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Don't worry about who the therapist's other patients are. That's just imposing stereotypes about mental health on yourself. You're not hopeless. As we grow and mature we find areas we need help in. Reaching out is a positive and self enriching thing you can do to ensure you keep growing and maturing.

The stress we feel on a daily basis is a combination of immediate tasks we need to accomplish and are currently working on and the idea we have of where we should be versus where we are right now.

So there's the concrete chore list and right now I'm on 2 out of 5, so not bad but not great. But there is the ideal visualization that I want to have accomplished already but aren't anywhere near attaining. That gap or difference is also a great source of stress and frustration. Some jobs are literally never done, especially in programming, customer support, etc. Agile development means as soon as one cycle is done another one is started, often overlapping each other. So there's never a sense of completion and a celebration of what we have achieved. There's always the arrow pointing to the future of what we "could" be but aren't yet.

To alleviate this kind of stress you can literally practice disengagement from the overall vision and focus on being task oriented. Done - celebrate. Done - celebrate. Physically cross it off the list and go for a walk or to the gym. Call a friend or family to connect with another human. Take lunch with your friend in the office. (Everyone needs at least one good office buddy you share your life outside of work with.) But use those moments of celebration to leave everything where it is and do some self care and connecting with human beings on a personal level. Hope some of this helps.

Allow yourself to seek help. You'll be glad you did. If you really don't like the first therapist you meet, there are many more out there. So don't be afraid to shop around. See somebody one or two sessions and ask yourself if what they are offering is helpful to you. If for any reason it doesn't seem productive, try someone else. Keep them focused each session on what you need, whether it's anger management, communicating better with people at home and at work, dealing with internal negative thoughts, etc. You're paying them. So keep them on task.

Get a journal and dedicate it to keeping a notebook where you jot down things that come up that persist in bothering you. Anything of concern. You can use it as a memory aid in your therapy sessions too. You can also use it to write down their recommendations and use it as a tool to remember what your 'homework' is between sessions. That's where the real benefit happens anyway, after you've heard their advice and apply it to your real life between visits.

Keep your notebook simple, you don't have to write every day. You can come back to it whenever you need it. Don't beat yourself up if you don't write a lot. It will become obvious what is worth writing down. If you have any trouble sleeping, writing things down before you go to bed helps with that too. It just gets it out of your head and you don't have to worry about forgetting because its' still right there on paper waiting for you later when you need it. You can write down to-do lists or just a few sentences on how you feel or what happened that day that got your attention.

If you'd like a clean, quick method of journaling that you can use as a personal organization tool, the Bullet Journal is a great method. It's extremely flexible, almost too flexible. Just set up a daily log and write down today's date and a few thoughts. And maybe a to-do list and start with that. The official Bullet Journal is a little expensive but once you know the method you can use any old notebook and apply the techniques you pick up. One of the coolest things about it is they recommend you keep the first four pages blank and use it to build out a table of contents as you go so you can find things more easily. For example I have an April daily log, a couple different to-do lists, A full year calendar (that I don't really use other than for birthdays and holiday scheduling) and a "movies to watch" list for example. I think they sell them at Barnes & Noble too.

You're noticing anger. But make sure you give enough attention to the wider variety of emotions, thoughts and feelings you have on a daily basis. When things come up just write enough notes you get the gist of it and can reflect on it later. Writing things down when you even feel slightly agitated is a good idea. Later on when you've cooled off you can reflect on what you wrote to see if you can gain some insights into what is really making you angry. It takes some time but is an extremely valuable discovery process.

If you search "anger management" there are an overwhelming number of books. I like Rage because it covers the same set of techniques but gets right to the point. It doesn't waste a lot of time selling you on why you should read it and assumes you know why you grabbed it to begin with. Hope some of this helps. Hang in there!

Awesome self-awareness and an important first step toward greater overall peace and contentment. But you probably don't have to look anywhere for happiness, though growth and change are likely to be part of the process. I enjoyed A New Earth and it was a very popular framing of the sort of inner work that goes into overcoming many of our misconceptions about who we are and what's really important. All the best with your process!

What you've described is word for word my life experience. You speaking about justice being the core of your anger resonates deeply with me. I have a friend who's mother recently said "evil is an excess of good", and since then I've been speaking about my anger as "excess righteousness". Me being so agitated when things aren't correct largely has to do with how deep my desire for correctness is.

I recently started listening to an audiobook called "The Anger Trap", and while I'm still towards the beginning of it, it's been great at acknowledging that our anger is often justified, but teaches us that we have other options for how to respond, and that our current responses actually undermine our ability to be heard.

I've also just started a book called "The Cow In The Parking Lot, a Zen Approach to Overcoming Anger", which takes a very different approach that is also helpful. This book focuses on not being so concerned about what is right. When we are so deeply concerned about what is right, what we are really doing is judging the world around us and making everything and everyone in it wrong. What if they aren't wrong? What if the problem is in our discriminating perception?

I think that approaching anger deserves these multiple approaches because it's a multifaceted issue. Hopefully by the end of the books I'll have made some progress, and maybe you can find them useful too. either way, I'm glad you're wanting to take action and not wait until the shit hits the fan harder and harder over time. People get divorces and lose jobs over this kind of thing, but we can heal it.

You're not alone, and to tell you the truth, I have no idea how to get rid of it. My repressed anger comes out in such childish ways, that when I try to talk about it, I feel embarrassed that it even happened. My way of letting it all go are those Wrist grip things on Amazon. Good luck, and hopefully you find your peace, whatever it may be :)

You should check out this book it’s great.

I used to have much worse anger than I have now, here's some things I was living with that made me lash out.

• My diet was horrible and I could polish off a case of mountain dew a week
  
• I was "stuck" in a repetitive job that made me love that NiN song "every day is exactly the same"
  
• I tried to do the /r/NoFap thing to improve my productivity and blah blah, without working things out with my gf first. Non regular sex + no beating off = anger
  
• I was a beta pleaser to my girlfriend, who was stuck in this phase of writing covert contracts with others - basically I did nice things for people until it hurt, and wondered why they didn't reciprocate, and then got angry when they kept on taking. People will take if you are giving, that's just the nature of the world.
  
• I let my health slip until I hated my body, which further fueled the anger.
  
• I was a part time beta orbiter to a female friend who I never approached and resented as she rode the cock carousel - basically another "covert contract".
  
  Over the space of a year or two I cleaned up my diet, reached for better opportunities at work and began to try and show my eagerness for advancement (ie: instead of asking for a raise I asked to be part of projects that would get me noticed)
  
  
  I fapped when i wanted to, which took the stress off of times when my girlfriend wasn't in the mood and made things overall more light hearted when she was in the mood.
  
  I started to reward good behavior and ignore/punish the bad in every aspect of my dealings with other people. I stopped believing that the world owed me something, and instead realized that it's a dog eat dog world, and if you do good things for yourself, the rest of the world respects you more than if you do good things for them.
  
  Went to the doctor, he told me that I had to lose weight, and I did - dropped 40 pounds.
  
  I laid off on my friend who I was covertly coveting, and just let life go on it's own path for both of us. I stopped trying to be someone else, and just realized that real friends are friends naturally.
  
  I also read books like "the 48 laws of power" and checked out subreddits that are about men empowerment like /r/TheRedPill and /r/MGTOW
  
  tl;dr: self improvement made anger not necessary.

Do you mind reading? I've used this book in the past. It helped me.

https://www.amazon.com/Cow-Parking-Lot-Approach-Overcoming/dp/0761158154/ref=zg_bs_3568218011_18?_encoding=UTF8&psc=1&refRID=BDSQFJ8Z0RNHX933C9WG

You can buy the Kindle version and read it on the phone iPad or PC.

Anger is a fascinating emotion. There are also a lot of resources online. A lot of times I type my question in google and useful pages come back. 'anger management', hot to control my anger, and so on

For me what helped a lot is stop sugar, sodas, caffeine/coca cola/ coffee. And also try noto be hungry. Drink water all the time. Get some sleep. And exercise a few times a week if you can.

Good luck!