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u/Shojo_Tombo · 65 pointsr/AmItheAsshole

It sounds like you and your wife both use acts of service to say 'I love you', which can translate into unintentionally parenting behavior (especially when you have (three!) babies in the house. You both should read The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts to better understand the way you each communicate with each other.

You may also find it helpful if you consider that she's not mothering you out of pity or the belief that you are incapable of adulting. Like someone already said, it's incredibly difficult to turn off 'parent mode', especially if taking care is her love language. When you get frustrated, remember that it's the two of you against the problem, not you against her.

In my experience, it really makes a difference to be clear about how you are feeling in situations like this instead of focusing on the other person's actions. You might want to take a breath and gently say, "I'm frustrated right now because I want to pull my share of the weight, and I feel like you are taking on too much. I love you and appreciate how much you do. Please let me do this so we can divvy up the work more evenly." This shifts the focus to how you feel about the situation instead of placing blame/attacking the other person (not your intent but she may have felt that way), reminds her that you are a team, and that you love her which is always nice to hear.

u/klubkouture · 1 pointr/AmItheAsshole

NAH-You are very lucky to have a fiance who tells you the truth, doesn't play games, and isn't passive-aggressive. If the ring looks anything like this: https://www.amazon.com/Natural-Amethyst-Enhanced-Sapphire-3-Stone/dp/B00CCFRRNY (with only Jacob K. buying it) you should understand why it isn't neutral enough to wear with anything but a Halloween costume. Your fiance is obviously very excited to marry you and thus you should take her to the jewelry store and ask her what she wants. If you love the design, talk to a jeweler about converting/melting it into a men's ring. Maybe when you have a baby you can give her the red stone (in a necklace or something she likes), you the blue, and daughter the purple-less gaudy that way. Personally, I wouldn't marry someone that would let me piss away big bucks on something he hated secretly. It sounds like you don't read your wife's feelings perfectly anyway, so so thank your lucky stars she lays it all out there civilly, didn't base her "yes" to the marriage on it, and will likely be understanding when you want a watch/ring/anime gift.

u/jeffsang · 38 pointsr/AmItheAsshole

NAH - You're clearly not the asshole. However, rather than calling your husband the asshole, I think this may just be mismatched expectations and ways of expressing yourselves. Specifically, check out the concept of the 5 Love Languages (https://www.amazon.com/Love-Languages-Secret-that-Lasts/dp/080241270X). You don't need to buy the book, as there are articles out there that explain it well enough. The 5 are words of affirmation, physical touch, gifts, acts of service, and quality time. Considering the amount of effort you put into gifts/party for him, it might be because gifts/acts of service are important ways you show him love, so when they're not returned in that way, you're hurt. He might be showing you love in other ways that are more important to him.

u/dontforgetpants · 86 pointsr/AmItheAsshole

Living with roommates sucks, especially roommates with very different class/work/sleep schedules. Everyone suggesting 9-10 pm quiet time needs to get out of their morning person bubble. Everyone else suggesting that OP go out every time they want to have a chill conversation with friends is also being unrealistic. For one, that's going to get really expensive. For another, OP has a right to use the living room they pay to rent, which is equally as strong as Roommate's right to sleep, so they must find a way to balance these rights.

I say this as a very, very light sleeper. In a decade and a half of living with roommates, I have never come to a point of not being able to work it out, nor come to a point of putting my foot down and telling a roommate they couldn't use the living room at conversational volumes whenever I was sleeping.

OP - maybe in the politest way possible, you can help your roommate explore some techniques to sleep better. White noise machine or fan, blackout curtains, eye mask, ear plugs. I would again politely encourage your roommate to at least try ear plugs for a week. I recommend the Mack's 32 dB - they are small and squishy enough to comfortably sleep on even for a side sleeper (33 dB are quite a bit bigger) and you can still hear a nearby alarm through them, though they block out background noise. Here is an Amazon link: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0051U7W32/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_99exDbNDEE7RA

u/DanerysTargaryen · 2 pointsr/AmItheAsshole

YTA

I looked up the earring set on Amazon. I’m 99% sure I found the earrings. They’re $14.99. Sterling silver. Says it is gold/white gold plated... They do look like they are for a young girl or child - not very ornate or detailed. A lot of the reviews say the elephants are super tiny. I personally hate silver because it tarnishes and you have to polish it to keep it pretty, and cheap earrings like this will irritate my skin and/or turn it green. However, setting my own jewelry preferences aside, this is not a good 10 year anniversary gift. If she likes gifts wrapped, then wrap gifts for her. Others have already stated to death why this is not a good 10 year anniversary present so I won’t beat a dead horse.


Link for those interested:
Elephant Jewelry 925 Sterling Silver Good Lucky Elephant Earrings Necklace Set for Women Girls (Elephant earrings) https://www.amazon.com/dp/B071JF1FMZ/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_bLoVCbVCGYF3Q

u/strawberrypockystix · -1 pointsr/AmItheAsshole

My bf used a book called “Training the Best Dog Ever” to train his dog, and he said it was an excellent book.

https://www.amazon.com/Training-Best-Dog-Ever-Reinforcement/dp/0761168850

u/alittleredpanda · 76 pointsr/AmItheAsshole

I have tiny ear canals too but I have a fiance who snores like an elephant, so I learned to suck it up and find ear plugs, and now I sleep through the night just fine. Look for the foam ones (highly recommending these 3M ones) - you press them between your fingers like you are trying to roll them into thin long pieces, then put them in your ear, and then they expand and block out all the sound. It takes a bit of getting used to and some practice to get them to stay in, but after a few days I managed just fine. Unfortunately living with roommates means you share your space - it is the compromise you have to make for the cheaper rent, otherwise I am sure most people would choose to live by themselves.

u/basherella · -44 pointsr/AmItheAsshole

Asking for a key isn't "discussing their bathroom usage". It's asking for a key.

But there's a great book on this very subject, maybe OP and his ilk should look into it.

u/SanityIsOptional · 19 pointsr/AmItheAsshole

Put up a translucent piece of plastic/film, so people can't see thru the windows but light still gets in?

Something like this: https://www.amazon.com/Coavas-Adhesive-Frosted-Bathroom-17-7by78-7/dp/B00XHXU7PU

u/jenroberts · 9 pointsr/AmItheAsshole

You're NTA OP, but you should consider getting either vest or leash cover that says "do not pet" on it. Something like this-

Canine Friendly Bark Notes Patch for Collar or Leash https://www.amazon.com/dp/B01JCKRX5S/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_i_1KxuDbCY1TD7F

u/Wren1101 · 1 pointr/AmItheAsshole

Ok yeah it would be annoying to have to have the lights off all the time while you’re still in the living room.

What about a room partition like this placed in front of the vivariums?

https://www.amazon.com/BestMassage-Design-Folding-Wooden-Divider/dp/B0135AV5XC

u/chi_lawyer · 1 pointr/AmItheAsshole

Presumably they can read, though. Maybe something like this as a compromise? https://www.amazon.com/Canine-Friendly-Notes-Patch-Collar/dp/B01JCKRX5S/

Lead length is something I wouldn't expect a non-owner to pick up on.

You should consider a muzzle for areas in which children are present and you may be distracted (which it sounds like happened here, given the lead length).

u/agavebadger7 · 10 pointsr/AmItheAsshole

NTA. Just start crying and maybe they'll be too scared to keep pressuring you. I CANNOT believe your mother volunteered your hair. That's so inappropriate I can't even tell you.

I highly recommend this book to you. It was really helpful for me when I was younger and struggled with taking care of myself when that self-care was resisted by people I cared about and/or felt obligated to.

Boundaries Updated and Expanded Edition: When to Say Yes, How to Say No To Take Control of Your Life https://www.amazon.com/dp/0310351804/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_qa4YCbGBX6PVT

u/MotorExcitement · 1 pointr/AmItheAsshole

Get ear plugs. Yes, they're annoying at first, you will get used to them. Mack's Ultra Soft work wonders.

You're still an asshole, doubly so that you're not copping to the verdict here...

u/SelfANew · 2 pointsr/AmItheAsshole

I've got this one with a flashlight. I have the light on during my run, and you can make the two points arc with a bright arc and crackle. I've never had to hit anyone with it just make the arc and noise.

It isn't a shooting one, it is handheld and you have to make contact.

The noise is really loud and I once held it and made it go off when I was first trying it out. My cat jumped so high from the surprise sound, I felt so bad I scared her that bad.

u/soft_shitty_body · 11 pointsr/AmItheAsshole

https://www.amazon.com/Natural-Amethyst-Enhanced-Sapphire-3-Stone/dp/B00CCFRRNY#

The stones are in a different order than OP's monstrosity, but it's still hideous.

u/aboutagirl524 · 5 pointsr/AmItheAsshole

Room Divider Wood Screen 4 Panel Wood Mesh Woven Design Room Screen Divider Folding Portable Partition Screen Screen Wood For Home Office https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0135AV5XC/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_tTHRDbRXXE49S

u/embarassinglife · 20 pointsr/AmItheAsshole

Sriracha mayo is vegan, at least the one I used, it was called flying goose.

Edit: this is the exact one I used

vegan mayo

u/AndBeTheLight · 7 pointsr/AmItheAsshole

INFO: Was it these? If so...they’re cute...for a kid. Also they were only $14 before the sale. Come on, man.

u/lilnat2119 · 1 pointr/AmItheAsshole

NAH

Your son is young and impressionable and you’re just worried. Restricting his internet use may backfire tho (see backfire effect). I suggest maybe giving him a good book to read. Buut it sounds like you already kinda lost him (idea wise).

Here’s a good book about someone’s rise out of white supremacy. Maybe his punishment can be to read this and make a PP out of it or something.

https://www.amazon.com/Rising-Out-Hatred-Awakening-Nationalist/dp/0385542860/ref=nodl_

u/richardjreidii · 2 pointsr/AmItheAsshole

NAH. 3M foam earplugs. 7 bucks for 50 at home depot. Google how to put them in properly and sleep soundly.

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/edit. $20 for 200 pairs on amazon. 3m foam earplugs.

u/jaimedieuetilmaime · 1 pointr/AmItheAsshole

You’re not the asshole, but your husband is. His family being the issue means he needs to take a stand (preferably a stand for you and the kids, since you’re his immediate family and all).

You have every right to be sad and upset your in-laws aren’t being fair to your children, but the real problem is your husband, not your in-laws. He’s the one not standing up for you and your kids, and he’s the one who’s supposed to be on your side. You should have an honest conversation about your expectations for him: how you need him to choose you and your kids over his parents. You need to be his priority.

I recommend reading about Boundaries

u/DinahDrakeLance · 1 pointr/AmItheAsshole

It's not cheap, but I made my husband but one because his alarms (seriously, he needed 8) were waking up our baby way earlier than they needed to be awake.

Philips Wake-Up Light Alarm Clock with Colored Sunrise Simulation and Sunset Fading Night Light, White (HF3520) https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0093162RM/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_i_.4YzDbXBSVG15

u/Awanderer1991 · 3 pointsr/AmItheAsshole

NTA I hate unannounced visitors too and usually don't answer the door. Your MIL is not respecting your boundaries and you have the right to refuse to be walked all over. I got this film to put on my front windows so no one can peek in. It sticks to the window by static electricity so you can take it down whenever you want without harming the window. It lets natural light in, but you can't see through it.

https://www.amazon.com/Coavas-Adhesive-Frosted-Bathroom-17-7by78-7/dp/B00XHXU7PU/ref=sr_1_4?keywords=film+for+window&qid=1569081518&s=gateway&sr=8-4

u/zanyzanne · 1 pointr/AmItheAsshole

This is a grow room issue, I guarantee it. BUT, if it turns out to be actual smoke... buy your neighbors this.

EDIT: NAH

u/notaryn · 1 pointr/AmItheAsshole

NTA. If your getting harassed by a cat caller, introduce them to my little friend.

u/Jovet_Hunter · 12 pointsr/AmItheAsshole

Has she considered alternatives? Are you in a legal state? Are edibles an option, or capsules?

Vapes are a good option to switch to. They are very concentrated and last a long time. If you get a smoke buddy it filters almost all of the waste so the scent is nearly nil. Then, if she does feel the need to take a toke or two in another room, she can do so away from you with no scent to trigger you.

This is a difficult place to be in, because you have a rare disorder and most individuals can use marijuana for medical or stress relief usage in moderation without issue. The alternatives for them are not as safe or side-effect free, so it’s not just that you are asking her to quit. You are asking her to find a less-desirable and perhaps more dangerous for her stress reduction method. The best outcome would be if you can tolerate her using in moderation, and she can tolerate not using in your presence. If the two of you can begin from there, you can move forward.

u/_________FU_________ · -6 pointsr/AmItheAsshole

YTA regardless of what reddit is saying, of course YOU are the asshole here. Lock your door, hide your keys. How hard do you think it is to keep someone from driving your car. Calling the cops just made your parents lose a lot of money. Now your sister has a record.

You are truly an asshole who called the cops on your sister because you didn’t try hard enough to prevent it from happening.

I would be so disappointed in my kid if they were this fucking stupid.

OP do you own the car? Is it your name on the title? Or it is really your parents car they got for you?

Edit: Here you go OP. https://www.amazon.com/3000-Hooks-Steering-Wheel-Yellow/dp/B004HNT4WQ

$20 solution to prevent your sister from taking your car. You fucking idiot.

Seriously if I were your parents and your name wasn't on the title it would be the last time you drove that car. Ever.

u/Dielyr · 3 pointsr/AmItheAsshole

NTA - if someone expects that it's an actual gambling operation with actual payout from an antique slot machine in someone's home, I don't know what to say.

The fact that you never fully emptied it proves you weren't running it to scam money out of anyone.

Edit: if you want to avoid it in the future, though, get fake quarters/slot tokens like these. That's what my grandparents did.

u/justadorkygirl · 2 pointsr/AmItheAsshole

If your alarm is going off so loudly that it's a interrupting your neighbor's sleep and has become a nuisance to them (and the neighbor has made it clear that they are very, very bothered by it), then yeah, YTA. Emailing the building manager is a nice try, but chances are they're going to tell you to turn your alarm down and stop bothering your neighbor with the noise.

What you really need to do to stop being TA is this: Get into the habit of allowing yourself one snooze. Just one. When the alarm goes of the first time, use that time to check your phone or read or do something else that'll help you wake up. Then, when the alarm goes off the second time, you force yourself to get up and head to the shower. You'll get better sleep anyway with one snooze and then up, because you're not being interrupted every 30 minutes (and I honestly don't know how you stand that, holy crap, that's horrible for your sleep cycle). Also try a wake-up light instead of a traditional alarm. I use one myself, and the chime + the bright light near my face makes it easier to wake up and stay awake. I say all of this as someone who doesn't sleep particularly deeply, but who does have an extremely hard time peeling myself off the mattress in the mornings.

Here's a link to the one I use, btw. It's a little pricey but I think there are less expensive ones too:
https://www.amazon.com/Philips-Simulation-Headspace-Subscription-HF3520/dp/B0093162RM/ref=sr_1_6?crid=D3PIZTD1N739&keywords=wake+up+light&qid=1571670835&sprefix=wake%2Caps%2C163&sr=8-6

u/NoAnswerbutQuestions · 1 pointr/AmItheAsshole

YTA - legally, yes she stole your car. It is legal to call the police and report your car stolen.

BUT for only 20€ you could have bought this: https://www.amazon.com/3000-Hooks-Steering-Wheel-Yellow/dp/B004HNT4WQ or something similar and prevented her from getting anywhere with your car ever again. After she screems at you, ask her to give the keys back, because she can't use them anyway anymore. Done.

She learned a lesson, you have your car and no police has to be involved.

I don't think calling the police is the way to go when the solution is so easy, cheap and could have done ans should have done the first day she took your car without being allowed to, or at least two days later when the hook had arrived.

For letting her get away with this so long that she thought she would get away with it forever, you are guilty in this too. Reporting to the police is unnecessary, cruel and disproportional, ESPECIALLY if this is in a country where car theft might have severe consequences for her whole further life.

She is a spoiled brat and that is usually teamwork between parents, older siblings and the brat and has a long history of letting her get away with taking what she wants, when she wants it.

u/timojenbin · 1 pointr/AmItheAsshole

That guy is awesome. Have you heard of Derrick Black? Some of his fellow students who were jewish (i think) decided to do something about his hatred.

There is a vast difference between sitting at a table and polity letting a nazi yammer on and a member of the groups he hates sitting with him at the table and showing by their mere existence how wrong that ideology is.


However, there are examples of people voluntarily deciding to confront people that hate them. Saying this guy (OPs future in-law) has the right to discuss his opinions is implicitly putting the burden of confrontation on the target of his hate. As people who are not members of those groups (e.g. white males) it is up to us to set this guy straight. The simplest way to do that is un-invite him.

u/[deleted] · 43 pointsr/AmItheAsshole

YTA. YTA. YTA. This post is 5 hours old but I have to comment because you and your family are such gigantic assholes, I literally want to cry right now. Puppies need near constant attention and affection. They should not be left alone for long periods of time, they should never be hit, and their tails should never be pulled. A 2-year-old might make that mistake, but a 10 year old???? Fucking unacceptable.

I can't believe you disrespected your wife so completely thoroughly and let your family treat her (and her puppy) this way.

You need to:

a) Apologize to your wife like you have never in your life apologized before. Here would be a good script:

"I'm so sorry I was such an asshole and pushed you to leave the puppy with my family when I should have listened to you and left the puppy at an experienced kennel. I'm also sorry that I sided with my family when they condoned the neglect and abuse of an animal. You were right to be upset that my brother was being too rough with the little guy, and my mom should never have called you names. Not only am I going to learn more about puppy care, I'm going to call my mom and tell her that it was unacceptable that she disrespected you. Again, I'm so sorry and I hope you can forgive me."

b) CALL YOUR MOTHER AND TELL HER THAT IF SHE EVER CALLS YOUR WIFE A BITCH AGAIN YOU WILL NEVER VISIT AGAIN. MEAN IT. (Also tell her that she needs to teach your brother that animals are living creatures and should be treated as such.)

c) Educate yourself about puppies. Purchase this book and enroll in a puppy training class with your dog. Pay for it all yourself. You owe this to your wife and your puppy.

Seriously. If my MIL ever called me a selfish bitch, and my husband didn't defend me right there on the spot, I'd divorce him within a week. YTA. YTA. Your mom is TA. And your brother is TA. Your wife did literally nothing wrong. NOTHING.