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One thing that was misleading to me was understanding if Alex was primary or secondary. It's a whole different world of experience: I first assumed that Alex was primary because I had the physiological traces of it (fronto temporal left arachnoid cyst) but a few years later I finally admitted to myself that I had secondary Alex due to traumatizing experiences in childhood.

What I found now is that I can experience emotions if I work on the the trauma, if I break through using tools like meditations, drugs, therapy. I do not know is the cause of your Alexithymia but I found that through the years I was able to work with my partners in a way that worked, it required a level of vulnerability and communication that while it is possible might not work for everyone.

You are doing good work, read the book, understand what Alex is and try to understand what causes it. For relationships, a great book that helped me in my couple communication was Communication Miracles for Couples: Easy and Effective Tools to Create More Love and Less Conflict