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u/MrCompassion · 129 pointsr/books

Use of Weapons and, everything else by Iain M. Banks. Amazing stuff. Trust me.

The Blade Itself and the rest of that series by Joe Abercrombie.

Altered Carbon and the rest of that series as well as Thirteen and The Steel Remains, and it's sequel (still waiting on book 3) by Richard K. Morgan. He's pretty amazing.

That would keep you busy for a long time and are all pretty amazing. Seconding Dune, which is amazing, and the Name of the Wind which is great but very popcorn.

But really, if you were to read everything by Iain M. Banks you would be a better person.

Edit: The Sparrow

u/ProfessorStokes · 128 pointsr/KotakuInAction

We're at war with antihumanism and the postmodernist reasoning behind such ideas as New Historicism. This is something that knows no political affiliation. As documented in Paul R. Gross and Norman Levitt's Higher Superstition, this sort of nihilistic anti-science full of foregone conclusions and closed circular thinking has spread to the Intelligent Design debate, business classes, the academic left, it's everywhere. It's an attack on the entire foundations of science and post-Enlightenment knowledge. I presume most of us at least appreciate the benefits of science and value their own human agency, which antihumanism says doesn't exist. We're supposedly unthinking products of our media and culture.

According to Christina Hoff Sommers herself in Who Stole Feminism?, Michel Foucault is the one of the most cited philosophers in what she describes as 'gender feminism'. Both Foucault and Jacques Derrida in particular are responsible for a good chunk of the philosophical game that allows one to find hauntings and signs of malice in any facet of life you'd care to look in.

To understand what postmodernist thought is like, try to imagine a world where all of the following is true:

  • There existed a force before any of us were alive that has shaped our consensus on reality. Nothing we say, think or create escapes this force's influence. In postmodern feminism: patriarchy, eco-activists: the petrochemical conspiracy -- whatever you want, this is generic!

  • In light of this force, reality itself is an illusion created by consensus. There is no 'real world', there's just everyone's individual interpretations of it and we'll never understand the intersection of everyone's interpretations, so give up on truth already! Things do not exist unless we agree that they do! The oppressors benefited by this force do not have the right to define reality for the oppressed! In practice: There's no truth, only points of view and I insist you treat my narrative as the actual truth, since it's just as good as yours or science's or anyone's!

  • Science itself is tainted by this outside force, it is a socially constructed system that is attempting to define reality by oppression. Science attempts to preserve the culture it was created from, made up of dead white Christian European men. It doesn't discover facts about reality, it invents them with arcane language games and consensus. Translation: Your science is no good here, because it's tainted! So there!

  • In fact, words have no meaning. They're all socially constructed and agreed upon. Nothing is actually definable, everything is all made up. In practice: We don't have to define nor stick to anyone's definition of 'harassment', 'threats' or whatever, we can just use whatever word we feel will get the reaction we want from others. If we feel it's 'harassment', then it is.

  • There is no possibility to know the author or their intentions, all that exists is work or 'text'. On its surface it looks like a way of saying 'Attack the message, not the messenger', which would almost seem reasonable if it were not being used to justify everything else and deflect questions such as 'How can you be conveying these ideas to me, even though you yourself are part of this tainted culture? Aren't you also tainted?'. It reframes the conversation back to crazyland.

    These ideas come with the authoritarianism built-in, after all, it's all about consensus of narratives and supporting the group's narratives over all others.

    I do want to stress that while people will argue these points, not everyone who does will actually be true believers in them. I sincerely doubt a number of people at Gawker are true believing postmodernists, they just love the perfect clickbait philosophy for their clickbait journalism. True believers do exist however and their lives must be truly frightening to them.

    There's plenty of more of this fatalistic sophistry if you go digging through postmodernist thought. Foucault makes it a point to attack the history of psychology and mental health (such as this video - where in the same breath, he also decries scientific falsifiability), to define it as a system of oppression and control. While there's some unfortunate historical truth to this assertion, this is also another means of neatly avoiding the subject of reality and truth by defining the topic of 'sanity' off-limits, as well.

    They use techniques influenced by Derrida's idea of 'deconstruction', a throwback to 12th century scholasticism where scholars are essentially divining the truth based upon their own personal interpretations of text, except now with postmodern interpretation, they're completely unfettered by rules or rationality. If you want to force a text to imply some sort of weird pun and then use that as part of a greater argument to call someone a shitlord, go for it. If you want to select a completely unrelated work and then contrast them to find cherry-picked meaning and treat it like a smoking gun, knock yourself out. Much like, the only limit here is yourself.

    While not everyone in the SJW camp may apply or use all the lines of thought I mentioned above, the spirit of postmodernism is mixing and matching and you're sure to find at least a few of these assaults on logic, the most famous being: We just assume going into it that 'patriarchy' as the postmodernist defines it, is real, a systematic conspiracy into every facet of life and that's not up for debate nor can it be probed except through language itself and criticism.

    Most of the other ideas are just ways of making this a closed system that cannot be contested and tools you can use to scream whatever today's variation of 'bourgeois!' is, be it 'misogynist!' or worse. Whatever that person feels is appropriate. They have 'proof', after all, and it starts with their feelings.

    The Thick of It has a scene that I think perfectly captures the essence of postmodern politics:

    > Hugh Abbot: So what are we gonna do now?

    > Malcolm Tucker: You're gonna completely reverse your position.

    > Hugh Abbot: Hang on a second... Malcolm... That's not gonna be easy. That's gonna be quite hard.

    > Malcolm Tucker: Well, the announcement you didn't make today - you did.

    > Hugh Abbot: No, I didn't. And there were television cameras there while I was not doing it.

    > Malcolm Tucker: Fuck them.

    > Hugh Abbot: I'm not sure what level of reality I'm supposed to be operating on.

    > Malcolm Tucker: Look, this is what they run with. I tell them that you said it, they believe that you said it. They don't REALLY believe that you said it, they know that you never said it, but it's in their interest to say that you said it, because if they don't say that you said it, they're not gonna get what you say tomorrow or the next day, when I decide to tell them what it is you're saying.

    This is what our problem is.

    For extra points of view on the subject:

  • Chomsky on Science and Postmodernism

  • Richard Dawkins on Post Modernism Invading Science

  • How to Deconstruct Almost Anything: My Postmodern Adventure by Chip Morningstar

    Edit: Had to add the Chip Morninstar doc, it's a fun one. It also mentions how Wired #1 in 1993 already had an SJW meltdown over a harmless prank. This has been a problem brewing for a while.

u/zizazz · 113 pointsr/traaaaaaannnnnnnnnns

she's here!

i recognized the art style from her Nevada fan art!

btw y'all Nevada is an AMAZING trans novel, and it's available free online at the author's request. the Amazon page has a nice writeup about it

u/MattClark0994 · 70 pointsr/MensRights

It is valid to point out that the "study" was commissioned by a feminist group known for misssinformation. Christina Hoff Sommers actually wrote an entire book on their lies.

I believe she also debunks the "self esteem" gap in her other book, "The War on Boys"

u/[deleted] · 66 pointsr/books

This is a brilliant idea.

I'm just been trying to remember what books I liked when I was still at school, the ones that I have come up with so far are: Speak by Laurie Halse Anderson, The Perks of Being a Wallflower by Stephen Chbosky, Persepolis by Marjane Satrapi (I know it's a graphic novel but it's really good!), Haroun and the Sea of Stories by Salman Rushdie, Wild Swans by Jung Chang, The Wind Singer, by William Nicholson. There are probably many more, but that's all I can think of right now - hope I've helped a bit though!

u/Transgender_AMA · 64 pointsr/science

Hello! Cei here. Thank you for your question and for your willingness to learn and grow for your community!
Question 1.a. If you are providing a space (a group, a confirmation class, a retreat, a bible study, a weekly potluck, a movie night, etc) for these young people to be themselves- to use they name they choose, to use the pronouns that fit for them, and to create norms where the other youth in the space must be respectful of these identities- then you are creating a safe space for the youth to go through the process of self-actualization in their identity. Ideally the church congregation would also be asked to affirm these youth in their identity. Depending on your comfort level, you could address the congregation and explain that you would like the church to be a sacred and safe space for all, and that in the interest of achieving this goal, you would ask them to respect names, pronouns, and gender expressions of all congregation members. b. One of the best ways to advocate for young people to their parents is to explain that the young person is happy, responding well, and thriving in environments where they are allowed to be themselves. If you have a young person who comes to your group/bible study/etc. who is using the name they choose, the pronouns that fit their identity, and is affirmed by the group around them and they are thriving, tell the young person's parents so. It may be that at home the parents see a kid who is struggling and sad and they are scared that being gender diverse will make things harder for their already unhappy child. To show that gender affirmation can radically improve a kid's quality of life is often the best motivator for parents to adopt affirming language.

2. Here are links to a few resources that we've found helpful over the years: Trans Bodies, Trans Selves, The Transgender Teen, The Genderquest Workbook, Confi's Article on Gender, Families In TRANSition.

I hope this helps, and thanks again for advocating for the gender diverse people at your church!

u/1nfiniterealities · 28 pointsr/socialwork

Texts and Reference Books

Days in the Lives of Social Workers


Child Development, Third Edition: A Practitioner's Guide

Racial and Ethnic Groups

Social Work Documentation: A Guide to Strengthening Your Case Recording

Cognitive Behavior Therapy: Basics and Beyond

[Thoughts and Feelings: Taking Control of Your Moods and Your Life]

Interpersonal Process in Therapy: An Integrative Model

[The Clinical Assessment Workbook: Balancing Strengths and Differential Diagnosis]

Helping Abused and Traumatized Children

Essential Research Methods for Social Work

Navigating Human Service Organizations

Privilege: A Reader

Play Therapy with Children in Crisis

The Color of Hope: People of Color Mental Health Narratives

The School Counseling and School Social Work Treatment Planner

Streets of Hope : The Fall and Rise of an Urban Neighborhood

Deviant Behavior

Social Work with Older Adults

The Aging Networks: A Guide to Programs and Services

[Grief and Bereavement in Contemporary Society: Bridging Research and Practice]

Theory and Practice of Group Psychotherapy

Motivational Interviewing: Helping People Change

Ethnicity and Family Therapy

Human Behavior in the Social Environment: Perspectives on Development and the Life Course

The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work

Generalist Social Work Practice: An Empowering Approach

Publication Manual of the American Psychological Association

The Dialectical Behavior Therapy Skills Workbook

DBT Skills Manual for Adolescents

DBT Skills Manual

DBT Skills Training Handouts and Worksheets

Social Welfare: A History of the American Response to Need


[A People’s History of the United States]

The Man Who Mistook His Wife For a Hat

The Curious Incident of the Dog in the Night-Time

Life For Me Ain't Been No Crystal Stair

The Diving Bell and the Butterfly

Tuesdays with Morrie

The Death Class <- This one is based off of a course I took at my undergrad university

The Quiet Room

Girl, Interrupted

I Never Promised You a Rose Garden

Flowers for Algernon

Of Mice and Men

A Child Called It

Go Ask Alice

Under the Udala Trees

Prozac Nation

It's Kind of a Funny Story

The Perks of Being a Wallflower

The Yellow Wallpaper

The Bell Jar

The Outsiders

To Kill a Mockingbird

u/LucifersHammerr · 20 pointsr/MensRights

A Reference book of men's issues is probably your best bet for finding relevant studies.

[MRRef] ( is more extensive but will require more digging.


The Red Pill (NYA)

Everything by Karen Straughan

Everything by Janice Fiamengo


[Is There Anything Good About Men?] ( (full book online) by Roy Baumeister

The Myth of Male Power: Why Men are the Disposable Sex by Warren Farrell

The Privileged Sex by Martin Van Creveld

The Second Sexism: Discrimination Against Men and Boys by David Benetar

The Fraud of Feminism (full book online) by Earnest Belford Bax

Who Stole Feminism? by Christina Hoff Sommers

The War Against Boys by Christina Hoff Sommers

Spreading Misandry: The Teaching of Contempt for Men in Popular Culture by Paul Nathanson and Katherine Young

Legalizing Misandry: From Public Shame to Systemic Discrimination Against Men by Paul Nathanson and Katherine Young

Sanctifying Misandry: Goddess Ideology and the Fall of Man by Paul Nathanson and Katherine Young

Replacing Misandry: A Revolutionary History of Men by Paul Nathanson and Katherine Young

No More Sex War by Neil Lyndon

A few works that I think deserve more attention. Some are directly related to Men's Rights, others tangentially.

Hierarchy in the Forest: The Evolution of Egalitarian Behavior by Christopher Boehm

War, Peace, Human Nature: Converging Evolutionary & Cultural Views by Douglas Fry et. al

Female Forms of Power and the Myth of Male Dominance: A Model of Female/Male Interaction in Peasant Society (paper online) by Susan Carol Rogers

Favoured or oppressed? Married women, property and ‘coverture’ in England, 1660–1800 (paper online) by J. Bailey

The Mothers: A Study of the Origins of Sentiments and Institutions (full book online) by Robert Briffault

Gynocentrism: From Feudalism to the Modern Disney Princess by Peter Wright

Sex and Culture (full book online) by J.D. Unwin

The Manipulated Man (full book online) by Esther Villar

Unknown Misandry (website)

Real Sexism (website)

u/StellaD_Oro · 17 pointsr/actuallesbians

I think ideally you'll get some peer validation on this of what it feels like to be in the metaphorical gutter staring up at the stars going "Yeah, how the fuck am I ever gonna get there?"

But, 15+ years out from being in that place, I can say, "Shit, idk kiddo, it just kind of happens. One thing leads to another and one day you wake up married to a woman you love more than anything in an apartment full of both of your things and everything is ok."

When I was a kid my high school library had two gay books. TWO. GAY. BOOKS. And you had to special request them. Which just about sealed I was never looking at them unless some kind of rulebreaking happened. (And I know we've got someone roaming around here going - "back in my day we had 0 gay books" - also, true. You dear reader win the extra bonus surviving the gay loneliness trophy!)

One was Am I blue? and the other was Annie on My Mind. And I snuck into the locked library of my VERY CATHOLIC school on off periods and read "Annie on My Mind" with another more "sensible" book as an outside sleeve. Contraband lesbianism. It was a revelation.

I thought I was the first gay person on earth (despite holding that book). I thought. OH SHIT, I'VE RUINED EVERYTHING. MY MOTHER WILL NEVER FORGIVE ME. NO ONE WILL EVER LOVE ME. I WILL NEVER FIND MY PERSON. LIFE IS DARKNESS. It was all very real. And very scary. And I wouldn't wish that kind of being young again on anyone.

But, seriously, it does get better. SO MUCH BETTER. Ridiculously better. Eventually with wife too!

u/shablamniel · 14 pointsr/ftm


I'm not a parent, but I can imagine this is, in many ways, a challenging situation to work through with your child. Let me assure you that you're already doing a great job, just by reaching out and trying to educate yourself.

I have not yet started to medically transition (take testosterone, etc.) so I can't give you too much specific information on that, although it looks like u/RigilNebula has already given you some good advice. However, I have mostly transitioned socially, meaning that I have asked the people in my life to use my real name (Daniel) and to use the correct pronouns when referencing me (in my case, I'm okay with both he/him and they/them). I'm also out to my parent(s). So, I'll mostly address the emotional and social aspect of transitioning, particularly as it relates to relationships with parents. I've also included a few resources at the bottom of my post.

But first, some more general, subjective information. I can't speak for all trans people anymore than can I speak to the specifics of the relationship between you and your child (and please note, I will be referring to your daughter as "your child" herein. I hope that's not upsetting to you, but I do this because if your child is really your son, calling him your daughter could be very hurtful. I will also use the gender neutral pronoun "they" for the same reason) The following is just my perspective, but ultimately you'll need to have conversations with your child about this, and while it will definitely be difficult for both of you, keeping lines of communication open is one of the most important things you can do for your child.

Which segues pretty neatly into my main point. If I could ask anything of my parents, it would be that they listen to me and make me feel listened to and assure me that they love me for me, not because of my gender. That's really it, for me.

For some context about my personal situation: I was raised by a single father, who I now live with, in part because he needs help with chronic health issues. My mother died when I was too young to remember her. One of the most painful truths I will ever live with is that I will never know for sure whether my mother would still love me, even though I'm transgender. This is all very personal, and not completely relevant to your situation, so forgive me for over-sharing. But I mention this because I was offered a perspective on this very issue by a therapist, which I think is one every parent of a transgender child should hear.

My therapist told me that for most parents, there's a time before you know your child's sex, or when your child is still a baby and gender roles haven't quite taken hold yet, when you love them completely, and you love them outside of gender. That's a bit abstract, but think of it this way: you loved your child before you knew they were athletic, before they got good grades, before they were popular, before you knew about all the unique and lovely things that make them your child. And it sounds like you may have loved your son before you knew he was your son.

And if that's true, your child needs to know that.

There's an awful lot more that can be said on the subject, but I'll leave it here for now so I don't bore you to death. I work semi-professionally as a diversity educator, so I'm a bit of an open book on these issues, and I'm happy to discuss this further with you if you have specific questions or want more information on anything I've mentioned here.

As promised, here are a few resources that might be helpful to you. And here's a cute picture of a panda, which might also be helpful.

Oh, one last thought: I'm not sure if you're in the U.S., but if you are, I would really recommend seeing if you have a PFLAG chapter near you. I've had great experiences with them. You can check whether there's a nearby chapter here.


u/amon_erin · 10 pointsr/asktransgender

I'll put it like this. As a kid (before and during puberty) I had similar fantasies and prayed to god (that I no longer believe in) to make me a girl. This went on for a few years, and then I either ignored it or it sort of went away. But I always was sort of looking for signs that I was supposed to be a woman and occasionally crossdressed in secret. Flash forward until about 7 years ago and things sort of started popping up again, but I just handled them in a sexual manner because I figured that was what they were. Move forward a couple more years and the feelings of wanting to be a girl started happening more frequently and not always in a sexual context. But I ignored them because I was afraid.

So when I stopped ignoring them, things from my past came to the forefront and suddenly those feelings as a kid made sense. And those feelings as a kid were often fantasies.

I didn't exactly hate being a guy, but it never really seemed to fit me. And my feelings kept getting stronger and more frequent so I had to address them. And now? I get anxious and sad when I think about any reason for going back to that. (I still present as male at work, and increasingly less so in public, despite not passing.)

Is it possible you're trans? Perhaps. Nobody here but you can say what you gender is. But what I can say is that working through this with a gender therapist is a good idea, if you can find and afford one (I don't know what country you live in and I know they are often hard to get appointments with). If you can't, or just don't want to spend a fair amount of money, I'd recommend "You and your Gender Identity" by Dara Hoffman-Fox It's like $30US and could be helpful. I purchased it myself and didn't find it very useful, but that was mostly because I already kind of knew where I am on the gender spectrum.

No gender therapist worth their money is going to tell you that you definitely are trans or what exactly your gender is, if you have one at all. You kind of have to figure that out for yourself, but a gender therapist can help you with that. Just remember, there are no wrong answers. And, if your answer scares you, it's okay.

I hope this helps. hugs

Edit: As to the sexuality comments. For some people there is a link between their gender and their sexuality. For others there isn't. There isn't one narrative that fits everyone. I'm pansexual, although lately I've started to question whether or not I might actually be straight. And I know that sometimes trans people identify as heterosexual in attempts to be a "normal insert birth gender here". If you haven't felt comfortable doing things with men, then you probably aren't attracted to them sexually. And not everyone cares for or watches porn. My interest in that stuff was always pretty low, but I did go through a trans porn stage at one point after my feelings of wanting to be a girl resurfaced about 7 years ago or so.

u/dhpye · 10 pointsr/writing

Jeanette Winterson wrote a whole novel like this, and it was quite phenomenal. Written on the Body

u/IamShadowBanned2 · 9 pointsr/AskMen

"Feminism" has been a joke everywhere except the online and academic communities for over a decade now. They would have to be crazy to NOT want to drop the name that has been taken over by radicals.

Shameless plug for Who Stole Feminism as its a great read.

u/big_red737 · 8 pointsr/lgbt

I quite enjoyed Hero by Perry Moore

u/KenshiroTheKid · 8 pointsr/bookclapreviewclap

I made a list based on where you can purchase them if you want to edit it onto your post:

This Month's Book

u/SlothMold · 7 pointsr/booksuggestions

Books About Mental Illness:

  • January First, nonfiction about childhood schizophrenia from the father's perspective
  • Speak, about a high school freshman who develops selective mutism in order to deal with trauma
  • Wintergirls, about eating disorders and a girl who keeps seeing her dead best friend
  • The Perks of Being a Wallflower, about a freshman with older party animal friends and PTSD
  • Slaughterhouse Five, where the main character develops PTSD after being involved in the bombing of Dresden, but thinks he's become unstuck in time, abducted by aliens, etc.
  • The Curious Incident of the Dog in the Night-Time, about an autistic teenager who tries to solve a mystery with his own brand of logic
u/kanuk876 · 7 pointsr/

> Most of these highly restrictive and hysterical laws came about because of campaigns by parents of child victims, or by the victims themselves.

The feminist movement had a stronger hand in demonizing males and masculinity.

If it was the parents and child victims making the law, then we wouldn't see the anti-male bias since women abuse children in numbers comparable to or exceeding men. (reference)

Feminist theory aruges that, by definition, males hold all the power and therefore are the only ones capable of abusing said power. Females, homosexuals, and children have zero power and are therefore incapable of abusing power to abuse other people.

Yes, any sane person understands the world is not this cut-and-dry. But the radical feminists have won the day. That's what Christina Hoff-Sommers' Who Stole Feminism?: How Women Have Betrayed Women is about.

u/MondoKai · 7 pointsr/TransyTalk

Not doing summaries/reviews, cause it's late and I'm tired. On request, I suppose. Mostly books, with a couple docs and a few blogs.

Less theory, more personal experiences:

u/mx_marvelous · 7 pointsr/ftm

I have many! Here are a few:

Gender Failure by Rae Spoon and Ivan Coyote This is the book version of the authors' live show that toured in 2012. They both are nonbinary, and the stories they tell are about that.

Second Son by Ryan Sallans Ryan has been a role model of mine for a long time, so I was really excited to get his book. It's a pretty basic transition memoir, but he has a really great voice.

Gender Outlaw by Kate Bornstein This one is a classic, and one I wish I had read much sooner! It's a transition memoir, but she also has some awesome discussions about gender in general too. Also, check out The Next Generation which is a collection of the work of trans* writers and artists.

Stone Butch Blues by Leslie Feinberg I think everyone should read this. It's a memoir/fiction sort of thing, and gender and transition are shown to be much more complex than in other transition memoirs. This one is quite old though, so maybe your library already has it?

Lastly, I will suggest Red: A Crayon's Story, which is basically the sweetest story about a blue crayon that was given a red wrapper by mistake.

u/so_jelly · 7 pointsr/asktransgender



She's a Boy I Knew (autobiographical documentary)


She's Not There by Jennifer Finney Boylan (memoir)

Whipping Girl by Julia Serano

Fiction (young adult):

Luna by Julie Ann Peters

u/bearily · 7 pointsr/TransSpace

I haven't read the whole thing, but try Nevada by Imogen Binnie. I went to an event where she did a reading from it as part of her women's history month tour. The main character is a transwoman, already transitioned, just dealing with life.

u/BoldenoneCypionate · 6 pointsr/4PanelCringe

That's not true at all. That word has been used since the 1910s as a slur against gay men. You can read a book published in 1978 about the history of that word in reference to LGBT people.

Whoever told you that word was used in the 90s-00s without people knowing it was slur against gay people must have been one of the only people to not realize that.

u/diop89 · 6 pointsr/AgainstGamerGate

From the wikipedia article on feminism:

>Feminism is a collection of movements and ideologies which share a common stated aim: to define, establish, and defend equal political, economic, cultural, and social rights for women.

Nothing there about 'challenging the status quo'. That seems to be the definition of a certain type of feminism, not feminism as a whole. Indeed CHS seems to fit quite neatly into the "defend" category.

But CHS actually does fit into the "challenging the status" quo idea if you consider this book:

This book quite directly challenges a status quo - the status quo of mainstream feminism.

From the blurb:

>Despite its current dominance, Sommers maintains, such a breed of feminism is at odds with the real aspirations and values of most American women and undermines the cause of true equality.

The only question seems to be is if CHS was challenging this status quo to empower women. Which I would say yes she definitely was doing it to empower women because she believes mainstream feminism is not empowering women through their ideology and tactics.

A certain brand of feminism believes in the conspiracy of the patriarchy and rape culture, and that brand seems to be trying to shove CHS out because they do not like that she challenges their beliefs and/or her feminism isn't the "correct" brand of feminism.

u/MaybeAngela · 5 pointsr/MtF

As far as fiction goes, the best I have read is "Nevada" by Imogen Binnie. This is one of those books that I immediately started reading again as soon as I finished it the first time.

Another work of fiction that is not about the transgender experience but does touch on some themes that you may be able to relate to is "Middlesex" by Jeffery Eugenides. It is really well done and has several interesting story arcs that intersect in really interesting ways with the protagonist.

As far as bios go I really liked Janet Mock's "Redefining Realness" and "She Not There" by Jennifer Finney Boylan.

Edit: My auto correct want Boylan to be be Moylan.

u/HankVentureIsBatman · 5 pointsr/books

The Perks of Being a Wallflower. I still read it about 3-4 times a year.

u/patienceinbee · 5 pointsr/asktransgender

With all due respect (and even as a friend of Ms. Bornstein's), I would steer away from My Gender Workbook as a first suggestion (if you want to start on anything Kate, go with Gender Outlaw). At age 16, you're pretty smart to figure out the things you might hear in a Julia Serano book.

Actually, in this instance, just as a way to build sibling trust and understanding, I think it would do both treebierd and his trans sibling a lot a good (and good will) to both read (together/at the same time) Luna by Julie Anne Peters as a fantastic starting point.

u/all_my_fish · 5 pointsr/ainbow

If you are looking into transgender literature, I suggest Luna by Julie Anne Peters. Really lovely book and a quick read.

I'm gonna have to add some of these to my to-read list, thanks!

u/alyeong · 5 pointsr/actuallesbians

Ash and Huntress by Malinda Lo are nice books with lesbian characters, and the best part is, it's pretty normally treated. One of my favorite books of all time though is Written on the Body, by Jeanette Winterson. It has some really beautiful prose. To be honest for that one, it's not explicitly lesbian and the gender of the narrator is never revealed, but I'm always like 99.999% sure it was intended to another woman. Santa Olivia by Jacqueline Carey has a lesbian relationship that is completely normal as well. It's a bit weird sci-fi kind of novel though. If you've read other things by Jacqueline Carey and are not looking for a lesbian-centric relationship, in her Kushiel series, the main character and the main antagonist have a lot of sexual tension (real, not imagined!).

u/InfamousMyzt · 5 pointsr/MtF

At a year of HRT, hormones won't be noticeable compared to a cis girl if her levels are normal. Earlier on, there's a lot of mood swings/changes.

As far as sex, every trans girl is different. Some experience massive genital dysphoria and don't want their penis touched at all. Some don't mind topping. You'll have to figure that one out.

The most important things are she's gonna have days where she doesn't feel attractive and she'll need reassurance, and there will be times where people give her shit or attack her for being trans, and that's the most important time we need help, imo.

As far as a book to read: this is a quick 101 if you need easy answers:

This one is way more detailed and most transgender people read it at some point:

u/Readdator · 5 pointsr/literature

I took a gay lit class in undergrad, and our reading list was pretty fantastic.
Some of the books I remember are:

Stone Butch Blues- semiautobiographical novel about a butch lesbian- read this one with kleenex around

Tipping the Velvet- lesbian fiction set in Victorian England

At Swim Two Boys- gay fiction set in Ireland

Angels in America- Tony/Pulitzer winning play that was made into a HBO series

Zami- Lesbian "biomythography"

Latin Moon in Manhattan- queer diaspora in NYC

Faggots- I had a hard time getting through this one, but my prof really recommended it

I put the books in the order I would recommend them by- SBB was definitely my favorite out of the class, although it was deeply disturbing and difficult to get through at times. Hope this helps!

u/latestevolution · 5 pointsr/gaybros

Hero by Perry Moore - rated 4.6/5 stars on amazon.

The last thing in the world Thom Creed wants is to add to his father’s pain, so he keeps secrets. Like that he has special powers. And that he’s been asked to join the League – the very organization of superheroes that spurned his dad. But the most painful secret of all is one Thom can barely face himself: he’s gay.

But becoming a member of the League opens up a new world to Thom. There, he connects with a misfit group of aspiring heroes, including Scarlett, who can control fire but not her anger; Typhoid Larry, who can make anyone sick with his touch; and Ruth, a wise old broad who can see the future. Like Thom, these heroes have things to hide; but they will have to learn to trust one another when they uncover a deadly conspiracy within the League.

To survive, Thom will face challenges he never imagined. To find happiness, he’ll have to come to terms with his father’s past and discover the kind of hero he really wants to be.

u/Cooleycotton · 5 pointsr/booksuggestions

The Steel Remains by Richard K Morgan was alright. I haven't read the sequel, but it was nice not to have to deal with any sappy romance in the first at least.

u/andyogm · 5 pointsr/Anarchism

For sure. This may be long and rambley but I hope it helps.

Sex is easy. It's based on your genitalia. If you have a penis your sex is "male," if you have a vagina your sex is "female," and if you have a combination your sex is "intersex" ("hermaphrodite" is considered outdated and stigmatized).

Gender is trickier to understand especially for "cisgendered" people ( "cis" is the opposite of "trans;" they have a sex that matches their gender). To understand transgenderism you have to understand that sex and gender are not the same. Gender is not physical. It is mental/emotional. It is something you feel and know to be true about yourself.

In our society, a child's gender is assigned at birth to match their genitalia, but as they grow older transgender people start to notice that they don't "feel" they fit with their socially assigned gender.

They can feel they are the opposite (transmen and transwomen). They can feel they are neither or both (gender queer or non-gendered).

This is not to be confused with masculine/feminine expression, like tomboys (girls who like "boy stuff") or sexuality (butch lesbians or twink men). Usually they still consider themselves women or men.

Sometimes transgender people will elect to undergo surgery and hormone therapy to change their sex to match their gender. Sometimes they'll change how they dress to fit their gender's social image. Sometimes they don't change at all.

Tl;dr: sex = physical, gender = mental/emotional.

A good book on the topic is transgender 101 and they'd explain it way better than me.

u/SecondWind · 5 pointsr/lgbt

Though it may not necessarily apply in your particular solution (can you be my mom? You're awesome!), for the benefit of others reading the thread I really have to recommend Luna, by Julie Anne Peters.

It's told from the perspective of the younger sister of a trans girl, and is shockingly accurate in its portrayal of gender dysphoria & identity. It's also a beautiful story.

Heck, it's teen-lit, and so is Harry Potter; it's one of the best adult books too. :)

Also, if you're in the NYC area, The Strand has an LGBT Youth shelf, in the young adult section.(!)

u/DrDeezee · 4 pointsr/KotakuInAction

People in the gaming community don't seem to understand that this "war" is part of a larger "war" and general societal issue that's been going on for a long time. Since at least the 1960s, if not longer.

I mean, it's telling that Christina Hoff Sommers is getting involved in this one, and that's great because I like and respect her work, but she's been saying the same stuff since at least 1994 ( and nobody's done much about it yet. I don't see why this will be any different.

And then there's stuff out there that indicates the same societal tendencies happen in every large and powerful nation state. That old saying, there's nothing new under the sun? Yeah. (For example:

u/myname150 · 4 pointsr/gaybros

I'm sure it's been recommended here at some point but I've been reading the Something Like Series by Jay Bell. The seasons series is 4 volumes and i've already finished all 4! Thats how great all the stories are. He also has Something Like Thunder and Something Like Lightening that follow the seasons books. The first book of the series is called Something Like Summer.

Each book in the series focuses on one main character, the first book being Benjamin Bentley. Then in each novel the "main" characters stories of that book are all intertwined with the characters from the last book. It's an extra bonus being from houston and some of the books are set in Houston so it makes the story even better for me.

u/subtleflora · 4 pointsr/mypartneristrans

Books: I'm reading She's Not There and my wife has found _Transgender 101_ to be very useful too.

Videos: I liked How do I know if I'm Transgender? and the series from "The Transition Channel" (like with Are You Transgender?) was quite good too.

Personally I really liked this article: Transition Deconstructed as it showed a positive story coming out of a spouse transitioning. I find that there are so few of those, and would really love more resources showing a positive outcome for families!

I'm really looking for resources about how to transition with young children (toddlers) and books to help them understand what's going on. Definitely not sure of how to go with that other than _I Am Jazz_, which is aimed at children a bit older than toddlers.

What else has helped you? Thanks so much for sharing!

u/BeardOfAlinsky · 4 pointsr/hockey

The sports world is really the area that a lot of work can be done. The influence there isn't at the level of movies, TV, entertainment, etc.

Activists, here in hockey, and in other sports, need to follow the blueprint successfully used by lgbt activist groups elsewhere.

Make sure to read the book After The Ball: How America Will Conquer its Fear and Hatred of Gays in the 90s by Kirk and Madsen.

By the same author, check out:

The Overhauling Of Straight America

Really great tactical and strategic advice to advance our goals and to destroy any one not accepting, not tolerant, and not open-minded enough.

With these works, we have the playbook to permanently alter the publics view.

u/OddOpusComposer · 4 pointsr/traaaaaaannnnnnnnnns

Went and had dinner with my mom (Im early 30s) under the pretense that I wanted to talk to her about something. I had written down some notes on my personal experience and some quick answers to common questions to keep me slightly on track. I also said I was open to answering any questions she had now and in the future after she has time to process. One thing she mentioned afterward was wanting a book to understand more. So I picked up a Trans 101 book( and sent her a digital copy of PFLAG transgender pdf. She was shocked but very supportive.

u/NerdBot9000 · 4 pointsr/politics

I recommend Who Stole Feminism as a good read on the topic.

u/drocks27 · 4 pointsr/actuallesbians

Am I Blue is a book I read when I was coming out and it really helped me.

u/Euarchontoglires · 4 pointsr/gaybros

YES! I highly recommend "The Steel Remains".

Lots of bloody action, steamy sex scenes, intrigue and world building. Think Game of Thrones, but gayer, less epic and more character driven. It's from Richard K Morgan, the author of the excellent Altered Carbon. :-)

u/KBWars · 4 pointsr/asktransgender

If print media and ebooks are your thing I can personally I can recommend Transgender 101: A Simple Guide to a Complex Issue. I have also heard good things of Gender Quest but I haven't read it myself.

u/Love_Sausage · 4 pointsr/askgaybros

Only one I can think of is Hero by Perry Moore. Its technically a young adult novel, but it has a gay protagonist and focuses on his struggle to become a superhero and deal with a homophobic father who's a disgraced former superhero. Its actually extremely well written. The only downside is that it wont be continued since the author died several years back.

u/veritasserum · 3 pointsr/todayilearned

That's because she's rational and sane.

Related and well worth your time:

u/repressedprincess · 3 pointsr/MtF

Dara Hoffman-Fox has a workbook to help people figure it out.

Here is the Amazon link to the first edition, which is out of print.

The second edition is coming in September. They might also have more info in their website.

u/wanderer333 · 3 pointsr/Parenting

You've gotten some great advice already; the only thing I would add is to maybe pick up a book like The Gender Quest Workbook to help him work through his thoughts and feelings. It's quite possible he doesn't know yet exactly what he wants - he wants to be a girl, but does that mean he wants to wear girl clothes, or use female pronouns, or have sex reassignment surgery, or...? This is just another step on his journey, not a final destination, and it's important to give him room to explore his feelings and preferences rather than jumping to any conclusions. (Also keep in mind, it's the same journey he's been on since he was that three-year-old dressing up in his sister's clothes - your son is still who he's always been, he's just revealed to you another aspect of who that person is). Counseling will be another important means of self-exploration, and will also help YOU learn how best to support him.

u/trulyl · 3 pointsr/asktransgender

Here are some of the resources I've read, and what I think about them:

  • Transgender 101: A good introduction covering a lot of what you mention above. It's more focused on the transsexual experience, though. Non-binary identities and others under the "transgender" umbrella get their own chapter, but it's stuck at the back of the book. Chapter 6 has a really good section on whether transgender should be considered a mental disorder, and talks about the insurance issue.

  • Whipping Girl: Although it's not too hard to get through, I'd consider this to be "advanced reading" for those who already have a grounding in basic trans thinking/terminology. I really enjoyed it and agree with many of Serano's arguments, but it's less textbook and more opinion piece (although Serano has also written a number of academic papers for respected journals). It's mainly focused on the MTF transsexual experience.

  • True Selves: You might hear this one mentioned in lists of good trans books, but it's now 20 years old, is very heavily weighted toward a limited view of the transexual experience, and it defends the gatekeeper mentality. I'd honestly avoid it, unless you're interested in reading about how things used to be, in which case I'd highly recommend Harry Benjamin's The Transsexual Phenomenon (who knew that people used to be arrested just for crossdressing?). Don't show that one to your professor!

  • WPATH Standards of Care v7: Presents a good overview of gender non-conformity and dysphoria with references to contemporary research. Written for a medical/academic audience but easy enough for a general audience to understand too. Focuses significantly on mental health aspects of transgender and medical transition options. The standards of care seem to have become more liberal with each new version, to the extent that they're now presented as guidelines rather than hard rules and are approaching the "informed consent" approach. Still, they're an example of the gatekeeping approach, which some people are dead against.

  • National Geographic magazine gender special edition: Has some good stories covering the whole range of transgender people (i.e. talks about non-binary identities as well as the traditional transsexual experience). Also interesting is the wide discussion of gender issues in various world cultures, although this is of less relevance to what you're looking for.

    Obviously there's a lot more out there, and I'm sure others can add to this and/or argue with my take on the above list. This is just some of my admittedly limited reading - please don't take this in any way as an authoritative list of the best resources!

    I'd be careful relying on websites and blog posts for information. You need to be critical of the authors' credibility and biases, and there is a lot of poorly-researched, poorly-written stuff out there, some of which is downright wrong, made-up, nonsensical or hateful (I've read a lot on Blanchard's typology and the paraphillia/fetish view of transsexualism, and I'd advise you to avoid it at all costs!). On the other hand, I'd say don't stick entirely to books and academic papers, because there are a lot of interesting thoughts/perspectives from those in the community who don't write books or publish papers.
u/LesBelle · 3 pointsr/asktransgender

This happens in Nevada by Imogene Binnie. She goes right up and strikes up a friendship. . . Kind of. . .

u/bcbuddy · 3 pointsr/canada

Read "After the Ball" by Marshall Kirk

> To overcome Americans' deep-rooted aversion to gay men and women, psychologist Kirk and ad man Madsen propose a massive media campaign designed to correct stereotypes and neutralize anti-gay prejudice.

u/D-Rez · 3 pointsr/unitedkingdom

You can thank me later:

Seriously though, just redeem it now and spend it whenever you want to buy something you actually want in the near future.

u/Davey503 · 3 pointsr/mypartneristrans

It's no one's responsibility to "educate" anyone about their or their partner's situation, but there is a balance between answering a friend's questions and being their trans wikipedia. I mean, if you want to be that educator in the world, that's awesome! But it's unfair to expect that from everyone.

I've found for close friends and family who have a lot of nosy, but well intentioned questions, to recommend (or gift) them a book about transitioning. Transgender 101 by Nicholas Teich was one we recommended often. It saves my wife and I a lot of trouble going over the basics and also gently reminds people that they are perfectly capable of educating themselves, rather than putting the burden on us to do it for them.

u/rosekarr · 3 pointsr/traaaaaaannnnnnnnnns

I linked the bit about there being transgender people for as long as there have been people to the wikipedia page for transgender history, and I linked the bit about HRT being like magic to /r/transpassing sorted by top of all time. That second part might have been a poor choice, but I was just thinking about how when I was in denial a big part of it was that I didn't think I would ever really have a chance of passing if I transitioned, and /r/transpassing and /r/transtimelines kind of helped me with that.

I also had a some more links below what's in the screenshot, but I didn't have space on my screen to capture it all. Here's the other things I linked:

u/NoodleArttack · 3 pointsr/books
  1. The Perks of Being a Wallflower by Stephen Chbosky
  2. 9/10
  3. YA,fiction,drama,coming of age, sort of a diary entry
  4. One of the best books ive read this year. Amazing plot and writing. Must read.
u/GnuMag · 3 pointsr/TumblrInAction

This is Christina Hoff Sommers. She's effectively been excommunicated from feminism for criticising the way feminism has evolved. She has pointed out flaws in the "1/4 women are raped" statistic, that the wage gap is virtually non-existent. She's even dared to suggest that American college students don't focus on more actual feminist issues. She's even written a book about what she considers problematic about modern feminism, entitled "Who Stole Feminism".

Here's an interview with her where she explains how she was outed from the feminist community for refusing to teaching feminist dogma to her students.

I highly reccomend her ["Factual feminist" series] ( It's a breath of fresh air in all of this third(fourth?)-wave feminism bullshit.

And you're correct. She's no true scotsman (or -woman).

u/Leonine09 · 3 pointsr/gaymers

Something Like Summer by Jay Bell has been on my TBR list but I'm planning on reading it in the summer. It's a series and it's supposed to be good.

Something Like Summer (Volume 1)

u/random_account_538 · 3 pointsr/MLPLounge

Never mind that one.. I recommend this instead. It's even got a review by Twilight Sparkle on it..

u/cyraenica · 3 pointsr/books

Middlesex by Jeffrey Euginides won a Pulitzer. It's protagonist is queer - don't want to put a finer point on it than that so I don't give away any plot.

Stone Butch Blues by Leslie Feinberg - main character is a butch lesbian in the 1950s.

The Passionate Mistakes and Intricate Corruption of One Girl in America and Valencia both by Michelle Tea.

Beebo Brinker by Ann Bannon is a classic of Lesbian Pulp fiction.

RubyFruit Jungle by Rita Mae Brown is another classic.

And as others have mentioned, Sarah Waters (highly recommend Tipping the Velvet), Alison Bechdel, and Jeanette Winterson.

u/eime8498 · 3 pointsr/booksuggestions
u/pokemon_fetish · 3 pointsr/TumblrInAction

I'll one up you. Amy Fisher almost killed a woman, for a MAN!

Feminists always neglect to mention things that go even slightly counter to their claims.

From Who Stole Feminism - How Women Have Betrayed Women:

>In September of 1993, Senators Edward Kennedy, Tom Harkin, Carol Mosely-Braun, Paul Simon and Barbara Mikulski introducted a Senate version of the Gender Equity in Education Act. Referring to the Wellesley Report, Senator Kennedy said: [It] "refutes the common assumption that boys and girls are treated equally in our educational system. Clearly they are not"

Back in July of 1969, Mr Kennedy got drunk at a party and drove off a bridge. He escaped the car but left Mary Jo Kopechne in the vehicle and didn't seek help. He didn't even report it until the next morning. (See: Senatorial Privilege)

But he was doing what feminists wanted later, so he got a free pass.

u/favorited · 3 pointsr/gaybros

I got the audiobook for Lightning a few weeks ago, but haven't started yet. Looking forward to it!

Here's my current queue in terms of gay novels:


u/Purpleheart111 · 3 pointsr/asktransgender

If you want something more factual I suggest this:

It's the book I bought for my parents.

u/dontwantnotrouble · 3 pointsr/ftm

> find a piece of (not negative) news about trans people

This is a good reminder to try harder on this. We certainly try to talk about relevant things around the kids, so they both know our views on the world. I'm not sure how much gets picked up on, but hopefully enough.
> buy a book like this one (my mom’s favorite)

I bought this book - saying I thought they might find it interesting or that it could be contributed to the LGBT+ group they participate in at school.

> take them shopping for clothes and casually suggest checking out the men’s section

Oh yeah - got this one covered already. Heck, when I was 15 I wore mostly men's clothes because they were more neutral and comfortable.

Thank you!

u/biggestcup · 2 pointsr/asktransgender

With black Converse I would say jeans or you could probably do leggings+skirt. If you do jeans it's nice to have not-blue jeans for a feminine presentation.

If you have a little makeup practice then yeah, contouring can go a really long way. If you struggle with beard shadow at all, don't use a dramatic color on your lips because it will draw unwanted attention to the jawline. In that case, use more eye makeup. That tip is courtesy of Nevada :P

edit: Oh jeez, I just looked at your post history and you're really cute. I know you used a lot of filters and stuff, but your face shape looks really feminine and even a little makeup should take you a long way. You'll be fine :)

u/Belletrix · 2 pointsr/videos


The novel I linked above is a better version of this type of story, IMO. Though I enjoy the character having dealt with a sickness, I think the fascinating layer of Hero's protagonist coming out in two different ways, and not being quite sure which is more difficult, makes for a better story... IMO, again.

Secondary, and perhaps tertiary things for me when it comes to Superhero stories is how original are the powers? I honestly get bored of your generic "flying really strong" dudes. Like, where is the guy who can turn into smoke like in this relatively new novel: Holding Smoke. Granted, I haven't read that one, but it certainly caught my eye.

u/bighatcat · 2 pointsr/booksuggestions

i liked archangel too

this is based on russia's most infamous serial killer, andrei chikatilo
i have child-44 but have not yet read it so can't give a personal opinion but reviews have been stellar

i read a non-fiction book about him but for the life of me, i can't recall the name of it

also, i really enjoyed "gorky park" by martin cruz smith

u/fsjal_link · 2 pointsr/asktransgender

It's a great sign that you're here, gendering him correctly, and admitting that you do not understand fully. I commend you on that.

When I was questioning, my friend sent me a copy of Transgender 101 which really helped me come to terms with myself and the idea of dysphoria. Also side note, it was written by a trans man.

The book is written in a more perfunctory manner, and tries to explain the state of medical understanding, and just a brief overview of gender identity and sex as it were.

One of the sticking points for me, is that while the quantity of studies is low for one reason or another, there is some evidence that shows that gender identity is likely developed in a certain part of the brain, and does not always correlate with the assigned sex.

In the small number of studies (referenced in the book linked earlier) they've done on trans persons brains, trans women's brains more closely resemble cis women's than cis men's in the area of this area of the brain. Same appears true for trans men. This evidence lends credibility to the opinion of knowledgeable medical professionals who believe that transgender is a medical issue, and not psychological. That the current diagnosis is in the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders doesn't mean that it definitively is psychological. The DSM used to list homosexuality as a psychological disorder, too, but it is not listed there anymore because our understanding has changed.

I don't remember the other place I saw the discussion, but it also seems that most people who regret transition, only do so because they lacked the support for their transition, and were ostracized by their peers and families.

I hope this helps any, and I highly recommend the book if you haven't read it.

u/SmallFruitbat · 2 pointsr/YAwriters

Definitely give Wintergirls a read then. It's nominally about eating disorders, but not really.

There's also The Perks of Being a Wallflower (anxiety? PTSD?) and January First (nonfiction, childhood schizophrenia) that would probably fit the early psychosis bit and I've read...

Also found this Goodreads list. Might be able to find something there.

u/Snownova · 2 pointsr/askgaybros

Anything by Chuck Tingle

Seriously though, I enjoyed Hero by Perry Moore

u/Failscout · 2 pointsr/asktransgender

Not trying hard enough? WTF? Do they say the same thing to their cis male friends who happen to act feminine? How about cisgirls who are tomboys? I'm sorry but your friends are morons. You're not trying to be anything. You are a guy no matter what they think.

On other things I am in a scarily similar situation to you. I'm waiting for stuff to happen and it's killing me. My mother knows about my transness and while claiming she accepts me still seems to think I'm confused and doesn't really acknowledge it. I'd recommend sitting down with your mother and talking things out. Maybe if it's possible get her some books to read: I've heard good things about a book called She's Not There, and I plan to buy Transgender 101 for my mother (sorry about the UK link, I'm lazy ): )

I wish I could help you on the poisoning thing; I'm lucky it's the one thing I don't have to go through. I'm on Depo Provera injections which stop mine completely. You can look into those if you think it might be right for you, but keep in mind you MAY have to come off them again before you can get T and they have some long-term side effects like brittle bones and hair loss.

Hope things improve, dude. I can guarantee things get better.

u/omaca · 2 pointsr/books

I have plenty more if you want.

Check out Child-44 by Tom Rob Smith. It's the first in a trilogy based upon a KGB investigator in the USSR during the 50s (and later). Great stuff.

There are also several "crime" novels set during WWII that I like which I could also recommend if you're interested.

u/hazelowl · 2 pointsr/Random_Acts_Of_Amazon
  1. A hard-copy book. I love Neil Gaiman and I've been wanting to read this one for a while!

  2. A Kindle book. I've seen the movie and really enjoyed it, now I need to read the book!

  3. If I were a book, I hope that I'd be a great one.
u/JynxyJynx · 2 pointsr/Reformed

Well no preacher of feminism is going to outright tell you that feminism is malicious, for Satan disguises himself as an angel of light. Think about the culture’s normalization of homosexuality. Ever heard of After the Ball? Feminists want to eliminate gender distinctions altogether. Of course, they tout this objective as a noble one, though it flies in the face of God’s creational design. They will tell you it’s good, but open your Bible to the first or second page to see the conflict.

And having feminist professors doesn’t mean anything either. I’ve had them, too. Can’t really go anywhere with that.

u/amicloud · 2 pointsr/TransSpace

Only trans related book that I've read so far is Luna and I loved it. Not sure if it'd be ideal for your friend but it's a good book.

u/nolimitsoldier · 2 pointsr/AskReddit

You must read grasshopper.

u/tough_stough · 2 pointsr/asktransgender

There's a book called Transgender 101 that's very good about explaining most everything you'd need to know. There are also some books by Jennifer Finney Boylan that talk about her experience as a trans MTF parent that might be interesting. That's more of a story than an education resource though.

u/bellyfold · 2 pointsr/writing

I'd say get in at least a few young adult fiction, as they're full of saccharine and angst ridden metaphor:

The Perks Of Being A Wallflower

Looking For Alaska

A few historical fictions:

Wolf Hall

Memoirs Of A Geisha


The Hitchhiker's Guide To The Galaxy

Good Omens

Stephen king (just because he's a favorite)



And finally, some objectively "bad" books, to learn what not to do.

Wild Animus: A Novel

The Da Vinci Code

Moon People

All of these books are personal favorites for one reason or another, and some may fit into multiple categories (see: looking for Alaska under YA fiction and "bad,").

That said, this should at least keep you busy for a bit.

Happy reading, and good luck on your novel!

u/kempff · 2 pointsr/NoStupidQuestions

Lots of ways.

  • Flood mass media with LGBT-related advertising presented in the least offensive fashion.
  • Depict anyone who fails to support the LGBT agenda as clinically insane (e.g. use the scientific-sounding label "homophobia") or as generally unpleasant people, backward hicks, un-Christian, etc. Portray religious resisters as hopelessly backward and in conflict with modern science.
  • Show such people being shamed.
  • Show members of the LGBT community in a positive light, pillars of society, especially ones that look and act just like everybody else as opposed to the negative stereotype (e.g. non-effeminate, non-butch). Depict LGBTs as attractive, funny, nonthreatening, human, etc.
  • Get celebrities to talk positively about the LGBT community.
  • Make sure children are exposed to mass media that follow the above principles from an early age.
  • Silence the opposition by any means necessary (e.g. disrupting public meetings, etc.) without stooping to dialogue; never engage them in debate or discussion.
  • Talk constantly about LGBT issues and rights. Constantly.
  • Get people to think of the LGBT phenomenon as just another alternative rather than a separate "thing" unto itself.
  • Avoid referring to or describing the "icky" details of LGBT sexual practices.
  • Avoid referring to the LGBT condition as a "choice".
  • Portray LGBTs as victims, if not of irrational blind hatred and violence, then of pure prejudice. Portray the LGBT struggle as an anti-discrimination campaign, not as a legalization-of-sodomy campaign.
    etc. etc.

    Much of this and more was already outlined in
u/aronnyc · 2 pointsr/booksuggestions

I enjoyed the two Robert Galbraith (aka J. K. Rowling) books, The Cuckoo's Calling and The Silkworm. For something more psychological and less detective, perhaps Dennis Lehane. Of his books, I've only read Shutter Island, which does have a twist, assuming you haven't seen the movie or heard anything about the story. I also highly recommend Tom Rob Smith's Child 44 (I haven't read his other books by I plan to!)

u/TsukiChiOkami · 2 pointsr/LGBTeens

I really liked Luna and Openly Straight.

u/steamtroll · 2 pointsr/booksuggestions

The Perks of Being a Wallflower by Steven Chbosky. I really enjoyed it. I guess it's supposed to be a “young adult" book , but I think it holds up for older audiences also.

u/jaycatt7 · 2 pointsr/lgbt

My first thought is a collection of short fiction written by LGBT and supportive authors in the mid-90s called Am I Blue (link) I don't know that it's great literature--I don't even know if it's still readable--but it meant a lot to me when I was 15.

I'm not sure I have any better ideas--I don't read a lot of short fiction.

u/mewfasa · 2 pointsr/Random_Acts_Of_Amazon

The whole Ender's Game series is really, really good. I highly suggest reading all of the books. Everyone always compares it to the Hunger Games, but I personally don't think they really compare.

2030: The Real Story of What Happens to America is a book I thoroughly enjoyed, and I had my dad read it too. It's it's a bit apocalyptic, and of course it's a fictional novel, but the story sounds so plausible it's scary.

People have already recommended a bunch of books by John Green, but I second those recommendations. He's a wonderful author.

Finally, a coming-of-age book which just so happens to be my all-time favorite book is The Perks of Being a Wallflower.

I can talk about books all day. I love reading so much

u/Sourcefour · 2 pointsr/ftm

I read Stone Butch Blues when I was in college early on and it opened my eyes to the possibilities of what I could do (granted I'm MTF and hadn't even considered transitioning a possibility yet), but for you FTM's this would be a wonderful and extremely powerful book to check out. Definitely made old boy me cry. Highly recommended.

I just finished If I was Your Girl which was about a high school girl who transfered high schools after suffering an attack at a high school in atlanta and her road to acceptance among people who don't know her "secret". Really enjoyed it and made me cry a bunch.

u/thankgod4chkn · 2 pointsr/gaybros

Just ordered the book off Amazon . Thank you Prime!

u/iamglory · 2 pointsr/gaybros
u/asedentarymigration · 2 pointsr/AdviceAnimals

You can use google just as well as I can. Search terms to get you started; radical feminism, rape culture, feminist history, militant feminism.

Here's a book that's probably worth a read, full disclosure, I haven't read it, but the fact it even exists lends weight to my point.

My point was hyperbolic, but I stand by it, branches of feminism take an adversarial stance towards men, where female victory in some dispute is celebrated as victory over patriarchy, regardless of the relative qualities of the man and woman involved.

u/HarbingerofFruitcake · 2 pointsr/books

I second both the Jeanette Winterson and Dorothy Allison recs. Written on the Body (Winterson) is so beautifully written, and one of my favorite books.

u/apostle_s · 2 pointsr/Catholicism

> I guess my parents weren't as Catholic as you all

My parents aren't Catholic. :P

I think the "othering" to which you refer is something that is real in certain circumstances, but in this case it is a real issue of a parent needing to teach their child about a very complex issue and to be faithful to the teachings of the Church at the same time.

The objection you raise seems to be against the idea of an agenda, but there was and is really an agenda at work here and has been for a while and is operated by manipulative people.

Do we need to treat same sex attracted people as human beings created in the image and likeness of the living God? Obviously the answer has to be a resounding "yes". However, there's a huge part of the gay rights agenda that is pure AstroTurf and people tend to react negatively when things they don't agree with are forced down their throats by the media and laws passed by a large majority of voters are struck down by activist judges.

The difficulty is to separate the agenda from the individual and this can only be accomplished through the grace of an all loving God working in conjunction with the will of man.

u/sabyre · 2 pointsr/asktransgender

I'm including a book with the coming out letter I'll send to my parents. Transgender 101: A Simple Guide to a Complex Issue

I'm so glad you were able to come out to her! It sounds like it's going pretty well. Or at least not badly.

u/furgenhurgen · 2 pointsr/booksuggestions

Among Others by Jo Walton

Ender's Game by Orson Scott Card

I think the Dark Tower series is a must read. It starts off with The Gunslinger and continues. I think it is the best series I have ever read.

If you want to look other than fantasy/sci-fi...

Lamb by Christopher Moore is very funny, makes you think, and breaks your heart. I love it.

A Prayer for Owen Meany is one of my favorite books ever written. Everyone that I have given this book to has read it and bought it for someone else to read.

Jitterbug Perfume by Tom Robbins is Tom Robbins at his best. It's also one of the most polarizing books I have suggested to friends and people online. You will either love it and buy the rest of Tom Robbins's books or you will hate it and never listen to me again. I hope it's the first reaction.

The Perks of Being a Wallflower is an amazing book about life in high school. I haven't seen the movie yet because I enjoy this book so much that I don't want to get pissed off at a director ruining one of my favorite books.

Good Omens by Pratchett/Gaiman is certainly a pretty rockin book.

Hopefully this helps you find some new authors to enjoy!

Edited for: I will never forgive myself if I don't put in what I consider one of the best fantasy coming of age stories ever. The Name of the Wind by Patrick Rothfuss is the first of the series. Read it. Do it!

u/taqiyya · 2 pointsr/AskReddit

Most movements have agendas. Doesn't matter if it's liberal or conservative..there is an agenda. The current homosexual 'agenda' has been influenced heavily by the book "After the Ball" -

The book is a good read and did a great job laying the groundwork for the current LGBT movement.

u/DymphnaGee · 2 pointsr/ftm

A relative of mine just published his first book about Gender Identity. He is a transman himself. I ordered myself and my mom one so I could help her with understanding. The book itself could be used in support groups and the like.
I haven't read it yet (it just came out yesterday) but I got to look at the resources, and it helped me a lot just by doing that.

u/miroku000 · 1 pointr/MensRights

I think gay pride is ok if your target audience is other gay people. It is not good as a marketing slogan to convince other people who are not gay to support gay rights. This book has a bunch of research on this sort of thing where they talk about which advertisements actually work for changing pubic opinion in favor of gay rights:

For example, an advertisement that was effective featured a teenage boy that was being beat up and said something about being a teenager is hard enough without having to be beat up because you were gay. Straight people seeing that generally empathized with the message and were motivated to be less homophobic by the advertisement. On the other hand an advertisement featuring two guys kissing was popular with gay people, but motivated straight people to be more homophobic. Anyway, based on some of the stuff I read in that book, I feel like "[whatever] pride" is not a particularly good marketing slogan and is probably counterproductive.

u/corajade17 · 1 pointr/trans

You sound like me about a year ago. I've gone and met with a therapist / counselor at the Stonewall Alliance Center in my town and it helped me out a lot to just talk through things and question. I was really concerned it was a fetish or something perverted for a long time too, but I've done enough self-exploration and reflection to now know this is who I am, and now who I've always been.

If you're more of a self-discovery / research kind of person (I am), I would really recommend [buying this book] (

It's by Dara Hoffman-Fox, who has an incredible website/youtube channel with topics that can help you get to the bottom of these feelings and thoughts. This book is kind of set up like a workbook, and slowly takes you through questions to help you think about where everything is coming from, what it means, and help you figure out what's next (if anything). I thought I was "pretty sure" I was trans when I got it a couple months ago. Now, I'm almost done and, not only do I feel better about being committed to making this life change, but I've learned where my own fears and internalized transphobia have come from. Totally worth the cost to me to really feel good and sure about myself.

I wish you the best, I hope this helps. Cheers! <3

u/tehryanx · 1 pointr/videos
u/redroguetech · 1 pointr/todayilearned

> the fact is the two social engineers wrote a book called After the Ball. Have a Google.

If that's the point, and all you admit the rest is pure speculative bullshit, then might I recommend a different source? Or, are you in fact pushing a political agenda and perfectly willing to use disinformation and propaganda (not to mention, misuse TIL) to achieve your goals?

u/kuckbaby · 1 pointr/Random_Acts_Of_Amazon

What happened to me today that is awesome? I started watching Breaking Bad for the first time =)

That is totally freaking awesome about your car. I would love to see mine, but alas I am 4000 miles away from the scrap heap it ended up on =P


u/OblivionsMemories · 1 pointr/booksuggestions

Am I Blue? Coming Out From the Silence is a collection of short stories, both fiction and non-fiction. I really enjoyed this one, hope you do as well. :)

u/lovebop · 1 pointr/asktransgender

A lot of the media around us tends to try and fit a certain narrative and often misses the nuances of what's it's really like. I think lurking here and reading the posts people make about their daily struggles can be more useful than any documentary when trying to understand what we deal with. As for reading, after I came out, my sister was really upset and confused. She got a book called Transgender 101 and it seemed to help her a lot. At least, I talked with her after she read it and was amazed how well she got it.

One last thing based on a comment you made...

>someone who is completely ignorant of what it is like to be a trans person

When you have a bias towards something to begin with, watching docos, reading stories, etc, can sometimes be pointless because you're viewing them through the lens of your own preconceived opinions. Since you're LGBT yourself, think of all the people out there who hate what you are simply because of their ignorance. I mean, the same people forming ignorant opinions about us are doing the exact same thing to you. That should provide some insight into moving beyond transphobia.

u/Baeocystin · 1 pointr/gaming

They could use The Steel Remains as source material.

u/creativexangst · 1 pointr/Random_Acts_Of_Amazon

Just realized that you probably meant a book from YOUR list, not mine. In which you definitely need Perks of Being a Wallflower because its just such a great read. I've read it a dozen times and I will read it a dozen more before I'm done :D

u/Fmradiochick · 1 pointr/Random_Acts_Of_Amazon

I've found that I prefer the books to the movies. I'm hoping [this one] ( lives up to my expectations :) I've seen the movie should have read the book first.

As a side note: The entire Harry Potter series blew me away. I loved the books but damn was the cinematography great in HP. :)

the books are always better than the movies!

Thanks for the contest!!

u/Paperdawl · 1 pointr/actuallesbians

You are looking for non fiction I assume?
This one isn't too bad...

I also second Hello Cruel World... I used to be a youth and adult leader for a gay kid's camp and they were ones that I would recommend to kids just coming out.

u/trolo-joe · 1 pointr/Catholicism

Sounds much like After the Ball, a book which, if you have not read, you should read.

u/willscy · 1 pointr/suggestmeabook
u/RakshaNain · 1 pointr/books

Written on the Body is fairly odd.

u/cantorcoke · 1 pointr/Feminism
u/bilbiblib · 1 pointr/books

Written on the Body, by Jeanette Winterson. Absolute beauty in words.

u/SalmonFox · 1 pointr/AskReddit

Freshman year:Sucked
Sophmore year: Little Better
Junior year: Epic
Senior year: Epic

Take the boredom in stride, there's opportunities for fun aplenty. My approach to it was to cut back on the video games, come out of my shell, and hang out with the artsy kids. Way more fun and a lot more sincere then the "popular" crowd.
By no means were they the best years of my life, but they were a lot of fun, and still very meaningful for me. A few of the people I met back then are still very close to me and I graduated six years ago.

P.S. If you can, I recommend taking classes at a junior college. They prepared me for college more so than any high school classes.

EDIT: Oh, and read The Perks of Being a Wall Flower, that book really helped me during some of the tougher times in highs school.

u/oregonpsycho · 1 pointr/psychotherapy
u/TimmyB02 · 1 pointr/FlashTV

This'll do! While you're on it, you might want to order this too.

u/themcp · 1 pointr/gay

In 1990 a book called After The Ball came out that basically made the same argument you are:

Some subset of the gay community bought your argument hook, line, and sinker and made a big effort to be good little queers that heterosexuals would say "wow, they're just like us," and accept. You know what they found out? It doesn't work. It might buy you the acceptance of some straight people - at the cost of rejecting your less "straight-acting" LGBT brothers and sisters - but it doesn't do any good at all in terms of advancing LGBT civil rights. The 90s, when this political strategy of appeasing straight people in hope that they'll give us some civil rights was popular, was a decade of gay rights moving backwards in the US as state after state passed bans on gay marriage and the community did nothing about it.

What we found actually works for advancing LGBT civil rights is suing the pants off of people who discriminate against us. Lawsuits have done more for us in the last 10 years than begging and pleading and trying to be nice well behaved little homos did for us in the preceding 30 years. George W. Bush was the worst president the US ever had, but we can thank him for the fact that he was so bad to the gay community that the community finally got pissed off enough to get off its collective ass and start suing for the civil equality that was supposed to be our birthright. And we've been winning ever since.

Pride was never intended to be a parade, it was not even called a parade, it was called the Pride March. It was supposed to be in your face. It was created in a time when gay people were so societally oppressed that we were essentially invisible, and the general public thought that there were almost none of us. The goal was to show them we are here, in great numbers, and we're not afraid. Well, we've accomplished that goal - in some first world countries. In a lot of other countries, gay people can't have a Pride march because if they do, crowds of people show up and beat all the gay people into a bloody pulp. So, the pride march is still an important political statement and a reminder that we are not alone and we can mobilize as a community.

It is also, for many gay people, their annual opportunity to be themselves in the light of the sun, surrounded by other gay people who will treat them reasonably and probably protect them from the odd lunatic religious zealot. So, if you feel you're naturally a milquetoast middle class average gay guy who blends into middle class societal norms, well, good for you, glad you have it easy... but not everyone is like you, and why the hell shouldn't someone who has spent a whole year aching for an opportunity to dress up and swish around and be fabulous for just one day have their opportunity? And who are we to disown them for it?

u/Valyrian_Kobolds · 1 pointr/bertstrips

Whatever man, I actually linked studies, you link to nothing and just dismiss my sources.

No source I give you will ever hold up, because you will dismiss them all as biased. You just continue standing there and refuse to move on.

How about a book?

or anaother

But no.

Everyone is biased against reality, and you alone are the sole defender of the correct way of things based on something you learned out of your highschool biology class.


>Try harder those schools are festering shitpots of false narritave

Since when did Harvard stop being an Ivy League School?

u/fiftytwofeet · 1 pointr/gaybros

Okay so you like fantasy.

Try Hero by Perry Moore. It's written like a comic book but in novel form. Stan Lee who created pretty much every Marvel Comics hero and villain you know loves it. That's enough for me, really.

Carry On by Rainbow Rowell is sort of like a queer Harry Potter fanfic. It can seem kind of cheap if you haven't read her other book Fangirl and go into it knowing it's supposed to be a fanfic, but it's a cute story in its own right.

And since you're not opposed to reading graphic novels, you might like Young Avengers by Allen Heinberg and Jim Cheung. The first run does a solid job of introducing the heroes two of which include Wiccan and Hulkling who are the fucking cutest. There's also a second series and a third (which is arguably the best comic arc I've read in a good while).

u/redpillshadow · 1 pointr/asktrp

Family is hard cause it hurts the most when they are that fucking stupid.

You expect them to be decent and not hit you with fallacies and personal attacks upon a disagreement which multiplies the impact.

The examples you listed. Emma and the mattress girl aren't worth getting angry over. Just state factually "so a damsel in distress is asking the patriarchy to join in on feminism" when referring to the Watson UN speech. As for mattress girl, state that you are sure she will get a high paying job for her master theses.

If you want her xmas gift to piss her off get her Sommers' "Who stole feminism".

u/transfairieboy · 1 pointr/asktransgender

This book! My mom is a bullheaded bigot so it didn't help her, but I read through it before giving it to her and it's a really good and simple read.

u/wannabehermione · 1 pointr/asktransgender
u/aether22 · 1 pointr/Retconned

I didn't know this was an ME, but Amazon has both listed, and a 3rd:

So one just "picture" one is "The Portrait" and one is "a Picture".

But I am unclear on what this ME is claiming as both versions exist, did only one exist before?

u/messiahwannabe · 1 pointr/booksuggestions

if the first book being written in 2010 doesn't disqualify it, The Steel Remains by Richard Morgan and it's 2012 follow up
The Cold Commands are not only exactly what you are looking for, but exceptionally well written. + digging up those links made me realize there's a new one out from 2014, now that i know, that'll probably be the next book i read.

u/mississippijones · 1 pointr/TrollXChromosomes

It's always wonderful when the older generation decides to open up their minds to their own gender identity! It is indeed a fluid concept, how brave of her to explore!

May I reccommend You and Your Gender Identity

as a xmas gift. ;)

u/jedfrye · 1 pointr/gaybros

Faggots by Larry Kramer

It's pretty crazy.

u/tophat02 · 1 pointr/FortWorth

I think I'll show up tomorrow.... maybe just be a wallflower the first time and figure out what it's all about.

u/VividLotus · 1 pointr/ainbow

Since you mentioned a couple of books that fall into the YA literature category, I thought I'd share one that had a huge impact on me when I was a teenager: an anthology called Am I Blue?. I just re-read it last month, and I feel like the themes in those short stories are still just as relevant today as they were 15 or so years ago when they were written.

u/executivesphere · 1 pointr/JordanPeterson

Straight up, you need to tell him you love him, you care about him, and that you’ll be there to support and accept him whatever he decides. You can’t control what he does, but your love and support will mean a lot to him. It’s important that you demonstrate that you’re truly willing to listen to him and understand him, rather than telling him what you think he needs to do without truly understanding what he’s going through.

A couple more things:
I noticed in one comment you doubted he could be trans because he had been sexually attracted to women in the past. This tells me you may not actually know much about the trans experience, as gender identity and sexual preference can be entirely separate from each other. (Plus, he’s still quite young and it’s possible that he hadn’t yet figured that part of himself out yet.)

If you haven’t already, you ought to read over the APA’s page on transgender people:

I also highly recommend you read one or both of these books to familiarize yourself better with trans issues and the trans experience.

(At the very least, download the free samples through the Kindle app and read through the first couple chapters.)

Also, resist the urge to make this about yourself. Im not sure why you gave details about your career, salary, and romantic life, but please don’t use those facts to guilt or shame your brother. It’s an unkind this to do and it won’t help your relationship with him. It’ll only make him feel worse.

Finally, try to understand how challenging and scary it would be to come out as trans. No one chooses to do this because it’s easy or fun. As cis straight guys, the world is kinda built for us; our experience is totally the norm. For trans people, not only are they different than 99% of the population, but they’re routinely stigmatized and ridiculed but large swathes of society. Imo, it’s pretty fucking brave to come out as trans.

Anyway, good luck, man. My little bro is also in his early 20s and struggling to figure things out. Just try be a good brother and help him move forward in a positive way 💪💪💪

u/bridget1989 · 1 pointr/Random_Acts_Of_Amazon

I would actually get books for my classroom. Now that I see how little my students at my low-income urban high school have, and how easy it is to help them out and make their days...I get them books from THEIR wish lists to add to our classroom libraries for Free Reading Fridays!

Like these 2 used books:


The Lost Boy


Happy Birthday!, and thanks for being selfless and spending your Birthday money on someone else! ♥

u/Appa_YipYip · 1 pointr/Random_Acts_Of_Amazon

I've never read Perks of Being a Wallflower!

For lunch I ate some McNuggets. I was in a rush to get somewhere, and I was hungry so my brother stopped by McDonalds haha.

Thanks for the contest! Lunch money!

u/SP-KA · 1 pointr/lgbt
It's 4 bucks if you have a kindle.
Here's a torrent for something like summer .epub version
And that's for something like winter .epub version too.
If you want to change it to .pdf or .mobi you can use this site once you've downloaded the file.
at your left are the options
Hope it helps!

u/cknap · 1 pointr/Random_Acts_Of_Amazon

Used paperback copies of The Perks of Being a Wallflower are less than $5, which sounds cheepy cheepy to me!

u/ftmichael · 1 pointr/transeducate

Transgender 101 by Nick Teich (sadly not free)? My Child is Transgender: 10 Tips for Parents of Adult Trans Children (99¢ ebook)? The Our Trans Children leaflet (free PDF download)?

Honestly you are EXTREMELY unlikely to find something that explains things without ever using the word transsexual or mentioning surgery. The closest you're going to get is giving them stuff that you've altered and censored. It makes way more sense to give them stuff that does mention those things, let them get a basic understanding, and then explain to them that you do not want surgery. If you're not willing to do that, my guess is you're going to find yourself stuck. Given that you have a need that existing stuff doesn't meet, though, I encourage you to write your ideal resource(s) yourself, or in collaboration with others, and spread them around. :)

u/samantha_pants · 1 pointr/Random_Acts_Of_Amazon

soft kitty, warm kitty, little ball of fur, happy kitty, sleepy kitty, purr purr purr

When I was very young I was scared of my shadow, and I share Sheldon's pathological need for closure, I could not not finish the song

a book or a surprise

u/dirtbagsbigripoff · 1 pointr/asktransgender

My SO lent me an AMAZING book, with a very non-traditional trans storyline focusing on two individuals: 1 trans-woman nearing 30 and confident and "finished" with her transition, and 1 pre-transition "potentially-trans"/ "trans-questioning" guy and how their stories intersect and other book stuff.

link cuz why not -

I also liked it cuz I'm from Nevada but you might like it without that bonus

u/Tiger_Lily_x3 · 1 pointr/Random_Acts_Of_Amazon
u/day1patch · 1 pointr/eroticauthors

You asked, I deliver (Haven't actually read it, just remembered this thread :) )

u/YourFairyGodmother · 0 pointsr/lgbt

This argument has been going on since day fucking 1. It will never be settled.

Required reading before commenting in this thread.

u/LittleHelperRobot · 0 pointsr/brasil


^That's ^why ^I'm ^here, ^I ^don't ^judge ^you. ^PM ^/u/xl0 ^if ^I'm ^causing ^any ^trouble. ^WUT?

u/New_Car_Wrecked · 0 pointsr/Catholicism

This book is essentially a battleplan for the LGBT Movement. I haven't read it, but it basically lays out exactly what they did / are doing to normalize it, including equating their lifestyle as much as possible with the plight of African Americans before the Civil Rights movement.

u/wrez · -1 pointsr/MensRights

So, if a "Redpill" author makes a great MR point, you are going to downvote on principle?

And what for that matter is "Redpill" anyways? I heard are quite a few definitions for it.

However, your approach sounds both dogmatic and pedantic, as if you are overly attached to a label of sorts.

By the same, some of our strongest advocates in MR are considered Feminists, e.g. Christina Hoff Somers author of

u/riggorous · -1 pointsr/iamverysmart

Let's try a simple example first.

If I wanted to convince you of the validity of a universal wealth tax, I would recommend [Thomas Pinketty's (that's pronounced Thom-ah) excellent book, Capital in the 21st Century] (, of which I'm sure you've heard. It is a huge achievement because Pinketty collected an incredibly large and detailed dataset on international wealth inequality, which is a task requiring a lot of planning, expertise, patience, and funding. His dataset shows I think definitively that the way we currently distribute wealth is fundamentally flawed (not necessarily because of the theory, mind, but because of the various transaction costs and market failures that either theory or policy fails to account for), and will hurt us in the future. As such, his suggestion of a universal wealth tax, which is highly controversial, certainly has grounds for insertion into mainstream discourse, if not yet or ever grounds for implementation. To reiterate: is the universal wealth tax a valid policy that is valid for real consideration? Absolutely. Is it valid in the sense that it is practicable? Probably not. Is it valid in the sense that it will accurately correct the system? Probably not.

If you're still with me, let's try a harder example. If I wanted to convince you of the validity of gender feminism, I would point you towards [Judith Butler's Gender Trouble] (, which is perhaps a controversial choice, since Butler is controversial and her writing is a fucking disaster of postmodern proportions, but I think it lays out both the position of gender feminists and the benefits of gender feminism in exhaustive detail. Butler starts with the assertion that both sex and gender are socially constructed categories (forgive me if my shorthand is too broad, but basically, does it matter if you are a male or a female if other people can't tell by looking at you?) and concludes that gender identity is bullshit a priori and we don't need it socially or individually. Most people don't agree with her; most feminists don't agree with her, including, in my experience, academic feminists (although [this book] ( by Christina Hoff Sommers, which I would use to convince you of the alternative view, disagrees with me re academia). But this view exists in feminism (it is found in vast quantities on /r/tumblrinaction) because, in part, Butler's logic (given her assumptions) is valid and her argument is convincing to a point. Are her assumptions valid? Who knows. We have no way of testing that except with more philosophy.

I'll finish off with an example for which I will not give you readings because you can find them in your local newspaper. Throughout the economic crisis, people have talked about the benefits of fiscal stimulus versus fiscal austerity. Logically, is either view valid? Of course; both have existed since the inception of macroeconomics. Furthermore, both have been successful in some situations and disastrous in others. Which view is valid given the situation? Depends on who you ask, and depends in a formative manner. For instance, Latvia experienced a contraction shock in 2008-2009 and the IMF were called in to design a policy program for recovery. The IMF are famous for their austerity stance, but in this situation, the Latvian government actually elected to fiscally contract more than the IMF thought necessary (fiscal contraction is when you increase taxes and reduce subsidies - it's political suicide and has potential to seriously harm the economy in the short term). They had the EU to answer to, and they wanted to show that they were in control of their situation and willing to enact such measures as were necessary. I've been wishy-washy in parts, but I'm pretty decided here: if you think that a politician's decision to act on the economy in a certain way is invalid because she is a politician, you are an idiot.

I can't tell you anything about astrology or shamanism because, as I've mentioned 5 times already, I am not qualified to talk about either. But validity in the social sciences and humanities is not a binary situation, and, whereas you're under no obligation to get it, you can at least be civil and shut up when you don't know what you're talking about.

u/plain_platypus · -1 pointsr/brasil

Na linha do livro sobre feminismo, recomendo também o "Who Stole Feminismo", da autora Christina Sommers. Ela mesmo é uma ex-feminista que fala sobre como o movimento tomou os ares que tem hoje é que tipo de mulheres passaram a fazer parte dele. Ainda ganha bônus por ser uma mulher que pertencia esse meio, tirando o cartão do "homem hetero cristao e etc " q é bastante usado para desqualificar quem fala mal do movimento.