Best parenting girls books according to redditors

One could argue that the current epidemic of CC-riders was caused by weak/effeminate/liberal/absent fathers.

Therefore, be the opposite. Be the firm (yet calm, well-meaning) male force in her life, and be persistent at it. Impose rules and morals on her. When she follows, praise her. Treat her, too (with your attention, not with material substitutes). When she slips, disapprove and tell her that she can do better. Once she is capable of understanding (school age, early teens), explain to her why you raised her the way you raised her. Bring her to a bar, and show her some of those empty husks of post-wall sluts (talk of life decisions, trajectories, and consequences).

Read up on developmental psychology (PM me for books, if you want), so that you know the sorts of challenges kids go though as they are growing up -- and as she struggles through said challenges, offer a guidance/ a helping hand (it has to be her challenge to overcome, though). Depending on where you live, I'd suggest you shield her from the brainwashing of advertisement companies -- do know that preteen kids are basically unable of critical thought; as a result of which, they are easy prey for advertising companies with an agenda of turning kids into stupid consumers for life. So no tablet at two years old, no watching crap TV all day unattended, etc. -- if even doable, in this day and age. Consider the kinds of friends she associates with, and the kinds of institutions she frequents, too.

Regarding books focused on raising girls, there is this one. I can't say I wholeheartedly recommend it (the author is a bit of a tradcon cuck), but the book is not that bad either. Might as well read through it and use the parts that resonate with you.

Do understand that for a daughter, you are the primary parent. You will, in one way or another, set a benchmark of expectations she will have regarding men later in life. If your relationship is positive, she will be inclined to seek out men of similar qualities like yours. You build her confidence up from the inside, she will be less inclined to seek instant gratifications with stupid consequences. Regarding stupid, this is of building that inner voice of "daddy woudn't approve of that, I understand what this would do to me... and I'm a better girl than this". However, in this day and age, this does seem like parenting on a hard mode, with the forces that be undermining masculinity everywhere.

> she isn't a boy so I can't just teach her to shoot guns and all and to be a 'man'.

Well, why not? Why can't you? Mayhaps shooting guns may not be her thing, but something similar of the sorts may not hurt, after all - to give her a sense of self-accomplishment that translates into self-worth. If this works, it'd be better than her searching for that self-worth on a strange cock later in life.

Also, tomboy-ish women can be more agreeable in relationships, as in such activities, they learn to relate to men and to actually appreciate masculinity (appreciating what men do, and recognizing that what they do can be difficult -- as opposed to taking it for granted and dehumanizing the men into their servants).

I'm 30.

Part of me had wanted to be a father and a parent. But the more I thought about it, the more I realized that the world needs less people to have kids, not more. I look at it as a resource issue. I try to be hopeful about the future, but the evidence I've considered suggests otherwise.

I have lots of reasons for not having kids, as probably most childfree people do. I understand conceptually some of the rewards of watching children grow up to become their own people with their own ideas. I think I would have been an excellent parent. But I also have life goals that I think come first, and as a parent I believe that my own aspirations would have to come second.

I'm a teacher, and I expect to become a better teacher because I can be career oriented and build my knowledge better with the available time to read more. I would rather spend my evenings reading a book than monitoring and disciplining kids.

A good book on the childfree movement is No Kids: 40 Good Reasons Not to Have Children by Corinne Maier. It's a quick read. It's style is humorous but at times serious.

She's even written a book about it; looks like an interesting read.

I loved No kid: 40 good reasons not to have children. It was funny and light-hearted but truthful.

http://www.amazon.com/No-Kids-Good-Reasons-Children/dp/0771054777

You might like this book then. I bought it and it's a great read. The author is a mother herself.

> But even aside from that fact, you're positing a ridiculous argument - most female professional athletes do not take artificial hormones to be better at their sport and if they did, don't you think the male athletes would be doing the exact same thing?

Don't you realize that the two cases are not the same. Men get manlier, women get manlier too. One sex is getting erased out.

>At this week's convention, present-day medical issues were also explored with candor. Serving on a panel Wednesday night were Ned Bergert, former Angels head trainer, Neal ElAttrache, the Dodgers' team physician and Dr. Kevin Wilk of Champions Sports. Their panel was moderated by Will Carroll of SI.com. … ElAttrache was curious about the audience's view on PRP and performance-enhancing drugs.

>"That's something I do need to be concerned about because I take care of people of all ages and what kind of effect is that going to have, socially, on the young athletes that we take care of," he said.

>"Because, believe me, I see high school kids and junior high school kids that are dabbling in steroids and HGH [human growth hormone]. It's amazing what happens. And their parents know it. Including girls, by the way, especially girls.

>"Girls' soccer is rife with anabolic steroid use. It's amazing."

Marion Jones missed one drug test when she was in high school. When you have cheerleaders trying on drugs for toned looks, it the height of naivete to think that women who are actually competing seriously aren't.

Also see:

>Warrior Girls exposes the downside of the women's sports revolution that has evolved since Title IX: an injury epidemic that is easily ignored because we worry that it will threaten our daughters' hard-won opportunities on the field. From teenage girls playing local soccer, basketball, lacrosse, volleyball, and other sports to women competing at the elite level, female athletes are suffering serious injuries at alarming rates.

http://www.amazon.com/Warrior-Girls-Protecting-Daughters-Epidemic/dp/0743297555

> It's not arbitrary to hold the two sexes to different athletic standards

yup, it's preferential treatment for women.