early days of breastfeeding and there is actually evidence that this can increase rates of success because it decreases frustration and allows the baby to have more energy for effective breastfeeding. So you don't have to be afraid of formula. But you do have to stimulate the nipples and empty the breasts. :)
If you are doing a combination of pumping and breastfeeding, the easiest way is to just breastfeed when you are home and then pump when you are away from the baby. In your situation (going back to work), if I liked breastfeeding, I would probably start out breastfeeding and maybe add in 1 extra pump a day if it's not too onerous. Then once your are working, you pump throughout the day while you are away from your baby. Some people breastfeed overnight (this is good for your supply and bad for your level of fatigue), some people use pumped milk or formula. Personally I found this all to onerous with my third, so I mainly pumped because I preferred it to breastfeeding, and my husband and I took turns giving the bottle at night. When I switched to powder formula I would keep bottles prefilled with water and a premeasured formula container at the bedside. Add formula, shake, feed baby. When I went back to school he was 8 weeks, and I rapidly dropped pumps, used up the rest of my freezer milk and guilt free switched to formula. My plan for all future babies is to provide breastmilk for approximately six weeks and then to give formula after that. This is based on my own personal experiences with breastfeeding and my current lifestyle (work full time). You will find what works best for your situation and your family. Some people are able to pump and breastfeed and provide milk for over a year, and they are happy with being able to do so.
Other little tips:
Get a pumping bra or make one by cutting holes in a sports bra.
A lot of moms store their pump parts in the fridge in between pumps and wash and sterilize once a day. This might be an acceptable practice with full term kids (I felt fine doing it with mine after the first six weeks) but for newborns, for milk donation, and especially for any preterm babies it is very important to thoroughly clean the pump parts with soap and water and air dry every single time. Which sucks because preemie moms have enough on their plate, but the evidence suggests that cleaning is an important part of safe milk handling for preemies.
Lastly, I haven't had a chance to try one of these personally (they came on the market after I weaned the last baby) but a lot of my friends have raved about this for use during a feed: https://www.amazon.com/Haakaa-Silicone-Breastfeeding-Manual-Phthalate/dp/B01F8W7CF0
The default size for the flanges for Medela brand is 24 mm. If you find the angle uncomfortable, consider getting the Pumpin Pal flanges. They come in packs of 3 with 3 different sizes. Kind of annoying, oh well. You can reuse the flanges, just put it in boiling water for 10 min to sanitize it. I wouldn't buy a pumping bra this early, your size will probably change.
Yes to tubing, it's good to have extras lying around. Be advised, they are generally sold in singles and you'll need 2 if you're dual pumping.
DO NOT PURCHASE MEMBRANES. Those stupid white flaps are crap. Get the duckbills instead.
Good idea, definitely look into getting a pump. Personally, I just fed on demand and only pumped maybe a 2 dozen or so times in the 2 years that I nursed my son but this [Madela Hand Pump] (https://www.amazon.com/Medela-Harmony-Manual-Breast-Pump/dp/B0006HBS1M/ref=sr_1_1_s_it?s=baby-products&amp;ie=UTF8&amp;qid=1487015148&amp;sr=1-1&amp;keywords=medela+hand+pump) is awesome. I also had an electric pump but just found the hand pump to be way more convenient.
Warning - lots of text below! My baby is about 6 weeks now and I'm exclusively breastfeeding. My Medela Harmony manual pump has been fine for building a stash - I pump 1-2 times a day for the freezer and occasional bottle feedings from Dad. I think it's pretty convenient, but I'll be using a double electric pump when I go back to work (waiting to see what Tricare will cover in 2015!).
Whatever you decide to use for diapering, I'd strongly recommend getting some prefolds (I got Osocozy unbleached). They're great for burp cloths, catching milk from your other boob during letdown, etc and they're also way cheaper and more absorbent than fancy burp cloths. Personally I love prefolds and covers for diapering, but don't buy too much into any one system or brand until you know what works for you. My husband hates prefolds so now I'm having to add pockets and AIOs to appease him.
I'd get some swaddlers (at least 2; my favorite is from Nuroo but that was a gift and they're pricey, the summer infant SwaddleMe wraps are good now that she's bigger but didn't fit well until about 10 lbs). My girl lives in footed pajamas and I love the Gerber zipped ones, we found tons at goodwill for $1.50 each but if you can't find them used, they're on Amazon for $10 for a 2 pack. You're right that other people will buy clothes, but they'll pick cutesy stuff and you need some practical choices too.
Nursing pillow - I had an unexpected C section and this has been so necessary. I love the Luna Lullaby since it's big and I had a big baby.
Some kind of baby carrier, I got a Moby wrap while she's small and it's amazing for running errands (I put it on before getting in the car and pop her in before going in the store, WAY easier than a carseat and stroller).
We were gifted a used swing and it is a freaking godsend. It's the only way I get chores done since I can pop her in there and cook, do laundry, clean, etc without her crying. YMMV, some babies hate them, but buy used and you won't be out too much cash.
Wubbanub pacifier is easy to keep track of and super cute.
Pack n Play with a mattress for cosleeping (recommended to reduce SIDS risk for the first 6 months). At least 2 mini crib sheets.
Earth Mama Angel Baby nipple butter is amazing for the first couple weeks.
QuickZip crib sheets will be amazing once you use the crib.
Simba baby safety nail cutter - no bleeding!
Finally, the Itzbeen pocket nanny timer is so helpful for keeping track of feedings and diaper changes, especially in the first few weeks.
Hope this wasn't too overwhelming. Good luck!
*Edited to add links to products.
I'm tempted to get one of those Harmony pumps for the car for this reason. I got a Medela car adapter for my double electric, but I also forgot flanges on a long car ride (I had one but not two so it took twice as long...).
I also have extra pumping parts EVERYWHERE...little bags of bottles and caps wherever I might pump...and powerbars. I'm like a crazy bag lady and live in fear that I smell like sour milk. Can't wait to go back to work next week...uhh
I liked Motherlove. It's more like olive oil lip balm. I just didn't like the ones that were more like an ointment.
I really, really liked Motherlove. It's herbal, and super smooth and soft. I couldn't stand trying to mash the hard Lansinoh onto my already sore nipples. One note of warning though, it's mostly oils so will stain clothes/bras if you don't have anything protecting them.
Bookmark kellymom.com on your phone. Queue up your Netflix. Keep everything within arm's reach. Be ready to sit around for the long haul. The early weeks are the roughest, mentally.
Don't be dismayed if it seems like your baby is eating all.the.time. You're going to think you have too little milk, too much milk, and too little milk all within the span of every hour. You'll think you have a foremilk/hindmilk imbalance. You'll think your baby is eating too much and then too little. That's normal. In fact, everything you worry about is normal. I found it hard to trust that my baby and my boobs were working in tandem and that everything was just fine.
I spent about a month sitting around in pajama pants and an open robe. Breast milk itself is the best nipple cream but I preferred the Earth Baby Mama Angel Whatever nipple cream over lanolin. I found the gel pads to be irritating on my skin and on baby's skin.
I had a recurring milk blister that Epsom salt packs helped more than anything. I'd take a hot shower, put some Epsom on a washcloth, and let it soak or I would also put the salted washcloth over my boob and put a heating pad over it.
I've got earth mamma angel nipple cream. no experience using it yet, but it says it doesn't have to be wiped off.
This one is my favorite.
Edit to add: their diaper balm is also the best for when you get to that point.
We are a 20 minute drive from the hospital and husband will not leave my side, so I'd like to get everything in. I'm a notorious overpacker, too, but I'd rather have something I don't need than have not have something that I do need.
Mom Stuff:
Baby Stuff:
Dad stuff:
Both
I think that covers just about everything. I used travel packing cubes to keep all of the clothing items organized, and I already had several different other travel bags that I generally use when actually leaving town, for all of the "other" items. [edited formatting]
Nipple shields are kind of annoying after awhile though, and sometimes they keep the baby from getting as much milk out. Have you seen [these things?] (http://www.amazon.com/Lansinoh-LANSINOH294983-Latchassist-Nipple-Everter/dp/B00112EIWW/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&amp;qid=1370628332&amp;sr=8-1&amp;keywords=flat+nipple)
I am so so sorry this happened. Yeah it's spilled milk, but it was a lot of work just to get that milk to spill!
I had flat nipples and the LC at the hospital gave me a nipple everter. I would use it right before latching and LO could get on no problem. After a couple weeks, she fixed my nipples herself and I haven't used it since.
You're doing a great job, and it is so so hard, ESPECIALLY in the beginning. Lots of love to you. You can do it!
Give this a try!
http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B00112EIWW/ref=oh_details_o06_s00_i00?ie=UTF8&amp;psc=1
If your wife is planning to nurse, she needs lanolin cream for her nipples, and also either nipple shells like [these] (http://www.amazon.com/Medela-SoftShells-Breast-Inverted-Nipples/dp/B001XDKTXQ/ref=br_it_dp_o_nS_nC?ie=UTF8&amp;colid=2ASXZDZYVCW83&amp;coliid=IQ61JE9TGHYQY) to help protect her chapped nipples from her clothing, or gel pads like [these] (http://www.amazon.com/Soothies-Gel-Pads-2-Count/dp/B002KGHUL4/ref=sr_1_2?s=baby-products&amp;ie=UTF8&amp;qid=1371531566&amp;sr=1-2&amp;keywords=nipple+soothers) or, preferably, both. Those poor boobies get really, really sore in the first few days.
Plus, as someone else said, either nursing tank tops or simple nursing bras. Don't get specific size nursing bras (like 36C) yet because you have no idea what size they will be once her milk comes in, just just find one or two that are "medium" or "large." She'll have to go out and get the right size in a week or two when everything is established.
A nursing pillow, like a boppy, is also handy, but definitely not required. It helps with positioning and arm support during marathon nursing sessions.
Not nursing related, but one of those inflatable butt donuts can feel pretty good on tattered and torn lady bits. So can pain relief spray and witch hazel. And a squirt bottle to use instead of wiping - my hospital provided that. And colace (stool softener).
Totally normal. Some things that could help are nipple gel pads like these: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B002KGHUL4/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_i_WCirDbMXEKJMF
Just slather on a healthy layer of lanolin and pop them inside your bra. It feels great and some people like to refrigerate these for extra soothing right after a feed. I didn't love that, but they're amazing regardless.
And I haven't tried nipple shells yet, but you could pick up something like these: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07B8DTGCX/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_i_MEirDbTFGVS39
Again, just slip inside your bra and they keep your nipples from touching anything. As a bonus, they'll catch your let-down (which your can save) and also allow for breastmilk to dry on your nipples, which is naturally soothing and hydrating.
With both of these options, your nipples should be able to heal quicker and feel better overall!
Try soothies! if you haven't already. They saved my breastfeeding relationship. I had them on 24/7 the first few weeks. Also lots of lanolin. My favorite was the Medela brand, it was the most comfortable. Try expressing some milk and rubbing it on your nipples and then let them air dry.
I’m no lactation consultant but it looks like he just has a little mouth. My son had a great latch, no tongue or lip ties and my nipples cracked just because he was little. Keep doing what you’re doing; although coconut oil may not be enough of a barrier to help your nipple heal. Lanolin is really great or if you’re opposed get some lansinoh soothies or Medela soothing gel pads. The soothing pads after the saline soaks were really effective for me. I also used a nipple shield to give the nipple a break- just make sure to use the right size.
I'm pre-op, but lanolin cream/ointment and nipple gels are great for chafing and stinging pain (not at the same time). I plan on getting several pairs of gels; they're amazing right out of the refrigerator.
Hooray, congrats!
It can be super painful at first! 4-6 weeks was about when I finally experienced that breakthrough moment with my oldest, and I'm so not looking forward to doing it all over again!
A nurse in my Mother's Group suggested hyrdogel pads to help your nips feel better in between feedings- they really, really helped me:
https://www.amazon.com/Lansinoh-Soothies-Breastfeeding-Mothers-Count/dp/B002KGHUL4/ref=pd_lpo_75_lp_t_3?_encoding=UTF8&amp;psc=1&amp;refRID=859ZFQ7CNM1V4WRRYJR8
These have been an absolute lifesaver for me Lansinoh Soothies Breast Gel Pads for Breastfeeding and Nipple Relief, 2 Pads https://www.amazon.com/dp/B002KGHUL4/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_7BkZDb3DCNC16
I was a 32 G pre-pregnancy and gargantuan by the end. I used a boppy nursing pillow and loved it, but I am sure other brands are great, too, just something! It does feel like you have about 12 less hands than you need in the beginning, but you will figure it out. Babies make a lot of noise while they breastfeed. You will be able to hear her breathing and swallowing so it would be obvious if she could not breathe. I don't recall ever have any smothering problems. Really early on, since she was so tiny I had to tuck her body under the boob that she was not feeding on so that she could get close enough to eat. We breastfed for 16 months. The first month was hard. We had latching issues and I had bloody nipples, but we eventually got there. I don't think the latching had anything to do with my breast size. I would also recommend lanolin cream and these soothie gels. Put them in the fridge they are amazing.
medela lanolin before every latch (safe for baby) and lansinoh gel soothies right after every feeding got me through the first few weeks. My consultant said latch was shallow, and it took about 3 weeks to fix. In the meantime, it hurt. Badly. But here we are, still going at almost 11 months. Hang in there! It really, truly gets better!
These Ameda ComfortGel pads have helped me deal with blisters/skin getting ripped off
If I don’t use them I use Lanolin after every nursing or pumping session.
Congrats on the baby! I’m 3 months out. Here’s what worked for me. Please know that every woman and baby is different though!
For the first 3-4 weeks my baby ate only from the breast. This was to ensure that my body knew to make enough milk. Yes, it meant me waking up sometimes every 30 min - 1 hour for cluster feeds. Yes, it was so fucking tough on my nipples. (If her nipples hurt, I highly recommend these gel pads.). I almost quit multiple times. But as some others have posted, it’s really important in those early weeks to have baby on breast each time baby wants to eat so that your wife’s body knows to make enough milk. My husband helped by bringing the baby to me, handling diaper changes, and making sure that I was eating and drinking enough (this is important!! Her body needs the proper fuel to make milk.). We also had support from his mom who would hold the baby while we got in a nap for an hour or two. Once baby got back up to his birth weight and I felt like we were doing well with breastfeeding (around 3-4 weeks), I pumped about an hour after a feed in the early morning, which is when milk production is at the highest. Just make sure to leave around an hour between pump session and next feed. Then, the next night my husband fed the baby with this milk and I got up and pumped. It sucks, but it’s important for supply issues. Not pumping when baby is fed can lead to decreased supply and also potentially clogged ducts and mastitis from being too full of milk.
With regards to introducing a bottle, we started at 3-4 weeks. Not too early so as to avoid nipple confusion and bottle preference and not too late to avoid bottle refusal. We started with Dr. Brown’s level 1 nipple, but he was leaking milk out of his mouth and got a bit fussy at the breast, so we switched to preemie nipples to reduce the milk flow rate. Here’s a helpful chart on nipple flow rate.. It all depends on the flow rate from your wife too - if she has a strong letdown, slow letdown, etc. Hope the best for you guys!
I have used the Ameda Purely Yours and the Medela Pump in Style, generally I think the Medela is the most popular one, but I liked the Ameda more.
Unless you're very dehydrated (and hardly anybody is), just drinking water probably won't do much. Try using a gentle lip scrub in the shower, and then a really thick layer of some kind of balm. I flip between Cerave's healing ointment in a big tube, and plain [lanolin nipple cream] (https://www.amazon.com/Lansinoh-Breastfeeding-Salve-Lanolin-1-41/dp/B005MI648C/ref=sr_1_3_a_it?ie=UTF8&amp;qid=1485505327&amp;sr=8-3&amp;keywords=nipple+cream), which has a cult following as a lip balm for a reason - it's cheap and very good for chronic chapped lips. And changing your toothpaste to a super gentle one might help too - the sodium lauryl sulfate in some toothpastes could be irritating your lips.
One thing though: no matter what you do, the problem isn't going to go away immediately. When my lips would get like this, it takes at least a week or two of constantly applying lanolin (and a thick layer at night) and a gentle scrub to make them feeling good again. The skin needs time to heal. And if you're ever outside, I'd recommend Aquaphor's lip treatment with SPF - even minor sun damage can make it harder for the skin to heal itself.
>Any lotions or Vaseline maybe to help moisturize the area?
Avoid Vaseline as it might damage the flexible parts. If you must, try Lansinoh:
https://www.amazon.com/Lansinoh-Breastfeeding-Moisturizer-Preservative-Hypoallergenic/dp/B005MI648C
Perhaps try the other version of the Dreamwear? The "nasal" version has one hole for both nostrils, the "nasal pillows" has a separate hole (and a little pillow) for each nostril. Both of these have interchangeable cushions and there are "fit packs" available that will have an assortment of different sizes.
There's even a new hybrid full face version that's partially interchangeable.
So far, looking good. My tips or advice:
I use lanolin on my lips when they're freaking out. It's supposed to be hypoallergenic, so it might be a good boost for your coconut oil.
not AB products, but I exfoliate with a damp towel at night, and then use unscented lanolin on my lips while I sleep. It's annoyingly sticky but I sleep on my back, so it's fine. The product I use is Lansinoh Breastfeeding Salve. I've tried other lanolin products and they smell like...well, sheep.
Aritaum also makes a ginger sugar lip scrub and overnight lip mask, and it's been continually manufactured for years now.
> Lanolips
[srs] I'd never heard of this, so I had to Google it. I've been using Lansinoh's 100% lanolin for my lips for quite a while, but only at home, because I can't bring myself to bust out nipple cream at work. I may have to buy some Lanolips for social situations. :p
It might be a good idea to make sure your shields are sized correctly. My LC recommended Pumpin Pals ([Amazon link](Pumpin' Pal Breast Pump Flanges for Medela, Hygeia, Lansinoh. Sizes M, L, XL, 25mm to 40mm https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0085CBA90/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_Ca7pybJGYC82N) ), which come in a set of different sizes with the idea that you use the biggest when you're most engorged and the smaller sizes when you're less so. Good luck! And congrats on the great long sleep stretches!
I would probably buy one. Spectra is hands down my recommendation and I love mine. I get quite a bit more then my medela, even with the exact same flanges, valves, and tubes. I have this one: Spectra Baby USA S2 Double/Single Breast Pump, 3.3 Pound https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00BLBLR1I/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_2EKEzbGWQSJ50
There is also the s1, which is the same but has a battery. Also the spectras are not that expensive compared to some other pumps.
> or are there other suggestions?
https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00BLBLR1I/
If you're using Amazon don't forget to use http://uk.camelcamelcamel.com to check the price increase/decrease history. For example I decided to pull the trigger and buy my Spectra S2 in November when the price dropped, as the history showed it probably wouldn't get any lower - http://uk.camelcamelcamel.com/Spectra-Hospital-Double-Electric-Breast/product/B00BLBLR1I?context=browse
Edited to add: we hit Ikea today and their baby stuff is surprisingly good. Their muslin cloths are better than the ones from Mamas and Papas and their baby towels are also really thick and soft. I'll probably pick up a few of their sleeping bags instead of GroBags too.
The Spectra is so much better. Spectra Baby USA Double/Single Breast Pump with Rechargeable Battery, 3.3 Pound
The S2 is cheaper because it doesn't have the built in battery, but it's great to be able to brush your hair and then go pack lunches all while pumping. You can also easily rig Medela parts to it if you want. They do make nice flanges and are more readily available.
I'm getting this one from Medela https://www.amazon.com/Medela-67068-Breastmilk-Cooler-Set/dp/B00H5OI9XO
The Spectra is great! I had both the Medela PISA and the Spectra at first, but I was never able to get a letdown with the PISA. So I broke down and bought a second Spectra S2 (same as S1, but without the battery) so I wouldn’t have to carry it to and from work every day.
My pumping day is: Pump before work around 6am, then at work at 11 and 3. I bring flanges and other pump parts, 4 bottles, a pumping bra, and this cooler with ice pack. The cooler fits the Spectra bottles perfectly. In between pumping sessions at work I store the flanges in a clean ziplock bag in the fridge and wash them when I get home.
ETA: In the beginning I was pumping every three hours at work, but I was in the lucky position of pumping more than I needed and was able to drop a pump.
https://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/B00H5OI9XO/ref=mp_s_a_1_2_a_it?ie=UTF8&amp;qid=1520704181&amp;sr=8-2&amp;keywords=medela+cold+pack&amp;dpPl=1&amp;dpID=41060u4AsFL&amp;ref=plSrch
I have this and it keeps it cold for 12 hours
Sounds like you may need something like this. I haven't personally used them but i have seen a lot of moms on here recommend them.
Since others are saying their nipples were fine, I will chime in and say my nipples were a shredded disaster the first month of breastfeeding and I almost gave up like 1,000 times. Every time my son cried I cried. I still wouldn't recommend roughing up your nipples first - I don't even know if that would really help when you have your little piranha going to town on your nipples. I ended up ordering these, and using with lanolin, and that finally allowed the scabs on my nipples to heal between feedings (rather than the scab drying stuck to my nursing tank and then ripping off when I moved my shirt). After the first few weeks, it stopped hurting at all and we made it 27 months!
These work very well to just slip into your bra cups. however practice with them first, if you use them incorrectly they will leak! https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00UV6JDN8/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_Z8xRBbAFN7ET8
Someone please correct me if I’m wrong, but I think this style is more for collecting let down from the breast you are not nursing on than for actively pumping?
I don’t think you would want to use this to pump milk if you are missing a feed. For that you would want something more like this: Medela Harmony Manual Breast Pump https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0006HBS1M/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_l1KgAbQS6XBK4
the medela harmony hand pump
A friend gave me her old one and I love it. It's so much easier than dealing with all the cords and whatnot. I do only pump when I wake up full though but the suction is great!
First of all, it's not too late. Basically, you need to remove milk from your breasts either by pumping or nursing at least 8 times or more in a 24 hour period to maintain full milk supply. If your health insurance doesn't cover a pump (almost all do - you can check by calling the customer service line on your insurance card) then you can at least get a cheap manual pump like the Medela Harmony and still maintain milk supply. The only downside to a manual pump is that you can only pump one side at a time. I personally never responded to an electric pump, and exclusively used a manual pump at work through the first year. You can even use hand expression to maintain milk supply without a pump - and for many women it's can be even more effective than a pump! When you do get your hands on a manual or electric pump, try using the hands on pumping technique to help your output. If you're on Facebook, as to join this group BRAS Brestfeeding Support Group
I use this. It’s been great and even though it’s only 1 oz, I still have a lot left after BF for 6 weeks.
My son thought it was hilarious to bite me and get a reaction. I️ would gently press his face into my breast like I️ read about, but that did not help. I️ then just took him off the breast and stopped the session for a few minutes, that seemed to make a better point. I️ used Motherlove nipple salve and it helped but I️ remember one time I️ actually had to avoid nursing on one side for a day (hand pumped when needed, pink milk was interesting). Good luck!
Motherlove Nipple Cream Certified Organic Salve for Sore Cracked Nursing Nipples, 1 Oz. https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0007CQ726/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_PFhbAbPJS8TFP
I hate lanolin/the idea of wool grease, but MotherLove makes a really nice organic and (minus the beeswax) plant-based one of you ever decide you want to try something else. I like it!
Here's the link if you're interested: Motherlove Nipple Cream Certified Organic Salve for Sore Cracked Nursing Nipples, 1 Oz. https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0007CQ726/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_VKOFxbT6WEZ29
MotherLove makes a great nipple cream that doesn't have any lanolin. This site has some really great videos and fact sheets about what breastfeeding looks like and how to handle difficulties. Have some Soothies in the fridge for at first when your nipples HURT. Don't have formula ready to go "just in case" as it will inhibit your ability to trust that you can feed your baby. Trust yourself, your baby, your body. See if there's a La Leche League group near you and start going to meetings before the baby comes. You'll get a chance to see breastfeeding in person if you haven't before, as well as meet lots of moms who can talk you through tough times in person (which is huge). Some moms there might even be willing to show you how their babies latch and what you can expect.
The single best 2 pieces of advice I got: Don't be afraid to get help. Never quit on a bad day.
This is the kind I use. Bought mine at Target, but here's an Amazon link: https://www.amazon.com/Motherlove-Certified-Organic-Cracked-Nursing/dp/B0007CQ726
I love this list, I kept thinking "ditto!" with almost everything you wrote! Because I can't help myself, here is some of my feedback on some of those products:
For boob cream- I loooove the Motherlove Nipple Cream. The Earth Mama Angel Baby one was really grainy to me, and I'm not a big fan of the cocoa butter smell (to each their own!). The Motherlove cream saved my nipples those first few weeks and I still use it after a long pumping session.
Leak management- gurl I feel you on being leaky! I am SO leaky. I love the nighttime Bamboobies, they're the only ones that work for me (and I have to switch them out three times a day). The downside is they're pretty obvious through clothing, so when I have to go out of the house I'll pop a disposable lansinoh one in there instead. But Bamboobies all the way!
Leak Collection!- Yes! The Milkies Milksaver I have has been great at catching the ~1oz I leak from the non-nursing side. Now that Miss V and I have more of a breastfeeding pattern that involves her only eating from one side per session I'm going to try out a Haakaa Silicone Pump to see if the suction will draw out even more ounces from the neglected boob.
Extra Pump Parts- NeneSupply on Amazon is a Spectra pumping girl's best friend, especially for hard-ish to find and expensive spare Spectra parts.
Nursing Bras- They're expensive but I'm a total Bravado fanatic. I'm a big girl and they carry a wide variety of sizes, even for the much bigger bust sizes. And they recently released this hands free pumping attachment that, the few times I've experimented with it, was freaking awesome. I hope it continues to be awesome when I go back to work!
Edit:
Oh! I forgot one of my favorite pumping accessories! The Pumpin' Pals Super Shields have made a difference in my output but are also a thousand times more comfortable that regular flanges. Plus you can recline while pumping without spilling breastmilk everywhere! I was gifted these by a friend at my shower and I was skeptical about them living up to the Amazon reviews hype but I am definitely happy to have them.
Amazon has a checklist feature that really helped me build my registry as a FTM. There's also a "Good, Better, Best" checklist that has honest, unbiased reviews of products in each category to highlight the "covers all of the bases, minimal bells and whistles, low cost" to the "all of the crazy shit you will never need but costs a million dollars!"
Here are a couple of things that I selected based on those lists and reviews here:
Breastfeeding pillow
Booger sucker
Wipe warmer (I also picked out a stand for it to protect the dresser I'll be using as a changing station)
Washable organic nipple pads... to answer your question they absorb leaking milk so your shirts don't look like they're crying all the time. disposables exist, too, but I figure why spend more money throwing them away when you can just toss them in the wash. This pack had enough pairs that it's not like you'll run out in between laundry loads, especially with baby making messes!
Motherlove Nipple Cream becaude apparently your nipples will become the Sahara.
I took 1 newborn sized sleeper and 1 0-3 month sleeper. I didn't really use much that the hospital didn't provide, except for nipple cream (I got this kind and really liked it) and the Boppy pillow.
https://www.amazon.com/Earth-Mama-Angel-Baby-Natural/dp/B000JVCBBG
This was a must have for me.
I'm only 21 and not breastfeeding or even pregnant, and I was going to suggest a daily dose or two of straight vitamin E oil massage for your breasts, because this is what I do and my boobs are very soft. However, something made me double check before I blurted my uneducated answer onto the internet, and I found out that while pure vitamin E oil is good for nipples, it's not good for baby consumption! So load up on the vitamin E oil titty massages before the baby comes!
That being said, I was curious and did some more research and I found a bunch of natural alternatives to lanolin creams, but most contain beeswax. I found one brand, Earth Mama Angel Baby Natural Nipple Butter which has some great reviews on Amazon! The main ingredients are mango butter and avocado oil, which are both incredibly nourishing to the skin.
I hope this helps and congratulations on brining a beautiful baby into this world!
Lansinoh LatchAssist Nipple Everter with 2 Flange Sizes https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00112EIWW/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_3uIgDb8MNCVA2
Try this! It helped a lot with me!
Maybe nipple everter could help as well? Lansinoh LatchAssist Nipple Everter with 2 Flange Sizes, Nipple Extractor for Breastfeeding, Suction Latching Aid for Nursing Moms, Nursing Essentials. https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00112EIWW/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_RyknDbZ74TZF5
Here is a link to the one I’ve seen:
Lansinoh LatchAssist Inverted Nipple Corrector Nipple Everter, 2 Sizes https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00112EIWW/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_lBWZDbTWTQJSQ
You use it prior to the feeding. In theory it will draw out your nipple to allow for a better latch, then they can nurse normally.
if your wife plans to breastfeed, spend $7 and bring a nipple everter. It will save you a lot of crying all around.
http://www.amazon.com/Lansinoh-LANSINOH294983-Latchassist-Nipple-Everter/dp/B00112EIWW
I wanted to reply to your comment last week about breastfeeding stuff, but was too bogged down in our own stuff here. :-)
Tongue-tie, injured nipples, delayed + low supply, pumping 7-8x a day to increase/maintain supply...that was me for the first 8-ish weeks. Tongue-tie was revised at 4 weeks, and we finally got to (mostly) EBF at 8 weeks. (Which was great--so much easier, until reflux set in!)
A few thoughts:
There were a lot of tears at the beginning of our breastfeeding journey, too. I had to set a lot of microgoals. Breastfeeding once a day without injury. Then twice a day. Making it to two weeks, then one month, then another month. If I thought about trying to go six months or a year, it felt impossible, so I just kept my goals short-term and told myself that at each step, I was free to re-evaluate.
Now we're at 6 months! And honestly, because my daughter developed reflux after all the other stuff, most of those months have been hard won. My goal now is to keep going until her reflux improves. (Formula can make reflux worse.) If improvements in breastfeeding follow, we might continue longer. If not, then that might be the time to transition to formula, 'cause I can't imagine triple-feeding for another 6 months!
Congratulations on the new job! Hope your (soon to be former) boss isn't an ass to your husband when he finds out you're leaving. On the subject of glassblowing, I saw this post about a memorial marble for someone who died and it reminded me of you--the glassblower among us, and all the conversations at /r/ttcafterloss about how we remember our little ones. <3
8 months pp here! FTM.
Our journey was not easy. Wasn't as hard as some others but not as easy either.
We had blisters, cracked nipples and serious pain in the beginning. LO took about 2 weeks to figure out how to latch properly and in the meantime, we had to supplement with formula because my milk took over 5 days to come in. I ran out of colostrum very quickly because I had a big ass baby who apparently decided he was quite hungry.
We didn't use a bottle to supplement, we used the supplemental nursing system. I am convinced it's why we're EBF (no bottles) now. But it's a pain in the ass to use and clean but worth it.
He never took to a pacifier. He will drink from a bottle if he had to (comotomo) or even a sippy cup. We got lucky though. He doesn't reject anything that breastmilk comes out of lol. Loves him a breastmilk popsicle.
I would say, if you can get an electric pump for free, get it. Don't bank on things working out from the get go. I had to pump after every feed for weeks because baby wasn't an efficient nurser. If I didn't have my pump, I probably wouldn't have a supply now. Having to pump after every feed really sucks. It's demoralizing as fuck watching nothing but air come out but that's okay. You need that to tell your body to ramp shit up.
If you do pump, make sure you get the right size flanges.
Your nipples will toughen up, but don't listen to anyone telling you to "pre" toughen them. I got that advice from family...I'm really glad I didn't listen. Instead, have plenty of nipple butter ready and slather that shit on like your nips are thanksgiving turkey. gel pads are a must buy as well.
https://smile.amazon.com/Lansinoh-Soothies-Breastfeeding-Soothing-Cracked/dp/B002KGHUL4/ref=sr_1_3_a_it?ie=UTF8&amp;qid=1539231011&amp;sr=8-3&amp;keywords=lansinoh+gel+pads
Try several nipple butters out. Not all work the same for everyone. Earth Mama nipple butter is my jam. But a lot of moms like Lanolin. Lanolin was meh for us.
Also keep high quality raw, unrefined extra virgin coconut oil handy. It's a natural antifungal/antibacterial and in the beginning weeks, thrush is a real concern. Make sure you have probiotics in your system as well.
You could definitely try! Breastmilk is good topically too for eczema. And no, I don't think it's too late necessarily though the causes for eczema are still not 100% clear
My guy has it too and he's breastfed....though it's far less now that I have cut eggs/dairy from my diet. We see a pediatric allergist for it and he's one of the best in his fields and he says that eczema is one of those funny things that we're not 100% clear on what truly causes it. And that one thing can be the cause today....and not be the cause tomorrow.
Don't be nervous!!! See if you have any nursing mama cafe groups, or a La Leche League meeting and go to those. Also see if your hospital has lactation workshops! I went to one every week for the first 3 months. They're a sanity saver bc there's a board certified lactation consultant on hand AND they do weighted feeds.
Clusterfeeding is normal. You can never bring your baby to breast too often. You can bring too little.
Don't ever ever listen to anyone telling you to space baby's feedings out. That comes from formula feeding and NOT breastfeeding. If baby just ate and seems hungry again 30 minutes later? Let em eat.
Don't let baby go more than 2 hrs during the day between feeds. 3 hrs MAX until he's back up to birth weight. Once he's back up to birth weight, you can let baby do the 1 long stretch but you'll want to stack day feeds in your favor then (aim for every 2-3 hrs) Again. You can never offer too much. A baby will stop drinking if they're not thirsty/hungry. The more you bring baby to breast, the better your supply will be. Breastmilk digests in under an hour so keep that in mind when people are trying to tell you baby isn't hungry. Chances are, he probably very much is!
Don't go crazy with nursing bras/tanks just yet. Wait until you've given birth as our bodies will fluctuate like crazy. Then buy ONE you might like and trial it first.
If you have the choice between boppy or my brest friend...the my brest friend is the better pillow for JUST breastfeeding. It's not as versatile as the boppy which I still use now for other things but oh boy is it great for helping you latch a baby.
Use a nipple shield with caution. Weaning off it can be a bitch. If you can power through without it, try. Because then what happens is, you don't get your nipples acclimated and you have to start all over again. Obviously, if the pain is so bad you're going to stop breastfeeding altogether, then yes, of course, do what's necessary but just some things to keep in mind.
If you have the money....I'd think about getting a LaVie massager...that thing has saved me from 3 clogged ducts. Clogs are no joke. The moment you feel one, you work that bad boy out asap. Listen to your body.
Have plenty of drinks/snacks lying around. Look into no bake lactation bites
https://thebakermama.com/recipes/no-bake-lactation-bites/
Be prepared to spend a lot of time with a baby stuck to you. Baby jail is real.
The problem is even when you get a good latch, you have had a bad latch before so the damage is done. It takes about 2-3 weeks in my experience for the nerves to deaden in your nipples and for it to get pain free.
You're doing all the right things though! Maybe take some motrin (you prob already are if you're 6 days pp). I got these madela nipple shells, they protect your nipple from your clothes and allow air in so you don't get thrush.
http://www.amazon.com/Medela-SoftShells-for-Sore-Nipples/dp/B000058DPN/ref=sr_1_sc_1?ie=UTF8&amp;qid=1421680583&amp;sr=8-1-spell&amp;keywords=madela+shells
Also get these soothies, and keep them in the fridge between feedings and slap them on after. These don't allow air flow so don't use them ALL the time.
http://www.amazon.com/Lansinoh-Soothies-Gel-Pads-Count/dp/B002KGHUL4/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&amp;qid=1421680652&amp;sr=8-1&amp;keywords=soothies
Also, expressing some milk by hand after a feeding (like a drop or two) and spreading it around your sore nipple and allowing it to dry helps, breastmilk has healing properites.
My LC diagnosed a tongue and lip tie which we got taken care of on day 3 of her little life - there was an immediate difference. Up to about 10 seconds of pain while initially latching is considered normal (I would usually cry), but it should not persist beyond the initial latch on. (That eventually stopped though!)
If you don't have them, these were everything in the first two weeks - get two sets and keep them in the fridge!
Gel Pads
I had the LC teach my husband how to help me get baby latched properly because I didn't seem to have enough hands until baby got a hang of nursing and that was super useful. I would usually hold baby in one hand and my boob in the other while husband maneuvered baby's head jnto position and jammed it into my boob as soon as she opened her mouth wide enough. If you can, have LC come to you!
Non-mobile: lansinoh gel soothies
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Second lansinoh soothies that your store in the fridge, and taking any postpartum medicine you might have been prescribed!
You can also pump just a TINY bit to relieve some pressure (if you pump too much, your boobs will be like “OH HEY YOU WANT ME TO KEEP PRODUCING THIS MUCH, YEAH?”
AND ALSO: demand of your support network time and space to take relieving showers. You are 100% not required to fully care for a toddler and a newborn at 3 days postpartum!!!!!!
I also have sensitive nipples. It did hurt in the beginning but we worked through it and I'm so glad we did. It was absolutely worth it. Also: nipple shield, and nipple gel pads
Get on amazon and buy these. Pay for the fast shipping.
http://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/B003IP2L38/ref=mp_s_a_1?qid=1348250700&amp;sr=8-2
These saved me with both of my babies!
Also, start nursing twice in a row per side for a few feedings - so left left right right - get it?
This will give each nipple more time to heal after a feeding. Apply something cold- like an ice pack or ice wrapped in a soft baby washcloth before AND after nursing. The cold can give you a little numbness before nursing and be really soothing after.
My insurance totally covered this one: http://www.amazon.com/Medela-Pump-Style-Advanced-Breast/dp/B004HWXCJS/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&amp;qid=1395185842&amp;sr=8-1&amp;keywords=medela+breast+pump
If you are on the go. This is what I recommend!
http://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/B004HWXCJS/ref=mp_s_a_1_sc_1?qid=1370534482&amp;amp;sr=8-1-spell&amp;amp;pi=SL75
It is what I have. Everything is conveniently in a bag.
Clean up is easy.
Cooler bag to store milk so it doesn't spoil. Etc.
I use this when I'm at school.
Though I wish I heard about this one.
http://www.medelabreastfeedingus.com/products/463/freestyle-breastpump
It doesn't need an outlet
Try lanolin! It's sold in bulk at some health stores or as nipple cream, slightly embarrassing but it works wonders on the lips.
I'm a bit extra so I use glycerin (Glysolid), lanolin, and vaseline on my lips at night & in the morning and since I started that I have no lip problems.
Lanolin. Specifically, this kind: https://www.amazon.com/Lansinoh-Breastfeeding-Salve-Lanolin-1-41/dp/B005MI648C
It's sheep sebum, basically. It can help a lot with chapped lips (and nipples).
You can get lanolin in products like this or in fancier balms by the brand Lanolips.
Lansinoh Lanolin 100% pure and organic lanolin. A small dab goes a long way once melted to body temperature. Use medication then seal everything in with lanolin. I found not even Aquaphor or Vaseline is occlusive enough to ward off transdermic moisture loss.
Lansinoh nipple cream for brestfeeding women: https://www.amazon.com/Lansinoh-Breastfeeding-Salve-Lanolin-1-41/dp/B005MI648C?th=1
It has lanolin and is hypoallergenic as it is meant for nipples that get sucked on by infants.
Kinda hard to put it on as it is very stiff from the lanolin but it is pure magic for dry skin
Is it really that good? I've heard good things about it, but have been hesitant to actually trying it :s My lips are definitely dry, but they aren't red and inflamed like some of the extreme cases I've seen people on Accutane go through. I'm a mess without Aquaphor on me all the time, but it always feels good when I re-apply it about every hour and a half. However, I feel like it's just sitting on my lips, as oppose to actually doing something. Also, is this the lanolin you're talking about?
I've heard BITE's Agave lip mask is amazing. If you have money to drop for it (they also have a mini gift set with their lip exfoliator), then I would try it out. I don't have money to shell out for it, so keep this in mind:
Lanolin is the mask's active ingredient (it's listed first). It's the same thing used in nipple creams for breastfeeding mothers. I'd suggest purchasing Lansinoh and see where it goes from there. Plus, you can use it on cracked knees and elbows!
If you want to splurge on a yummy lip mask that you can't resist licking off your lips, then buy the BITE product. :)
My friend and I found these to be the bags we liked the best. Double zipper, so they don't leak. BPA free.
http://www.amazon.com/Lansinoh-Breastmilk-Storage-Bags-Count/dp/B006XISCNA/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&amp;qid=1409958104&amp;sr=8-1&amp;keywords=breast+milk+storage+bags
I would pump into the bottle provided with the breast pump (Medela), and then pour the milk into one of these bags. I'd then freeze it flat. To thaw, I'd heat up a bowl of water for a minute or so on high, then defrost the bag in that.
Lansinoh Breastmilk Storage Bags, 100 Count (1 Pack of 100 Bags), Milk Freezer Bags for Long Term Breastfeeding Storage, Pump Directly into Bags, Nursing Essentials https://www.amazon.com/dp/B006XISCNA/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_i_wUgBDbJNWS1XQ
Two things worked for us:
http://www.amazon.com/Philips-AVENT-Natural-Bottle-1-Pack/dp/B0083TTLG4/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&amp;qid=1414095655&amp;sr=8-1&amp;keywords=avent+glass+bottles
http://www.amazon.com/Earths-Best-Organic-Infant-Formula/dp/B0032CJPOK/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&amp;qid=1414095664&amp;sr=8-1&amp;keywords=earths+best+formula
I would recommend you put breast milk in the bottle to get her started, then after a week switch to formula.
And remember, your wife can FREEZE breast milk. My wife uses these:
http://www.amazon.com/Lansinoh-Breastmilk-Storage-Bags-Count/dp/B006XISCNA/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&amp;qid=1414095757&amp;sr=8-1&amp;keywords=breast+milk+freezer+bags
She lays them flat on the freezer to freeze them, and then she stands them all upright in a box in the freezer to store them. You can store them for up to a year.
Obviously you will need to get a breast pump. If you have health insurance, all policies are mandated to provide one at no cost to you!!!!
Eco Friendly, Baby Edition! More suggestions are welcome!
I'm due this winter (being induced in December), and these cloth diapers would be really green and really helpful! My mom used cloth diapers with us, and though they're a little more work, they don't put THAT much extra laundry into the wash cycle, and they save on ALL that waste that's created by baby diapers! Crazy! We do not intend to do cloth 100% of the time, but they'll be nice when baby has already had a poo that day, and we expect no more poo, so they'll be there for pee only. (How predictable is a poo cycle on a baby? We'll figure it out!)
We also want to make most of our own baby food, from local produce from a farmer's market, which cuts down on gas used to bring us our food and all the glass bottles used to store food. Here is a plastic set of little food containers.
I'm also breast feeding, so here are some breast milk storage bags. THAT'S SUPER GREEN, and cheap, because I'm not using all that awful formula.
I use the spectra s2 and like it so far. Granted, I am also a new first time mom and my baby is only 9.5 weeks old and I haven't gone back to work yet, so I am by no means an expert. What I have been doing so far is working for me at home though so I'll tell you my routine. I pump into the spectra bottles that came with the pump and then immediately transfer that milk into either bottles that go in the refrigerator for my husband or mom or feed her, or into freezer bags for my freezer stash. I have been pumping about once a day since my baby was 2 weeks old. At first I would only get an ounce or two at a time so that was only enough for one bottle or just a supplemental bottle or I could combine the milk from 2 pumping sessions into one bottle. (My baby now typically eats 3-4 ounces at a time from a bottle). Eventually (and pretty quickly) I was able to pump more volume. I typically pump in the morning after her first feed because my supply is highest then. I now get anywhere from 4-8 ounces at this pump session. I typically put 3-4 ounces into a bottle in the fridge and the freeze the rest. I think it's good to have someone give your baby a bottle of expressed milk one every day or two so that they won't have a problem refusing a bottle when you go beck to work. To answer your specific questions above:
Ok, I will try to format this nicely, but for some reason it always comes out TERRIBLY, so if you see it's been edited, it's just for formatting. Also, I didn't do any sort of price search, so these links aren't the best price guaranteed.
Dream Team Pumping Purchases
As for bottles to attach...you can use Ameda or Medela bottles, or any bottle that fits the Medela connectors (I use the Medela bottles and sometimes Dr. Brown's bottles since they fit (depends on what's clean).
Nursing pillow (I use the boppy), milk storage solutions... Look into Kiinde Twist. You can pump from the Medela pump directly into the twist bags. My coworker gifted me the nice gift set and I'm pretty stoked to use it. Also these flanges, everyone tells me I have to get them, so I resisted for them. I also registered for the $30 medela hand pump because it saved my sanity with engorgement with my first one (hand pump + hot shower = relief).
I EP'd for two months after trying to EBF for 10 days too! First, EPing isn't the absolute end to your dreams of breastfeeding. You can always go back if you want to try again. I did, it was hard at first. We had to overcome nipple confusion. But to my delight, using Dr Browns wide nipples actually taught my son how to latch properly.
Second, if you don't want to try again, many people have done really well with EPing. My friend successfully EPed twins 100% for a full year. That's truly amazing because I had to supplement with formula one bottle a day and that was with just one kid :)
A couple of resources I found really helpful:
I have a Spectra S1 and love it. It's very quiet, fast, and the parts are very easy to clean.
FWIW, I ordered the Spectra S2 from this amazon listing and they accidentally(?) sent me a S1. Just saying...
I got a Medela In Style from insurance (Thanks, Obama) and ended up buying a Spectra S2 from Amazon (hospital grade and insurance wouldn't cover).
I like both, but the s2 is lighter, quieter and more comfortable to use. Glad I have both (Medela can be portable for work) but if I had to have one - would buy the Spectra, it's not as much money as I had expected.
This one. i like that it's a closed double pump and actually it's one of the highest rated on Amazon. It doesnt come with a carrying bag but that doesn't matter to me. If Tricare will only cover a few select ones though, like other insurers, I'd pick whichever one is free. :)
My lips are my biggest issue—they're in a neverending peeling cycle. I have really dry skin in general and I can't really breathe through my nose, and I think all the mouthbreathing exacerbates things. I don't get cracking or the red circle around the lips that kids get, but just constant peeling peeling peeling.
I use lanolin. It's the sheep equivalent of sebum, which doesn't sound great, but it's similar to the oils produced by human skin. I use Lansinoh, which is intended for nipples that are chapped from breastfeeding. (Don't buy pure raw lanolin, it will smell like sheep.) I recently found it in these minis, which I really like since they're a normal chapstick size. They helpfully say "SOOTHES & PROTECTS SORE, CHAPPED NIPPLES"... I try not to leave them out when my students are around.
It works best when I use it as a routine several times a day instead of as needed. I always fall back into trying to apply lip products only as needed, which completely does not work for me. I would never wait until I had a problem to apply any other moisturizer, so why do I do it with lip moisturizers? Who knows.
I do the wash cloth exfoliation thing, which maybe helps, but is not nearly enough for me. Does anyone do any intentional chemical exfoliation on their lips? Are there products for that?
I've never really found a solution for my peeling lips and have mostly just learned to live with it. :\
I'm going to try switching to an SLS free toothpaste. I've used them before and didn't notice it helping my lips, but I wasn't looking out for it so who knows.
For SPF I've been using Banana Boat SPF 45 Lip Balm. It's fine.
For cold sores I take 2g of Valtrex (an antiviral used for herpes) when I feel a tingle, and then 2g 12 hours later. If I take it in time it can normally completely prevent an outbreak. I also use Abreva, but only on the sore itself at the very early stages since it works by protecting cells from becoming infected. I don't think there's any point in using it once it erupts, though I'll keep using it on my other lip if it's touching.
Lansinoh Lanolin Nipplecreams for Breastfeeding, 100% Natural Nipple Cream, 3 Mini Tubes (0.25 oz each) https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00FNZQHJA/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_AfF4BbXCF4BCN
Or if you’re frugal, you can get three of these little ones. Same stuff just unflavored.
Lanolin is good for this. I use it for my lips but the product I use is marketed for nipples.
link on US Amazon for what I use
$12 for the three small tubes of pure lanolin I mentioned here on Amazon
You can get a bigger tube and just use that if you're the kinda gal to always have a purse on you. I like the convenience of the smaller tubes and a little goes a long way!
I would get one for a "just in case" situation. Is there a chance you could get stuck working late one night? Or can't get back home on your lunch break? I also work about 15 mins away from home, and there have been times where I've forgotten to get the milk in the fridge asap (thanks, Baby) and was thankful I had my cooler. I got a Medela cooler set and love it.
https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00LSP1PE6/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_i_B2-xDbMNM4W64
This list is awesome! I was not nearly that organized for my registry! Just a few comments from the other side (my baby is 3 months currently).
Baby nails are sharp and scary, some friends bought us this Electric Nail File and it is absolutely amazing, not painful for baby at all and much more efficient than the little files.
This butt spatula thing has been great for when we apply diaper cream! Saves us from getting it on our hands.
For me personally, I found the Boppy rather ineffective for nursing at first while we were trying to figure out nursing. Baby would kind of slide down between the Boppy and my stomach. Now at 3 months old, the Boppy is super useful for propping baby and sometimes as a nursing pillow if I decide to use one. My first few weeks of nursing I'd use the Brest Friend Nursing Pillow it was great when Baby really needed a little extra support for getting into the best position for nursing.
Breastfeeding was very painful for me the first few weeks. Our LO ended up having a bad latch due to tongue and lip ties we had to get lasered (anterior tongue tie had been clipped by Pediatrician in the hospital, she still had a posterior tie that was diagnosed later by a lactation consultant - just something to keep in mind), by the time we had the procedure done the damage was done to my nipples. These nipple shields are one of the things that really helped my nipples heal in between feedings to keep my bra/clothes off of them. I hope you don't have to use them, but something you may want to make a note of in case you have a similar experience. If you do end up having nipple pain, ask your OB (or Google how to make it yourself) for a script for "Newman's Nipple Cream", that stuff helped save our breastfeeding relationship!
Good luck, looks like you're off to a great start!
You can buy these and use with your current pump.
Freemie Collection Cups The Only Hands Free and Concealable Breast Pump Milk Collection System, Clear, 25/28 mm Funnels https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00UV6JDN8/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_i_jUHoDbKZWJ5NT
OK, I've been thinking about this all day. Would a set-up like this be possible for you?
You might look a little funny with a backpack on, and may not be able to assist in a crisis due to possibly sloshing milk, but you would be able to stay on the floor.
Kellymom.com is my go-to resource for everything breastfeeding and pumping related. You could try pumping after your baby feeds. My daughter used to eat on one side only and I would pump the other side when she was done. You might not get much, but it would encourage your supply. I also have a Spectra pump and use Medela parts. Just get these adapters from Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B01DGEDVUM/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_vBt.zb62EH61A
Just Google search how to determine best flange size. The standard 24mm works for most women I'm pretty sure.
So, what I have done is pump one side and nurse the other. That way I'm not stuck in the chair all day long. I usually do it once or twice in the early morning (thats when your milk is usually most plentiful, from 4am on) and it is enough for one solid feed at night.
I also have a fast let down and pumping for just one or two moments on that side can help with the squirt to the back of the throat. A haaka is a nice affordable option for this as it doesn't require lot of cords and tubes.
https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07CWK4S5W/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_awdb_t1_wJlPDbQZ0BJNJ
I know it's exhausting. I also know you are a great mom for giving it your best.
I've heard the milk catchers are good for sexy times when we can leak.
I'm going to be using an affordable passive collection silicone pump ( this model ) to collect the milk from my other breast during nursing.
I like the duckbill ones a lot better because they are easier to get off. These are the ones I have.
Look into the Haakaa manual pump. It costs around $25 and is literally just one piece that you suction on while LO is feeding on the other side. It catches all your letdown and you can get several ounces with each feeding. I hated using an electric pump because it's such a process and honestly wasn't comfortable for me. I got 8 oz from one feeding with the Haakaa pump and it would've taken me hours and several pumping sessions to get the same amount with the electric.
I just bought this: https://www.amazon.ca/Haakaa-Silicone-Breast-Phthalate-Release/dp/B01F8W7CF0
Works great, very easy.
I pump 3 extra ounces a day, so basically I use the pump until I get 3 ounces. If babe gets a bottle I pump to replace what he eats. Don't worry about not having enough because you can always give LO what you pumped if you're desperate, although you might want to wait until 5-6 weeks to start pumping if you don't want to introduce a bottle this early and are worried about that issue.
I went with this one. A lot of moms in my Facebook mom group raved about it and it's through Amazon Prime, so easy to return if things don't work out :D
Wow. That is awful!
Did you get a hand pump as a back up after that? It’s a good back up for folks that can’t afford a full second pump.
I’ve heard good things about the Haakaa and put it on my registry.
https://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/B01F8W7CF0/ref=mp_s_a_1_2_a_it?ie=UTF8&amp;qid=1527714056&amp;sr=8-2&amp;keywords=haakaa+breastpump&amp;dpPl=1&amp;dpID=51y0lBYeyEL&amp;ref=plSrch
This one
Haakaa Manual Breast Pump 4oz/100ml,2019 New Style https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07CWK4S5W/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_ce4jDbG5WPXFJ
Yeah, I get that, and I definitely get not wanting to make major waves! I work for a really small company and I'm just going to be taking over our conference room (which does at least have a lock). But it's good to at least be aware. If I were in your shoes I think I'd be more about holding them to the break time requirements than the space ones, but that's me.
Also, you might want to check out Fremies, which allow you to pump with your shirt on. I'm still pregnant so I'm not to this point yet, but when I get there these are what I think I will use.
http://www.amazon.com/Freemie-Collection-Cups-Concealable-Funnels/dp/B00UV6JDN8/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&amp;qid=1451311076&amp;sr=8-1&amp;keywords=freemie
I ordered these. Maymom Flange adapter
These plug into the breastshield from Maymom or Medela then into the back flow protector from Spectra.
I have one, but as a FTM without my kid here yet, I pretty much know jack shit. However, after searching for the S2 on Amazon, I found that customers also bought this and other various things to make life easier or that can work with Medela bottles/parts/etc like these flange adapters. The top customer review had some info about how they used medela bottles with pumpin pal flanges and didn't have to "hack" anything or cut tubing. Have a look around. I am getting a better grasp on everything by doing this.
I actually use the medela flanges and bottles with my spectra pump. We just got the adapter from Amazon. It plugs in in between the flanges and the backflow protector. It is a little odd but works well.
https://www.amazon.com/dp/B01DGEDVUM/ref=cm_sw_r_other_apa_cdv0AbHBJN135
The Spectra is better imo. The good news is that you can buy an adapter from Amazon that will allow you to use Medela parts with your Spectra. I didn't do this last time, but have purchased them for use with these babies.
Regarding the bottles - I was super concerned before baby about pumping into the bottles that baby used, but it ended up being easier for me to pump into the bottles that came with my pump and then transfer the milk into bags/bottles baby used. At least for me, I didn't ever pump the exact same amount, so there was always lots of adding/subtracting milk from each bottle before I could feed baby with it. I DID use the Medela bottles at first with Dr. Brown's preemie nipples, and using the adapters I linked to above, I can pump directly into these with my Spectra this time around.
If you want to try pumping more, I would highly recommend this silicone pump thingy. You can put it on your other boob while baby is nursing and get a couple ounces. I had the same problem with trying to pump while taking care of a clingy baby. It's impossible!
My husband and I had a similar problem where he always felt like he wasn't doing enough and it was honestly exhausting feeling like I had constantly reassure him
https://www.amazon.com/Haakaa-Silicone-Breastfeeding-Manual-Phthalate/dp/B01F8W7CF0
Hi, congratulations on having your first baby, I'm a first time dad too(although only for almost 6 months now). We've had a similar issue as in my gf wanted to purely breastfeed but she didn't feel like she was producing enough milk, she was dreading at the thought of using formula. And she was going down the same rut feeling really bad cause she wasn't producing enough milk but not wanting to use formula, to the point of tears. I suggested that during night time I give the baby formula before bedtime (gets me more involved too) and while I give her formula she can always pump to at least fool the body into thinking that's she's feeding the baby. Eventually she gave in and it was a whole new beginning, the baby was sleeping almost all night and on top of that we had some milk reserves so sometimes we didn't even need formula for night time feeds. Hope this helps. And additional suggestions is one of these bad boys
Haakaa Manual Breast Pumps Silicone Breastpump Breastfeeding Pump Milk Pump 100% Food Grade Silicone (3oz/90ml） https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B01F8W7CF0/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_i_rlvEDb258BGZ9
Using while feeding the baby and you'd be surprised at how much gets lost during feeds.
They're a type of pump. It uses suction to stick to the boob and collect all the let down. I've collected almost 30oz just from popping the haakaa on while I fed my baby from the other side.
As it's just silicon there's no pumping manually or noise like with an electric pump.
Edit to add: Haakaa Silicone Breastfeeding Manual Breast Pump Milk Pump 100% Food Grade Silicone BPA PVC and Phthalate Free by Haakaa https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B01F8W7CF0/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_CxN0Ab4HVNEEF
One thing that helped me build a stash in the early days before I returned to work is a silicone breast pump that catches your letdown on the side the baby is not nursing from. I would catch a couple of ounces per feed that would have just been wasted in my nursing pad. They are really reasonably priced to on [Amazon] (https://www.amazon.com/Haakaa-Silicone-Breastfeeding-Manual-Phthalate/dp/B01F8W7CF0/ref=sr_1_10_s_it?s=baby-products&amp;ie=UTF8&amp;qid=1510088591&amp;sr=1-10&amp;keywords=silicone+breastpump).
SPECTRA SPECTRA SPECTRA! :)
I had the Medela PISA and while it was okay, I bought the Spectra because it comes so highly recommended. I could NOT be happier with my choice. I have better output, it's quieter and I think it hurts less as the Medela sort of has a "tugging" sensation, the Spectra feels more like vibrating. It also has a timer and a nightlight on it. I've been telling anyone who will listen because I love it so much!
Also, if you have a Medela and the accessories already, you can easily use all the Medela parts with the Spectra. Here's the link (http://www.amazon.com/Maymom-Breastshield-Connects-Backflow-Protector/dp/B01DGEDVUM/ref=sr_tnr_p_1_2492161011_1_a_it?ie=UTF8&amp;qid=1465222552&amp;sr=8-1&amp;keywords=maymom+spectra+medela+adapter)
The Spectra is also a closed system like the Ameda, so you don't have to worry about any backflow problems! I purchased the Spectra with my own money and it only runs about $130 on amazon. Totally worth the money, in my opinion!! :)
Edit: I should also mention that I tried the Ameda, it's the one I chose from my insurance and I was not a big fan. the suction was too low and I thought the speed was slow as well.
I've only tried these: Nenesupply 5 Count Duckbill Valves for Medela and Spectra. Designed for Spectra S1 Spectra S2 Spectra and Medela Pump In Style Not Original Spectra Pump Parts Replace Medela Valve and Spectra Valve https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00XVASFGC/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_MUcWBb26HRDY0
And I don't think they work as well as original so I bit the bullet and bought the originals. I know reviews say they are just as good, but that wasn't my experience.
What pump do you use?
You could try these to replace your parts.
I had the spectra s2 and replaced my duckbill valves with these after a few months. They also can replace the valve/membrane combo on the medela!
I use this (less parts!): https://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/B01E3W689M/ref=mp_s_a_1_fkmr0_1_a_it?ie=UTF8&amp;qid=1469575979&amp;sr=8-1-fkmr0&amp;keywords=maymom+long+stemmed+backflow
But you can also just get this little guy:
https://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/B01DGEDVUM/ref=pd_aw_fbt_75_img_3?ie=UTF8&amp;psc=1&amp;refRID=FTFM0HMWK9Q7E104PMGK
https://www.amazon.com/dp/B01DGEDVUM/ref=cm_sw_r_apa_imevzb7EVASCA
I think these are the ones used https://www.amazon.com/Freemie-Breast-Collection-System-Clear/dp/B00UV6JDN8/
They're on Groupon often, believe it or not! Also I heard a lot about this single suction manual pump after it was too late to use with my son. I definitely plan to check it out with the next baby. And finally, it's nice to have a single manual pump too (not electric) - good for car rides, when you need to pump only one side a little, etc. Oh and one more thing - hands-free pumping bra. I liked the simple wishes one.
Have you looked into manual pumps at all? Like this one in the link below. It's what I'm going to get. The reviews seem amaze-balls, and no noise, no weird attachments and super portable.
https://www.amazon.com/Haakaa-Breast-Manual-Silicone-Breastfeeding/dp/B07CWK4S5W/ref=sr_1_1_sspa?crid=1GWRGJTZC98J5&keywords=haakaa+manual+breast+pump+4oz&qid=1570590409&s=baby-products&sprefix=haakaa+manu%2Cbaby-products%2C331&sr=1-1-spons&psc=1&spLa=ZW5jcnlwdGVkUXVhbGlmaWVyPUExRVVLSFVBMVo5UjBYJmVuY3J5cHRlZElkPUEwMzg3ODcwUDYxN1hSWVY5UTc4JmVuY3J5cHRlZEFkSWQ9QTAzNjYzOTIzVFgxTktFRUNMQ09FJndpZGdldE5hbWU9c3BfYXRmJmFjdGlvbj1jbGlja1JlZGlyZWN0JmRvTm90TG9nQ2xpY2s9dHJ1ZQ==
I have to call my insurance to see what the free option is. (I'm definitely going with the free option.) I think it's a Medela. And then I was planning on ordering the Freemie collection cups https://www.amazon.com/Freemie-Collection-Cups-Concealable-Funnels/dp/B00UV6JDN8.
If you still have your Medela parts, you can use these adapter things to convert them to use with the Spectra and save some money:
https://www.amazon.com/dp/B01DGEDVUM/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_waJGAb1NX8VYV
If you want to save the milk a Hakaa pump is well worth the $20 investment. It's how I built up a pretty decent freezer stash with almost zero effort.
Edit to add that I also have a manual pump I occasionally use, but all the parts are annoying to clean so the Hakaa is something I'm still using almost daily three months out.
Also, my LO did the same thing and my midwife assured me not to worry, and it is getting better as she gets older. I definitely notice if I have more engorgement than normal and I don't pre-drain a bit, she becomes the exorcist with all the puking she does everywhere.
https://www.amazon.ca/gp/aw/d/B01F8W7CF0/ref=mp_s_a_1_2?ie=UTF8&amp;qid=1521749696&amp;sr=8-2&amp;pi=AC_SX236_SY340_FMwebp_QL65&amp;keywords=hakaa+breast+pump&amp;dpPl=1&amp;dpID=41G9iDjQW6L&amp;ref=plSrch
Good! You should be able to pump less and less as the weeks go by. As someone pointed out, now's a great time to introduce a bottle anyway.
Another thing to look into is a haakaa. I have not personally used it, but it is popular and might save you a little time or effort.
Just thought of one other thing... have you heard of the Haakaa?
https://www.amazon.ca/Haakaa-Silicone-Breast-Grade-Phthalate/dp/B01F8W7CF0
If you used that just before your feed it might help with the heavy let down and then the flow wouldn’t be as strong. It doesn’t pump it just suctions on and collects what comes out so you don’t have to waste.
So sorry to hear this is difficult for you. I hope you can find a solution!
I have a Medela hand pump with those membranes. I'm not a fan because it's easy to lose the little white parts.
I prefer these off brand replacements (cheaper, too): Nenesupply 5 Count Compatible Duckbill Valves for Medela and Spectra for Spectra S1 Spectra S2 https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00XVASFGC
It's kind of funny that they come in a 5 pack.
I got the Medela pump through my insurance and it works (it is pretty loud) but it is nice being able to get parts if needed at almost any store! I wanted the Spectra but my insurance didn't provide that option.
Many people use a haakaa on the side they are not feeding on to catch the letdown! I prefer the milkies milk saver since it goes right in your bra/tank top and you don't have to worry about baby kicking it off!
Here are mine:
Hope this helps somebody!
Edit: added a few more after the Spectra.
Not exactly a traditional manual pump, but I love the Haakaa pump. Might be what you’re already referring to though.
It’s a small suction hand pump. Great for catching letdown on your opposite side, or in the shower/bath when you randomly let down. If I use it twice a day, I extract enough for a bottle feeding. Super easy and has no parts, so cleaning is a breeze!
https://www.amazon.com/dp/B01F8W7CF0/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_f5BVAbE103QS0
https://www.amazon.com/Haakaa-Silicone-Breastfeeding-Manual-Phthalate/dp/B01F8W7CF0
https://www.amazon.com/Medela-Harmony-Manual-Breast-Pump/dp/B0006HBS1M/ref=sr_1_3_a_it?ie=UTF8&amp;qid=1483657811&amp;sr=8-3&amp;keywords=medela+harmony
this too!
Congrats and good luck! I trained for a half while breastfeeding so AMA. I have three kids who each nursed for 2+ years.
The good news is that neither exercise nor nutrition are likely to affect your supply. (Here's the science behind that.)
Finding time to nurse or pump is more likely to be an issue, if your long runs conflict with feeding times. My kids were always fine for about 3 hours between feedings, once they were a few months old, so timing wasn't an issue even for long-ish runs. When your runs get really long or if there's a lot of travel time before/after your races or long runs, consider bringing a hand pump. I have this $30 one and it was SO nice to know I'd always have a quick and easy way to relieve pressure if I was away from my baby too long.
Sports bras become extra annoying to fit while you're lactating, just because your boobs can be so big and/or change sizes. Get a good sports bra! I normally go with whatever bra is on sale, but in those early post-baby days I spent $50 on a Moving Comfort and it was SO worth it.
Thankfully my insurance covers a double electric, but I ordered this manual pump for those reasons exactly.
http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B0006HBS1M?psc=1&amp;redirect=true&amp;ref_=oh_aui_detailpage_o00_s00
I had a C-section. Here's my list of musts:
Nipple Cream: https://www.amazon.com/Motherlove-Certified-Organic-Cracked-Nursing/dp/B0007CQ726/ref=sr_1_1_sspa?ie=UTF8&amp;qid=1524170982&amp;sr=8-1-spons&amp;keywords=nipplecreams+for+breastfeeding&amp;psc=1
Nursing Pads: https://www.amazon.com/Lansinoh-Ultimate-Protection-Nighttime-Discretion/dp/B0179BQBP0/ref=sr_1_8_a_it?ie=UTF8&amp;qid=1524171034&amp;sr=8-8&amp;keywords=nursing+pads
Huge drinking cup so you don't have to get up so often: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B01DGMBG5Q/ref=dp_prsubs_3
Nursing Bras: https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B075DBJ53P/ref=oh_aui_detailpage_o02_s00?ie=UTF8&amp;psc=1
Extra Long phone charging cords: https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B074296YH3/ref=oh_aui_detailpage_o01_s00?ie=UTF8&amp;psc=1
Burp Cloths (which are useful for a million things, I bought 3 of the 10-packs and am so glad I did):
https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B007VBYVVA/ref=oh_aui_detailpage_o07_s00?ie=UTF8&amp;psc=1
And my MIL got me this housecoat type thing made of sweatshirt material that was longer than knee length, zipped up, and had 2 massive pockets. I lived in the thing for like a month because I couldn't stand pants after my C-section. Plus it was warm and the pockets were really handy for carrying things (phone, water bottle, burp cloths, etc) while I was holding the baby.
I'm a first timer, so I have no experience post-pregnancy, but my nips have been tortured since early on. I got this stuff on Amazon and it is a life saver. It works so well that I only have to use it a couple times a week to keep everything hydrated and happy for several days at a time.
i never used one of those baby baths, i always brought her in with me and sat her in my lap.
if youre breastfeeding and want to stick with it, i recommend finding a bottle and nipple you like, (this one is "slow flow" and is the one she liked back when she would take one. slow flow is where its at for breastfeeding, as its closest to the amount of sucking shed do when breastfeeding) and giving her one few days at least til shes closer to a year old. i hardly ever gave mine a bottle and she flat out refused to take one or take a binky til she was 18 ish months old and weaned herself. almost two years and she could never go to a sitter or grandmas house for more than a couple hours max. i liked bottles that took these since you dont have to worry about washing / sterilizing everything.
i never used a crib, she co slept til right around when she weaned herself. one day she just... dragged her blankets to her toddler bed (where she always took naps) and decided she was done co sleeping. was awesome. co sleeping is the best when youre breastfeeding, no getting up and down in the middle of the night, can just roll over, pop a boob in her mouth and doze.
get nipple cream! NIPPLE CREAM! and those handy little nipple shields to go in your bra for when you leak. at about 2 weeks - one month your nipples will be on FIRE. it will suck, but only lasts for about a week after that. its WORTH IT when you dont have to lug around formula and bottles everywhere you go.
get or make a baby wrap / carrier. youll look like a new age hippie, but its more comfortable than any traditional baby carrier, and feels more secure than any of the slings. i made two out of about 10 yards of gauzy cotton fabric, cut longways its about the right width. you can wrap her in front when shes little and breastfeed her without anyone being the wiser, later, you can carry her on your back like a champ without her little legs getting sore from hanging out of one of those "typical" carrier types.
heres a wonderful site that lists all the different wraps by age, this one is my fave. http://www.wrapyourbaby.com/frontwrapcrosscarry.htm
instead of a mobile, get one of those rotating star projectors. theyre move expensive, but will last well into preschool, and double as a nightlight.
I have heard so many good things about Earth mama nipple butter from several new mama's around who are currently successfully breastfeeding their little one. It has been 9 years since I've since BF a baby and I struggled for the first 6 weeks. I'm hoping it's a little different this time.
I had similar concerns before my son was born 3.5 months ago. It seemed like everyone had trouble, so I was fully prepared for a miserable experience and was mentally steeling myself to power through for the sake of my baby. And then... it was super easy. No real latch issues. Minimal pain. No supply issues. Used a bottle day 2 and pacifier at week 2 without any nipple confusion. When needed, we used formula here and there without any problems. It's pleasant and sweet for me to nurse him and it's been a wonderful bonding experience! I was lucky, but I also think people with good experiences don't tend to comment online about them as much, so maybe they're underrepresented.
I will say that if it's in the budget, stocking up on some supplies, including just-in-case supplies, was helpful. It's great to have them on hand the second you need them - I'm not sure I would have thought to go out and buy them in the moment otherwise - and also provides some peace of mind before the baby comes knowing that you're prepared.
For me these included:
Earth Mama Angel Baby Nipple Butter - use early and often!
Hydrogel pads - Ameda, Lanisoh and Medela all make them; they are reusable over a 72 hour period or so and they feel AMAZING, especially when refrigerated first (I used and liked the Lanisoh; I snagged a bunch when the price dipped to ~$3). Don't wait till it gets bad to use these!
Lanisoh heating/cooling pads - cooling is soothing and especially nice when you're milk comes in; heat is good for encouraging let down and helping with any clogged ducts
Medella SoftShells - The least essential of the bunch, but a nice-to-have if you want to slather on nipple butter but not stain your nursing bras/tanks or just want to allow some more airflow. Worked great for me but possibly not for everyone's anatomy?
As I'm writing this I remembered many of these recommendations came from this excellent (and now recently updated) Lucie's List article on breastfeeding prep.
You can't predict how this stuff will go but for as much as there is to worry about, there's also a lot to look forward to with nursing. Good luck!
I got this stuff http://www.amazon.com/Earth-Mama-Angel-Baby-Natural/dp/B000JVCBBG as an alternative to lanolin.
I am a Labor & Delivery/Postpartum nurse so I deal with this a lot! Usually we can get them to pop out with a latch assist or a hand pump. If not, or it pops out and goes right back in, we try just pinching a chunk of areola around the nipple and putting it in the baby's mouth like a sandwich. If we can get them to latch onto that, the baby will usually pull the nipple out. If that doesn't work, we try a nipple shield, but it is a last resort because sometimes it will cause latch issues.
Lanisoh makes a little device called the Latch assist, which I found works amazingly on my invented nipple. You suction it on a few seconds before you want to feed, and it pulls out your nipple enough for baby to latch and start a good suck. Also, half the price of those medela ones.
http://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/B00112EIWW
Boppy Nursing Pillow
Some kind of nipple butter. Lansinoh was what I used (and also found it works well for chapped nose during a cold!)
Nipple Gel Pads
Thermopads
Nipple Shield. These can be tricky but they worked wonders for me in the first few weeks while trying to get my nipples used to feeding. It took a little bit of time to get my LO to eat without it but they also saved my nipples.
Not going to lie, it can hurt! I ended up using nipple shields for the entire time I breastfed (22 months) and I super recommend having some in the house - they make it so much more bearable! Getting your supply started with just the pump will take a lot of effort so if you can manage to feed direct it is honestly easier.
These are the nipple shields I used and I also used these gel pads for the first week, so soothing! Do what you’re comfortable with though, don’t feel pressured, just do what works.
I think it's probably because they are already sore. They can take a few days to heal. Keep lanolin on them and these are amazing. Stick them in the refrigerator for extra soothing!
I have not tried them yet (pregnant with my first), but have heard that the Ameda hydrogels last a lot longer than the other brands. Still disposable, but much less so than medela. You can get them on Amazon here.
It is so hard at the beginning! My first never latched well and we ended up exclusively pumping and eventually switching to formula at 10 weeks. We had to do what we could to save our sanity.
My second ended up having a tongue and lip tie. It was so painful that first week before they were discovered! As soon as we got them both revised, things got easier. She was still constantly eating the first month, but I was able to keep my soreness to a minimum with lanolin and Medela soft shells for sore nipples. I highly recommend those soft shells! Also Ameda hydrogels provided great relief the first week when we were battling the tongue and lip tie. They last for several days.
Here's links to both but they also sell them at like Babies R Us type stores if you want to run out and get some immediately:
Ameda ComfortGel Hydrogel Pads https://www.amazon.com/dp/B003IP2L38/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_Am1LybZ3NTJGR
Medela SoftShells for Sore Nipples https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00LSP1PE6/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_Gn1Lyb42HY72B
Breast milk and letting them get lots of air! When you can't just hang out topless, just a tiny bit of coconut oil feels really great. Also these things. You can put them in the fridge and they feel SO good. But don't use them with milk or oil, just a little bit of water if you don't want to use them dry since they can be kind of sticky.
I got this one twice cause 2 kids-- it was really the only one the hospital offered. I liked it alright, but honestly struggled with pumping. I don't think it was the pumps fault though--the struggle was part not being hydrated enough and part because I struggled with "let down" when it was a machine and not my kid nursing. I had a manual one that I used a couple times when I was engorged while travelling, but I actually found that hand expressing was a little easier. The manual pump gave my hands a cramp after a few minutes. That's pretty much the extent of my breast pump advice. Oh and since you're gonna nurse-- LANOLIN and lots of it.
Wow. Thanks for the advice. I really appreciate your input. Thanks for sharing the pics too :)
I'm planning on taking the first two weeks off to help my wife. My wife is taking a full 12 weeks, and I've made it clear to my retired mother-in-law that she's welcome to move in for that first month. She's wonderful and should be a great help.
We're getting there. Picked up a Sony Nex-5N over Christmas to capture all the memories. Also definitely planning to get this Medela and the Miracle blankets.
As for my original question, we did find a recliner we like. It's the Havana recliner from Macy's. It's a bit pricey but we called and it's supposed to go on a one-day sale tomorrow, so we'll see. We're planning to pull the trigger tomorrow. I must say, it's not easy finding a modern recliner with nice, clean lines. They all look like teddy bears.
In our search, we did come across this awesome glider recliner loveseat (8908 style). Both sides independently recline and glide. Amazing if you're prepared to drop $1300.
Check if you or your SO gets a discount through work. I was surprised to find both my work and my husbands had signed up for parent hood support groups. I got my Medela Pump in style at half price and I like it. Medela Pump in Style Advanced Breast Pump with On the Go Tote However, you should not lend or sell your pump. It would be like sharing used underwear and it is advised against for health reasons.
I got the Medela pump in style that is built into a tote bag. Everything fits and pack up inside, then you can just zip down the side panel to access the pump/tubes. I comes with a mini cooler bag that I put my bags of milk in at the end of day. My commute is only half an hour so I don't even put an ice pack in it, just go from work fridge to home fridge.
This is it:
http://www.amazon.com/Medela-Pump-Style-Advanced-Breast/dp/B004HWXCJS
http://www.amazon.com/Medela-Pump-Style-Advanced-Breast/dp/B004HWXCJS/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&amp;qid=1376648292&amp;sr=8-1&amp;keywords=Breast+pump
Additionally, I've gone out of my way to provide a private place for people to breast feed. From empty offices, to empty classrooms. All you have to do is ask. I've actually gone far out of my way to make sure someone could breastfeed in private.
Oh, where to start.
I guess, first of all, equipment will probably be pretty low on you concerns. Any thing you end up lacking can usually be remedied with a couple quick emergency shopping trips by dad. That said, I can recommend some stuff.
And there are other things you might like such as small blankets, blackout curtains for the windows.
However, what I think is the most important is to setup your support network. A lot of people don't get this established in time, and it can make a lot of difference in your quality of life. You may get a really easy baby, but even in the best of times, you'll benefit from help.
My wife signed up for a new parents meet up this one won't work for you, but if you can find something similar, it can be a huge help to have other moms going through the same thing you are, and she made some really good friends. Also, establish, if you can, some people to help out. Do you live near any of the grandparents? Can they come over once a week to help with laundry and dishes for the first few weeks? Can you make some frozen dinners to ear when you're to exhausted to cook? Is there going to be anyone who might be able to give you a couple hours off to sleep or recharge if you're running on empty? These sorts of things are hugely helpful.
I'm sure you'll get lots of help finding out what products you'll want in you life, but my 2c is to spend some time arranging the people you'll want in your life as well.
After scrubbing, try applying [this lanolin salve ](Lansinoh Breastfeeding Salve - HPA Lanolin, 1.41 oz https://www.amazon.com/dp/B005MI648C/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_ph.CybJH251WS) on them. My friend swears by it after she used it for her nipples when breastfeeding. I've yet to use personally- I think I lost the tube I ordered but give it a shot.
For the sore nipples this might help. https://www.amazon.com/Lansinoh-Lanolin-Nipple-Natural-Breastfeeding/dp/B005MI648C
I don't use Aquaphor, but I do use Vaseline (from what I understand, they are pretty much the same) and at night I'll put Lanolin on my lips, as per a recommendation from this sub. I just use Lansinoh Lanolin (it's a nipple cream for breastfeeding mothers). You can find it here -> http://www.amazon.com/Lansinoh-Lanolin-Breastfeeding-Mothers-Grams/dp/B005MI648C/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&amp;qid=1404659636&amp;sr=8-1&amp;keywords=Lansinoh
As a recovering lip balm addict, it seems to really help. I don't find it necessary to be constantly applying lip balm.
I find the same thing with coconut oil. It makes everything seem dryer, and it doesn't absorb very well.
Regarding breastfeeding... I never had any problem with my incision while feeding them - it's really low (close to your bikini line), so it's hard to irritate it while feeding them.
My nipples are definitely sore at times, particularly during the first two weeks or if the girls want to eat more frequently (i.e. cluster feeding). I find that using Lanolin after each feeding helps a lot. After the first few weeks, my nipples definitely started to get used to the feedings, so, most of the time, I’m not that sore.
The first two weeks were the most difficult for me. My hormones were raging, I was still recovering from the surgery, and the girls and I were still learning how to breastfeed. There were times when I felt like all I was doing was feeding them... After two weeks, I decided to start using the pump a little, so that we could give them bottles if my breasts were really sore or if I just wanted a break from breastfeeding. At first I felt guilty about it, but I am so happy I made that decision. For me, the breaks were definitely needed… plus, my husband gets to bond with the girls while he feeds them.
Tandem feeding has also helped A LOT! I use the My Brest Friend Twins Plus Deluxe Nursing Pillow and I would highly recommend it! It takes a little while to figure out how to use it when you’re by yourself, but it cuts feeding time in half!!
Best thing I can recommend is Lanolin. Yes, it's for breastfeeding mothers' nips, but that stuff works. I used to reapply aquaphor once an hour or so, but I only needed to reapply lanolin once every 6 hours.
Would [this] (https://www.amazon.com/Lansinoh-Lanolin-Breastfeeding-Mothers-Grams/dp/B005MI648C/ref=sr_1_1_a_it?ie=UTF8&amp;qid=1469591912&amp;sr=8-1&amp;keywords=Lanisoh+cream) be the product that you're using?
Oh, I will most definitely look into Aquaphor!
Lanolin is the best ingredient for chapped lips. You don’t need fancy expensive lip products to make them smoother.
Lansinoh Lanolin Nipple Cream is very popular for lips. It is originally used for chafed nipples but who cares? The tube is convenient for on the go and it’s less than $9.
I opted for a jar of pure Lanolin since you get 7oz for the same price. I just transfer it in little mini jars for convenience.
At night, put a warm wash cloth over the lips for a minute or so to loosen the skin, rub it gently with the cloth. If it hurts STOP! Then slather on Lanolin before bed, it is very sticky so you need to get used to the feeling.
For maintenance, I mixed some Lanolin with Vaseline and use it as an everyday balm.
You can find it in the baby section at most pharmacies, though I personally just order it off amazon. It’s marketed as nipple cream (not sexy but it works like a charm).
I also use it on my lips and it’s wonderful! I layer it over Aquaphor or use it by itself under lipstick.
I ALSO use it on dry spots when needed! Lanolin is my favorite multi purpose product. As with anything, do patch test it since some people do have a Lanolin allergy.
Here's a list of items I found so useful for myself that I use as my go-to gift options for anyone I know having a baby.
Buy a tube of this and give it to your wife/partner on like feeding #6 and she will love you forever. Lansinoh Lanolin Cream
I'm not sure about the color, but I find that a little bit of lanolin really nourishes my lips more than any marketed lip balm. You can find it in the drugstore under nipple ointment or get a big size here
This might sound weird but I just started accutane so before I started I wanted to see everyone’s recommendations, and one of them was nipple cream for your dry lips and so far my lips haven’t cracked using aquaphor first and then applying nipple cream! This is the one I use Lansinoh Lanolin Nipple Cream for Breastfeeding, 1.41 Ounce Full Size Tube, Soothing Lanolin Balm, Safe for Nursing Moms, Nursing Essentials https://www.amazon.com/dp/B005MI648C/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_e62oDbVK5ANYQ
My favorite lip products keeping my lips moisturized and not crusty are the unscented O'Keeffe's Original Lip Repair during the day and Lansinoh Lanolin at night before I go to sleep.
Lansinoh Lanolin Nipple Cream for Breastfeeding, 1.41 Ounce Full Size Tube, Soothing Lanolin Balm, Safe for Nursing Moms, Nursing Essentials https://www.amazon.com/dp/B005MI648C/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_bnkQDb5DRVTXK
Made for breastfeeding folks! Works better than lip balm, Vaseline, and aquaphor
https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B005MI648C/ref=ox_sc_act_title_1?smid=ATVPDKIKX0DER&amp;psc=1
Lmao silly me, sry
I have a Dr Brown's pump, all of the accessories, and 2 four oz bottles instead of the 2 two oz bottles it came with as I can frequently get 3 oz a side per pump. In the insulated bag, I keep a large hard plastic freezer pack, the 2 small freezer packs the pump came with, and filled milk storage bags. I also carry a smaller package of extra milk bags as well as my wallet, phone, and keys. Because of the fridge situation at my work (read: thieves!), I won't leave anything in the fridge. The freezer pack I use does a good job keeping the milk cold during my workday and I wash my parts and bottles after every pump, since there's no room in the insulated bag with the freezer pack and filled milk bags. This is all in a diaper bag, FYI. The Dr Brown's pump bag is ridiculously large to carry around.
I was unable to breastfeed my first, but when she was going through some medical issues we had a friend volunteer to pump for us. The milk were in these bags, and we either put them in a bowl in the fridge to thaw, or ran them under warm water for a minute or so. it was really quick and easy
Pumping will help. You may need to keep at it for a few months, but you call pump less as your supply regulates. Check out Breast Milk Storage Bags
Thats fantastic! And definitely check out what your insurance says about lactation support - I picked up my 100% insurance-covered Medela PIS (double electric pump) the day after getting discharged from the hospital. No reason for you to have to suffer through pumping sessions.
Also, if you're going to be pumping a lot, look into Pumpin Pals. They are amazing and saved me a ton of nipple pain from pumping back at work.
Keep at it, you're gonna do great!
Looks like these flanges here. I was about to buy them. OP are they better than the plain plastic ones?
I have tried various size flanges for my medela pump. I even tried these on the left https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B0085CBA90/ref=oh_aui_detailpage_o02_s00?ie=UTF8&amp;psc=1
Nothing seems to get more more than .75 to 1 ounce. Now righty is also only giving me 3 ounces per pumping session :-(
There is also this, I may be able to figure out another 50. http://www.amazon.com/Spectra-Baby-USA-Hospital-Double/dp/B00BLBLR1I/ref=sr_1_21?ie=UTF8&amp;qid=1396309644&amp;sr=8-21&amp;keywords=breast+pump
Not sure if this will help, but if you look in the comment section someone posts how to use Medela parts on a spectra. Maybe if the parts are similar. http://www.amazon.com/Spectra-Baby-USA-Double-Single/dp/B00BLBLR1I
If you aren't going back to work a manual pump will be fine. If you are going back to work you really need an electric. I am really in love with the Spectra 2 and at $129 it isn't a bad deal.
I've heard wonderful things about this Spectra one. My insurance paid for the Medela PISA, but I plan to buy this one out of pocket if it doesn't work out for me. It's hospital grade and less than 200$.
Its definitely tough and a lot of work. I will say based on your summary, it seems like you are doing everything to the best of your ability, which is the most important thing. I just passed the two month mark, so I will tell you now, it only gets slightly better. Supposedly at 3 months, it can start to get a lot better in regards to having a pattern and more control over the schedule. But, as a 2 month vet, here is how I'm managing this to the best of my ability:
You wife definitely does need support. Depending on how well you can sleep, instead of STAYING awake with her, get up, get the baby, help her set up for a feed, then go back to sleep.
I don't know about yours, but my baby needs to feed for anywhere from 30 minutes to a full hour. an hour of sleep 3-5 times a night can make a big difference with your ability to handle it long term.
Also, buy your wife this pump. Its WAY better than the free one we got with insurance, it pulls out way more milk, and it's easier on her breasts. As an exclusively breastfed baby, this will allow her to pump, make a bottle, then SHE can go back to sleep and you can take 1 or 2 feedings every once in a while.
You love your child. you are trying, and you are asking for advice. You are already doing EVERYTHING right. Hang in there, it'll get better.
P.S. Once you get your first regular baby smile, it'll allllllllll be worth it
I have never used it personally! I buy the cheapo Lansinoh via Amazon and I've been using these tubes for ~6-7 months and they're all still pretty full. A little goes a long way. I suspect they're similar!
have you tried any type of lanolin?
I use this type
I use this one off Amazon! But it's not as refined as some others that are specifically processed for lips and it does smell strongly of sheep (I don't particularly mind this because I wear it at night).
Other options that I know are really popular include Dr. Lipp and Lansinoh but I don't have personal experience with those.
I usually get it on amazon. You can find larger sizes at Walmart and target. I think I've seen them at cvs too but not sure. Look in the baby section, it'll be packaged as nipple cream for nursing women but it's fine to use for lips!
I bought this skip hop diaper bag and the medela bottle cooler bag . I found diaper bag at my local Home Goods for $20 and it fits the cooler and my Spectra S2 pump perfectly. I usually just leave the bag/pump at work and only bring home the washable parts and cooler daily.
Express milk can stay at room temp for 6-8 hours before going bad. For night time I set up two bottles of 2/2.5oz. One goes with me to the bedroom (we co sleep) and the other goes in the fridge. Some times she will eat half the room bottle as we transition her from sleeping in her swing to the room, so when she wakes up for her middle of the night feeding I feed her what's left of that bottle then bring her out to the husband (he sleeps on our couch cause he was really bad insomnia) to sleep in her rocker/ eat her second bottle while I pump. I then fill up two more bottles when I'm done pumping. Same thing one goes with me and the other ones in the fridge for her morning feeding.
For outings I have the Medela cooler ( http://www.amazon.com/Medela-67068-Breastmilk-Cooler-Set/dp/B00H5OI9XO ) I have a pre set bottle of 2/2.5 and then I take a couple bottles with me. My lo isn't picky about the temp of the milk, so she will drink it straight out of the cooler. If yours are picky then I recommend filling up a bottle after the finish the one they are on so it has time to get to room temp.
Is she breastfeeding? I ordered these in a fit of desperation in the middle of the night. Wish I had them from the start, slowest (feeling) two day prime shipping of my life.
https://www.amazon.com/Medela-SoftShells-for-Sore-Nipples/dp/B00LSP1PE6/ref=sr_1_4_s_it?s=baby-products&amp;ie=UTF8&amp;qid=1485119492&amp;sr=1-4&amp;keywords=medela+nippleshield
I used to get really raw with my second one, and I found a nipple shield helpful. I'd stick it on with a bit of lanolin, and it'd keep my raw skin away from his gums.
I also LOOOOVED these things for the first month or so of bfing. If my skin was raw, I could keep it covered in lanolin and I could keep my bra from sticking to it. https://www.amazon.com/Medela-SoftShells-for-Sore-Nipples/dp/B00LSP1PE6
There's nothing wrong if you're not getting much when you pump. The pump isn't as efficient as baby when it comes to getting milk.
The hospital where you gave birth might be another place to check. They sometimes have new moms groups that meet. It's worth a try!
If you're nursing or pumping, a good nursing bra is invaluable. I cringed when I spent $70 on mine but damn if I didn't use ALL the time.
Also, in the early days of breastfeeding/pumping my nipples were SHOT. They hurt so much, any fabric on them was torture. I LOVED these, they were a lifesaver: https://www.amazon.com/Medela-SoftShells-for-Sore-Nipples/dp/B00LSP1PE6/ref=sr_1_11_s_it?s=baby-products&amp;ie=UTF8&amp;qid=1505236261&amp;sr=1-11&amp;keywords=nipple+shield They keep fabric from touching your sore nipples and can be worn under a bra.
I bought the Freemie's (Freemie Collection Cups The Only Hands Free and Concealable Breast Pump Milk Collection System, Clear, 25/28 mm Funnels https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00UV6JDN8/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_1E-Eyb8Z7YA2B) when I went back to work (and a 9 volt car adapter for my pump) and they work sooo much better than my pumping bra. They don't stick out so I don't knock them while driving. I like to put it all together once I'm in the car and have my seat belt in, so I can get into a comfortable position. I don't see it being a problem with shifting, as long as you have the tubing out of the way before driving. I also got extra long tubing so I could maneuver it behind my shoulder to keep it in place.
Freemies!!. And Medela Freestyle??
My little dude has all sorts of eating problems (tongue tie, really inefficient, etc). So my current routine is to breastfeed him and then bottle feed him while pumping. I use what I pumped the day before to supplement him while I'm pumping. I bought these things so I could be hands (and weird things hanging off my chest) free while I feed/pump simultaneously. Kind of pricey, but really worth it: http://www.amazon.com/Freemie-Collection-Cups-Concealable-Funnels/dp/B00UV6JDN8/ref=sr_1_1_a_it?ie=UTF8&amp;qid=1464114081&amp;sr=8-1&amp;keywords=freemies
Freemies have sped up my pump time substantially. No need for a pumping bra since they tuck right in to your regular bra. And I don't think pumping only 5 ounces each time should lower your supply since your body makes what it is used to using up. (So, if you are usually pumping 15 ounces it will keep making 15 ounces.) I actually cut out a pumping session at work and just pump a little longer instead. Would that be an option for you? I go 4+ hours between sessions with no issues with my afternoon supply. (I had issues when my pump broke, but that's another story.)
Okay... question for you. Would I need to buy this and this? Also, how does the cup sizing work? Is it like Medela?
Mom here, this stuff was amazing for the soreness. Also makes a good lip balm too.
Motherlove Nipple Cream Certified Organic Salve for Sore Cracked Nursing Nipples, 1 Oz. https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0007CQ726/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_nfN3BbX2MTRH3